Reira, is good that both families not that traditional. My mum didnt know how much to ask. So, I ask on her behalf $188. Just for show. But anyway, half of everything will be returned.
Kristine, i think the main thing is not other stuff, I think is the pin jin. Earning alot doesnt mean they are generous, usually opposite. Going over to apologise is overboard.
I always feel that it is awkward for parents to discuss pin jin. Is best for both of you to sort out with your parents and come to a common agreement. Maybe, suggest to forget this whole episode. You two deemed what is best.