Looking at previous posts of pin jings etc...plus cactus's advice of not comparing...I still find it hard not to detest my mum. sigh...as much as I respect her, I am still having difficulties trying to get over her PJ's request.
20 boxes of Teochew sweets (my hubby's a Teochew)
60 boxes of cakes (give relatives, HER friends, HER colleagues)
1 roasted pig (MUST be at least 15 kg)
12 tables (no indication that she'll give back, btw 1 table is $850)
any amt of PJ
My hubby mentioned that MIL was saying it is unreasonable....but during the PJ session, she didn't protest. sigh...so for the past 1-2 mths, we argue over this issue...mainly coz my hubby side really not much savings. My FIL's business collapsed few years back, so whatever $$ left went into repaying creditors. My MIL has stopped working for a year, had minor op for kidney problems.
so most of the time, I'm like stuck in the middle. I dunno whether to defend my mum or to comfort my hubby
We argued quite badly last night...to the extent that I blew up and said, "I tell you what, whatever amt you are lacking, I will fork up the money." And so, I bruised my hubby's ego. shrug.
What else can I do?? We only have a total of 28 tables (including 2 VIP tables). Of which, my mum is asking for almost half....my hubby's side will only take up like 5 tables. The rest will go to our colleagues and friends. So is my mother selling her daughter?? Sigh....I'm lost. I can't really confide in friends, all are single. At this rate, I think I might just cancel the entire affair.....my work is already stressful enough. I don't need another one to torture me further.