Master David Tong's Advice Corner (Geomancy and Fengshui)

Hi Eva,

That is NOT true. You cannot attribute the characteristics of the animal to a person. This is just another Chinese beliefs or folktale, defintiely not Chinese Metaphysics and it is not true.

If you say so, then Ox yr is not good as well. Why? Ox is hard life..so is perhaps Goat? Then among the 12 animal signs, which is good? Horse or Dragon? And do you really think Horse and Dragon are good? Horse run very fast and Dragon flies. So next time your child may run or fly away with their partners and never come home!
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You see, all these have no logic. To see if a child is really fierce (in terms of character), the whole Bazi chart needs to be taken into account.

I hope this clarifies your doubts a bit
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Hi Rina,

It is lunar 4th mth 16th day.

>I heard that marriages are not favourable for >chinese 4th, 6th and 7th month.

This is NOT true. Authentic date selection does NOT take into account chinese beliefs, customs or tradition. In fact, even in Qing Ming mth and 7th mth, you can get married. I have clients that get married during that period (though by default I will omit them in my selection process coz most elderly will not like these 2 mths). Some elderly don't like the 1st and 6th mth. And if 4th and 7th month also cannot, then plus Qing Ming etc etc...no need to get married already!!!
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Everyone will be fighting for 8th lunar mth!

Date selection is NOT done via using the lunar calendar or using chinese customs. This is wrong. Very wrong. The way to select an auspicious date is by using indiviual Bazi and how the date matches the Bazi. And in date selection, we uses the Solar Calendar (Wan Nian Li).

There is a big difference between lunar and solar calendar. The former is the rotation of the moon around the earth. The latter is the rotation of the earth around the Sun. 2 completely different calendar system. Most Chinese Metaphysics subjects such as Feng Shui, Bazi, Date Selections etc are based on the Solar Calendar. If the lunar calendar is used, it is wrong. Which is also why in wedding date selection or any other date selection, we don't need your lunar birthday. Just your western birthday according to your birth cert will do. We will convert them to Bazi based on the Solar Calendar.

Just to add on...a lot of people thought that lunar 8th mth is a very good month for marriage and everyone is fighting for this month to get married in. I can rest assure you this is not true. If the dates in that month doesn't match your Bazi, it could even end up worse than getting married in the lunar 7th month!
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Hi Yuzu,

You got it wrong. The animal that clashes is not determined by both your animal signs. It is determined by the day pillar itself and see what the day clashes. Eg, let say today's date 17th May 2009. This day is a "Ren Xu" day, which is a Dog day and this clashes to Dragon. So if you get married today, all Dragon have to hide and ideally, your jie mei and xiong di should not be dragon.

Hope this helps.
 
Hi Master Tong,

Is 26/09/2009 is a gd date for traditional chinese wedding? What time will be the auspicious time?

Groom: Monkey, May 1980
Bride: Rat, May 1984

Groom's father: Pig
Groom's mother: Tiger

Bride's father: Horse
Bride's mother: Rat
 
Dear Master Tong,

Could I ask if 17 Sep 2010 (Fri) and 19 Sep 2010 (Sun) are good dates for tea ceremony, ROM and banquet? If so, what time is auspicious for tea ceremony? Out of 13, 17 and 19 Sep 2010, which is the best date for our wedding?

Bride: 25 Nov 1983, Pig
Father: Pig
Mother: Rabbit

Groom: 7 July 1981, Rooster
Father: Snake
Mother: Goat

Thanks!
 
Hi Jing,

19/09 is a bad day for wedding. Cannot use.

13/9 & 17/9 doesn't clash to anyone.Whether if it is a good general date or not, I have to wait for the Tong Shu to be out in July/Aug period. Right now, using Bazi is the only way and accuate way to determine if these 2 dates are good.

Which date are you using for tea ceremony/AD? I will let you know the timing depending on which day you using for your AD.
 
Hi Jing,

You are welcome
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For 13/9/10, fetch the bride timing will be 0900hrs - 1059hrs. ROM timng will be 1300hrs - 1459hrs.

Hope this helps.
 
Hi David,

080809 is my Wedding and ROM date. Both my bf and I born in the year of Dog (1982).
Can I know what is the better timing for my bf to come and fetch me?
 
Hi Master Tong,

Is 16/10/2009 is a gd date for traditional chinese wedding? What time will be the auspicious time?

Groom: Goat, August 1979
Bride: Monkey, December 1980

Groom's father: Goat
Groom's mother: Pig

Bride's father: Horse
Bride's mother: Monkey

Can ask my fren to ask you for ROM dates for this year and wedding dates for next year?
Bride: Monkey, November 1980
Groom: I think Horse, 1978
 
Hi Stacey,

That is a general good day for wedding and don't clash to anyone.

Auapicious time to fetch the bride will be 5am-7pm or 11am to 1pm.

Yes you can ask your friend to ask me about the ROM dates this yr. Note that i only provide general auspicious dates here according to the Tong Shu. This is very general only and the dates can still turn out to be bad if it is not compatible with both your Bazi. The correct and authentic method to do it will be using both your Bazi. This is to ensure that the date selected is specifically good for both of you and no one else. But as this is part of my consultation service, i do charge for it.

For 2010 dates, the Tong Shu is not out yet (till July/Aug), hence the only way to do it now is using Bazi to select dates, which I am currently doing now for my clients for 2010 and 2011 dates.
 
Hi Master Tong,

Is 20/09/2009 is a gd date for traditional chinese wedding? And 9/8/2009 good for ROM?

Groom: Rooster, Oct 1981
Bride: Rat, Sept 1984

Groom's father: Deceased
Groom's mother: Dragon

Bride's father: Deceased
Bride's mother: Monkey
 
Hi Master Tong,

What are the auspicious dates for ROM in Aug and Sep 2009?

Groom: 4 Feb 1978 (Snake)
Bride: 4 Nov 1978 (Horse)

Thank you
Wendy
 
Hi Master Tong,

According to the normal practise, jie mei must be single. How accurate is this practise ?

Need your advise pls.

Thanks you.
 
Hi Andrea,

8/9/09 will clash to Dragon, which is groom's mum. Not advisable to use.

20/09/09 is not a general good date for wedding. Not advisable to use.

21/09/09 is a much better day and it doesn't clash to any of you (clash to Pig).

Hope this helps.
 
Hi Shaling,

This is just a Chinese belief and in Chinese Metaphysics, there is no such rule. They can be married or single, no problem with that. They will not have any impact on your marriage or whatsoever.

Let me put it this way. If let's say among your group of good friends you are the last to marry, then wouldn't it be that you will end up with zero jie mei? Coz the rest are already married! If everyone thinks this way, then everyone will be fighting to get married first and the last one will be very "lonely"
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Hope this helps.
 
Master Tong,

Our parent's animal zodiac signs
Bride's mum: Dragon
Bride's dad: Rat

Groom's mum: Ox

for your ease of reference
Bride: 4 November 1978, Horse
Groom: 4 February 1978, Snake

And we are looking at dates in Aug and Sep 2009, wanted to know if there are any auspicious dates within these 2 months.

Thank you in advance
Wendy
 
Hi Master Tong,

Sorry to have to bother you about this.

My future mother in law has gone ahead to get a date and time for us for the AD but my own mum and aunt insisted that the time she chosen is for benefitting their side of the family and may potentially not be as good for our side.

My future husband refused to get another date as he insist that there are different branches for feng shui and we might end up with 2 different sets of contradicting dates or opinions.


Our parents; animal signs are:
Bride's : Mum is cow and dad is rat (deceased)
Groom's: Mum is dragon and dad is cow

For your ease of reference,
Bride: 27 November 1980, Monkey
Groom: 18 December 1978, Horse

We wanted dates after June in 2010, so the master that my MIL consulted gave us 10 July 2010. The timing is to pick me up is between 9am to 11am.

Not too sure if this is a good timing. My own mum and aunt.
 
Hi Master Tong,

Someone in the family went to calculate dates for me and my HTB and got some dates, but these dates when i checked online on some china feng shui website, it says the dates are bad for wedding etc.

Can ba zi over-power these bad dates or they should b avoided at all costs and my family was cheated the money? Should have asked them to go to u... so upset...

Bride-to-be: 28-Oct-83 (Pig)
Dad: Goat
Mum: Dog

Groom-to-be: 07-Mar-81 (Rooster)
Dad: Rabbit
Mum: Dog

Is it also true that pple of the animal 6 years away clash more easily? eg. parents try not to have kids when they are 30 years old etc.

Thanks
 
Hi Master Tong,

I like to know if there is any dates that are good for my wedding in the month of April, May and Sep? Cause the 2010 Tong Shu is not out and i am unable to get the actual dates. I hope to get some dates first to book my wedding banquets. So could you please advise?

Bride-to-be: 07-Oct-82(Dog)
Dad: Dog
Mum: Pig
Dad's mum: Cow

Groom-to-be: 29-Jan-83(Dog)
Dad: Dragon
Mum: Goat

My email address is [email protected]

Thanks and Regards
 
Hi Master Tong,

I like to know if there is any dates for Sat that are good for my wedding in the month of April, May and Sep? Cause the 2010 Tong Shu is not out and i am unable to get the actual dates. I hope to get some dates first to book my wedding banquets. So could you please advise?

Bride-to-be: 07-Oct-82(Dog)
Dad: Dog
Mum: Pig
Dad's mum: Cow

Groom-to-be: 29-Jan-83(Dog)
Dad: Dragon
Mum: Goat

My email address is [email protected]

Thanks and Regards
 
Hi Master Tong,

thank you so much for your explanation.
Now i just need to convince the in-laws. Thanks! Will get back to you if I need your help in the selection of the date.
 
Hi Wendy,

Here are some 'general' auspicious dates you can use:

- 15/08, 21/09, 29/09

There are not many dates coz 7th lunar mth falls within this period.

Hope this helps
 
Hi noob,

Ideally if you can change the date, that will be good. Else you can only select a good time to do your fetch the bride etc.

For Sep 09, you can use the following general dates:

- 29/09

Hope this helps.
 
Hi Shaling,

You are welcome. A lot of things in chinese wedding are either customs, beliefs or superstition. We can write one whole encyclopedia and still cannot finish writing. What i love to do is to differentiate between fact and fiction, and from there, which way you choose to follow is entirely up to you
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Hi Eve,

Yes Bazi date selection will override general Tong Shu dates. That is, you can get married in a general Tong Shu day that says "Bad for Marriage", provided your Bazi is compatible with the day.

Let's view it this way. On everyday, there will be someone who is in good luck and someone in bad luck. So how to differentiate that? Tong Shu only states a particular day is good for everyone. It doesn't state good for who. So, the answer lies in each individual's Bazi. Only from the Bazi can we truly find out if a particular day is good for you specifically.

Since the Tong Shu is not out yet for 2010, i will not be able to advise you if this is a general good date. I undestand there are many china website that provides all these free tong shu dates, but most of the time, these sites are not accurate. If you don't believe me, try doing a search using 2009 dates and compare to the physical hardcopy Tong Shu that you have. Most likely the information differs. Which is why sometimes different publications of Tong Shu gives different results and is inconsistent. The best and only accurate way is still to use Bazi to calculate all important dates, esp. for wedding.

As for the 6 years animal clash thingy, this is NOT true. I've written a blog article on this. You can go to my website www.cmgconsulting.com.sg , click on David's Blog section and go to 2008 -> October -> And read the blog titled "Does Clashing Of A Couple's Animal Signs Mean Divorce?". The logic and concept is the same.

These dates given does not clash to any of you. The 11/9 and 24/10 date seems ok (provided if it matches your Bazi..perhaps that master does match with your Bazi?). But whether if the tong shu next time will list it as an auspicious date or not, I will not know. The 16/10 date is not so ideal for marriage.

Hope this helps
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Hi Stephen Tan,

As much as i want to help you in the area of general good dates, the Tong Shu is not out yet, so i will not know or be able to select general Tong Shu auspicious date for wedding for 2010 yet. Right now, the only way and also the right and accurate way of doing it will be using Bazi to select dates. FYI, a date reflected auspicious in the Tong Shu may still be bad for both of you if the date chosen is not compatible wtih both your Bazi.

As for Bazi wedding dates selection, it is part of my consultation service to my clients, hence i can't provide it here free in the forum or it will be unfair to my clients who paid for my service. Hope you understand.

If you have any particular date in mind, just post it here. I can advise you if it is a bad day as there are some days that are definitely bad and cannot be used for marriage; and some days that will clash to either of you or your parents, so cannot be used as well.
 
Hi Master Tong,

So what is the good time to fetch the bride on 26 Sept? What need to be observed on 26 Sept so it wont be a bad date? Coz i scared my hotel is fully booked liao if i change the date. Thanks.
 
Hi Master Tong,

Refering to one of ur advise the tat if on the wedding day itself,if xiong di or jie mei that clashes to ur wedding day means they cant do any of jie mei or xiong di right?
As i am getting marry this year 3rd Oct 2009, and from the tong shu tat stated ,crash on pigs , so does it mean they really cant be my jie mei or xiong di?
wat if really need them , is there any avoidable , like they must not be infront of both us etc..

Pls advise, thanks
 
Hi Master Tong

Can I check if the following dates are ok for wedding? Thank you!

03 jul 2010
10 jul 2010
17 jul 2010
11 sep 2010
18 sep 2010
25 sep 2010
mine - dog
fiance - horse

my dad - snake
my mom - dragon

his dad - ox
his mom - rat
 
Hi Master Tong

For an existing unit, from 2nd June till 8th June, is any of the date a good day to start renovating?
Possible zodiac animal signs staying in the house
Bride : Rabbit
Groom : Tiger
Groom mum : Cow
Groom dad : snake
 
Hi Master Tong,

I am planning to have my wedding on either 20 or 27 March 2010. You have advised that 27 March is generally a good date except for horse, then how about 20 March 2010? And what is the good time to fetch the bride on 20 and 27 March 2010?

Bride : Dog
Dad: Goat
Mum: Goat

Groom : Dog
Dad : Cow

Thank you very much!
 
Hi noob,

A good time will be 0900hrs - 1059hrs.

You can't do anything to avoid the bad date coz this is the Qi governing the day. Wearing items etc will not resolve the Qi of the bad day. A good timing is the only way to help resolve a bit.

Hope this helps.
 
Hi eve,

Thanks. I have many more articles in mind that is coming soon. So keep a lookout for any updates
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Some of these articles will change your mindset of what Chinese Metaphysics is all about, especially Feng Shui where you will realise it is NOT about crystals and jades!

Here are the analysis of the dates:

25/09/10 - Doesn't clash to anyone. Seems ok if it fits your Bazi.
23/10/10 - Doesn't clash to anyone. Seems ok if it fits your Bazi.
20/11/10 - Not a good day for wedding.

Hope this helps.
 
Hi sochong80,

Yes that is correct. But this is purely Chinese belief, not part of Chinese Metaphysics. Normally i will advise everyone to follow, since this is easy to do and there is no harm. If you really want to use them, make sure both you and your spouse don't mind and all your parents don't mind. If everyone is ok, then go ahead with it.

Let me put it this way. Other races do not know what the 12 animals signs are and those clashes. They don't take into account the animals signs of bridesmaid etc, and yet, they still get married peacefully.

It is us Chinese that have one encyclopedia thick of Chinese customs, traditions and beliefs to follow. As a Chinese, I will still advise you to follow whenever possible, but you don't have to be too rigid about it. If you are to follow the whole encyclopedia, i think you will hate getting married
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Hi Celine,

Here are the analysis of your dates:

03 jul 2010 - Does not clash to anyone.
10 jul 2010 - Does not clash to anyone.
17 jul 2010 - Clash to Dog. Cannot use.
11 sep 2010 - Clash to Horse. Cannot use.
18 sep 2010 - Clash to Ox. Cannot use.
25 sep 2010 - Does not clash to anyone.

Hence only 3/7, 10/7, 25/9 seesm to be ok,provided if these dates are compatible with both your Bazi.

Hope this helps.
 
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