Master David Tong's Advice Corner (Geomancy and Fengshui)

[ponyo_ponyo_123]

Hi Master Tong,

Appreciate your advise if the following dates are suitable for customary dinner.

03 July 2010
10 July 2010
17 July 2010
24 July 2010

20 Nov 2010
27 Nov 2010

04 Dec 2010
11 Dec 2010


Groom: Monkey (Nov 1980)
Groom's Dad: Dog
Groom's Mum: Rabbit
Groom's Brother : Cow

Bride: Monkey (July 1980)
Bride's Dad: Rabbit
Bride's Mum: Cow
Bride's Brother : Dog

Thank you!!

 

[hellogirl]

Master Tong,

Thanks for your advice!

 

[klitz]

Hi Master Tong,
I would like to seek your advice if it is not advisable tt wedding preparations are to be done during the chinese ghost month?

 

[cmg_consulting]

Hi Maria,

I will not be able to determine the best month for wedding as that will have to use both your Bazi (birthday and time of birth) to determine. However, you don't have to go to that level as a good day is often more than sufficient. Let me know roughly which month you have in month (as a year is too long and there are tons of dates) and i will advise you on the general auspicious wedding dates from there.

Hope this helps

 

[cmg_consulting]

Hi csd185,

Both of these dates are not general tong shu auspicious dates for wedding. And furthermore 30/10 will clash to Goat, which is the groom.

Hope this helps

 

[cmg_consulting]

Hi Jolene,

I will only be able to advise up till early Feb 2011 as the tong shu for 2011 won't be out till next year this time.

For 2010 dates, the general tong shu dates from Oct till early Feb weekends are:

- 13/11/2010, 30/01/2011

Yes only 2 dates available for weekends. If you notice, all your parents and both of you have different animal signs. Hence not easy to choose and the rest of the general dates all clashes to either of you or your parents.

 

[cmg_consulting]

Hi misskermit,

Actual Qing Ming day falls on the 5th April. Generally we will avoid the Qing ming month. Strictly speaking from the perspective of Chinese Metaphysics, you can get married in Qing Ming or even 7th month. It won't impact your marriage or bring bad luck to your marriage so long as you choose an auspicious day according to your Bazi. It is our Chinese custom and superstition that dictate us not to get married in these 2 months. If your in-laws already fixed the date and you cannot change,don't worry too much about it. Most important is to choose a good date for your wedding. Hope this helps

 

[cmg_consulting]

Hi Jasmine,

I need both of your animals signs as well as your parents. By the way, selecting an auspicious doesn't require a Tong Shu. I've already started selecting for 2010 dates last yr January. Right now, i am selecting for 2011 dates.and the 2011 tong shu will only be out sometime next year this time. So you can imagine by then, how many couples would have already booked the hotels. Even for now, 2010 weekends dates for hotels are not easy to book now as lots of the good dates are already taken up.

A good date in the Tong Shu can still be deemed inauspicious for both of you if the date is not compatible with both your Bazi. Hence selecting of dates using Bazi is the authentic and right way to do so. Tong Shu dates are for mass consumption only and is too generic.

Hope this helps.

 

[cmg_consulting]

Hi Jacq,

2010 is not a good year for both of you to get married in as both of you are born in year of the monkey and 2010 is a tiger year. Tiger and Monkey clashes in Chinese Metaphysics. I will advise both of you do it in 2011 if possible.

 

[cmg_consulting]

Hi hellogirl,

You are welcome

 

[cmg_consulting]

Hi klitz,

What wedding preparations are you referring to?

 

[princessjaz]

Hi Master Tong,

Yes I've heard about selecting dates by bazi before but we don't want to get in to such detail since both me and my fiance don't really care, We just want a general date that is good to get married to keep the parents happy. I've been trying to find someone that has the 2010 tong shu but have no luck until now. Can you list the weekends that are good for weddings during August and September. Thank you for all your help.

 

[cmg_consulting]

Hi everyone,

The closing date for the Wedding Feng Shui seminar is on the 22nd August. So for those of you who are keen and yet to sign up, pls do so quickly

For those who are not aware of it, I will be holding a first ever Wedding Feng Shui Seminar on the 29th August 2009 (Saturday).

This seminar attempts to address and answer all your doubts about Chinese Wedding, Feng Shui, Bazi and Date Selections. My aim is such that at the end of this 4 hour seminar, you will leave fully prepared, knowing what to do for your wedding. You will have a clear idea what is a must to do for your wedding and what is a superstition, which if not followed, will not affect your marriage.

In addtion, I will dispel all myths about Feng Shui, and I will also share with you secrets and techniques on how to select a good Feng Shui home as well as using Palmistry and Face Reading to analyse compatiblity, character and destiny.

If you've ever been to a Feng Shui seminar before, this will be a very different experience. No preaching of crystals, jades or feng shui ornaments. In fact, you will realise that there is no 'hocus pocus' in Chinese Metaphysics. There is an explanation for everything.

For registration and a more detailed outline & synopsis of this seminar, check out David's Blog, July section, in my website at www.cmgconsulting.com.sg

What I've listed in my blog is just a teaser. Much more will be covered. Hope to see you there

 

[cmg_consulting]

Hi Jasmine,

I will need your parents and both your animal signs. Even using just the tong shu, i will need these basic info coz i got to ensure the dates cannot clash to any of you. Without it, it is as good as not choosing a date at all. If it clashes, it is worse than you pick a normal day!

 

[cancerox3787]

Hi again Master Tong,

Thank you for your immediate response to my email. Me and my fiance have in mind this following dates.

January 28, 2010
February 01, 2010
February 13, 2010
February 26, 2010
April 04. 2010
April 17, 2010
April 25, 2010

This was the dates that me and my fiance are choosing for our wedding. Hope you could help us determined which will be fine with us.

We really appreciate your kindness and guidances.

Thank you so much.

 

[bebe_12]

Hi Master Tong,

Please advice whether is it good day to hold my ROM on 20 Sep 2009?

Groom: Tiger (1974)
Groom's dad: Rooster (1945)
Groom's mum: Ox (1949)

Bride: Rooster (1981)
Bride's dad: Tiger (1950)
Bride's mum: Ox (1949)

Besides that, please kindly advice good dates for customary in year 2010 according to Tongshu.

Appreciate your advices.

 

[aussiebride]

Hi Master Tong,

My fiance and I are looking at holding our ROM on the 9th of Sept 2009. Can you advise:
1. If this is a good date for us based on yr of birth advised
2. If it is a good date, what would be the best time?

Groom: Yr of Monkey
Groom's Father: Yr of Dragon
Groom's Mother: Yr of Ox

Bride: Yr of Dragon
Bride's Father: Yr of Horse
Bride's Mother: Yr of Dog

Once again, many thanks.

 

[hazel_nutz]

Hi Master Tong,

Thank you for the advise.

 

[cmg_consulting]

Hi Maria,

Here are the analysis for your dates:

January 28, 2010 - Clash to Monkey. Avoid this day.
February 01, 2010 - Not a general Tong Shu good date for wedding
February 13, 2010 - General good day for wedding. Chinese New Year's Eve.
February 26, 2010 - Clash to Ox. Avoid this day
April 04. 2010 - Very bad day for wedding
April 17, 2010 - Clash to Rabbit. Avoid this day
April 25, 2010 - Not a good day for wedding

Hence, only Feb 13 2010 can be used. I don't know if you celebrate chinese new year in your country etc coz this is chinese new year eve and normally we don't get married during this day. If you don't celebrate chinese new year in your country, then it is ok. You can use it.

Hope this helps Maria.

 

[cmg_consulting]

Hi Miko,

20th Sep 2009 is not a good day for ROM. If possible, choose another day. 21st Sep will be a very good date in terms of tong shu dates.

For customary in 2010, i need to know which month you want to hold your wedding.

 

[cmg_consulting]

Hi aussiebride,

9th Sept falls in the 7th lunar month. Do you practice that in your country? Normally we don't get married in that period according to chinese belief.

 

[cmg_consulting]

Hi JoleneTan,

You are welcome

 

[bebe_12]

Hi Master Tong,

Thank you for your advice.

Since 20 Sep 2009 is not a good date, then how will it affect marriage life?

I plan to have customary during September (8th lunar month), please advice a good date.

I have once again include the birth year and add in birth month (lunar):

Groom: Tiger (1974 - 2nd lunar month)
Groom's dad: Rooster (1945)
Groom's mum: Ox (1949)

Bride: Rooster (1981 - 5th lunar month)
Bride's dad: Tiger (1950)
Bride's mum: Ox (1949)

I heard there is a belief that Tiger Bride/ Groom should not get married in the year of Tiger (clash), is that true?

Thanks.

 

[dreamzling]

Hi Master Tong,

I would like to seek your advice.

If the good time for customary is from 10am-12pm, does it mean the groom can only fetch the bride after 10am and must finish the tea ceremony at bride's home by 12pm?
Can gatecrash start before 10am?

On general term, is it true that rooster crashes with rabbit?

 

[ponyo_ponyo_123]

Dear Master Tong,

Thank you very much for your valuable advise.

1) What will happen if we still choose to get married in year 2010?

2) What are the auspicious dates you will advise us if we still choose to get married in year 2010?

3) Will getting married before year 2010 Chinese New Year helps to avoid clashing with Tiger?

Thank you very much for your expertise and time! Have a fantastic weekend!

 

[dreamzling]

Hi Master Tong,

Another qns.

If the date selected is said to be clashed to Tiger, and my dad is born in year of Tiger, does it implies that the date is not suitable for our wedding?

And is it not recommended to have jie mei who is also born in Tiger year? From my understanding, so long as she's not the bridemaid, it should be fine for jie mei. Is it right?

Appreciate your advice!

 

[zealchemist]

Hi Master Tong,

I have a general question: is it possible that based on Bazi calculation, an "inauspicious" day in the Tong Shu actually turn out to be an auspicious wedding date for the couple?

Can you advise on the general auspicious wedding dates between Sep - Dec 2010 based on the following:

Groom: 6 July 1975 (Rabbit)
Grrom's Mum: 1942 (Horse)

Bride: 3 July 1978 (Horse)
Bride's Dad: 1947 (Pig)
Bride's Mum: 1953 (Snake)

Thanks a lot!

 

[jesschan]

hi Master Tong,

My grandmother passed away at age 78 in June 09. Are there any rules against getting married for this year? my boyfriend (born year of horse) and myself (dog) looking at 12.12.09 as one of the possible date. Would there be any problems or clash? Could we still go ahead with photoshoots and arrangments for the wedding in the 7th ghost month starting soon? is it not auspicious to do so??

We heard that year 2010, year of tiger is generally not a good year for our marriage. is it accurate? any advise? would there be althernatives date that you would advise?

any commnets would be much appreaciated. Tks!!!

Cheers!
Jessica

 

[stitchy]

Hi Master Tong,

Earlier u advised me on the dates that i'd selected for my wedding in 2010 but now that the Tong Shu for 2010 is out, does that mean the advice u've given earlier is still the same, e.g 9 Oct 2010 is still a bad day for wedding?

My fiance & I were thinking of rom on 9 Jan 2010, i wld like to seek ur advice on this date whether itz an auspicious date for both of us.

Groom: Monkey (1980)
Mother: Horse (1954)
Father: Deceased

Bride: Horse (1978)
Mother: Rabbit (1951)
Father: Dragon (1952)

Thanks alot in advance and looking forward to ur advice!!

 

[jesschan]

hi Master Tong,

My grandmother passed away at age 78 in June 09. Are there any rules against getting married for this year? my boyfriend (born year of horse) and myself (dog) looking at 12.12.09 as one of the possible date. Would there be any problems or clash? Could we still go ahead with photoshoots and arrangments for the wedding in the 7th ghost month starting soon? is it not auspicious to do so??

We heard that year 2010, year of tiger is generally not a good year for our marriage. is it accurate? any advise? would there be althernatives date that you would advise?

any commnets would be much appreaciated. Tks!!!

Cheers!
Jessica

 

[aussiebride]

Hi Master Tong,

We realise it is lunar 7th month but we really like the date. And since it is only ROM, not actual day, both parents are ok.

So would you advise for or against it?
Thank you!

 

[cmg_consulting]

Hi Miko,

That is not a suitable day for wedding. It is indicated in the tong shu, just that you must know where to find the info. How bad it will affect your marriage will depend on your Bazi. But generally if you can choose, why choose a bad day?

A good weekend will be 3rd Oct 09 for your ROM.

Not true that Tiger bride cannot get married in Tiger yr. Only Monkey cannot as there is a direct clash. Tiger bride in Tiger year is "Fan Tai Sui" and this is more of a religious practice than Chinese Metaphysics. In Bazi, there is no "Fan Tai Sui".

Hope this helps

 

[cmg_consulting]

Hi ling,

Auspicious hour of 10am - 12pm cannot exist. There is no such thing. In chinese hour, 1 "shi chen" is from 9am - 1059am, 11am - 1259pm, and so forth. 10am - 12pm is an overlap of 2 "shi chen". So it is kind of weird that you have such a timing.

So generally let's say if the auspicius hrs is 9am - 1059am, the groom will have to step into bride's house at 9am (or after), fetch her to his home and complete tea ceremony with his parents by 1059am. Gatecrashing is normally done before 9am. So if you want to "tekan" your spouse 1 hr, ask him to come at 8am

Going back to bride's family for tea ceremony does not require a timing. It's "free and easy".

Yes, rooster and rabbit will clash

 

[cmg_consulting]

Hi Ling,

yes that is correct. Basically you cannot even select a date that clash with parents, so by right you will not end up with such a situation.

Ideally all Xiong Di and Jie Mei should not be Tiger as well.

 

[cmg_consulting]

Hi Jacq,

I will still strongly advise you not to do it in 2010 since both you and your spouse will both clash. You can do it before 4th Feb (not CNY) 2010 and it is still considered the Ox yr. In this way, you avoid the tiger yr. Alternatively, do it in 2011.

How bad it will be will depends on your Bazi. If let's say both your Bazi don't have a good marriage (eg always quarrel), this might just aggravate the problem. So best to avoid. Why risk it? If you really have no choice (eg need the cert for HDB etc), then do ROM in 2009 (before 4th Feb 2010) and AD in 2010. This is the best you can salvage the situation. At least not both on the same day and ROM is more important.

If you really have to do it in 2010, here are the dates you can use (from your list):

03 July 2010 - Clash to Monkey. Cannot use.
10 July 2010 - Clash to Rabbit. Cannot use.
17 July 2010 - Clash to Dog. Cannot use.
24 July 2010 - Not a general good tong shu day for wedding (can be overrriden if this day is compatible with Bazi)

20 Nov 2010 - Not a good day for wedding
27 Nov 2010 - Very bad day for wedding

04 Dec 2010 - Not a good day for wedding
11 Dec 2010 - Not a good day for wedding

Hmm..it seems like none of the dates you've provided is good. Is this provided by hotels (remaining dates?)?

 

[cmg_consulting]

Hi Claire,

Yes that is possible. So long as the day selected is compatible with the Bazi, an inauspicious date in the tong shu can become a good date for the couple. However, there are some "no-no" dates that cannot be used, regardless whether if it is compatible with Bazi or not.

Here are some dates you can use for 2010:

-12/9, 18/09, 24/09, 25/09, 30/09, 06/10, 11/10, 20/10, 23/10, 04/11, 12/11, 13/11, 14/11, 17/11, 25/11, 08/12, 18/12, 26/12

As you can see, using the tong shu will usually result in lots of general auspicious dates. If used Bazi to calculate, you will find that you are probably left with about 5-6 dates (those that are compatible with both your Bazi).

Hope this helps

 

[cmg_consulting]

Hi Jessica,

Normally in this case you have to get married within 100 days or do it one year later. Hence December is not suitable. This is a mark of respect for the one that pass away.

Generally i will advise you not to do major wedding arrangement stuff in 7th lunar month. This is more of superstition than Chinese Metaphysics. I advise so coz most parents will not be happy that you do it. Unless if everyone is ok with it, then you proceed.

2010 Tiger yr is only bad for those born in the year of the Monkey. It is NOT a bad yr for everyone! That is pure superstition and no logic to it. Elderly tend to associated characterstics of tiger to the yr, saying that Tiger is fierce and hence not good to get married next yr. In this case, which is the best yr? Dragon yr? What i say that Dragon is no good too coz Dragon can fly and your spouse can fly away with someone else?

I hope you get the idea.

 

[cmg_consulting]

Hi Scrumpy,

Yes 9th Oct is still a bad day. It cannot even be overridden using Bazi. This is a no-no day for wedding, regardless what method you use.

9th Jan 2010 is another "no-no" day for wedding or ROM. Avoid it at all cost

 

[cmg_consulting]

Hi aussiebride,

That day clash to Pig. So long as none of you are born in the yr of the Pig, it is ok. And that day is a general tong shu auspicious day for wedding.

If everyone is ok with it, then you can proceed.

A good time that day for ROM wil be 1100hrs - 1259hrs

Hope this helps

 

[blinged]

Hello,

Could you kindly let us know if there are any good dates for us in the 2nd part of the year 2010?

Groom: Monkey
G's dad: Rabbit
G's mum: Goat

Bride:Rooster
B's dad: Dragon
B's mum: Monkey

Many Thanks !

 

[blinkingstar]

Hi Master Tong,

May i know whether 10 Oct 2010 is suitable for us:

Groom: Rooster (1981)
Groom's Dad: Rooster (1945)
Groom's Mum: Ox (1949)

Bride: Goat (1979)
Bride's Dad: Ox (1949)
Bride's Mum: Dragon (1952)

Thank you for your advice!

 

[iamken]

Hi all,

Just want to comment the good services of David.

We engaged his services in early January for our wedding dates.

Till now, he still promptly answers and offers free advices whenever we have questions with regards to wedding matters.

Good after-sales service. Thumbs up!

 

[snail00]

Hi Master Tong,
Thank you for your earlier advice! Can you please advise if the below dates are suitable for dinner?

10th Sep 2010
15th Oct 2010
22nd Oct 2010
5th Nov 2010
12th Nov 2010
19th Nov 2010
26th Nov 2010

Details of couple
Groom: Horse
Groom's Dad: Sheep
Groom's Mum: Horse

Bride: Sheep
Bride's Dad: Dog
Bride's Mum: Snake

Thank you!

 

[princessjaz]

Hi Master Tong,

Wow, I didn't know there was so much that goes in to picking a date. Ok so I have gathered all the information for you.

Bride: Pig
Bride Dad: Snake
Bride Mom: Dragon

Groom: Monkey
Groom Dad: Ox
Groom Mom: Rooster

Can you please advice on some auspicious dates for wedding between July - October. Thank you very much!!

 

[mymelodygal]

Hi Master Tong,

Appreciate your advise if the following dates are suitable for our customary wedding.

11 Sep 2010
18 Sep 2010

Groom: Monkey (Sep 1980)
Groom's Dad: Dog
Groom's Mum: Monkey


Bride: Dog (Oct 1982)
Bride's Dad: Pig
Bride's Mum: Goat

Any auspicious time to take note???

Thank you!

 

[muji]

Hi Master Tong,

Can you advise whether the date for customary wedding is good?
Groom: Horse
Mother: Rabbit
Father: Ox

Bride: Monkey
Mother: Rooster
Father: Tiger

We are planning to get married on 18 March 2011. If this date is not ideal, can you provide me good dates in March or in June? I understand that we may stil have to consult the Bazi. Thanks.

We are having our ROM in Dec (2009), can you provide me with auspicious dates and time? Many thanks.

Denise

 

[muji]

Sorry Master Tong, just one other thing, my brother is having his ROM in Oct as well. We heard that siblings shoudn't get married in the same year, so would like to seek your advice. We wanted to ROM in Jan but sister is giving birth around the same time too.

 

[cmg_consulting]

Hi bling,

Roughly which mth you looking at and if weekends or weekdays?

 

[cmg_consulting]

Hi agnes,

10th Oct is an ideal day for wedding. Maybe you can choose 23rd Oct? It clash to Rat which is none of you and is a very good date for wedding

Hope this helps

 

[cmg_consulting]

Hi Ken,

Thanks for your compliments