gettinglost
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I met her at work. She is in mid 30s beautiful, mature and caring. I am in mid 20s energetic,warmhearted and humorous. Though we have huge age gap, we both love each other. We have been in love for months until now. We promise each other we will not have sex before marriage.
I know she need a marriage urgently due to her age. So I sought my family for advice and she sought hers as well.
The result was: both families were against this marriage due to ten years age difference.
Her family worries I might betray her after 10 years when I will be at my prime while she will be going down the hill.
My family worries that we may have many problems after 10 years when I reach my prime while she will be in menopause state. My family also have concern that she may not be able to give birth to healthy babies due to her age.
So now I am in a dilemma.
If I were to marry her, we may disappoint both side of our parents deeply. I need to quit my current job and we need to confront all the shocks and negative comments from our friends and families. Besides, we are also at risk of having healthy babies given her age. In the future, we may probably get divorced due to huge age gap as predicted by both families.
If I were not to marry her, I need to break up with her soon since I can't delay her for another months or so. She need a marriage which I can't offer her. I will hurt her deeply sine she love me so much. I still need to quit my job since she would not want to see me anymore.
So what should I do? I am now in pain. I hope anybody could contribute your thoughts to me whether positive or negative. Greatly appreciated!!
I know she need a marriage urgently due to her age. So I sought my family for advice and she sought hers as well.
The result was: both families were against this marriage due to ten years age difference.
Her family worries I might betray her after 10 years when I will be at my prime while she will be going down the hill.
My family worries that we may have many problems after 10 years when I reach my prime while she will be in menopause state. My family also have concern that she may not be able to give birth to healthy babies due to her age.
So now I am in a dilemma.
If I were to marry her, we may disappoint both side of our parents deeply. I need to quit my current job and we need to confront all the shocks and negative comments from our friends and families. Besides, we are also at risk of having healthy babies given her age. In the future, we may probably get divorced due to huge age gap as predicted by both families.
If I were not to marry her, I need to break up with her soon since I can't delay her for another months or so. She need a marriage which I can't offer her. I will hurt her deeply sine she love me so much. I still need to quit my job since she would not want to see me anymore.
So what should I do? I am now in pain. I hope anybody could contribute your thoughts to me whether positive or negative. Greatly appreciated!!