"Guo Da Li (过大礼)" ??
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blurblur25
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1 of office auntie is helping me to act as my HTB 'mei ren' on the GDL. Can I know how much ang pow should we give her (any market rate).
blurblur25
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cactus_79: thanks! the same auntie will b helping us again on the AD, do we need to give her another ang pow again?
goldiepooh
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hi gals, need your help. Anyone vegetarian here? Where can i find mock pork for the purpose of GDL? or made with peanut one also can.
Thanks!
Thanks!
blurblur25
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goldiepooh: do u mean those cannes vegetarian?? if yes, you can find it all supermarket
Hi gals,
I understand that the pingjin is supposed to be placed on a tray with 2 oranges.. what abt nappy angbao? Do my hubby give that to my mum directly or also place on the tray together with the pingjin angbao? Hubby need to write anything on both the angbaos for auspicious purposes or for identification for the bride's side?
Anything else that are to be placed on the tray as well?
Thx
I understand that the pingjin is supposed to be placed on a tray with 2 oranges.. what abt nappy angbao? Do my hubby give that to my mum directly or also place on the tray together with the pingjin angbao? Hubby need to write anything on both the angbaos for auspicious purposes or for identification for the bride's side?
Anything else that are to be placed on the tray as well?
Thx
Hi,
I will be having my guo da li soon. Just to check on pin jing. my bride's family is having 5 tables for banquet, so how much would be appropriate for pinjing. i understand different people have different amount etc.. but just like to have a rough gauge, do not want to appear to give too little... hee... thanks.
I will be having my guo da li soon. Just to check on pin jing. my bride's family is having 5 tables for banquet, so how much would be appropriate for pinjing. i understand different people have different amount etc.. but just like to have a rough gauge, do not want to appear to give too little... hee... thanks.
hi rosewhite,
I don't know how the APs are to be placed but I know the pinjing AP has the words "pin jing zhi li" on it and it is a BIG red packet... the nappy AP is smaller. Like usual red packet size. On the tray, sometimes it is placed some green leaves. It is from a particular plant and symbolizes many children and grandchildren. These leaves are also used to tie together with the Guo Da Li gifts.
I don't know how the APs are to be placed but I know the pinjing AP has the words "pin jing zhi li" on it and it is a BIG red packet... the nappy AP is smaller. Like usual red packet size. On the tray, sometimes it is placed some green leaves. It is from a particular plant and symbolizes many children and grandchildren. These leaves are also used to tie together with the Guo Da Li gifts.
hihi cactus_79
the green leaves on the APs are casurina pines and pomelo leaves. My MIL insisted on having them even tho' it's not easily available.
In the end, she had to get it for us (the bride's side) by asking her neigbours. So wierd, the groom side tekan themselves.... why cannot just skip the tradition of the leaves.
Pines are meant to indicate many children and the pomelo leaves are meant for good luck.
the green leaves on the APs are casurina pines and pomelo leaves. My MIL insisted on having them even tho' it's not easily available.
In the end, she had to get it for us (the bride's side) by asking her neigbours. So wierd, the groom side tekan themselves.... why cannot just skip the tradition of the leaves.
Pines are meant to indicate many children and the pomelo leaves are meant for good luck.
I didn't have pomelo leaves. I think we only had casurina pines. But for my case, it was our side who asked it from the guy's side. When they sent the gifts over, every gift had a bit of casurina pines.... the APs that they sent over also had some casurina pines too. My ILs bought it from florist. - whole saler.
princessxiaomei
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Where are the places you all go to buy GDL stuff? Are they very expensive? Normally about how much?
Hi cactus,
thanks alot!
Hmm.. My side is asking for wines to be exchanged to angbao, but did not state how many bottles. As such, normally how much to prepare for this angbao? Is it going to be based on the number bottles of wines? If it is, may I know usually how many bottles & how much to put into angbao? My hubby & I are preparing all the angbaos & stuffs for GDL on our own.. are these angbao( those exchanged from items one) to be placed on the tray with pingjin & the nappy angbao too?
Thank you
thanks alot!
Hmm.. My side is asking for wines to be exchanged to angbao, but did not state how many bottles. As such, normally how much to prepare for this angbao? Is it going to be based on the number bottles of wines? If it is, may I know usually how many bottles & how much to put into angbao? My hubby & I are preparing all the angbaos & stuffs for GDL on our own.. are these angbao( those exchanged from items one) to be placed on the tray with pingjin & the nappy angbao too?
Thank you
Hi,
For me, my mother has asked for 5 tables, pin jin 4888, and some oranges, 20+ boxes of cakes, few cans of pig trotters and nappy hongbao....
But she told us that she will not take all of the pinjin and will return to us after she had taken....
So, I do not need to buy anything else... but well, to bring the oranges in a basket seems like normal practise... shall have to remember to do that.... hehe
For me, my mother has asked for 5 tables, pin jin 4888, and some oranges, 20+ boxes of cakes, few cans of pig trotters and nappy hongbao....
But she told us that she will not take all of the pinjin and will return to us after she had taken....
So, I do not need to buy anything else... but well, to bring the oranges in a basket seems like normal practise... shall have to remember to do that.... hehe
Hi princessxiaomei,
my ILs went to JB to buy the stuff. My parents went to Chinatown to buy the stuff. Quite expensive for the Chinatown stuff.... The bedside lamps (we wanted a less traditional design) cost my parents $38/pair.
Hi rosewhite,
Actually I dun know how it's to be placed... cos my ILs settled the GDL stuff for my parents. My parents also asked my ILs what they had to buy. So the parents settled it themselves. My parents did ask for wines and did specify the number of bottles. My parents asked enough to "return a small amount" and to distribute to my immediate uncles & aunts.
my ILs went to JB to buy the stuff. My parents went to Chinatown to buy the stuff. Quite expensive for the Chinatown stuff.... The bedside lamps (we wanted a less traditional design) cost my parents $38/pair.
Hi rosewhite,
Actually I dun know how it's to be placed... cos my ILs settled the GDL stuff for my parents. My parents also asked my ILs what they had to buy. So the parents settled it themselves. My parents did ask for wines and did specify the number of bottles. My parents asked enough to "return a small amount" and to distribute to my immediate uncles & aunts.
blurblur25
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pig trotters can is so hard to find now, after searching for a few places we manage to find it.
blurblur25
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Psyduckie: we bought it at Tiong Bahru Market. $3 per can. Narcissis Brand
Dear all,
GDL next Sun and I just need to get this fact right. Bride supposed to bao ang bao for Groom's parents right? How much to go into it?
Haiz...$28 enough? or does it have to be a 3 digit one?
I be shopping for GDL items at the Chinatown Market soon. Hopefully they can enlighten me too!
GDL next Sun and I just need to get this fact right. Bride supposed to bao ang bao for Groom's parents right? How much to go into it?
Haiz...$28 enough? or does it have to be a 3 digit one?
I be shopping for GDL items at the Chinatown Market soon. Hopefully they can enlighten me too!
Hi Jue,
I think it could be a dialect thing about the AP cos we didn't do it. Netiehr did my parents have it during their time.We are hockien, hakka, hainanese. Hope this info helps.
Instead, groom had to give AP to my grandparents (in addition to pinjing and nappy AP to my parents).
I think it could be a dialect thing about the AP cos we didn't do it. Netiehr did my parents have it during their time.We are hockien, hakka, hainanese. Hope this info helps.
Instead, groom had to give AP to my grandparents (in addition to pinjing and nappy AP to my parents).
Thank u so much Cactus. I wouldn't give ang baos then. What if I invite unnecessary trouble? Me is Hokkien and my HTB is Cantonese.
My HTB's sister is married. Is she eligible for a towel? I think he has a few aunties but I am not too sure. So one towel for each of his parents, sister and aunties? I will probably tie red ribbons around each of them. I read somewhere that I have to give towels for my ah yees...maybe I have to prepare a few more towels as well.
Buying shoes for them...I don't think my parents will agree to that because they've instructed me not to buy shoes for anyone...ever...
Quite a headache getting the stuffs ready. I was telling my HTB about nappy AP and he has never heard of it but I read it here that it will make my mother happy...oh well...
My HTB's sister is married. Is she eligible for a towel? I think he has a few aunties but I am not too sure. So one towel for each of his parents, sister and aunties? I will probably tie red ribbons around each of them. I read somewhere that I have to give towels for my ah yees...maybe I have to prepare a few more towels as well.
Buying shoes for them...I don't think my parents will agree to that because they've instructed me not to buy shoes for anyone...ever...
Quite a headache getting the stuffs ready. I was telling my HTB about nappy AP and he has never heard of it but I read it here that it will make my mother happy...oh well...
Hi Jue,
It's a hokkien tradition to buy towals and shoes for ILs. This is expected of a hokkien bride. I'm not sure why your parents instructed you not to ever to that though...
As for the AP, I think you may want to find out if your ILs expect you to give them... cos they are cantonese. I'm not familiar with cantonese traditions.
All these traditions are quite dialect based.
As for the nappy AP, my parents didn't ask for it. My ILs said they had to give to my parents and also an additional AP for my grandma. I think it could be a hainanese custom? I dun know.
Just to clarify, in my situation, it was my parents who said hokkien gals give towals and shoes to ILs. It was my ILs who said APs will be given to my mom and grandma. If it helps, my mom is hakka, dad is hokkien. My MIL is teochew, my FIL is hainanese.
It's a hokkien tradition to buy towals and shoes for ILs. This is expected of a hokkien bride. I'm not sure why your parents instructed you not to ever to that though...
As for the AP, I think you may want to find out if your ILs expect you to give them... cos they are cantonese. I'm not familiar with cantonese traditions.
All these traditions are quite dialect based.
As for the nappy AP, my parents didn't ask for it. My ILs said they had to give to my parents and also an additional AP for my grandma. I think it could be a hainanese custom? I dun know.
Just to clarify, in my situation, it was my parents who said hokkien gals give towals and shoes to ILs. It was my ILs who said APs will be given to my mom and grandma. If it helps, my mom is hakka, dad is hokkien. My MIL is teochew, my FIL is hainanese.
Thanks again, cactus.
Neither side made request for either side. My mom said just the norm...cakes, cans of pigs trotter and oranges.
The Xi Sticker, bedsheets, tea sets...all those I only found out here in the forum. Bride side give what and Groom side give what. Thats why I am rather frustrated.
I think I just stick to the safe list of the necessities. Gonna shop for the GDL items later. Thanks again for your advise!
Neither side made request for either side. My mom said just the norm...cakes, cans of pigs trotter and oranges.
The Xi Sticker, bedsheets, tea sets...all those I only found out here in the forum. Bride side give what and Groom side give what. Thats why I am rather frustrated.
I think I just stick to the safe list of the necessities. Gonna shop for the GDL items later. Thanks again for your advise!
Hi Cactus!
I saw your posts on other threads as well and i really really appreciate your advices around here. I just came back from my visit to the Outram shop.
The very nice auntie helped me pack for the basic set. No hard-selling...no pressure...I just kept asking her if its necessary or not..can do without or not...she said can do more lah but since I want the basic, just take basic will do lor.
HAPPY to get it over and done with! Many thanks for all your help here!
I saw your posts on other threads as well and i really really appreciate your advices around here. I just came back from my visit to the Outram shop.
The very nice auntie helped me pack for the basic set. No hard-selling...no pressure...I just kept asking her if its necessary or not..can do without or not...she said can do more lah but since I want the basic, just take basic will do lor.
HAPPY to get it over and done with! Many thanks for all your help here!
mspinky333
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aiyoh..i din know can get those baskets from florists or wat, i just bought one(not the traditional straw type - red and black)yest at the shop at china town (hong lim). cost me 60 plus bucks..
.....cos their straw baskets look horrible..
hey jue, can i have the add of the outram shop?
still need to get more stuffs for my GDL too.
thanks
hey jue, can i have the add of the outram shop?
still need to get more stuffs for my GDL too.
thanks
hi all
i have a few questions to assk for my GDL:
1) i am intending to order wedding cakes instead of biscuits for my IL's distributiion to thier relatives. Is $8 per box containing abt 8 cakes expensive?
2) For the sweets, is it ok just to get 2 packets of normal sweets from NTUC, as long as they are of the same packaging?
3) If i really cannot find pork leg canned food in the supermart, can i replace it with red packet indicating "pork legs"?
4) any good shops in town to buy GDL items?
thank you.
pls enlighten...
i have a few questions to assk for my GDL:
1) i am intending to order wedding cakes instead of biscuits for my IL's distributiion to thier relatives. Is $8 per box containing abt 8 cakes expensive?
2) For the sweets, is it ok just to get 2 packets of normal sweets from NTUC, as long as they are of the same packaging?
3) If i really cannot find pork leg canned food in the supermart, can i replace it with red packet indicating "pork legs"?
4) any good shops in town to buy GDL items?
thank you.
pls enlighten...
hi boon
1) $8 per box is not expensive nor cheap..its average.
i get mine for $6.50 from sweet secrets..perhaps you like to check it out.
2) not too sure what kind of sweets you refer to? I did not have sweet but rock sugar.
3) yes... red packet will do
4) can try china town or you can try bukit timah plaza.
1) $8 per box is not expensive nor cheap..its average.
i get mine for $6.50 from sweet secrets..perhaps you like to check it out.
2) not too sure what kind of sweets you refer to? I did not have sweet but rock sugar.
3) yes... red packet will do
4) can try china town or you can try bukit timah plaza.
boon,
you can find sweet secrets at International Plaza and Great world city.
you can always visit their website for more info.
i do not recommnd hacks type cos that is mainly for ppl with cough..i suggest you can get any indvidually wrap sweets from shopping centre.
red packet put how much... well just subsitute the number of pig throtters you are supposed to give with money.
example, i can cost $2, and you supposed to give 20 cans, so AP will be $40.
you can find sweet secrets at International Plaza and Great world city.
you can always visit their website for more info.
i do not recommnd hacks type cos that is mainly for ppl with cough..i suggest you can get any indvidually wrap sweets from shopping centre.
red packet put how much... well just subsitute the number of pig throtters you are supposed to give with money.
example, i can cost $2, and you supposed to give 20 cans, so AP will be $40.
sweetheavens
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was just surfing at sweet secrets webby
http://www.sweetsecrets.com.sg/wed.htm
wah GDL so much stuff and so complicated!!!
anyone know what to get for vegetarian GDL? thanks!!!
http://www.sweetsecrets.com.sg/wed.htm
wah GDL so much stuff and so complicated!!!
anyone know what to get for vegetarian GDL? thanks!!!
haywiregirl
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yup. GDL is a very leceh but fun ! I will definitely help out if my siblings were to get married. V stress to do it ALONE. I had a "perfect" GDL..hahaha..Can PM for me more pictures.
