Hi pple,
Saw this thread and thought of sharing my experience.
I was with my ex for abt 7 years and he cheated me twice!!!!!
The first time i found was we were together for abt 3yrs tt was when i realise tt some changes in him. Such as, he will nt allow me to check his pager or mobile and he will hide somewhere to talk discreetly. Anyway, i manage to find out his password to the voicemail for his pager and i was extremely shocked when i heard all the voicemails left by this woman who called him "Lao Gong'!!!!
Needless to say, i comfronted him and he say its this woman who refuse to let him go. He then assured me he will break free from this woman. Well, i trusted him and i really love him so much tt i dun wanna lose him. Anyway, there's more stories in between which might be too draggy. In short, he took abt 1yrs plus to break off with this woman. And during this period, he even intro this woman to me and of course i befriended her. Some of u might think i'm so silly but i really dun bear to leave him.
During the period when i knew this woman, actually she's nt tt kinda bitch who deliberately wants to come between us. In fact, its my ex who did nt told him tt he was attached. So in a way now, i knew the existence of this woman but she does nt know mine. Ignorance is a bliss to her i would say.
Eventually, i'm so tired of this whole relationship and i told my ex either he breaks off with her or i will tell her the truth. In the end, he chose to break off. But alas, tt woman actually cannot take it and committed sucide. I was so guilty but i still refuse to let go.
After this whole story, we decided to get a flat (we actually gt ROM when he was with tt woman!) and settle down. So when things started to get better, he cheated on me again. This time, he told me to give him time and he will sure come back to me. Well, after wat i went thru with him and this is wat i get in the end. I decided tt enough is enough so i decide to end this whole damn marriage.
I packed my things and moved away. I regretted doing this cause he actually bought his new love to our flat as when he like. Felt so sick. Do u guys know tt he was actually in the piece of financial debt and it was me who helped him thru. I was so stupid to use my credit card to withdraw cash advance to help him repay his debts. In the end, i lost everything and worse still, i'm still struggling with my debts now!
Anyway, as we ROM less than 2 yrs so my lawyer advise me to file annulment instead of divorce. After so many years, i finally break free from him but i'm burden with tons of debts to clear.
Well, i would say i'm happily married nw but as i was too honest and i told my present hubby abt my past so whenever we quarrel, he would remind me of e fact tt i was married before. Anyway, i will touch on my this hubby nxt time. So gers, dun be too honest ok.
Sorry guys for such a long story, i already trying to shorten liao.