Garcia, I was on another forum and someone posted something about having the civil marriage first and church marriage later. When she went to see her priest he told her that he couldn't marry her in church because of legal complications!!! Just goes to show that what we take as the 'norm' in one country is highly 'unsusal' in another.
Amoeba, it is a positive sign that your fiance has agreed to EE and a church wedding. At least, he loves you enough to know what your faith means to you and that speaks a lot by itself. Just pray and have faith in God. Catholic churches in England and much of western europe are not active like the ones in Singapore. At least in S'pore there is a lot more opportunity to learn about our faith and be touched the Holy Spirit so there is still hope.
As for raising kids when in a mixed marriage, there is a very lovely reply by Catholic Engaged Encounter on that matter.
http://www.catholic.org.sg/ceespore/
(under forum, look for the thread 'Can I get married in a Protestant Church')
Btw, not all catholics who married outside their faith bring up their children as catholics. My husband's brother and sister are such an example. Like my hubby, they were brought up catholics but married protestants. My BIL's wife and SIL's husband agreed to the church's requirements before marriage but when children came, they were all baptized in CoE because SIL's husband and BIL's wife are staunch Anglicans. So I think alot depends on the strength and insistence of the catholic partner to expose their children to the faith. My MIL is methodist and would have liked hubby and siblings to be brought up such but FIL is a pretty stubbon man and insisted that they be brought up catholic. Understandably, my FIL is upset that none of his grandkids are catholic but BIL does his bit sometimes by taking them to mass. Each family is different in the way they handle things, and its not up to us to judge. We just pray for them and that the Holy Spirit will work on them in the way He sees best. Who knows God willing maybe someday, they'll return to the Catholic church.
At least, they do go to church every sunday, even if its not a catholic one.