Master David Tong's Advice Corner (Geomancy and Fengshui)

Hi SS,

You can use 4th June 09. Not the best or most ideal general date, but within the range you stated, this is the only useable.

Note that this is general Tong Shu date for reno only. It does not take into account the feng shui of the house, hence this date selected can still be a bad day for the house.
 


Hi GuanYing,

20th March will clash with pig.

For 20/3, the timing will be 7am - 9am.
For 27/3, the timing will be 9am - 11am.

Hope this helps.
 
Hi Master Tong

You mentioned the auapicious time to fetch the bride will be 5am-7pm or 11am to 1pm.

is it 5am to 7AM?

So must leave bride's house by 7am?
 
Hi Stacey,

Ooops my typo. Yes you are right. It is 5am - 7am
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The groom will have to step into your home at 5am, fetch you to his home and finish the tea ceremony with his parents by 7am. If the relatives are late, it is ok. Most important is parents. After that, going back to your new home or to your parents' home for tea ceremony is not within this timing.
 
Hello Master Tong,

I would like to know whether there are any dates for Sat in the months of January to April 2010 that I can fix as my wedding date. My mum's worried that the dates of my deceased grandparents would clash with the wedding date. Is there a basis for this? I would like to know more about your charges for bazi. Kindly contact me at [email protected]

Bride-to-be: 8th November 1978 (Horse)
Dad: Chicken
Mum: Tiger

Groom-to-be: 4th April 1972(Rat)
Dad: Tiger
Mum: Pig
 
Hi Master Tong

If i need to avoid clashing with others 4 mths before and after for my wedding, my AD is on the 290909,
Q1) can i still attend funeral now before 29 May?
Q2) Can i attend baby shower in June?
 
Hi Master Tong,

I want to know best time to marry in 2010.

Bride - 3/29/1980 (Monkey)
Bride Mother - Tiger
Bride Father - Tiger

Groom - 6/19/1979 (Sheep)
Groom Mother - Dragon
Groom Father - Ox

Please send me email at [email protected].

Thank you!
 
Hi Master Tong,

Is it true that next year (year of tiger) and the following year (double 7th month) is bad year for wedding?

And also, if the chosen date for our AD is calculated based on our bazi, but it's a bad day on tongsu, does it matter? Is it advised to choose another date?
 
Hi Master Tong,

Is June 27, 2010 good to marry?

Bride - 3/29/1980 (Monkey)
Bride Mother - Tiger
Bride Father - Tiger

Groom - 6/19/1979 (Sheep)
Groom Mother - Dragon
Groom Father - Ox

Thanks!
 
Hi SS,

Generally most people practice 3 mths now..

So for your qns:

1) Yes. You can still attend other's funeral.

2) You can attend so long as it is before June 29.

Hope this helps.
 
Hi Pei Wen,

No it is not true. Whether if a year is good for marriage or not depends on your Bazi, and not because it is a Tiger yr or double 7th month etc.

If a chosen date is based on the Bazi, yes it can be reflected in the Tong Shu as bad for wedding. It doesn't matter. These are 2 different systems. The Bazi will override the Tong Shu. FYI, different publications of the Tong Shu will give different readings, so which Tong Shu are you going to follow?

Reason being that everyday, it is good for some people, but bad for some people. If you use the Tong shu alone, it assumes that a particular day is good for ALL, which is everyone. Everyone knows that this is not true. Even on the date suppose to be good in the Tong Shu, there are many people going bankrupt, losing money, breakup in relationships etc etc. So how do we know exactly if a particular day is good or bad for us? The secret is in the Bazi.

From the Bazi, we are able to narrow down the dates to the extent that which day is specifically good for both of you only and no one else. If the date is compatible with the Bazi, no matter what the Tong Shu says, it will still be a good day for both of you. It can be bad for others (which is not our concern here), but most importantly, it is specifically good for both of you.

And the best part is, you can get married in those not so "hot dates", therefore you don't have to fight with everyone for the hotel
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I hope this clears your doubts.
 
Hi David,

Is 26 Sept a really bad date? Coz initially i intend to choose 20 Sept or 26 Sept, one advised me to choose 26 Sept as it is better. So the timing u gave 0900hrs - 1059hrs means i need to fetch bride at that timing? Then how other ceremony like tea ceremony outside the timing, will it have any effect? Thanks.
 
Hi MAster David,

My wedding on 26 Dec...but i really hope to attend my best fren's wedding on 24 oct.
any advise? If there is any solution to ¤Æ¸Ñ if it's really pantang?

Tks
 
Hi moonlightprincess,

Yes that is correct. It will be out sometime in July/August period. As I mentioned in above thread, this is a very general way of date selection only. A date stated good in the Almanac but incompatible with both your Bazi is still deemd as inauspicious. The right way to do it is via using both your Bazi. Only then can you determine if this day is specifically good for both of you.

Hope this helps
 
Hi noob,

26 Sept 2009 is not a good date for wedding. It is not a general good date and the purpose of the day is not for wedding. Hence even if the Bazi fits into the day, it is still not advisable, though it is not as bad.

For 9am-10.59am, what this means is that the groom have to step into the bride house at 9am, fetch her to the groom's home and complete the tea ceremony by 10.59am. Going back to your new home or to the bride's parent's home does not matter. It is not within the timing.

Hope this helps.
 
Hi bomohpang,

There is no way to "cure" this problem. The best thing to do is to avoid it or change your wedding date (which i know is not possible).

This is purely Chinese belief, not part of Feng Shui or Chinese Metaphysics. Hence how true is it, no one in this world can "measure" it. But let me put it this way...other races do not have this rule...only us Chinese have it..and many of them are still happily married
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Hi Master Tong, My bf & I are both born in the year of chicken. will it be a good year to get married in 2010?we are looking at 01.10.10 or 10.10.10. are they good dates?
 
Hi Angela,

Year 2010 is ok. But don't get married in 2011 Rabbit Year coz Rabbit will clash with Rooster.

I know these 2 dates are "popular" dates coz of the nice numbers...but unfortunately these 2 are not good dates for wedding.

Hope this helps.
 
Hi Master Tong,

I am looking at Saturday from Mar to Aug 2010 for marridge? Can advise on which are the auspicious date for marridge?

Bride - June 1983 (Boar)
Bride Mother - Ox
Bride Father - Snake

Groom - August 1981 (Rooster)
Groom Mother - Monkey
Groom Father - Dragon

Thanks Master Tong!
 
Hi Aaron,

As much as i want to help you in the area of general good dates, the Tong Shu is not out yet, so i will not know or be able to select general Tong Shu auspicious date for wedding for 2010 yet. Right now, the only way and also the right and accurate way of doing it will be using Bazi to select dates. FYI, a date reflected auspicious in the Tong Shu may still be bad for both of you if the date chosen is not compatible wtih both your Bazi.

As for Bazi wedding dates selection, it is part of my consultation service to my clients, hence i can't provide it here free in the forum or it will be unfair to my clients who paid for my service. Hope you understand.

If you have any particular date in mind, just post it here. I can advise you if it is a bad day as there are some days that are definitely bad and cannot be used for marriage; and some days that will clash to either of you or your parents, so cannot be used as well.
 
Hi Master Tong,

My Bf & i wants to do our ROM this year(2009)

1st Choice: 9th Sept 09 - but this date falls during the 21st day of 7th Lunar Mth, so should we do it or not?

2nd Choice: 15th Nov 09

On Top of that we are planning to do our customary in 2011. Is it a good year to seal the sweet deal for us? If not, which year will be better?

Can share your views on the selected dates?

Bride - 8 Aug 1980 (Monkey)
Bride Mother - 1944 (Monkey)
Bride Father - 1943 (Sheep)

Groom - 22 Mar 1980 (Monkey)
Groom Mother - 1946 (Dog)
Groom Father - 1946 (Dog)

Thank you very much Master Tong!
 
Hi Master Tong,

We are looking at 30/10/2010

Bride - 15 Sept 1986 (Tiger)
Mum - 1957 (Rooster)
Dad - 1953 (Snake)

Groom - 25 Dec 1985 (Ox)
Mum - 1954 (deceased)(Horse)
Dad - 1955 (Sheep)

Pls advise. Thank you very much.
 
Hi Master Tong,

Thanks for the advised. Appreciate your time. Ok below are the dates We are looking at

4 Apr 2010
17 Apr 2010
25 Apr 2010
2 May 2010
15 May 2010
4 June 2010
3 July 2010
16 July 2010
25 July 2010
21 Aug 2010

Bride - June 1983 (Boar)
Bride Mother - Ox
Bride Father - Snake

Groom - August 1981 (Rooster)
Groom Mother - Monkey
Groom Father - Dragon


Thanks Master Tong.
 
Hi david,

My timing for fetch the bride will be 0700hrs - 0859hrs, does that mean the bride will need to reach the groom place by 0859hrs and complete the tea ceremory at the groom side?
 
Hello Master Tong, would like to trouble you with a few qns.

1) If we don't want to follow auspicious hour on actual day, must we still use Bazi to pick an auspicious day?

2) If we dont use Bazi, simply choose a day (we like 23rd Jan 2010), do we use Tongshu to make sure it's not a bad day, that's all?

3) Is 23rd Jan 2010 suitable for marriage?

She's Catholic, I'm not, and we're having church ceremony, so it's a fusion style.

And thus, we're confused...

Thanks,
Alex.
 
Hi Master Tong,

If the year 2011 Rabbit year clashed with the Rooster and year 2010 Tiger year clashed with the Monkey...
My fiance and I have the respective zodiac, does it mean is no good for us to get marry in the year 2010 and year 2011?? Must really wait for 2012? I'm getting old, so dont really want to wait so long! haha

Any good advice for us!! =)

Thanks in advance.
 
Hi Finnie,

9th Sept 09 - Generally i will advise avoiding the 7th mth though you can get married in 7th month, provided it is a good date based on your Bazi. But to even consider this date, I will advise you to seek your parent's approval first coz most parents won't allow it.

15th Nov 09 - This is not an ideal date for wedding. I know Tong shu state that it is a good date, but the purpose of the day is not ideal, hence not the best to use for wedding.

Why not you use 25th Oct 09? It is a 'general' good date (Bazi not taken into account yet) and don't clash to any of you.

For your AD in 2011, the Bazi will have to be taken into account to see if it is a good year for marriage. But generally speaking, the year doesn't clash with your animal sign and all you need is a good date for the customary wedding
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Hope this helps.
 
Hi Aaron,

(all April dates are out coz of Qing Ming)
4 Apr 2010
17 Apr 2010
25 Apr 2010

2 May 2010 - Doesn't clash to anyone
15 May 2010 - Doesn't clash to anyone
4 June 2010 - Doesn't clash to anyone
3 July 2010 - Clash to Monkey, cannot use
16 July 2010 - Clash to Rooster, cannot use
25 July 2010 - Doesn't clash to anyone
21 Aug 2010 - 7th lunar mth.

Only those dates that doesn't clash to anyone are "potential" good dates. the rest cannot be used.

Hope this helps Aaron.
 
Hi Alex,

To answer your qns:

1) If we don't want to follow auspicious hour on actual day, must we still use Bazi to pick an auspicious day?

Yes you need to. Auspicious date and hour are 2 different things. A good date for wedding is very important even if you don't feel like choosing the hr, but then, i will still suggest you to choose the hr coz only when the date and hour together adds up to a truly auspicious date.

2) If we dont use Bazi, simply choose a day (we like 23rd Jan 2010), do we use Tongshu to make sure it's not a bad day, that's all?

Yes you can use the Tong Shu. But it is NOT accurate. A Tong Shu is for mass consumption only. A good date reflected in the Tong Shu can still be deemed inauspicious for both of you if the date is not compatible with both your Bazi. Logically speaking...if the Tong Shu say a particular date is good for wedding, does it really mean the whole world good for wedding? It makes no sense at all. Everyone of us knows that everyday, there will be someone in good luck and someone in bad luck. This is the same for wedding. So how to determine if a person is good or bad on a particular day, that is where the Bazi part comes in. It is able to determine specifically if a particular day is good or not for both of you only, and no one else.

3) Is 23rd Jan 2010 suitable for marriage?

This date clashes to Rabbit, so if any of you or your parents are born in yr of the rabbit, then this date cannot be used. If none of you are born in yr of rabbit, this is a general Tong shu date for marriage. As to whether if it is good or bad specifically for both of you, i will not know unless the Bazi is taken into acocunt. But if you are only after a general auspicious date, then it can be used.

>She's Catholic, I'm not, and we're having >church ceremony, so it's a fusion style.

It doesn't matter. Date selection is a form of Astrology, not religion or superstition (as commonly misunderstood or preached by others). And end of the day, we are all still Chinese and we have our Chinese customs and traditions to follow. And none of these are part of any religion. It is just a Chinese culture passed down from our ancestors.

Hope this helps
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Hi zrluvkt,

Unfortunately the ideal answer is Yes!
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If you really don't want to wait that long, the next best solution will be to ROM in 2009 and AD either in 2010 or 2011. This is not the best solution but at least in this manner, the ROM, which is the most important part of your marriage (not the AD!), is carried out in a yr that doesn't clash.

Hope this helps
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Hi david,

Thanks for your reply. To double confirm, the groom will need to fetch the bride and go back to the groom place by 9am? Does the tea cermory need to complete before 9am at the groom side?
And also do the bride and groom need to go back to the bride place before 9am?
 
Hi Master Tong,

Just for knowledge purposes, everyone is asking for auspicious dates but What is actually a auspicious date? What does it do?
What will happen if we do the ROM during the Lunar 7th Month?

& How come the AD is more important than the ROM?
I was actually thinking for selecting just any convenient dates for my ROM & only seek expert advise for AD when it comes nearer to 2011 until i came to this thread. LOL!

Other than 25th Oct 09, Possible to give me Back up Dates for ROM just in case of Oops & Shit? =P

Thanks alot Master Tong
 
Bcos ROM is the day u and ur husband become legally married in the eyes of the law.

AD is just customary practice only.
 
Hi Master Tong,

Thanks for the quick reply..
Unfortunately, my HTB and family think AD is more impt, this is where we will go through the chinese custom. I dot think we can make it n time for this year. Sigh

Thanks once again.. =)
 

So if i have no choice to choose 260909 then i need to follow strictly to the timing? Actually my parents got get someone to read our bazi and he is the one who recommend 260909 to us so does it mean we r cheated? I am wondering how come ROM is more impt than traditional wedding? Dun tell me ROM must choose an auspicious date also?
 
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