Master David Tong's Advice Corner (Geomancy and Fengshui)

[crystals15]

Hi Master Tong, i need advice from you to choose some auspicious dates for my wedding between Jun 2010 to Jul 2010

Groom: Dog (16/08/1982)
Dad: 1951 Rabbit
Mum: 1953 Snake

Bride: 1984 Rat (15/10/1984)
Dad: 1943 Goat(Deceased)
Mum: 1943 Goat

Thanks a lot!

 

[cmg_consulting]

Hi Wong,

Here are the timings:

29 Nov 2009 - 1900hrs - 2059hrs
25 Dec 2009 - 1700hrs - 1859hrs
29 Jan 2009 - 1900hrs - 2059hrs

tong shu is normally out in the 7th mth. Someone posted in one of the thread here that it is already out. However, I am overseas now so i won't be able to check. U might want to check in popular bookstores. they might carry it if it is out.

Hope this helps.

 

[cmg_consulting]

Hi Cyn,

U are welcome

 

[cmg_consulting]

Hi destiny lsb,

This is not a general tong shu asupicius date. If the bazi is compatible with the date, it can still be deemed auspicious.

This date clash with Dog.

Fetch the bride timing - 0700hrs - 0859hrs
ROM: 1700hrs - 1859hrs

Hope this helps

 

[cmg_consulting]

Hi Colin,

3 months before and after your own wedding, you are not suppose to attend other's wedding, wakes or childbirth/full month.

There is no cure for this or override this. this is a chinese belief. Up to you if you want to practice it but i would say most people will since it is easy and wedding is such an impt event.

26/12 clash with Pig, cannot use.
27/12 is a bad day for wedding. Avoid.

Hope this helps.

 

[cmg_consulting]

Hi Crystal,

The tong shu for 2010 is not out (normally 7th month, but i heard it is might be out already As i am overseas now, i won't be able to check ), as such i won't be able to select for you tong shu dates at this moment. The only way and accurate to do it now will be using bazi to calculate. A good date in the tong shu may still deemed to be inauspicious if it is not compatible with the bazi.

Hope this helps.

 

[ahpig]

Hi Master Tong,

Thank you for your advice. Will check it out.

 

[ahpig]

Hi Master Tong,

Please advice the best date among the below mention dated:-
29 Nov 2009 - 1900hrs - 2059hrs
25 Dec 2009 - 1700hrs - 1859hrs
29 Jan 2009 - 1900hrs - 2059hrs

Any thing need to avoid.

Groomragon(JUL 1976)
Dadeceased
Mum:Tiger(NOV 1938)

Bride:Rooster(SEP 1981)
Dad

x(AUG 1949)
Mumeceased

 

[catzyk]

Hi Master David,

May I know.....

1) I intend to plan the ROM, tea ceremony, wedding dinner, everything in a same day, so is it correct that I should focus and choose the good day/time base on the ROM instead of the tea ceremony, wedding dinner or the rest?

2)do I have to choose the time for ann chuan?

3) I plan to have ROM & tea ceremony & wedding on the same day for the groom side in Singapore first, then another day in Malaysia just the tea ceremony and wedding dinner both in a same day, so my question is the day/time i choose for Malaysia side should I choose the day/time base on the tea ceremony or the dinner?

Looking forward for your reply, appreciate & thanks!

Regards,
cat

 

[destiny_lsb]

Hi Master Tong,

Thanks for your advice. For fetching of the bride, must the groom step into bride's house exactly at 0700hr or is it ok as long as the whole thing (i.e. fetch bride + tea ceremony at groom's side) is completed within the auspicious timing?

Can you also advise the auspicious dates and timing for an chuang and GDL as well? For an chuang, I would like to do it closer to my AD so that my FH no need to 'suffer' so long. Hope you can help

Also, I would like to know whether there is anything that can minimise or cancel the 'negativity' as understand it is not advisable to get married this year since my FH is born in Goat Year (clashes with Ox Year). Thanks

You may email me at [email protected]

 

[weizhen85]

Hi Master Tong,

i need advice from you to choose some auspicious dates for my wedding between Sept 2010 to Nov 2010

Groom: Rat (13/11/1984)
Dad: Monkey
Mum: Snake

Bride: 1985 Cow (31/07/1985)
Dad: Cow
Mum: Pig

Thanks a lot!

 

[cmg_consulting]

Hi Wong,

If you want to know the best date among all, the only way to do it is to use Bazi to calculate. these 3 are general tong shu auspicious dates only and all 3 can be usedif you are only after general dates. Further fine tuning of the best date etc etc will need to incorporate in the Bazi.

Hope this helps.

 

[cmg_consulting]

Hi Cat,

1) I intend to plan the ROM, tea ceremony, wedding dinner, everything in a same day, so is it correct that I should focus and choose the good day/time base on the ROM instead of the tea ceremony, wedding dinner or the rest?

>>> You need to choose a good time for your ROM as well as your Fetch the Bride (which includes time for groom to step into your home and complete tea ceremony with groom's parents). For wedding dinner, there is no need for any timing.

2)do I have to choose the time for ann chuan?

>>>Yes you need to.

3) I plan to have ROM & tea ceremony & wedding on the same day for the groom side in Singapore first, then another day in Malaysia just the tea ceremony and wedding dinner both in a same day, so my question is the day/time i choose for Malaysia side should I choose the day/time base on the tea ceremony or the dinner?

>>> The date is chosen just like any other wedding dates. For the timing, you choose based on the tea ceremony. There is no need any timing for dinner.

Hope this helps

 

[cmg_consulting]

Hi destiny_lab,

So long as you complete within 2 hrs will do. BUT the start of the "Shi chen" is always the best timing. Hence if you can step in at 7am, that is the best among the 2hrs.

For GDL, you can use : 16/10, 11am - 12.59am. (can't find any good weekends dates in Oct and Sept for you coz they all clash).

For An chuang, you can use: 2/11, 11am - 12.59am. this is the nearest day to your AD day.

There is nothing you can do to minimise the negativity of the day/year. By right, you have to avoid, which is the best solution. If not, you have to choose a good day and time according to your Bazi. this will not override the fact that this yr is not good for the groom, but it helps a bit and better than nothing. As i said, the best is to avoid, and that solves all the problems

 

[cmg_consulting]

Hi Wee Ching,

The tong shu for 2010 is not out yet, hence i can't choose for you dates for 2010. Right now the only way and accurate way to do it is using Bazi to calculate the dates. An auspicious day in the tong shu is still deemed inauspicious for both of you if the date is not comptabile with both your Bazi.

Hope this helps

 

[ahpig]

Hi Master Tong,

Thank you very much for your advices.

 

[walkman]

Master Tong,

I wish to know which date among 06,13,20 or 27 dec 09 (Sunday) is auspicious for us?

We will be staying with my Mother as we are waiting for our flat to be ready in 2011. Do we need an chuang 1st or when we are moving to our new flat?

Thanks alot!

 

[happylittlebride]

Hi Master Tong,

My fiance and I are planning to get married between Oct to Dec 2010. Please advise if the following dates are auspicious for us based on our bazi calculation.

Date: 16/10/2010, 23/10/2010, 6/11/2010, 4/12/2010, 11/12/2010

Groom: 16 Aug 1980 (Monkey)
Groom's Dad: 1948 Mar (Rat)
Groom's Mom: 1951 May (Rabbit)

Bride: 11 Sep 1981 (Rooster)
Bride's Dad: 1947 Nov (Pig)
Bride's Mom: 1947 Jan (Dog)

Thanks in advance and hope to hear from you soon!

 

[weizhen85]

Hi Master Tong,

Thanks for the information.

May I know if 20 Oct 2010 or 10 Oct 2010 is a good day for wedding?

Thanks

 

[tyl]

Dear Master Tong,

I want to have my customary on 16 Oct 2010 (Sat) cos of my rom on 090909, matching numbers dates! But my parents and some friends inform this is a bad day for wedding due to some God birthday. I also tried a few online free date prediction, also mention taboo of marriage. If I insists on this day, can I engage ur services to help us avoid any "bad things"? or really avoid this day.

 

[destiny_lsb]

Hi Master Tong,

Thanks for the advice.

 

[aussiebride]

Dear Master Tong,

My fiance and I are looking at holding our ROM on the 9th of Sept 2009. Can you advise:
1. If this is a good date for us based on yr of birth previously advised
2. If it is a good date, what would be the best time?

Thank you!

 

[cmg_consulting]

Hi Wong,

you are welcome

 

[cmg_consulting]

Hi Colin,

Only 06 dec 09 is a general tong shu auspicious day for wedding and does not clash.

You can do An Chuang 2 times if you want to. The first time to include all the wedding traditions, and the second time just to align the bed.

Hope this helps

 

[cmg_consulting]

Hi happylittlebride,

Bazi calculation requires time of birth (not birthdy alone) of couples and since this is part of my consultation service, i cannot provide it here in the forum or it will be unfair to my paid clients. Hope you understand. Here, for 2010 dates i can only help you to filter the dates that clash or definitely bad, but it is not guaranteed to be good yet as the bazi is not taken into consideration. For general tong shu dates, i have to wait for it to come out first.

Here are the analysis for your dates:

16/10/2010 - Not a good day for wedding
23/10/2010 - Clash to rat. Cannot use.
6/11/2010 - Very bad day for wedding. Avoid.
4/12/2010 - Not a good day for wedding.
11/12/2010 - Not a good day for wedding.

Hence these dates cannot be used. U may want to shortlist other dates.

Hope this helps

 

[cmg_consulting]

Hi Wee Ching,

20 Oct 2010 - Does not clash to anyone
10 Oct 2010 - Clash to Pig. Cannot use.

Only 20th Oct 2010 does not clash (clash to Rooster). This is the first layer of filtering only and does not guarantee a good date yet as bazi has to be taken into account to be accurate.

Hope this helps

 

[cmg_consulting]

Hi Nicholas Tan,

090909 is in the 7th lunar month. Although in authentic date selection, you can get married in 7th month so long as the Bazi and date are compatible, i will still ask you to avoid it if possible coz most of the time your elderly may not agree to it.

As for the some gods birthday, date selection does not take into account all these chinese culture. Rest assured that these will not affect your marriage if the date is selected correctly. BUT first, you can to get past the 7th lunar mth thingy with your parents first

And take note that even if you use bazi to select dates, 090909 may not be a good day for you coz that day might/might not fit your bazi.

 

[cmg_consulting]

Hi destiny_lsb,

you are welcome

 

[cmg_consulting]

Hi aussiebride,

Can you repost your info coz it has been archived some times ago and with the increasing post, it will take a long time for me to find your post. Thanks.

 

[walkman]

Hi Master Tong,

For 06 Dec 09 do we still need to check our bazi? or is open to all.

As for an chuan, can we put on hold till we move in to our new flat?

Thanks again for your advice!

 

[tyl]

Hi Master Tong,
thanks for the information. 090909 had being efiled already. we treat it as an english event thing(gov registered) so did not consider any fortune telling on this day last time. my parent did not strongly object also due to the same reason. heehee...

As for customary, we believe in selecting a good date. can you roughly advise english calender 1st Jan 2011 a good wedding day? I only doing some basic 1st level filtering (bazi to come later). same like mostly, i also looking at saturday of aug2010 to jan2011 generally. thanks.

 

[sdluvct]

Hi Master Tong,

Are you back yet? Want to chk with you whether is the tongshu out yet because frm your previous many post is like you are out of town but you also stated that it has not come out yet...

Do you have like a rough date? For e.g. 1st wk of Aug etc?
I have been like waitin from Feb and its so tiring....

 

[walkman]

Hi Master Tong,

unable to get an auspicious date in Dec 2009 sunday.. SO hw abt like Jan 2010 Sunday?

 

[cmg_consulting]

Hi Colin,

By right, yes you need to check the Bazi for both of you. Right now, this date doesn't clash, but it is not considered a good date yet. Unless you only want a general tong shu good date which you have to wait till it is out. But even if the tong shu say that is good, that date can still be deemed inauspicious if it is not compatible with both your Bazi.

If you would like to learn more about the difference between Bazi and Tong Shu wedding dates selections (and other feng shui and wedding related stuffs), I have a Wedding Feng Shui seminar coming up on the 29th August 2009. You can check out my website at www.cmgconsulting.com.sg (at David' Blog -> 2009 --> July) for more information and registration. At just a minimal fee for the 4 hr seminar, i am sure you will get something out of it

For An Chuan, yes you can put on hold or just do it 2 times. The first time will include in all the An Chuang traditional and custmary stuffs such as getting a boy to junp on the bed, lighting the bedside lamps etc. If you wait til your flat is ready, it might be some time after your wedding and it makes no sense to do it then

 

[cmg_consulting]

Hi Nicholas,

1st Jan 2011 will clash with Dog. So long as none of you or your parents are born in yr of the dog, you've passed the first level of filtering

This date can be used if it is compatible with both your Bazi.

Hope this helps

 

[cmg_consulting]

Hi zrluvkt,

I will only be back next Thur 5th August.

It is normally out in the 7th lunar month, which is mid-next month. However, you can check with Popular Bookstores to see if it is out coz sometimes it might be early

 

[cmg_consulting]

Hi Colin,

For Jan 2010 weekends, only 17/1/2010, 23/1/2010 are general tong shu auspicious dates and doesn't clash.

Hope this helps

 

[tyl]

thanks Master Tong for the info. my and my MIL born in the year of dogs. orhh...

please update us when you are back. looking towards your services.

 

[walkman]

Hi Master Tong

How is 29 Nov 09 Sunday? is lunar 13th? Is it auspicious?

***** Thanks *****

 

[cmg_consulting]

Hi Nicholas,

In that case, you cannot use that day

Anyway, although i am not in SG now, feel free to post your qns online here coz i still go online everynight, so long as there is internet access here

 

[daydream99]

Hi Master Tong,

Pls advise for 31st Jan 2010 - what is good timing for fetching bride.

Can we fetch bride, go to matrimony home and then go for photo taking before heading to Groom's parents home to pray to ancestors n tea ceremony?

Is there a timing whereby tea ceremony at Groom's parents home must be completed?
Any timing for Bride's parents home tea ceremony?

Last of all, is 6:50pm for ROM good?


Thanks!

 

[daydream99]

Master Tong,

An chuang - can we do it on actual day itself so that the lighted lamb would not have to be lighted too long?

Also, if we light in morning of actual day at 6am, can we leave it lighted till bride and groom enter room at 10am and then do we keep it lighted?

Coz we will be staying two nights at hotel so wondering when we can `blow' off the light as we are using the kerosene lamb.

Combing hair - must the timing be together for bride and groom or according to date of birth, this can be done at different timing on actual day?

Thanks

 

[pearl98]

Hi Master Tong

I need your advice. As I am having difficulty in getting a Saturday banquet venue, alternatively, I was thinking to split the session. But is not sure how to go about to doing it? My auspicious day is 25 Dec/ 3 Jan, but we worry about the attendance is not good so was thinking to do both ROM & tea ceremony + small lunch(customary) on 25 Dec 09 and just a separate dinner on 9 Jan 2010. Is this ok? Or else what should we do? Appreciate your advice.

 

[bennie]

Hi Master Tong,

Need your advice..

If we chose a date for our AD which u mentioned is a bad day for wedding, i.e. on 9th Oct 2010, (we did not use our Bazi to check), is there any way that we can "feng xiong hua ji" for this date to make it into a better day?

Looking forward to your advice and thanks alot in advance.. =)

 

[zeroaal]

Hi Master Tong,
I need your advise on the date of the wedding dinner for 2010.
Are these dates suitable?
12/09/2010
30/10/2010
12/11/2010
20/11/2010

Groom: Goat
groom dad: Tiger
groom mum: Horse

Bride: Horse
bride dad: Pig
bride mum: Horse

Thank you so much. Hoping to hear your reply soon

 

[walkman]

Hi Master Tong,

As I am having difficulty in getting a auspicious day in Dec 09(Sunday), plan to get a earlier date. How is 15 Nov 09 Sunday?

For your Advice.

Many Thanks!

 

[kidose]

Hi Master Tong,

I will be having my customary wedding on the 28 November 2009. Will you be able to advice the timings on the day itself? And any other advices?

Bride :
Born Jan 1981

Groom :
Born Aug 1980

Thank you

 

[cmg_consulting]

Hi dreamz,

A good time for fetch the bride will be 9am-10.59am.

Can we fetch bride, go to matrimony home and then go for photo taking before heading to Groom's parents home to pray to ancestors n tea ceremony?

>>Yes you can. though the normal procedure is to fetch the bride, go to the groom's home for tea ceremony, then to your new home, subsequently to your parent's home for tea ceremony, then for photos shoots, before going to hotel.

Is there a timing whereby tea ceremony at Groom's parents home must be completed?
Any timing for Bride's parents home tea ceremony?

>>for the 9am-10.59am fetch the bride timing, the tea ceremony must be completed by 10.59am at groom's home. No timing required for tea ceremony at bride's parents home.

Last of all, is 6:50pm for ROM good?

>> Chinese hour goes by 2 hr interval (shi chen). Anytime 5pm - 6.59pm is ok. But the 7pm - 8.59pm timing is better

An chuang - can we do it on actual day itself so that the lighted lamb would not have to be lighted too long?

>> Yes you can.


Also, if we light in morning of actual day at 6am, can we leave it lighted till bride and groom enter room at 10am and then do we keep it lighted? Coz we will be staying two nights at hotel so wondering when we can `blow' off the light as we are using the kerosene lamb.

>> i don't understand what you mean for this. What you can do is to light it when you go back to your new home, and you have to light it overnight, or till you go back from your hotel stay. As such, i suggest using battery operated ones so there is no fire hazard.


Combing hair - must the timing be together for bride and groom or according to date of birth, this can be done at different timing on actual day?

>> This is normally done both together for bride and groom (same timing). Normally this is done the night before the Acutal day.

Hope this helps

 

[cmg_consulting]

Hi Pearlin,

Yes this is ok. No problem with it

 

[cmg_consulting]

Hi bennie,

No there isn't. this is the Qi govenring the day. It cannot be changed simply like this. the only thing you can do is to choose a good time for yout ROM and fetch the bride, that's all. This is making the best out of the bad day, but remember that it is still a bad day.

By the way, that is a very bad day no matter you use bazi or not. So i will strongly advise you not to use this day

Hope this helps.