Hello BTB, desperately seeking for advise how to deal with demanding and unreasonable request by future-in-law. It is really upsetting as this is really tearing our relationship of 10 years mark.
We have been together for 10 years and decided to settle down by year 2025. We got excited and starting with our planning in mid 2024, but to our horror, male side parents started playing stun.
BF (Eldest Son, 32) and I (Youngest Daughter, 29) wanting to respect our parents, thought that it would be easier for us by arranging for both families to seat down over a nice dinner and allow them to discuss on our big day plan. My family got excited and told me to plan as per my wish, pure intention for me to be happy, support will be gained from them no matter whatever is my decision going to be. They only want me to be happy with what I do.
Horror happened when BF family asking why is there a need for more than 1 year of wedding planning? His mother would like to meet me personally before meeting my family for discussion, which I did not felt comfortable and called off the whole family meet up. BF and I still planned for another dinner 2 months after first drama happened, both family met, with no conclusion when BF parents have been off topic throughout dinner.
My family felt insulted as they feel BF family have no intention to acknowledge me as their future DIL. On top of that, now they are against our plan for BF to temporarily stay at my parent place till our bto flat is available. Either I move to their house (which I insist of not doing so, they also do not have any room) or for us to buy resale flat (it is so expensive) which I feel there is no need to spend them in resale market when my parent flat is available (my siblings have their small family, I have 2 common room to utilize).
I do not know what I should be doing and would like to seek for any kind soul advise.
Thank you for taking time to read through my life drama.
We have been together for 10 years and decided to settle down by year 2025. We got excited and starting with our planning in mid 2024, but to our horror, male side parents started playing stun.
BF (Eldest Son, 32) and I (Youngest Daughter, 29) wanting to respect our parents, thought that it would be easier for us by arranging for both families to seat down over a nice dinner and allow them to discuss on our big day plan. My family got excited and told me to plan as per my wish, pure intention for me to be happy, support will be gained from them no matter whatever is my decision going to be. They only want me to be happy with what I do.
Horror happened when BF family asking why is there a need for more than 1 year of wedding planning? His mother would like to meet me personally before meeting my family for discussion, which I did not felt comfortable and called off the whole family meet up. BF and I still planned for another dinner 2 months after first drama happened, both family met, with no conclusion when BF parents have been off topic throughout dinner.
My family felt insulted as they feel BF family have no intention to acknowledge me as their future DIL. On top of that, now they are against our plan for BF to temporarily stay at my parent place till our bto flat is available. Either I move to their house (which I insist of not doing so, they also do not have any room) or for us to buy resale flat (it is so expensive) which I feel there is no need to spend them in resale market when my parent flat is available (my siblings have their small family, I have 2 common room to utilize).
I do not know what I should be doing and would like to seek for any kind soul advise.
Thank you for taking time to read through my life drama.
