Darling...
Some women here have the exact different view from you... They just fall in love easily after they divorce...
And yeah, after the sex and aging, they got discarded again.
Let me just say... the problem is not hard to find a good guy, usually it's the approach is wrong and the 'experience' is not enough.
You'd need the right approach for a proper relationship to be establish with a guy. You'd need experience or maturity to 'pinpoint' your target, and recognize who is suitable for you; and also to understand what you really want.
For a young girl looking for a fugger to get laid, usually it's how much you make, are you this and that, whether you are handsome or not and all those craps INCLUDING whether your friends like him or not...
Since you are going for a divorce, you probably realize by now what is the meaning of the One... What you are looking for.
Can you tell me what you are actually looking for?
Next...
I myself don't mind a divorcee with or without kid. I am not from the west...
This issue is more prominent in China, but not so in Singapore.
The basic issue with guys is still 'attractiveness'. So you don't have to worry so much. How are you going to 'appeal' to your future husband? That's why I am hoping that you still have a chance to choose.
Many women don't... once they divorce in their late 40s or 50s, many just jump into the arms of the next 'uncles' who are there for you probably for easy and free sex...
I have known women who gave up men who love them truly for financially better men only to be dumped at 60yo... they got some money, but... they are lonely. And it's torturing to them because after 33yo, women age very fast, their health deteriorates pretty badly, their circles smaller... Mentally it's bad news.
So for you, and for every woman who got divorce early, I usually suggest it's lucky for them because you might still have a chance to seek again.
It's not exactly hard if you are still below 30yo, it'd be harder if you are above 30yo... because you'd be facing a selection range from usually like 30 and above... when most men should be married, and those who ain't are either players or you know... those with some 'attraction problems', though there are indeed some gems among the 'mature group'. But the major problem still comes because of competition...
You are not young anymore, and there are tons of younger chicks out there for the 40yo men... who were thinking like you and many women... wanting men with income and this and that... they never thought about the future or the prospect of divorce.
So... What do you think?