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May 2020

To The Grooms: 10 Tasks For His To-Do List

We all know the million and one things a bride has to do in preparation for her wedding. But what about the groom? Here are 10 simple things that he can do to help out too.

Granted, planning your dream wedding may not necessarily be on many grooms’ bucket list. Putting everything together and making sure all goes well is mostly considered the bride’s job – after all, it is often the bride who has always dreamt of their big day. However, this does not mean that the groom should not also get involved at all. We’ve seen many grooms jump in and rise to the occasion as they get their hands dirty with their brides and help out. If you’re looking for ways to pop in to help but are not quite sure how, we’ve got you covered.

It does not help that with the COVID-19 situation, many weddings are put on hold. This also means that there is double the stress on the brides to rebook and reschedule everything. Instead of letting your bride get frazzled and stressed out by herself, take this season of self-isolation to help her out wherever possible. This read is for all the grooms out there. It is your chance to get to work. Here are 10 things you can add to your to-do list during this COVID-19 season and beyond.

Rachel and Joshua’s Magical Fairylit Garden Wedding at Raffles House at Fort Canning Park by Synchronal Photography

1.Get Your Groomsmen Together

Just as the bride chooses her bridesmaids, the groom should also choose his own groomsmen… but it doesn’t stop there. Update your groomsmen on your wedding planning developments, get them involved and mobilised on the actual day and brief them in advance on what they need to do (even if it means just being on standby to help move furniture and help usher in your guests). Go suit shopping with them (once safety measures have eased). Make sure they get their suit fittings in time and they don’t run late. Sort out thank you gifts for them and not wait to the last minute. Your groomsmen is your responsibility.

Alicia and Ryan’s Heartwarming Cross-Cultural Wedding at Tamarind Hill and Villa Samadhi by Bloc Memoire Photography

2.Support Your Bride When With Your Family

A couple’s wedding is often a whole family affair. It involves not only the couple, but the parents (and perhaps even grandparents) of both the bride and groom. With many different expectations and wants of the wedding, no wedding planning can go without a little family drama – even if it’s just minor disagreements. Help your bride deal with any family drama that arises during the wedding preparation period. Defend her and support where needed, especially when there is opposition or disagreement from your parents. These little gestures show that you care and that you are with her on this planning journey.

Sarah and Jonathan’s Ethereal Ceremony in the Tirtha Uluwatu Wedding Chapel by AndroidsinBoots

3.Get Yourself Ready

The wedding is not only the bride’s biggest day of her life, it is also your biggest day too. Make sure you look the part and get everything prepared beforehand. This includes making sure your suit is fitted and ironed well in advance and even getting a haircut one to two weeks before the wedding. You want to look stellar as you take your bride in and not have your haircut a day before the wedding that will leave your hair awkwardly short. Note: Try not to attempt any new hairstyles on this particular haircut too. You (and your bride) may not like it and it will be too late at that point.

Shermaine and Kelvin’s Wild, Botanical Wedding at Chijmes Singapore by Nicolethen Studio

4.Settle Your Invites and RSVPs Early

Get your guest list ready early and handle your missing RSVPs. Since they are your friends and family, help your bride by tracking down their addresses, missing RSVPs, and dinner orders. She will thank you for getting that out of the way.

Trixie and Steve’s Ethereal Wedding at Sofitel Singapore Sentosa Resort and Spa by Andri Tei Photography

5.Write Your Vows and Practise

Your wedding vow is perhaps the most heartfelt and genuine part of any wedding as you and your partner verbalise your union in front of your loved ones. It is not okay to do it only the night before. Whether you’re planning to follow the traditional vows or you’re writing your own vows, be prepared early and make sure you practise it to perfection. (If you need help with writing your vows, read our “Wedding Vows Ideas” Inspirational Love Quotes and How To Write Your Own” article for ideas and tips.)

Melisa and Brice’s Botanical Andaz Singapore Wedding by AndroidsinBoots

6.Prepare Your Toast or Thank You Speech

Like your vows, a toast or thank you speech is to thank your guests for coming down to celebrate your big day with you and your bride. It is a time for you to appreciate and honour your loved ones publicly. Have them written down early to ensure you don’t stumble during those five to ten minutes on the microphone.

Letty and Benjamin’s Incredible Myanmar Pre-Wedding and Stylish Wedding by Cheese Effects

7.Visit Venues With Your Bride

Even though you may want to leave most decisions to your bride, choosing a venue is critical in bringing your entire wedding together. Go for venue appointments with her, process your thoughts together, and pick a place that you both love. It will only make the wedding planning journey that much sweeter.

Hailey and Clifford’s Exquisite Wedding at The White Rabbit by Bridelope Productions

8.Suggest and Pick Your Bridal Car

While your bride is stressing over other elements of the wedding, help her out by suggesting and picking the perfect bridal car for yourselves. Whether you’re planning to go with a more vintage car or a modern one, help her tick one thing off the list.

Jon and Amanda The Clifford PierAmanda and Jon’s Beautiful Wedding at The Clifford Pier by Munkeat Studios

9.Sign The Cheques

If all else fails, support your bride by helping to fund and pay for the various elements of the wedding. Based on our Wedding Industry Overview, 92% of our surveyed participants state that both the bride and the groom pay for the wedding together. While the bride handles the preparation work, you can help to finance some of these elements too!

Jessica and Jun Wen’s Cosy Wedding at Arbora at Faber Peak by Knotties Frame

10.Encourage Her and Love On Her

Be it leaving small love notes around the house or surprising her with gifts or saying “I love you” often, take the time to encourage her and support her on this journey. It is not uncommon for wedding planning and preparation to leave couples frazzled and stressed, but it definitely helps when you support and encourage each other along the way.

Whether you are adding these tasks on your wedding to-do list or you’ve already got your own, all that matters is that you and your bride enjoy this wedding planning journey together. Above it all, have fun! As the saying goes, it is the journey that sometimes matters more than the destination. Your wedding planning journey can often be the thing that brings you as a couple closer. Help each other out on this journey, support and love on each other, and have fun while you plan! Just as your wedding is a once in a lifetime occasion, you will also only be able to go through this planning journey once too. Make the most of it as you begin the rest of your lives together!

Credits: Feature Image from Cindy and Stan’s Stunning Wedding at Changi Cove Hotel’s Command House by Ivan Seah Photography

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To The Grooms: 10 Tasks For His To-Do List