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5 Signs That You Are Too Stressed Out With Wedding Planning
Wedding planning can get very stressful, so it is good to recognise when you are stressed out and need a break.
Wedding planning can be very exciting, but it can also be very stressful, especially when you are trying to ensure that your wedding is nothing short of perfect. When you are trying to bring your wedding vision to life and plan a celebration for more over 50 guests, it is common to encounter stressful moments every now and then, but if you find yourself being constantly stressed out and high strung, then you might want to step away momentarily from the planning to de-stress.
However, for most, it takes a third person to recognise that you are stressed out and need a break. So, we’ve gathered five telling signs that you’re stressed out over the wedding planning to help you identify when you are stressed out so that you can take a break from the planning and find your calm.
1. You no longer find wedding planning fun or enjoyableCeline and Marcus’ Taekwondo Pre-Wedding Shoot with Z Wedding by Chris Ling International Photographers
Planning your wedding is supposed to a fun and enjoyable, once-in-a-lifetime experience for you and your fiancé. But if you’re too stressed out over trying to perfect every aspect of the wedding, then you may not find it as fun or enjoyable as it should be.
If your wedding planning is making you and your fiancé miserable, then you should probably take a break from the planning. Do something other than wedding planning for a day or two (or, however long you need) with your fiancé or by yourself and return to the task refreshed and more focused. You’ll find yourself in a much better frame of mind once you’ve had the time to de-stress and can better enjoy the wedding planning journey.
2.You are constantly arguing with your fiancéHashy Yusof and Marc Than’s Stunning Pre-Wedding Shoot and Inspiring Story of Overcoming Paralysis by Chris Ling International Photographers
It is common to have one or two (or even three! You get the point) fights with your fiancé during your wedding planning, but if you find yourself constantly bickering every time you talk about the wedding, then it is time to hit pause on the planning and focus on something far more important than the wedding – your relationship.
Wedding fatigue can set in anytime during the wedding planning, especially if your man is not as interested in the minute details as you are, or if you have been talking about the wedding and nothing else. Take some time off the planning and reconnect with your fiancé. Plan a date night or two and spend time with each other doing things that both of you enjoy without any wedding talk or wedding planning tension.
Use that time to remind yourselves why you’re having a wedding in the first place and that your relationship is more important than having your dream wedding brought to life.
3. Your personal life is taking a backseatJoleen and Clement’s Dreamy and Intimate Wedding at Singapore Marriott Tang Plaza Hotel by The Perfect Statement
We get that your wedding is an important occasion for you and you want it to be as perfect as you can possible make it, but it shouldn’t consume all of your time and cause the other aspects of your life to suffer in return.
If you find yourself spending nearly every second of every day on matters related to the wedding, sacrificing precious time with family and friends, and spending date nights shopping for wedding dresses or flowers, then you clearly need to take a step back from the planning.
Spending sufficient time with your fiancé, family and loved ones, and on the things that you enjoy doing such as working out is just as important as planning your wedding. It’ll help you de-stress from the wedding planning by taking your mind off it for a couple of hours so that you’ll be in a better frame of mind when you return to the task.
4. You find yourself procrastinating on your planningNadine and Owen’s Quirky Vintage Pre-Wedding Shoot at Golden Mile Tower by Fleur and Craft
Most brides can’t wait to start on their wedding planning because they’re excited about bringing their wedding vision to life. You, too, should feel the same way about your wedding planning journey, but if you find yourself dragging your feet during the process, then you might be feeling overwhelmed with the long list of tasks, or just don’t feel like working through items that you have no interest in.
If you find yourself procrastinating, then it’s better to acknowledge it and ask for help, instead of waiting until the last minute. Look through your wedding to-do list and identify the tasks that you’d like to do and those that you would rather not handle. Then, delegate these tasks to your fiancé, bridesmaids or even family and friends, to help you with.
That way, you won’t get stressed out over the tasks that you don’t want to do but have to, and can better enjoy your wedding planning journey.
5. You no longer know what you wantCherie and Issac’s Sunkissed Shoot at Lower Peirce Reservoir and Sum Yi Tai by Andri Tei Photography
Sometimes, too much of a good thing can be a bad thing, and with the endless sources of inspiration and choices of wedding vendors out there, you may feel stressed out over the never-ending options you have.
It is doubly hard if you have no idea what you want for your wedding or if you are cannot decide which of the options are better. To keep the stress at bay, first, try to determine what you want your wedding to look like and how much you are willing to spend to achieve it. Once you have a theme and budget in hand, refer to it constantly whenever you feel lost or unsure of which option to choose.
When you find yourself second guessing your choices or want a change of plans for something better, walk away from the planning for a few days and come back to it again. If you still feel that you want to go ahead with the change, then by all means do so. But if you are still unsure if you should proceed with the changes, then it is best to stick to your original plans to avoid getting stressed out or feeling regret.
At the end of the day, your wedding doesn’t have to be perfect in every little detail. What matters most is that you’re marrying the love of your life and embarking on new chapter with him.
Credits: Feature image from Cherie and Sham’s Modern Foliage Themed Wedding With Gold Accents at Marina Bay Sands by Andri Tei Photography