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March 2022

7 Easy Tips To Follow For A Perfect Proposal

By Audrie Soh

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Wow her with the perfect proposal by following these tips.

Like your wedding, the proposal is one of life’s important milestones for both the groom and bride. With plenty riding on four simple words, it is no wonder grooms feel the pressure to plan and pull off the perfect proposal for their leading lady, especially when they have to consider details such as her ideal proposal, her dream ring, the perfect venue, and more, all by themselves.

Let us make your proposal planning a little easier. We’ve put together seven easy tips you can follow as you plan the perfect proposal she can’t say “No” to.

1. Always have a plan or two for the proposal

A proposal is an important milestone for both of you, so don’t downplay the occasion and wing it, even if your partner has dropped hints that she wants something casual and low-key.

A casual and low-key proposal doesn’t mean you simply pop the question in the middle of dinner or during your weekly Netflix date night at home, without warning, thought and effort. The proposal is an important moment for both of you, an event that progresses your relationship to the next step, so take some time to think about how and where you’d be popping the question.

Ask yourself these questions: would she like something elaborate and public, or would she prefer a private and low-key affair? Do you propose on a special day such as your anniversary, or create a brand new one you can celebrate in the future? Put yourself in her shoes as you ponder these questions and come up one or two possible proposal plans that you think she’d like.

Once you’ve decided on a plan, do a quick run-through with a trusted friend or vendor, if you’ve engaged one to help with the planning, to make sure your plan works and that everything runs smoothly on the day of the proposal.

2. Keep Your Plan Simple and Sweet

While proposals with grand gestures, lavish set-ups and elaborate flash-mob dances are great to look at, the best kind of proposals are still the ones that are simple, sweet and sincere. So, while you may have plenty of ideas of how to make your proposal a special day, remember, it already is a special day, so don’t try to complicate things by planning something too elaborate or over-the-top, especially if you don’t have the resources to pull it of, or if your partner isn’t a huge fan of such scenarios.

3. Plan A Proposal You Know She’d Love

When you’re planning a proposal, don’t just plan any proposal; you have to plan the proposal of her lifetime. Chances are, your partner already has an idea of a perfect proposal, so while you’re brainstorming ideas for the proposal, do take into account her personality and what she likes.

As someone who has spent plenty of time with her, you have the upper hand in planning a proposal that she would absolutely love because you know and understand her on a more romantic and intimate level. Surely, somewhere along the way, the topic of proposals or marriage have popped up in your conversations once or twice, giving you an idea of what she expects or would like to see for her own.

If you are still unsure, you can try to sound her out with casual conversations about the future while subtly inserting the topic of proposals and try to suss out what she feels about private or public proposals, proposals that involve family and friends, and even, what her ideal engagement ring looks like.

4. Pick The Perfect Moment To Pop The Question

When you’re about to ask one of the most important questions in your life, you want to make sure that you have your partner’s full attention. You definitely don’t want to be asking them if they would like to marry you when they’re sick with a flu bug or dealing with a complicated situation at home or work.

If you know that she is currently going through a tough time, try to postpone the proposal you’ve planned. You don’t want her joy and excitement to last a few heartbeats before she returns to the worries on her plate. You want her to feel on top of the world in the moments and weeks after you’ve popped the question, which is why you should wait for the right moment to say those four words.

Always remember to take some time to build up to the right moment by walking down memory lane with her, reminiscing about how you met, the day you got together, your first date, and every other precious memory you share so far, before you take the ring out and get down on one knee to ask for her hand in marriage.

5. Verbalise your emotions

You don’t need to be a poet or a writer to come up with a touching and romantic proposal speech. All you need to do is to put how you feel into words so that you can share your feelings and thoughts with your partner.

It is as simple as thinking about how she makes you feel, about the love you feel for her, about the future you envision with her, and the home you hope to build with her. Put all of these thoughts and emotions into words and jot them down on a piece of paper or in your phone. They don’t need to be lyrical or romantic words; they just need to be genuine and straight from your heart, and the words will naturally find a way to string themselves into some of the most touching and romantic sentences your partner has ever heard.

6. Propose with her ideal ring

The last thing you want is for your partner to be torn between her happiness at being proposed to and her dismay that the ring in the box isn’t quite what she likes, so make sure you do plenty of homework to find out what her ideal engagement ring is so you don’t have to deal with a situation like that.

If your girl is into wearing jewellery on a daily basis, then a peek at the accessories she owns might give you an idea of the kind of rings she would most likely go for as an engagement ring. If she doesn’t accessorise much, then you might want to enlist the help of her best friend to help you pick a ring that she’d like, or to sound her out to see what kind of rings she likes.

Alternatively, you can both go ring shopping together! Since you’ll be spending quite a lot of money on it, and she’d be wearing it for the rest of her life, the engagement ring should be a piece of jewellery that she loves. Even if you’re planning on a surprise proposal, you can still pick out the ring together with your partner. While the ring or the fact that a proposal is in the works may not be a surprise anymore, you can still surprise her with a proposal since she does not know when, where or how it would happen.

7. Keep it a secret

We get that you’re excited and you want to tell the whole world that you’re about to marry the love of your life, but try not to share your plans with too many people around you, especially with the individuals who are close with your partner. It’s not very romantic to find out that you’re about to get proposed to because one of them just slipped up and let the cat out of the bag, ruining what would have been one of your best memories in life.

If you need advice or help planning the proposal, try to approach just one or two others whom you know can keep a secret. They should be friends or family whom you meet often, so your partner wouldn’t suspect anything when you hang out with them.

Feature Image from Shi Yun and Darren’s Hiking Pre-Wedding Shoot on Coney Island by Happyphotopeople

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