Master David Tong's Advice Corner (Geomancy and Fengshui)

Hi Master Tong,

Thank you very much for your previous replies.
Would like to know if 11 Dec 2010 would be alright for us.

Bride - 15 Sept 1986 (Tiger)
Mum - 1957 (Rooster)
Dad - 1953 (Snake)

Groom - 25 Dec 1985 (Ox)
Mum - 1954 (deceased)(Horse)
Dad - 1955 (Goat)


Thank u
 


Hi Master Tong

My bf and I are planning to hold our wedding as well as customary next year. PLease advise if 28 Nov 2010 is a good date for us.

Bride: 1982 (Dog)
Mum: 1957 (Chicken)
Dad: 1954 (Horse)

Groom: 1980 (Monkey)
Mum: 1959(Pig)
Dad: 1955 (deceased) (Goat)

Thank you
 
Hi noob and jing,

No that is not true. The day is still the most important, then the timing. I would say roughly the day contributes 70% of the auspiciousness and the timing 30% for a day. Hence if the day is no good, yes the timing does help a bit (better than nothing) but it is not like what noob says "it is safe". It is not coz the day will have a higher priority than the timing. Since you cannot change the date, the only thing left you can do (again, better than nothing) is to choose an auspicious timing.
 
Hi autumncandy,

You don't have any dates to use in Aug/Sep period coz from 20th Aug onwards, it is the 7th lunar month. And between 7th July - 6th Aug, it is a bad month for marriage.

Hence you only have 7th Aug to 19th Aug to choose a date and all the good dates within that period clashes to either of you or your parents.

Anything earlier will be this month June or early July! Hence if you really want to ROM this yr, you might have to do it after the 7th month, and this means you will have to skip your friend's wedding (unless you don't getting married in 7th mth!).

Hope this helps.
 
Hi Blurr16,

Here are the answers to you qns:

1. Is 2010 a year for us to get married?

Answer: So long as both of you are not born in year of Monkey, it is ok. All you need is an auspicious date. To determine if it is really good, that have to go deeper into the Bazi.


2. My SIL is also getting married in Jan 2010. Is it ok to have brother and sister getting married in the same year?

Answer: It is a Chinese belief that silbings should not get married in the same yr (that is, 12 months apart). If possible, try to follow. If not, some cheat a bit by holding wedding on different calendar years and at least 3 mths apart.

3. My hubby and I thought of getting our own house this year and we will be living with his parent. But his sister will also be moving in with us too since her AD is in 2010.
Will it be bad for us if his sister is married off from our house? Is there any saying of "Luck" being taken away by her in this case?

Answer: No. This is just pure superstition
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So not to worry.
 
Hi SS,

Yes that is ok. You can do your GDL whenever you are comfortable. Not fixed rule as to when you should do it, but generally it is 2 wks to 1 month before the AD.

Yes you will need a date for the GDL and An Chuan.
 
Hello David, remember me? hee

Just wanna check with you, I heard people saying 7th month no good to take photoshoots, is it true? Cos I'm planning for mine to be in Sep this year but I have checked the lunar calendar and the last day of the 7th month ('30') is actually on the 18th of Sep...so meaning I take my photoshoot anytime after the 18th is ok? Or during 7th month take also ok?

Thanks!
 
Hi Master Tong,

Thanks for your advise! Just a few more questions..

1. My HTB and I initially wanted to ROM in 2010 but we're warned that it's not good to get married in the year of the tiger. For him born in the year of the dog (1982) and me the year of the rat (1985 jan), is it advisable to ROM in 2010? Any suitable dates in the year 2010 that will not crash with my friend's wedding on 19th dec 2009?

2. My paternal grandmother passed away on 31 dec 2007 and I was told that we're allowed to get married only within 100 days after she passed away or 3 years later so will not crash. Is it true?

3. Is it really true that it's unlucky to get married in the lunar 7th month because it represents ghost bride? My HTB and I actually planned 9th sep but it falls in the 7th lunar month. If we want to hold our ROM on this date is it ok?
 
Hi Thomas,

Of course I remember you
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In the 7th month, strictly speaking, you can take wedding photos shoots, and even getting married in 7th month. In authentic Chinese Metaphysics, we don't take chinese beliefs into account. And yes, all the "we cannot do this and cannot do that in 7 mth" is purely a chinese belief or superstition.

Having said that, if all of you are comfortable with taking photos in the 7th mth (most importantly is both sides parents coz 90% of the parents won't agree to it!), then go ahead. But since yours is already on the last day, you might as well delay one more day and take it in the 8th month
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Hi autumncandy,

To answer your qns:

1. My HTB and I initially wanted to ROM in 2010 but we're warned that it's not good to get married in the year of the tiger. For him born in the year of the dog (1982) and me the year of the rat (1985 jan), is it advisable to ROM in 2010? Any suitable dates in the year 2010 that will not crash with my friend's wedding on 19th dec 2009?

Is it another Master that warned you that? Based on what basis? Meaning he is doing a Bazi or Zi Wei Dou Shu reading for you? If you went to a Destiny analysis session and the master saw and analyze your Bazi, then yes probably. Coz this can only be determined from the Bazi.

Dates that will not clash to your friends wedding will be either late March or most likely in May 2010 coz April is Qing Ming. Is somewhere in May 2010 ok for you?

2. My paternal grandmother passed away on 31 dec 2007 and I was told that we're allowed to get married only within 100 days after she passed away or 3 years later so will not crash. Is it true?

Yes, normally when a close relative pass away, you must get married within 100 days or 3 yrs later. BUT 3 yrs is a long long long long long wait...so most people nowadays practice 1 year as a mark of respect.

3. Is it really true that it's unlucky to get married in the lunar 7th month because it represents ghost bride? My HTB and I actually planned 9th sep but it falls in the 7th lunar month. If we want to hold our ROM on this date is it ok?

No such thing as ghost bride. You can get married in 7th month or Qing Ming. It is only our Chinese belief or superstition that dictates us not to do so. Date selection is independent of Chinese culture. Normally i will advise clients to avoid Qing Ming or 7th month coz even if both of you are ok, chances are that your parents will object to it. So if you really want to hold it on 090909, the best thing is to seek your parents' approval first, then make sure that date is auspicious and compatible with both your Bazi, then it can be used.

Hope this helps.
 
Hi Master Tong,

My an chuang date is like one month before my wedding date. Some say cannot touch the bed after an chuang, some say can clear the an chuang things after that and even can sleep on it. Could you advise if we can sleep on the bed after an chuang and change the bedsheet before our wedding day?
 
Hi Master Tong,

I'm deciding on a date for ROM.

Kindly advise which date is suitable for us for the month of sept and oct 09.
Groom - Dragon (1976)
Bride - Rooster (1981)

Thanks alot
 
Hi Master Tong,

I am looking at the following dates in 2010 to have my wedding. Please advise if it is suitable for us.

15 May, 30 May, 6 June, 18 Sep, 25 Sep, 02 Oct, 20 Nov, 27 Nov, 12 Dec

Bride: Pig
Bride's parents: Tiger and Rabbit

Groom: Horse
Groom's Parents: Tiger and Rooster

Thank you
 
Hi Annie,

I will need your parents' animal zodiac signs as well.

In any case, the Tong Shu for 2010 is not out yet, hence i won't be able to provide you with general good dates till it is out sometimes in July/Aug period. The correct way and only way to do it now is using Bazi to calculate the dates.

Hope this helps
 
Hi BubblyGirl,

Here are the analysis:

15 May - Doesn't clash to anyone
30 May - Not a good day for wedding
6 June - Doesn't clash to anyone
18 Sep - Doesn't clash to anyone
25 Sep - Doesn't clash to anyone
02 Oct - Clash to Rabbit. Cannot use this date
20 Nov - Not a good day for wedding
27 Nov - Very bad day for wedding
12 Dec - Very bad day for wedding

Hence those dates that didn't clash are 'potentially' good. The rest not advisable to use.
 
Hi Master Tong,

I am looking at the following dates in 2010 to have my wedding. Please advise us which Sat in the month of May, June, July or Oct 2010 is suitable for us.

Bride: Ox (25 August 1985)
Bride's parents: Mouse and Monkey

Groom: Monkey (3 Feb 1981)
Groom's Parents: Goat and Goat

Appreciate you help. Thanks!!!
 
Hi Master Tong,

I'm fine with Bazi. Below are the animal zodiac signs for all.

Groom: 1978 Horse
Mum: 1942 Horse
Dad: 1936 Rat

Bride: 1979 Goat
Mum: 1944 Monkey
Dad: 1948 Rat

Regards,
Annie
 
Hi Anne & Annie,

As much as i want to help you in the area of general good dates, the Tong Shu is not out yet, so i will not know or be able to select general Tong Shu auspicious date for wedding for 2010 yet. Right now, the only way and also the right and accurate way of doing it will be using Bazi to select dates. FYI, a date reflected auspicious in the Tong Shu may still be bad for both of you if the date chosen is not compatible wtih both your Bazi.

As for Bazi wedding dates selection, it is part of my consultation service to my clients, hence i can't provide it here free in the forum or it will be unfair to my clients who paid for my service. Hope you understand.

If you have any particular date in mind, just post it here. I can advise you if it is a bad day as there are some days that are definitely bad and cannot be used for marriage; and some days that will clash to either of you or your parents, so cannot be used as well.

Hope this helps.
 
Hi Master Tong,

is 17th Sept 2010 a good wedding day for us?

Groom - Rooster
Dad - Tiger
Mom - Horse

Bride - Rooster
Mom - Dragon

Thanx Master Tong.
 
Hi master tong,

When we check for dates, we need to use our chinese birth date right? cause my chinese birth dte will be one year later.

Can you please advice me which date of June/May a good wedding day for us?

Groom: Pig
Dad / Mother: Pig

Bride: Dog (accordingly to chinese birthdate)
Dad: Snake
Mother: Rooster

Thank you so much master tong
 
Hi master tong,

Can you please advice me which date of Nov/Dec 2009 a good wedding day for us?

Groom: Rabbit
Dad: Rabbit
Mum:Snake

Bride: Dragon
Dad: Snake (passed away)
Mother: Dog

Thank you so much master tong
 
Hi BubblyGirl,

4/12/10 will clash with Horse, hence not useable.

11/12/2010 is not a good day for wedding. Hence not useable as well.

Hope this helps.
 
Hi Angela Ang,

This day will clash with Rat, which is none of you. This day can be used and deemed auspicious if the day and Bazi are compatible. For general Tong Shu dates, it will only be out sometimes next mth or Aug.
 
Hi PSY,

NO that is NOT correct. We use the English birth dates, and we will convert it into Bazi, which is based on the Solar Calendar. Bazi date selection using lunar calendar is wrong. All Feng Shui, Bazi or Bazi date selections etc uses the Solar Calendar (or "Wan Nian Li").

You are looking at which year of May/June? 2010 or 2011?
 
Hi Jaslyn,

Here are some general tong shu dates you can use:

- 17/11, 18/11, 29/11, 30/11, 05/12, 17/12, 23/12, 29/12

Do note that these are general dates only. If it is not compatible with the Bazi, it can still be deemed inaupsicious.
 
Hi Master Tong,

Below are the dates We are looking at

22nd Jan 2010
26th Feb 2010
17th Apr 2010
27th May 2010
3rd July 2010
16th July 2010
21st Aug 2010

Bride - June 1983 (Boar)
Bride Mother - Ox
Bride Father - Snake

Groom - August 1981 (Rooster)
Groom Mother - Monkey
Groom Father - Dragon

Thanks Master Tong. For your advice. =)
 
Dear Master Tong

Oh english dates?? okok i got you. thank you so much for the information!

I am looking at may/June 2010.
We are thinking of sat dates.

Groom: Pig (Sept 1983)
Dad / Mother: Pig

Bride: Pig (Feb 1983)
Dad: Snake
Mother: Rooster

Thank you so much master tong
 
Hi Master Tong,
Can i check if next year (tiger year) a good year for giving birth and compatible to our chinese horoscope?

My husband - Ox year
Me - dragon year
My boy - Rat year

Thank you so much.
 
Hi Master Tong

Can I check which of the following dates are ok for wedding? Thank you!

1, 8, 15, 22 May 2010
10 Sep 2010
2, 9, 16, 23, 30 Oct 2010



mine - dog
fiance - horse

my dad - snake
my mom - dragon

his dad - ox
his mom - rat
 
Hi Master Tong,

Can I check if 2 Jan 2010 is suitable for wedding?

Mine: Dog (1982)
My HTB: Snake (1977)
My parents n his mum: tiger (1950)

Would like to know what is the auspicious time for my HTB to arrive my house.

Also, I heard from people saying that there might be some animals who should avoid direct looking when I arrive his home. Where can we find these details?

Thank you in advance for your advice.
 
Hi Aaron,

Here are the analysis of the dates:

22nd Jan 2010 - Not a good day for wedding
26th Feb 2010 - Clash to Ox, cannot use.
17th Apr 2010 - Does not clash to anyone, but it is within the Qing Ming mth.
27th May 2010 - Does not clash to anyone
3rd July 2010 - Clash to Monkey, cannot use
16th July 2010 - Clash to Rooster, cannot use
21st Aug 2010 - This date is within the 7th mth. And clash to Rooster, cannot use

Hence only those dates that don't clash are potentially good dates (if compatible with Bazi).

Hope this helps.
 
Hi PSY,

I will not be able to give you general Tong Shu dates for 2010 now as the Tong Shu is not out yet. Right now, the correct and only way to do it will be using Bazi.

Or if you have any particular date in mind, i can check for you if it is a definite bad day for wedding or if it clashes to anyone
 
Hi Micky,

For this, the whole Bazi has to be taken into account, and not just the year alone. You will have to do a full Bazi Destiny Analysis consultation to order to find out if it is a good yr for giving birth etc.

Hope this helps.
 
Hi Celine,

Here are the analysis of the dates for 2010:

1 May - Not a good day for wedding and clash to Snake. Cannot use.
8 May - Clash to Rat, cannot use
15 May - Does not clash to anyone
22 May - Very bad day for wedding
10 Sep - Clash to Snake. Cannot use
2 Oct - Does not clash to anyone
9 Oct - Bad day for wedding.
16 Oct - Clash to Snake, Cannot use
23 Oct - Clash to Rat, cannot use
30 Oct - Does not clash to anyone

Hence only those dates that doesn't clash to anyone are potentially good dates for wedding. The rest are out.

Hope this helps.
 
Hi pinky,

This date does not clash to any of you. If it fits into your Bazi, it will be a good date.

Auspicious time for this day to fetch the bride will be 0900hrs - 1059hrs

Basically, for this day, it will clash with Horse. Hence all those born in yr of the Horse will have to "hide" and avoid confrontation with the groom before he steps into bride's house. After the groom steps in, then they can come out. The procedure is the same when the bride goes back to the groom's house. And ideally all Xiong Di and Jie Mei cannot be born in yr of the Horse. And the little boy that open the car door cannot be born in yr of the Horse too.

Hope this helps.
 
Hi master tong,

Can you please advice me which date of oct/Nov/Dec 2010 a good wedding day for us?

Groom: ox
bride: mouse


Thank you so much master tong
 
Dear Master Tong

Can you please check for me using the Bazhi calculation if the following dates are ok mywedding date?
15 May 2010
22 May 2010
5 June 2010
12 June 2010
19 June 2010
26 June 2010

Groom: Pig (Sept 1983)
Dad / Mother: Pig

Bride: Pig (Feb 1983)
Dad: Snake
Mother: Rooster

I also will wish to check what is the auspicious time for my HTB to arrive my house.
as well as the animals to avoid direct contact with.

Thank you so so much
 


Hi Master Tong,

Can I check if the following dates are ok for wedding? Thank you in advance for your advise.

21 August 2010
4 Dec 2010

Bride - monkey
Groom - goat

Bride's dad - rabbit
Bride's mum - rat

Groom's dad - tiger
Groom's mom - ox

Is there any animal who should avoid direct looking when he arrive at my house & when I arrive his home?
 

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