Hi autumncandy,
To answer your qns:
1. My HTB and I initially wanted to ROM in 2010 but we're warned that it's not good to get married in the year of the tiger. For him born in the year of the dog (1982) and me the year of the rat (1985 jan), is it advisable to ROM in 2010? Any suitable dates in the year 2010 that will not crash with my friend's wedding on 19th dec 2009?
Is it another Master that warned you that? Based on what basis? Meaning he is doing a Bazi or Zi Wei Dou Shu reading for you? If you went to a Destiny analysis session and the master saw and analyze your Bazi, then yes probably. Coz this can only be determined from the Bazi.
Dates that will not clash to your friends wedding will be either late March or most likely in May 2010 coz April is Qing Ming. Is somewhere in May 2010 ok for you?
2. My paternal grandmother passed away on 31 dec 2007 and I was told that we're allowed to get married only within 100 days after she passed away or 3 years later so will not crash. Is it true?
Yes, normally when a close relative pass away, you must get married within 100 days or 3 yrs later. BUT 3 yrs is a long long long long long wait...so most people nowadays practice 1 year as a mark of respect.
3. Is it really true that it's unlucky to get married in the lunar 7th month because it represents ghost bride? My HTB and I actually planned 9th sep but it falls in the 7th lunar month. If we want to hold our ROM on this date is it ok?
No such thing as ghost bride. You can get married in 7th month or Qing Ming. It is only our Chinese belief or superstition that dictates us not to do so. Date selection is independent of Chinese culture. Normally i will advise clients to avoid Qing Ming or 7th month coz even if both of you are ok, chances are that your parents will object to it. So if you really want to hold it on 090909, the best thing is to seek your parents' approval first, then make sure that date is auspicious and compatible with both your Bazi, then it can be used.
Hope this helps.