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8 Easy-to-Follow Tips On How You Can Enjoy Wedding Planning
With these tips, you’ll be able to fully enjoy a fuss-free and happy wedding planning journey.
From the moment you said “Yes” to the second you say “I do”, you should be experiencing the happiest and most exciting time of your life up till then. After all, you are about to spend the rest of your life with the person you love and who loves you. Instead, you find yourself agonising over the wedding planning, stressed over talking about dates, venue and budgets, and frustrated at how much time it is taking to coordinate the details.
Everyone knows how time-consuming wedding planning can get, and it’s easy to forget that initial rush of excitement you felt about your wedding, and instead only remember the journey to being married as miserable and something you’d rather forget. That doesn’t need to be the case. We’ve put together eight easy-to-follow tips on ways you can enjoy your wedding planning journey, with some as simple as taking your time to be engaged instead of rushing straight into wedding planning.
1. Don’t rush into wedding planning; take your time to enjoy being engagedAnna and Angad’s Intimate Solemnisation at The Bandstand at the Singapore Botanic Gardens by GrizzyPix Photography
Many couples tend to jump right into wedding planning mode right after the proposal, and while we are not saying you can’t do that, we suggest you take the time to let the proposal and happy feelings sink in, and share the good news and celebrate with family and friends.
Above all else, simply enjoy being engaged and spending lots of couple time together without any wedding planning tasks looming over you. More likely than not, once you start on your wedding planning, you’ll probably spend every waking moment and nearly every conversation on what you need to do for the wedding. So, take your time and enjoy being engaged before you start thinking about where you’d like to hold your wedding and what colour of flowers you’d like in your bouquet.
2. Talk about your expectations for the wedding before you start planning itVera and Glenn’s Modern Wedding at The Glasshouse in Andaz Singapore by Ashley Matthew Photography
Most couples will inevitably run into arguments during the course of their wedding planning, and while it is completely normal, some of these arguments and resulting frustration can be avoided if you and your partner are on the same page regarding your expectations for the wedding right from the start.
Details such as your budget, size of the wedding and how you’d want your wedding to be styled should be discussed before you commence on your wedding planning. Knowing your expectations for these details and more will make your decisions easier and more straightforward once you commence the planning, and make your experience a much more enjoyable one.
3. Create a timelineMelissa and Nicholas’s Heart-Warming Micro Wedding at the Armenian Church Singapore by Fleur and Craft
More often than not, brides are stressed out by the lack of time in their wedding planning. Create a wedding to-do list and set a timeline for the tasks on the list, so that you have a better idea of how much time you’ll need for each task and whether you have enough time to complete them before your wedding day.
Check with your wedding vendors on how much lead time they’ll need. For instance, ask your photographer how much time you’ll need to set aside if you plan for a couple or bridal party shoot before your reception, or how long it takes for your wedding gown to be completed, and how many fittings do you need to go for.
Once you have a rough idea of how much time each task needs, you can plan your timeline accordingly. Oh, and don’t forget to factor in extra time in between tasks to buffer for delays; the last thing you’d want is for a hiccup to happen and you don’t have the extra time to make up for it.
4. Get the help and support you needJoanne and Russell’s Magical Horseback Wedding at Capella Singapore by Pixioo
Planning a wedding is no easy feat, so it is only natural to ask for help, especially if you’re feeling overwhelmed. Help can come in the form of your family, friends or wedding vendors that you’ve engaged. Your bridal party will be responsible for taking off some of the wedding planning load off of you and taking over the coordination on your wedding day, so choose your bridesmaids and groomsmen wisely.
DIY weddings are great and special, but if you are not enjoying the process of planning and styling the wedding all on your own, then you should consider hiring a professional wedding planner to do it for you. After all, your wedding planning should be a journey you’d want to enjoy and remember. Wedding planners are experienced in planning and coordinating large scale events, and are skilled in sourcing and handling numerous vendors simultaneously, taking the load of shortlisting, getting in touch with and managing the vendors off your shoulders, allowing you to focus your energy elsewhere.
5. Don’t take it the wrong way if your groom isn’t as enthusiastic about the wedding planningPhyllis and Leslie’s Lush, Light-Filled Wedding at PARKROYAL COLLECTION Pickering by Kai Picture
It is a widely known fact that grooms tend to be less enthusiastic and involved in the wedding planning than brides (although we do meet very excited grooms!), and it is completely normal and common if your groom exhibits this behaviour.
Don’t overthink or take it wrong the way if he doesn’t show as much interest or enthusiasm in the finer details of the wedding planning like you do. Instead, you can try getting him involved by letting him know that you can use a helping hand or his opinion. Or, if it really means a lot to you to have him involved, ask if there is a task he would like to take charge of. If he has no preference, then you can delegate some tasks to him to handle on your behalf.
6. Take a break once in a whileDamini and Guru’s Intimate Garden Wedding at Wheeler’s Estate by Chris Chang Photography
Planning a wedding can be tiring, so do remember to take a break from it during your wedding planning journey. Go on date nights with your partner and reconnect over the things you love doing, without talking about the wedding, meet up with friends for a meal, or attend yoga or fitness classes to keep fit and work any stress from work or wedding planning off, so that you’ll have a clear mind and better mood to deal with the rest of the planning tasks.
7. Acknowledge that there will be hiccups along the wayZona and Jeff’s Dreamy Secret Garden Wedding at The Summerhouse by Bobby Kiran Photography
Your wedding planning will run smoothly for the most part, but hiccups and unforeseen delays will more than likely happen along the way. In order to ensure that you are able to fully enjoy the process, you should acknowledge that things may not go as you plan, and that it is perfectly okay.
Encountering problems along the way and even on the day of your wedding is completely normal and common, so try not to stress over it too much. Focus on finding a solution instead of agonising over why it happened. That way, you’ll find your planning journey much more enjoyable.
8. Take unsolicited advice or suggestions with a pinch of saltSherlene and Kenneth’s Quirky Kungfu Hustle Inspired Pre-Wedding Shoot by Iki Company
The minute you announce that you’re engaged, you’ll probably find yourself the recipient of unwanted advice or suggestions on how you should go about your wedding planning. You might find family and friends telling you where you should have your wedding, what kind of dress you should wear, and even who you should invite to the wedding.
While the people offer advice and suggestions come from a good place, you don’t have to feel pressured into heeding them, especially if you are not feeling the same way. It is your wedding, and you should have the last say in every aspect of your big day. If they’ve raised a valid concern that you agree with, you can decide if you want to follow their suggestions, after discussing it with your partner. If you don’t agree with them, then you don’t have to feel the need to abide by their advice in order to please them.
Feature Image from Cleo and Paul’s Minimalist and Ethereal Art Gallery Wedding by Iki Company
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