Mine is a long story, but I'm desperate to file divorce. Unfortunately, I'm married less than 3 yrs. Similarly, I have little choice but to file DOS or prove serious depravity (which I dun really noe wat qualifies under this).
The jerk did not commit adultery. So i have no grounds. He refuses to annul, refuse to separate or divorce, and refuse to return flat to hdb etc. He simply refuse everything to make things difficult, and threaten to shift his whole family to our flat (which i currently is not staying in), n then rent out the old flat! He calls, sms etc n say horrible things, tell me he will only divorce if I pay ALL the renovation costs ~50+k or pay him 40k+upfront in cash as security if I want the flat. Basically, it feels like he is deliberately emotionally n mentally torturing me. I am stressed, depressed, n i jump at every sms/call i get nowadays, in fear it will be him...
I have no idea why he refuses to divorce when he obviously dun love me when he can tell me like commercial transaction, if i break the contract by requesting divorce, i should pay all the costs as compensation! I'm not sure if its money or if it is his ego that he refuses to divorce. He say I did nothing for him during the 3yrs of relationship. When we hadn;t fall out, he also expected me to pay ~70% of the reno instalment.
Very very lost first time in my life. He refused to grant me peace unless i pay everything. Where on earth am i going to find that much money?!
Worse thing is I still have to pretend to be strong, normal to comfort my mom, my frens n behave normal during work... this is taking serious toll on me... dunno how long can i last before i break down mentally.