Divorce or Separation Questions - need advice
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Staypositive
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Dun you have a better argument beside calling men losers.actually ur pretty dumb too to portray urself as a gold digger and to invite critics.quite silly too to waste money and time on lawsuit to divorce husband,just because he can't meet ur expectations. Ur husband is not lazing around even though he is poor now.at least he is striving to earn a living and Paying Ur Expenses even though he has little himself.You should be glad he is not depending on you for a livelihood like some other women experienced.who is the real loser here?!
Staypositive
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It's true some women marry for financial security but they love their men as well.who wouldn't like to be financially well-off?its human nature.just that this gold digging case is just too much to digest.the marriage vows are betrayed and obviously the marriage is not built on love but money alone.
Staypositive
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Heh,I did not say that guys Must pay all the time for girls.I feel that guys should pick up the tab more than the girl but Not all the time.
Your rationale is that her husband spoiled her by paying all the time and he deserves this outcome because he spoiled her in the first place.Well,you can't attribute this factor to the failed relationship.She is materialistic from the start and the relationship is based on money alone.There are many other couples where the husband pays all but are still together even when the husband encountered financial problems.There is the foundation of love.For that woman case,she is just plain selfish and cares abt material wealth only,no love to speak of.
Why don't you say he is useless and can't sustain the marriage? Do you understand how embarrassing it is for my friends to know my husband is that pathetic? And he is now fighting with me over there flat and my maintenance. Even his lawyer fees are paid for by another person.
Staypositive
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Hope you won't face the same situation like ur husband next time.
newproject
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Why is it important the guy pick up more? Show he is more capable financially than the girl? Why is that important except to a girl whose critia for husband is the size of his wallet? Aka for girls like a certain poster in this thread.
True but imagine the guy when dating this girl didn't act proud and pay everything you think they would even get married? Or even dated.
For those who got married and paid everything during dates, wedding yes not all will get materialistic girls as wives. But they are either lucky or got very good judgement or nothing happened yet because they remained well off and this problem never came up.
I'm guessing the last is the real reason usually. But when the guy has financial problems then you see true colors appear hence the well known thing that #1 cause of problems is money.
Staypositive
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Think no woman would be as atrocious as That woman.Unless there is No love in the first place.Seriously that woman is a real joker,showcasing her flaws to others.If what she said is genuine,then beside being materialistic with no sense of shame,she is quite silly too.
newproject
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That I agree. Assuming not a troll she must be the worst example of what I mean.
But it doesn't distract from point that other girls just hide it better. When the guy gets into financial trouble most girls won't be so shameless to say she leaving because of money. Of course find other reasons to say like he more hot tempered (of course mah stressed).
Not all girls of course.
Staypositive
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Yeah,whether be it they said it directly or came up with a nice exit reason,it still hurt the guy nevertheless.but this woman not only leave but criticize fervently,the guy who once provided for her and continue to do so even when he has little. it is also good that she left him as she is just using him anyway.
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Staypositive
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It's linked isn't it,he went for an occupation that pays lesser money.Hence,he cannot meet her wants anymore.
Local men tsk tsk tsk
Hmm, take a hypothetical case, if he is a cleaner who earns 30k monthly vs a oil trader earns 10k, who do u think she will choose?
newproject
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So it's ok for girls to abandon their husbands once their husbands fall I into financial distress,, ashey don't act like this lady?
Staypositive
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No it's not ok.read carefully,did I say it's ok? Be mindful of your sentence structure.does it convey what ur trying to say?
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Staypositive
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If what u say is true,she will choose the cleaner. Money weigh over everything else.she once said he can't speak proper English.Now he become poor,this has become something she became disgusted with.In the beginning she can overlook this fact perhaps he is financially well then.
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Staypositive
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Ekkkk....woman with no sense of shame.
This will never happen. Only losers local men like you can come up with such hypothesis.
newproject
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I agree most of the guys on this forum are losers. The worst are the ones who can't even get a GF or wife.
No. Most Local men are losers not only those in this forums. This is the reason why we need the women's charter to fight the local men and protect the women from them. Just my soon to be ex husband .
For a while, I was expecting that you insist that you r not a gold digger as u mentioned previously and choose the oil trader.
Guess u r just a typical girl.
Staypositive
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Wah,u look down on guys who are single uh?it is their fault they are single?Lucky I have a partner already.beware your wife dun treat you like that Woman. What right have you to look down on local men when you urself dun even like paying more for the lady. Can I say ur also a loser?Erm Newproject,why bother to post ur comments here if u think the men here are losers?you post here means u are the same category as them u know??you give chance for that woman to attack local men too.unless ur not local
you are a typical useless local man like that man who is trying to destroy my life.
You are the most unreasonable BITCH I have ever come across. I feel so glad for your husband who is getting rid of a TOXIC BITCH in his life. And no, I'm not some useless local man for your information. I'm a local lady and usually woman will speak up for a woman. But towards you, I don't think that will be necessary.
I hope karma strikes you soon.
Karma will strike him for destroying my life. He wasted so many years of my youth, he forced me to have a new bf outside marriage. Do you think i wanted if he had been good enough? All i wanted is a husband not a loser.
Hi Cath_rina,
I enjoy reading all your posts so far!
You are damn right about what u said, and luckily there's this women chapters things to protect women!
Trust me, you will win all the way as a woman, especially when u have such a loser husband.
You have my sympathy to have married to a loser... why were u so cock-eye last time? Damn unlucky u.
But past is past, glad that you now have a rich french bf now... imagine u married to him, even if he upset u for any reason, u r still protected! And best part is u would be able to get even more as compared to ur current loser husband! But before that, u better check how much asset and savings he has... I feel he must have at least $5M cash as bare minimum, coz in case of divirce, u should get half of his money. $2.5M is a bit little but I'm sure you have no problem finding next bf. Act fast because your youth is limited, can't afford so many 7 years. But if he has less than that 5M, dump him lah, as it's equally useless... 5M is not enough for life!
As for ur current loser husband, I don't know why u need to get opinion from all the loser local men and women here... just go file for the divorce!
Trust me, just tell the lawyer all the story about ur husband, how useless he is and forcing u to fight for ur own happiness... and furthermore how he had ruined ur relationship with the ex-bf. Make sure the lawyer record your real story, because in case ur case need to be contested, they will try to find false statement from you... so make sure your unpleasant married life is genuinely recorded. Tell the lawyer that, after all, you can't let this loser husband to ruin ur relationship with current french bf again.
Woman chapter is the best invention,I trust your life story will have a happy ending. I can't wait to see it.
Good luck!
Thanks! The Women's Charter is a need even today. Women's rights must be protected. I am very thankful for the support from my new friends from AWARE. Loser men who have to starve to feed their wife are useless and have no place in society. But sadly most local men I have seen falls in this category. All my friends agree to it. These losers Cannot even get local women and they have to blame us with bad names and they go for thai and Vietnamese and prc how pathetic they are. Now my useless ex husband to be is fighting over the flat with me. What's the point in doing that when he's going to be alone his whole life. No women will like him enough to marry him unless they are desperate and want our PR.
Thanks! The Women's Charter is a need even today. Women's rights must be protected. I am very thankful for the support from my new friends from AWARE. Loser men who have to starve to feed their wife are useless and have no place in society. But sadly most local men I have seen falls in this category. All my friends agree to it. These losers Cannot even get local women and they have to blame us with bad names and they go for thai and Vietnamese and prc how pathetic they are. Now my useless ex husband to be is fighting over the flat with me. What's the point in doing that when he's going to be alone his whole life. No women will like him enough to marry him unless they are desperate and want our PR.
Honestly if I were you, I won't even waste any more time on your loser husband. How much a cheapo flat can be? Though it's still a bit of money, but come on, the thought that having to fight with such a loser already is a shame. You should rather just focus on your french bf, after all he's a better investment. Only useless shameless person will wanna fight over such a cheapo flat lah.
Once u left ur loser husband, surely he's a gone case lah. I agree with you, only desparate useless shameless bitch would marry to ur useless husband, let him rot.
So have you found out how much ur french bf have? Can he really support ur life? Else dun waste time on him also.
I need the flat in case my new relationship doesn't work out. I haven't found out how much he has. But definitely better.
We are still negotiating. He is a man, how can he not pay? Can't do Filing until he takes my offer. I only want a maintenance of 1.5k a month huge discount already and the whole flat. Yet he said he can't afford as he's only driving a private hire car.
You haven't found out how much asset ur french bf has?? Don't be naive. Ask him straight, better let him show u his bank account to prove it. Don't repeat the same mistake and get into another marriage with guy that cannot support u. Don't just look at the surface, for all I know, whites tend to have heavy debt just to have better outlook... they are empty inside mostly... but u see lor, maybe u don't mind.
Why u think ur relationship with this french won't work out? You are hot so I'm sure the french would fall for u... they are easy target lah, as long as u r hot and sexy, they dun need you to have anything else... I dun see how u and him won't work out.
Poor girl, so u actually need the flat from the useless man...
That's really not much money my dear.
Ur french bf know about you fighting over the flat and alimony? If u seriously target to make him your next husband, I suggest u dun fight for the flat and alimony. Coz god know he might be waiting for u to get the money too... this happened to my niece so I know what's these people up to. Just tell the french how much u love him and willing to leave the useless husband to be with him; just see what's his reaction.
Seriously, 1.5k a month and half a month? What u need it for??? Not even enough to pay for a bag. Don't make urself so low standard, just focus on the french since he seem doing better base on what u know. If I were u, just move out and stay with the french. Dun tell me you like the flat??
Leave these local men alone, don't waste ur time with them, including ur loser husband. Don't forget ur time is limited.
Pathetic hor? 1.5k only. I wanted 5k but i know he doesn't even have more than 3k a month from driving that. 1.5k leaving about less than 1.5k for him to survive is reasonable. He doesn't need that much to survive. He is so useless, he had to cut down on his expenditures in order to feed me. Money has to be accumulated through better earnings, not savings.
I don't want to scare my new bf off so quickly because it's really very difficult for me to get a french bf. So i really need the flat if the relationship doesn't work out. He can go and sleep along the streets i don't care, since he did NS Before so he will survive. But my bf has a good job as an expat here so he definitely makes much more.
Yah. Local men don't even make it as men. I learn my lesson this time. You are right. My time is limited.
I don't want to scare my new bf off so quickly because it's really very difficult for me to get a french bf. So i really need the flat if the relationship doesn't work out. He can go and sleep along the streets i don't care, since he did NS Before so he will survive. But my bf has a good job as an expat here so he definitely makes much more.
Yah. Local men don't even make it as men. I learn my lesson this time. You are right. My time is limited.
Staypositive
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That is a sweeping statement.You have no right to say that unless u Dated every single man here.You hate your own husband ur issue,no right to include others in.
Staypositive
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Jin sia suay.people divorce because their hubby hurt them by betraying them or hurting them.this woman divorce because she wants a rich husband.
You are such a loser like my to be ex husband. I'm only pursuing my own happiness. This is my right.
Staypositive
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That is ur right or whatever I dun care.but it's not right to devalue others who did not offend you in the first place.did the rest of the local guys offended u?
Staypositive
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Another thing to note.ur not wrong to pursue ur own happiness But it is wrong if you hurt someone in the process when it can be prevented.
Ya I think 1.5k is more than enough for ur loser husband... after all as u said he mostly save the money for u only, to the extent cutting expenditure just to feed u... what a shame and how useless person it is.
Your french bf is an expat???!! Oh dear you better be careful! Expat looks rich because their accommodation and expenditure are paid by his company, i.e. not his own money. The moment he lost his job, he's just a broke man. The niece I mentioned earlier encountered this type of expat... thought she found a gold mine but in the end kept asking her for money after he lost his job... she even followed her to US, then realized the guy was just a loser local guy in his local country US... what a stupid woman my niece was, couldn't even tell which man is good for her... she is a loser woman in my eyes.
I still suggest u go find out how much the french got in his account lah, don't be a fool like last time. If he's so easily scared by u, then he's not the right one - u know, rich man never scared.
Nonetheless, if 1.5k and the cheapo flat is so much to you, go fight for it lor. No matter how unhappy these locam men are, you will still win because woman chapter is there to help people like u, to make sure divorced woman can continue to live her life.
Btw how old r u?
That's precisely the point! I have to lower my expectation of him to such a pathetic state. I cannot believe it why must I do that? It is already so low only 1.5k per month and the whole flat yet he wants to fight with me over these...
My bf is a french expat in Singapore. His monthly salary is already 5 figure this is good enough.
Who's hurting who?
Staypositive
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Since you know the amount is so low,why bother to take? Have some backbone lah.
Staypositive
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Asking the obvious.
I'm a woman. Why don't you ask him to be a man enough and pay me maintenance and give me the flat?
Ziraffe
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Ya lah, ya lah.. you are a woman lah.. aka Siow Char Bor/Sark Bo Saik. The more I read your posts, the more I bay ta han.
Are you for real? You are not a troll? Are you LOCAL? Please reply you are not a local-born, local-educated Singaporean char bor hor.
You know this two Chinese character - 良心？Conscience? No? You never come across this? No wonder.. Come, let me help you.
conscience
[kon-shuh ns]
noun
1. the inner sense of what is right or wrong in one's conduct or motives, impelling one toward right action:
2. the complex of ethical and moral principlesthat controls or inhibits the actions or thoughts of an individual.
3. an inhibiting sense of what is prudent:
Very important. Please learn the meaning and put it to use.
How about parasite? Oh great, you have heard of it and you see it in the mirror every day.. good good.. let me reinforce for you.
parasite
[par-uh-sahyt]
noun
1. an organism that lives on or in an organismof another species, known as the host, from the body of which it obtains nutriment.
2. a person who receives support, advantage,or the like, from another or others without giving any useful or proper return, as one who lives on the hospitality of others.
3. (in ancient Greece) a person who receivedfree meals in return for amusing or impudent conversation, flattering remarks, etc.
Don't keep emphasizing you are a woman and your husband is a local/loser. Just MOVE ON lah.
newproject
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I agree. Man should be stronger than woman.
If can't afford alimony when divorce better don't marry.
As someone wise said girls cannot be too nice to man must look out for themselves.
Too nice to their man they get lazy.
Staypositive
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Hahaha.can this situation be applied to this context?dun distort facts lah.in life there is no one size fits all.think ur as dense as that woman.
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Staypositive
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I really despise those ppl who use other ppl situations to attack others.shows how immature and silly they are.LOL.
CelynJui
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Serve you right! You deserved it! Dont cry for help and get sympathy here!
CelynJui
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You are the one who caused him to becone this way! Blame yourself!
I am a Singaporean woman! Born and educated here! The nationality you will never be able to handle. We are better than what you can manage. My parents gave me the best so why should I settle for second best?
