I have the same problem.
Initially, my mum agreed to our wedding. Suddenly, 1 day she said we better think twice cos she thinks we are financially unstable.
Turn out that she is unhappy that we ask the AP money back from her. She expected my FH & his family to pay for everything, from the wedding to our new house. RIDICULOUS lor!!
My FH's parents are old and retired, so he prefer to let them keep their savings and we paid for the wedding.
My mum was super unhappy, even said "They tink they dont have to pay a single cent to get a DIL ah?" Wah!!!! After hearing this I felt like a goods for sale!!!
where got mother like that 1??
Initially, I told her I intend to hold a small wedding max only 16 tables. In the end, she requested for 6 tables!!!! My FH's side total including his family & friends 5 tables and my mum is requesting for 6 tables just for our relatives & her friends!!
Aiyo.... After calculating, we decided that we will make a loss..... At first, we are thinking of using the AP money to cover but now that she doesnt want to return us, sure lost like mad......
Besides requesting for 6 tables, she also wanted Pin Jin. found out from friends that if mother requested for tables, then PJ can give a few hundreds only. But it seems like my mum expected more. She said that "Who knows they only give me a a few hundred for the pin jin!" With this statement, I presume she expects thousands!!! Wa. want tables & still want thousands o dollars.... she has forgotten that my FH is the only 1 paying for everything leh.... I ask her how much she wanted for the PJ.... Guess what she said? "If I state a amount, he sure cant afford!!" Aiyo, daughter for sale ah!!!
My mum has always been super money minded... but I have never expected her to treat her daughter like that too.... sigh ToT
My mum also said that as she doesnt have any other children (I am the only child). If she has, she can get more from 'the other child'. Aiyo, I really feel like I am the daughter for sales..... sigh
All these make me so frustrated in the end I decided not to hold the banquet!! Just ROM.... so disappointed
Wedding is suppose to be a happy thing, why does it seems like it is daughter for sale instead??