likethathow
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Hello all,
Stumble across this forum when I was looking for on how to proceed with annulment. Allow me to share what happened and do pardon me for this lengthy post.
I am married to my wife for coming 7 months. But this marriage was not build based on love but on forceful and pressure. Why? About 1.5 year ago, when we were still dating, she start to pop the question that when are we getting married, have a family of our own and our own house, which I told her that I am not ready but I am willing to settle down when I'm 26-27 y/o. She got all angry and pissed at me by saying that what's the difference of settling down early or later? In which I finally relented on on 26 y/o as the minimum age. But she kept pushing her luck and eventually I gave it in last year when I was 24.
I gave it partly because I love her and partly due to her keep pressuring, as she will ask once every two months or so. If I reject the idea, she will be mad and pissed with me which ended up me being on a roller coaster ride.
I didn't propose in this marriage, neither did I plan in the ROM.
I know by now, some of you guys would say, I have every rights to say no, but I just don't wanna go through any argument with her because I love her, and I thought by getting married things might be different, but no.
During the first month as husband and wife, she threaten divorce because she cannot get along with my mother just because she cannot sometime stand my mother, and despite me coax her and standing on her side against my own mother. Took me quite sometimes to diffuse her.
The second time was a month or two back, think we had an argument over something, she again brought up the idea of divorce, again, I have to coax her and make her thinking about divorce. But at this time it makes me think that this marriage to her is a joke. Happy happy, divorce, not happy also divorce.
So last month, we had an argument and I just snap. Because it was both parties at fault and she wants me to sugar coat her like how it is all along regardless whether I'm right or wrong, and I admit I don't wanna give in because I have already lost all the passion of sugar coating her, wanting her back. The feeling of everything including marriage just instantly died. To me in this relationship is about her and her way while she thinks otherwise. While during these few weeks of me not giving into her, she threaten me with suicide twice, once by running into a busy major road, attempt forcefully to make me agreeing on giving into her. While all I am asking was some time off from everything which she cannot abide to it. Hence it drove me to the decision of annulment/divorce and as of now typing this thread, I am still firm in my decision, as I can no longer love her the way I used to, and I know if we were to reconcile, I will go nuts soon and I don't wanna go through this kinda ordeal again.
Here's the deal, she's not gonna agree on annulment/divorce although our WhatsApp she did mention its okay, but the next moment, she took it back instantly. She prata her statement and promises faster than politician.
The only thing we have together is a car we bought together she paid about 85-90% of the downpayment while I carry on with the monthly installment and operation cost. My parents agreed to buy over the car from her based on the initial money she throw in.
Help please? And thanks for reading!
Stumble across this forum when I was looking for on how to proceed with annulment. Allow me to share what happened and do pardon me for this lengthy post.
I am married to my wife for coming 7 months. But this marriage was not build based on love but on forceful and pressure. Why? About 1.5 year ago, when we were still dating, she start to pop the question that when are we getting married, have a family of our own and our own house, which I told her that I am not ready but I am willing to settle down when I'm 26-27 y/o. She got all angry and pissed at me by saying that what's the difference of settling down early or later? In which I finally relented on on 26 y/o as the minimum age. But she kept pushing her luck and eventually I gave it in last year when I was 24.
I gave it partly because I love her and partly due to her keep pressuring, as she will ask once every two months or so. If I reject the idea, she will be mad and pissed with me which ended up me being on a roller coaster ride.
I didn't propose in this marriage, neither did I plan in the ROM.
I know by now, some of you guys would say, I have every rights to say no, but I just don't wanna go through any argument with her because I love her, and I thought by getting married things might be different, but no.
During the first month as husband and wife, she threaten divorce because she cannot get along with my mother just because she cannot sometime stand my mother, and despite me coax her and standing on her side against my own mother. Took me quite sometimes to diffuse her.
The second time was a month or two back, think we had an argument over something, she again brought up the idea of divorce, again, I have to coax her and make her thinking about divorce. But at this time it makes me think that this marriage to her is a joke. Happy happy, divorce, not happy also divorce.
So last month, we had an argument and I just snap. Because it was both parties at fault and she wants me to sugar coat her like how it is all along regardless whether I'm right or wrong, and I admit I don't wanna give in because I have already lost all the passion of sugar coating her, wanting her back. The feeling of everything including marriage just instantly died. To me in this relationship is about her and her way while she thinks otherwise. While during these few weeks of me not giving into her, she threaten me with suicide twice, once by running into a busy major road, attempt forcefully to make me agreeing on giving into her. While all I am asking was some time off from everything which she cannot abide to it. Hence it drove me to the decision of annulment/divorce and as of now typing this thread, I am still firm in my decision, as I can no longer love her the way I used to, and I know if we were to reconcile, I will go nuts soon and I don't wanna go through this kinda ordeal again.
Here's the deal, she's not gonna agree on annulment/divorce although our WhatsApp she did mention its okay, but the next moment, she took it back instantly. She prata her statement and promises faster than politician.
The only thing we have together is a car we bought together she paid about 85-90% of the downpayment while I carry on with the monthly installment and operation cost. My parents agreed to buy over the car from her based on the initial money she throw in.
Help please? And thanks for reading!