"Guo Da Li (过大礼)" ??
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vivien_lim
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cheryl, 1st time i heard can sleep on bed after an chuan leh... normally after an chuan , no ppl can sleep on the bed at all..only childrren...so now yr hubby sleep with a little boy everynight??
Ocean: my ROM is 15 sept..actually wana 14sept mooncake festival but its a hot popular date. So kenna postponed lor. Yap 3 mths bfe. So r u going to stay in sg or follow hubby bk to his country after wedding?
Vivien: Saw yr PM..hey yr AD also 5 Oct 08? Same here..hi5 gal. Check yr multiply
No lah bed havent come yet, will come in early sept few days bfe ann chuan. Anyway we have nt stay together yet. By right lah, nt advisable to sleep or sit aftr ann chuan. But if really want 2, must be accompany by kids lor.
Hey gals, Im having my PS tmw..blessed me good fine weather. Im so excited Aarrrhhh!!
Vivien: Saw yr PM..hey yr AD also 5 Oct 08? Same here..hi5 gal. Check yr multiply
No lah bed havent come yet, will come in early sept few days bfe ann chuan. Anyway we have nt stay together yet. By right lah, nt advisable to sleep or sit aftr ann chuan. But if really want 2, must be accompany by kids lor.
Hey gals, Im having my PS tmw..blessed me good fine weather. Im so excited Aarrrhhh!!
vivien_lim
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wow yr ad also 5 oct08.. which hotel u held yr dinner? so hows yr planning? Enjoy yr ps.. i had mine liao.. going to view the editied photo next monday
no hotel too exp liao..mine at hilltop garden simple wedding with 40+ tables. Hey saw yr pics at Multiply, so tats yr ROM pics? U look great! So far so gd done with my Ann Chuan & GDL list liao. Stil have few items to buy at chinatown..for my DIY ang pow box & wrist corsages..hmm maybe will go nxt mth.
Any1 wanna join me?? hheheh
Any1 wanna join me?? hheheh
vivien_lim
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Cheryl... all my stuff supplier by hotel le...
so i just need choose from them..
meanwhile u send me yr "to do list ".
Thanks
so i just need choose from them..
meanwhile u send me yr "to do list ".
Thanks
snowygirl81
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hi Cheryl,
Can i take a look at ur GDL checklist and helper's list coz i duno wat to do at this stage as my AD is tis coming OCT, ver stress...
[email protected]
Can i take a look at ur GDL checklist and helper's list coz i duno wat to do at this stage as my AD is tis coming OCT, ver stress...
[email protected]
hi Cheryl,
strange, last time i didnt give my email away but poeple from this forum email me. ok, my email is: [email protected]
strange, last time i didnt give my email away but poeple from this forum email me. ok, my email is: [email protected]
Ocean: I think they PM u & is linked to yr email. Check out yr mail.
Berry: hi great u r also Oct BTB..dun need stress still gt time coz GDL will be ard in Sept. u gt multiply? My GDL items r posted there. U gt a mail also.
Monday blue tmw..have a gd week! Im goin to select my pic this tues, hope the pics will turn out mei mei wor.
Berry: hi great u r also Oct BTB..dun need stress still gt time coz GDL will be ard in Sept. u gt multiply? My GDL items r posted there. U gt a mail also.
Monday blue tmw..have a gd week! Im goin to select my pic this tues, hope the pics will turn out mei mei wor.
snowygirl81
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hi cheryl i haven received ur email, my multiply is snowygirl81.
berry: But i email u the AD helper checklist liao yestrday. its in my sent folder.
Ocean: Oohhrr then yr parents will be missing u alot. Multiply is like creating own website which allows to post pics, links, write blog & add frds in yr contacts. Mind asking hw old is yr FH? I can imagine yr kid will look outstanding with both ang mo & chinese blood.
Ocean: Oohhrr then yr parents will be missing u alot. Multiply is like creating own website which allows to post pics, links, write blog & add frds in yr contacts. Mind asking hw old is yr FH? I can imagine yr kid will look outstanding with both ang mo & chinese blood.
vivien_lim
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hi brides:
1- any one of you having both can pig trotters n roasted meat for gdl?
2-for those who unable to find can pig trotters, what is use to replace huh??
1- any one of you having both can pig trotters n roasted meat for gdl?
2-for those who unable to find can pig trotters, what is use to replace huh??
happinessbliss
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I was advice to replace with ang pow.
vivien:
same as happiness&Bliss, my mum told my MIL to juz give a small token to represent the pig trotters. Roasted pig, IIRC, is for the cantonese tradition.
This website gives quite detailed description of what to buy: www.worldoffortune.com
same as happiness&Bliss, my mum told my MIL to juz give a small token to represent the pig trotters. Roasted pig, IIRC, is for the cantonese tradition.
This website gives quite detailed description of what to buy: www.worldoffortune.com
vivien_lim
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thanks brides..my mil manage to find 12can, then she ask me to continue find...
ChEryL,
Sorry for the late reply... I have not decided yet most prob is next year...
My email: [email protected]
Sorry for the late reply... I have not decided yet most prob is next year...
My email: [email protected]
weddingplans
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Hi All,
Can anyone explain what's the meaning/purpose of Guo Da Li? I know it's the gifts given to the bride's side. But the meaning/purpose is? What are the usual stuff needed? And usually when to do it before the AD? And since it's given by the guy to girl's side, if the girl's side say no need to buy all this ma fun stuff, just use a ang bao to substitute, what will the guy's side think or feel? As my side don't really know what's Guo Da Li purpose, so we're thinking of simply using a ang bao to substitute, and yet worry that the guy's side might mind, esp if the purpose is for luck or anything? How much did you all spend on the stuff for Guo Da Li? Also if in the end, really use ang bao to substitute, roughly how much should it be? And must my mum also return a bit back like for the pin jin? Anyone can share w me? Thanks a lot!
Can anyone explain what's the meaning/purpose of Guo Da Li? I know it's the gifts given to the bride's side. But the meaning/purpose is? What are the usual stuff needed? And usually when to do it before the AD? And since it's given by the guy to girl's side, if the girl's side say no need to buy all this ma fun stuff, just use a ang bao to substitute, what will the guy's side think or feel? As my side don't really know what's Guo Da Li purpose, so we're thinking of simply using a ang bao to substitute, and yet worry that the guy's side might mind, esp if the purpose is for luck or anything? How much did you all spend on the stuff for Guo Da Li? Also if in the end, really use ang bao to substitute, roughly how much should it be? And must my mum also return a bit back like for the pin jin? Anyone can share w me? Thanks a lot!
foodietravel
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his stressbride,
i got married earlier this yr. when's yours?
Guo Da Li i think means betrothal. Chinese way of saying engagement. Not sure though. But it's pretty interesting. Funny though, I was told that most of the stuff (not all) are paid by the bride. You can also refer to this thread
http://www.singaporebrides.com/forumboard/messages/36737/510742.html?1220693995
Anyway, my family (me lah) on GDL day, gave my hubby toothbrush, toothpaste, mug, sewing kit, spittoon (having figured what to do with that yet), baby bath tub, bundles of red dates/dried longans etc.... It's to symbolise that i'll be able to take care of my hubby, have children, take gd care of them too.. In olden days, without certain items, a groom going back to his home without such stuff, would result in friends & relatives thinking he's marrying a bride who's not 'capable'. These are only hearsay. But since my hubby and I just wanted to follow tradition and have a gd start, we just did the basics. I certainly didn't buy everything available!
On the groom's part, he brought along stacks of cakes (looks more festive than cake vouchers; and cakes are cheaper too at less than $10/box) with 2 bottles of hard liquor which we traded with 2 bottles of rose syrup (use it for making bandung drink
) and some other stuff... Oh yes, oranges etc.
The girl's side spends more for GDL in material stuff.. The guy's side spends more for GDL in terms of monetary stuff (Pin Jin)
If you use red pkt to substitute everything, it doesn't "show" to everyone (including passerbys or neighbours) how 'grand' the wedding is. The idea for the groom to walk around with stacks of food etc!! Not kidding! Imagine watching a Period Drama on TV where eg, an emperor goes to fetch his bride with just a red pkt and goes back also with a red pkt... Sorry, exaggerate but i think u get the picture?
Pinjin: Eg, Groom give $6,888. Your mom takes out $4,888 and returns him $2k in the red pkt. Your mom must give back a nice number.. and can't take too much, if not, give your FIL the impression that your family is greedy.
BTW, when the GDL takes place, you're not supposed to see your hubby or even come out to see what's going on (eavesdrop can). If not, it seems to your hubby (and kakis) that you're a greedy bride
Stressbride, I'm not saying that any bride, including you, is greedy. Just saying that that's the general impression lah.
i got married earlier this yr. when's yours?
Guo Da Li i think means betrothal. Chinese way of saying engagement. Not sure though. But it's pretty interesting. Funny though, I was told that most of the stuff (not all) are paid by the bride. You can also refer to this thread
http://www.singaporebrides.com/forumboard/messages/36737/510742.html?1220693995
Anyway, my family (me lah) on GDL day, gave my hubby toothbrush, toothpaste, mug, sewing kit, spittoon (having figured what to do with that yet), baby bath tub, bundles of red dates/dried longans etc.... It's to symbolise that i'll be able to take care of my hubby, have children, take gd care of them too.. In olden days, without certain items, a groom going back to his home without such stuff, would result in friends & relatives thinking he's marrying a bride who's not 'capable'. These are only hearsay. But since my hubby and I just wanted to follow tradition and have a gd start, we just did the basics. I certainly didn't buy everything available!
On the groom's part, he brought along stacks of cakes (looks more festive than cake vouchers; and cakes are cheaper too at less than $10/box) with 2 bottles of hard liquor which we traded with 2 bottles of rose syrup (use it for making bandung drink
) and some other stuff... Oh yes, oranges etc. The girl's side spends more for GDL in material stuff.. The guy's side spends more for GDL in terms of monetary stuff (Pin Jin)
If you use red pkt to substitute everything, it doesn't "show" to everyone (including passerbys or neighbours) how 'grand' the wedding is. The idea for the groom to walk around with stacks of food etc!! Not kidding! Imagine watching a Period Drama on TV where eg, an emperor goes to fetch his bride with just a red pkt and goes back also with a red pkt... Sorry, exaggerate but i think u get the picture?
Pinjin: Eg, Groom give $6,888. Your mom takes out $4,888 and returns him $2k in the red pkt. Your mom must give back a nice number.. and can't take too much, if not, give your FIL the impression that your family is greedy.
BTW, when the GDL takes place, you're not supposed to see your hubby or even come out to see what's going on (eavesdrop can). If not, it seems to your hubby (and kakis) that you're a greedy bride
Stressbride, I'm not saying that any bride, including you, is greedy. Just saying that that's the general impression lah.
chewiegranolabar
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Where can find canned pig trotters? I only need 10 cans. Pls help! Thanks
jewelnjack
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just like to check with all the brides to be here, during GDL need to exchange oranges right? what is the correct procedure in doing it?
hello~ anyone has GDL procedures for Cantonese BTB and Hokkien GTB ??
if so, pls email to [email protected]
if so, pls email to [email protected]
destinygemini
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Hi,
Wondering if anybody got the checklist and guidelines for GDL?
I am quite confused... hope somebody can help me..
Who is supposed to be coming to the bride's house? From groom side that is,... how many people will be coming? eg: just the good fortune person and the groom, or are there a few good fortune helper to carry the stuff etc?
Can the bride be there?
Must it be a good fortune person or anybody will do?
What are they supposed to do in the bride's house?
Is there any eating session etc ?
Thank you for your help!
Wondering if anybody got the checklist and guidelines for GDL?
I am quite confused... hope somebody can help me..
Who is supposed to be coming to the bride's house? From groom side that is,... how many people will be coming? eg: just the good fortune person and the groom, or are there a few good fortune helper to carry the stuff etc?
Can the bride be there?
Must it be a good fortune person or anybody will do?
What are they supposed to do in the bride's house?
Is there any eating session etc ?
Thank you for your help!
Hi girls..desperately need help n info on GDL too..Pls advice on wat to do...wat to buy,etc..!! Pls email to [email protected] if u can help!! thanx girls!!
destinygemini
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I have PM-ed you
Thanks!
Thanks!
destinygemini
New Member
Hi littlewoman,
can you try to PM me again? Maybe it can work now
Thank you so much!
can you try to PM me again? Maybe it can work now
Thank you so much!
Little woman.. can share the info too?
My AD in Aug & i have not done any thing wrt the traditional custom requirements.
Can email to [email protected].
Many thanks!
My AD in Aug & i have not done any thing wrt the traditional custom requirements.
Can email to [email protected].
Many thanks!
Hi! if anyone's looking for a modern take on the tea set for tea ceremony, we have a set to let go:
http://www.singaporebrides.com/forumboard/messages/36737/1413978.html?1273464295
feel free to contact me at [email protected] for more details =)
http://www.singaporebrides.com/forumboard/messages/36737/1413978.html?1273464295
feel free to contact me at [email protected] for more details =)
hihi anyone has GDL procedures for Bride is Hokkien n Groom is Cantonese?
really appreaciate if you can email me @ [email protected]
thank you v much..
really appreaciate if you can email me @ [email protected]
thank you v much..
shazpezzazz
New Member
Honestly, the best person I've met who gave me advice on all this was this guy called Alvin. Found his shop through some random article and visited the shop tonight. His items are very affordable ($20 for a nice tea set!) and he gave me lots of advice on how to do Guo Da Li.
The shop is called Cheok Keuw and it's at Blk 506 Jurong West Street 52. The number is 6566 0311. It's a family run business for 50 over years and amazingly they don't have a website. =S
The shop is called Cheok Keuw and it's at Blk 506 Jurong West Street 52. The number is 6566 0311. It's a family run business for 50 over years and amazingly they don't have a website. =S
