Hi worriedsick,
If both parties cherish each other and still wanting to stay together, of cos, find a way to work things out. For my case. He told me I am wasting his time whether I want to talk things out. His head is all about his work, his family and I am always the problem maker... And every time a problem surface, he chose to escape from it and refuse to recognize it and settle it by communication, therefore by agreeing with what he stated makes it easier to void the marriage. Unless I have something u wants to claim from him (money, house, kids etc) than of cos I will hv to engage a lawyer to fight for my rights and protection. But there is nothing I want to get from it, for us, its pretty easy. Therefore.. I seek my lawyer friend advice, don't waste money engaging one; just agree with what he draft on the lawyer letter.
Of cos its not truth about the consummate thingy... Its a big fat lie that he used to get things done. And this was advice by his lawyer. And one of the best and faster way to get us out from this relationship.
By him being the plaintiff he will need to go to the court hearing, swear his lies, and vows for his lies... Me being the defendant... I have nothing to say.. Therefore I just agree with it, at this very moment... "Face" doesn't really matter... but my future does.
I didn't agree with the annulment. But he told me if I dont agreed on it, He will still get a lawyer for 1 side divorce which will bring us 3 yrs of separation and 4th yr it will be automatically divorce no matter I agree or not. However, if I do so.. I will become a divorcee on the 4th yr, But If I agree on annulment, I will gain back my "single" statues. From this.. and his attitude which take marriage so lightly and treat it like a joke, I don't anyone at my position would not chose to agree on annulment of our marriage.