Should I get marriage with a woman 10 years older than me?

[newproject]

Thank you very much for your comments.

Despite we have a age gap of 11 years, she is still a girl that need to be taken care and loved. It's just that her "boy friend" maybe a bit younger.

Yes, I will stop being needy and be confident and show my caring and love to her. Let time speak the story.

Thank you again

Keep us updated.

 

[clem]

A month ago you were asking for opinion about marrying her. You concluded yourself that you were only attracted by her outlook.

1-2 weeks later you broke up over small matter. And summarized that you should never date "old woman".

Another week later you were thinking how to get her back.

When she didn't react like your gf-used-to-be, you were disappointed and wondering why.

You just need to be more mature, or grow up.

 

[AngieC]

You are an adult already and you should make your own decision about your own happiness rather than to please people who objected your relationship with her. From this thread, you could clearly see that many of us were giving the best advices and suggestions to you. Ultimately it is still up to you to decide and to commit to your plan. Touch your heart, think and be brave. There are couples who are of the same age having this issues too while parents objecting the relationship due to different reasons. Of course, parents will always be parents who wish to have the best for their children.

If you couldn't give the happiness she wants, let her go and don't waste her time, the fact that she's in her 30s. The reason why she kept a distance from you was probably you didn't give her assurance and security. She wouldn't want to be with a wishy washy man. Don't feel apologetic by a few negative comments, you did nothing wrong to them. Just touch your heart, think and be brave. You live your life yea.

 

[buddhabar]

TS, acutally its not the age that matters
But the level of maturity which is generally
Seen with age (with exception of course) .. and in your case, you are seriously lacking maturity to handle a much more mature women. Unless she has a totally mothering nature she will eventually be tired. Do Remember when a man is down, he needs an understanding women to listen and comfort him. Whereas when a women is down, she needs a stronger man than her to for assurance. Somehow you dont come across as one.

 

[SGoutcast]

In this age and time, number is not a limit/problem as long as you are honest to yourself.

Good luck

 

[stepken]

Good day. I only read TS questions and did not read further on all other threads.

My personal view and comment;

If i am in your situation, i will follow my heart and go with it.

However after reading your thread, i reckon you have doubts in yourself. The problem lies in you. You have doubts in this relationship and do not forsee positivity.
In life, what is guranteed ? Nothing.

Life is short to think about what if this bad happens and that bads next ... too much bad and there is no hope and positive in both of you. Do you mean that if no baby, there is not going to be marriage ?
Do you mean, family protest, you both give up ?

Then what is Love ? or do you mean you THINK you love her very much and you THINK she desperate to marry to you DUE TO HER AGE ?
With doubts, you cannot see clearly. If you want a person to marry, you can find a suitable one. If you want true love, many spend a lifetime searching...

All the best to TS. Suggest dun waste that woman time if you are hesitant.

 

[Iloverabbit]

I met her at work. She is in mid 30s beautiful, mature and caring. I am in mid 20s energetic,warmhearted and humorous. Though we have huge age gap, we both love each other. We have been in love for months until now. We promise each other we will not have sex before marriage.

I know she need a marriage urgently due to her age. So I sought my family for advice and she sought hers as well.

The result was: both families were against this marriage due to ten years age difference.

Her family worries I might betray her after 10 years when I will be at my prime while she will be going down the hill.

My family worries that we may have many problems after 10 years when I reach my prime while she will be in menopause state. My family also have concern that she may not be able to give birth to healthy babies due to her age.

So now I am in a dilemma.

If I were to marry her, we may disappoint both side of our parents deeply. I need to quit my current job and we need to confront all the shocks and negative comments from our friends and families. Besides, we are also at risk of having healthy babies given her age. In the future, we may probably get divorced due to huge age gap as predicted by both families.

If I were not to marry her, I need to break up with her soon since I can't delay her for another months or so. She need a marriage which I can't offer her. I will hurt her deeply sine she love me so much. I still need to quit my job since she would not want to see me anymore.

So what should I do? I am now in pain. I hope anybody could contribute your thoughts to me whether positive or negative. Greatly appreciated!!

If you truly love her, go for it. Don’t care about parents’ objections. Prove them wrong.
They will agree to it in the end. Just don’t disappoint your girlfriend /future wife.
10 years age gap is totally fine. Just make sure you can take good care of her and be faithful to her all the way.
The one sleeping with you and spending the rest of your life is her, not your parents.

 

[HuiWen86]

Follow your heart and listen to whatever it says.

Don't let anyone dictate your decisions.

Just make sure you give her plenty of TLC.