Any Mixed Marriages here? Esp Chinese-Malay Muslim couple

[safira]

Thanks cuclainne and marnie! will defiinitely check the links and mags you pointed.
I would love to attend a malay bridal expo, i keep bumping into blogs talking abt them, but i don't understand malay (i'm malay but didn't grow up here, so never went for malay classes and my malay's pretty crap as a result), so going thru papers would be fruitless for me

i'll look out for the malay bridal mags tho, at least there are pictures hawhaw..

has anyone heard anything on fatimah mohsin? is the service good? or has it dropped some? but i hear the dresses are really nice..is she considered expensive?

really appreciate your time and help..

if there's anything i can help with, i hope i can contribute.

safira

 

[safira]

ohmygosh! theknot.com is so full of ideas! thanks again marnie! i'm also looking at the urusan pengantin, thank goodness it's partly english hahah yay! thanks you guys..

safira

 

[marnie]

Don't worry about it Safira. I reckon most of us here have pretty crappy hold of the Malay language.

Don't you just love The Knot? It's amazing. More amazing when you go to the forums and you click on the bride's bio and they have such great ideas as they are mostly going the DIY way which was what I went with for my own wedding.

I think a couple of us here went to Fatimah Mohsin to look at dresses for recce and personally, the service there was crap then. The dresses are beautiful though, I must say. You can try Anggun Andaman at North Bridge Road - their dresses are exquisite (their forte is lace modern kebayas) and they also do the pelamin - to die for but a bit on the upscale kind if you have a stretchable budget that allows you to indulge.

Um, you can try going to the Singapore Expo webbie to look into the calendar of events as the bridal expos are usually held there.

 

[safira]

oohh...there's a website for singapore expo? duh, why didn't i think of that... thanks so much, will check that today.. gotta go work now, talk soon..thanks again!

 

[safira]

Hi again,

another question..

Has anyone used/heard stories of the services of Isabella or Maniq Maniq? I stumbled across them at Bukit Panjang Shopping Centre and both look a bit dodgy, but i checked their website and it looks fine.. Plus, Aaron Aziz's studio pic's in the window of Maniq Maniq so..are they good or no..?

Thanks!
Safira

 

[raf]

Hey ladies!!!
How have u all been? I've missed quite a bit eh. First of all.....

A BIG CONGRATULATIONS TO CUCLAINNE!!! Sorry it came a month late. She's so adorable and her cheeks are so rosey and chubby!!! oooooo...makes me wanna procreate...haha. Maybe not..I can't even take care of myself properly yet.

Big hello to the rest of the ladies. Hope you all doing fine.

Hui Chin- How's the wedding preps going? I'm still so behind with mine. heh...wats new?

Safira- Fatimah Mohsin's service is still crappy.....as what Marnie has mentioned. Their clothes are nice though......but i feel that their prices are too high for the horrendous service they provide. There's a new bridal...Chinta Weddings. Their outfits are very very nice...comparable to Fatimah but their prices are so much more worth it and service is way better!!! Too bad i've already booked my bridal. You might wanna check them out. Isabella....they will only take brides with 28 inch waist. heh.....if you're anything above that, they'll tell u to lose weight first. Absurd!!! Maniq...i dun knoe.

 

[safira]

Thanks so much everyone for all the info you've shared!

these forums really are helpful

Raf, i checked out chinta weddings ( www.chintaweddings.com ) and you're right, i think it's the nicest i've seen next to fatimah mohsin...! and if the service is good, all the better...

Thru all this searching i also discovered that there's a similar forum to this one but malay ( www.majalahperkahwinan.com ) if anyone is willing to venture there. the girls in the forum speak in a mix of malay and english which i could kind of figure out..and the ones i couldn't i dragged the bf to the computer and went, "pls translate!"

so, re Isabella, the reason why the woman only accepts those with 28" waist or smaller is cos she's not a full on mak andam, she's a make up artist by trade..so the outfits she gets is from this place called AZ saloon in Johor baru ( www.azsaloon.com ).

re Fatimah Mohsin, i met her before, twice. My cousin used her, and another friend of mine did too. For both of them i was the 'videographer'. She was so unfriendly towards me, AND becos i don't look malay (i look chinese, mixed heritage) she thought i wouldn't understand what she was saying in malay (happens ALL the time) and she was saying to the bride and her assistant how funny it is to see a girl videographer.. and why was my sister (who was photographer) taking candid shots? She implied that becos my sister was not taking typically posed shots that is normal at a malay wedding, it was therefore weird and not very good. Right after that my cousin said we're related and she didn't even looked embarassed.
what a snob.
BUT, her outfits are very nice, traditional and contemporary.. the make up is typical of malay wedding make up which is THICK, but i suppose it's good, she does all the contouring, fake eyelashes etc and she uses M.A.C. I was not impressed however when my cousin said she wanted something natural she got pink eyelids and pink cheeks.. i don't understand how that's natural, but ok... not very out of the box.. my friend's make up was very dramatic for her night do. she had a beehive done with her hair, hair extensions and very dark eyes. it was good work, but again, not my taste. i suppose you have to be very specific with what you want.

Tho, i'm still not convinced that if her outfits are unique from all the other mak andams, the make up's great and she does the celebrities, it doesn't justify snobbery. celebrities are ppl too, and many of them are just brats anyway...

yup...my two cents. hope this is helpful to some...

 

[cuclainne]

Happy New Year to all you ladies here .. wah, it's been so quiet in here that you can hear a pin drop. Wonder where everyone is .. been busy huh..

Sofi is now 2 months old and we'll be going back to Sweden in March or April - not for good la, just to visit family and friends. This time we'll be bringing my parents with us - I wanted to show Stockholm to them and since they've never ventured outside of Asia (kinda like me the first time), what a good idea yah ..

come on ladies, do tell about what's been going on in your lives yah .. how the wedding plans are coming along, any babies on the way, if the contractors are making you tear your hair out .. etc etc etc.

in the meantime i hope everyone is well.

 

[marnie]

Hiya Cuclainne! Too farnee - your post.

Whilst I am thankful I did not get bold over the whole drama episode with the contractors, I did lose some hair. All is good now and we're living in our own home, albeit amongst towering boxes.

We just got back from Australia over the Christmas hols (mainly to see to the packing of his personal stuff for relocation) and the highlight would have to be braving the crowds and the crazy weather and "parking" ourselves on the foot of Sydney Harbour for 10 hours to watch the fireworks on New Year's!

Oooh that's so sweet of you to bring your parents to Sweden, Cuclainne. I'm sure they'll love being out of the country.

How are you coping with mothermood these days and being a wife and daughter and sister and auntie at the same time? Mind boggling no?

 

[cuclainne]

hey marnie, wah - it must be wonderful to be living in your very own abode .. we're still waiting for the house warming party invite.. hehehehe ..

wow - sounds like a wonderful way to spend the new year. ten hours you said? we left sofi at my mom's place and went to esplanade to catch the fireworks and as soon as it's finished, hurried back to escape the crowd and fetch sofi home. ah - the highlight of our celebration. hahahaha.

my parents are very keen on it - should be fun. elias will be going away for a few days while we are there (visiting some friends up north) so i thought perhaps we could stay those days in the countryside .. we'll see how far our finances can stretch though ..

oh yes .. i don't know how i'll cope once i start work (which is in two weeks' time) - yikes! we've talked about it and giving it a month or two and if i can't cope with the multi-tasking, i might actually consider quitting and taking on a part time job or something ..

we wanted to go to flutes yesterday to celebrate our wedding anniversary but it was closed!! darn it .. should have checked first before making the trip .. those darn stairs .. so we went to halia instead.

hope that you and meraj are well ..

 

[marnie]

Housewarming ah...yeah I hear you! I'm itching to invite you girls over too but we're still living amongst boxes at present and the movers in Sydney just emailed to confirm the shipping costs and expected shipping DEP and ARR. Plus we have a fair bit of travelling till end Feb. Otherwise, we would bolt the room with the hideous boxes...hmmm....that's an idea!

Meraj and I are great. Just tired from all that moving and travelling. Can't complain much cos' we still can get out of the country. But I told him that we are not doing as much travelling until after Raya (we want to catch the Rugby World Cup, you see - still in planning stages).

Oh, Halia is super! Thought of bringing Meraj there for his pre-birthday (this Sunday!) dinner but he's warned me of his "date" with the telly for his Liverpool vs Chealsea match. Bah humbug!

So I arranged for brunch at Au Jardin - hope the food is worth it with the kind of money they are charging for the brunch!

And oh...soooo fast you're going back to work..! Time flies eh.....

 

[cuclainne]

marnie, oh yes i remembered that - when elias arrived here with boxes and boxes of his things. guess who had to arrange all the stuff?? hmm ..

talking about travelling, do you know that malaysia airlines are having some promotion at the moment? we are contemplating using them to go to stockholm - though it would mean going slightly earlier than we wanted to. $700 (excld taxes) is a sweet deal ..

How is Au Jardin? Would love to try that but Elias is not keen on French or Italian food - this man only wants sambal belachan. Aiyah ..

Yes, will be back to the office very very soon. So sianz .. so now trying to figure out if we can go on a weekend break so i won't feel so crummy at work .. hehehehe

 

[marnie]

Cuclainne, not sure yet about Au Jardin. Will let you know after we've been there on Sunday afternoon.

MAS oh yes! I got the email flyer about the midnight offer starting 18th. Was looking the webbie until I realised that the flights will have to be taken up till March so that's a no-no for us. We'll still have to wait till April/May to book anything remotely close to October.

Have you finally gone to Bintan the last time you wanted to over the weekend?

 

[cuclainne]

Marnie, i would have loved to go during the summer months (more attractions are open then) but I am worried that we might not be able to get good prices like this then. sigh ..

not yet, we haven't been to bintan. elias' friend has asked us to go to bali with him and his partner - rent a villa someplace away from the hustle and bustle of kuta but i don't want to leave sofi behind. it's couples only. sigh ...

 

[muntou]

harlow everyone,
i'm chinese and my hubby-to-be is indian-muslim.

we are thinking of doing the actual day (tea ceremony), nikah and a buffet lunch reception on the same day. i am not sure if there's enough time for us to that. can anyone give some advice on this?

 

[cuclainne]

montou, welcome welcome. i am sure with proper planning, it would be possible - you might be a bit tired though. are you doing the nikah and buffet lunch reception at the same place?

i did the nikah at home at 2.30pm followed by the lunch reception ..

 

[marnie]

Hi Ho Muntou!

I did my nikah at 5.30pm and my dinner soon after.

If you're having all 3 on the same day, it could be a bit rushed and tiring especially if you have a lunch reception. Having the nikah, tea ceremony and lunch reception all at the same place, will definitely ease the time issues.

 

[muntou]

thanx cuclainne and Idyll.

i juz found out dat there will be a timing for me to be 'leave the hse'. i guess it may not be possible to 'squeeze' everything on the same day if the timing is late morning. how long does the nikah take?

 

[marnie]

Muntou, my nikah took us about 30 - 45 minutes. Varies with different officiants I guess. But not more than that unless you future hubby has to repeat his vows a couple of times.

 

[muntou]

hahaha....ic. must ask him to start reciting his vows every nite b4 he sleeps

after much discussion, we decide to make it a 2-day event. hopefully, things will work out well.

 

[eminozy]

wow... heheh nice to see a mix here.. ive been going to the wedding banquet section and ths looking for halal caterers... theres some in there..try RASEL. i am quite happy with the menu. though not sure whether i am using them still coz thinking of changing venue which caters.

My problem now is getting a cool malay wedding deco and also a place where they cater halal food.

Wedding bajus..am designing them myself (x2)and getting them tailor made... my future partner is too tall, Chris is 192cm..so we have to make everything....we dont want all those crazy too much malay weddings... 6-7 changes, i had enough already...went and seen so many go wacko with 5inches thick make up and over the top bajus....

a lot of issues from claustrophobic of having more than 1000 guest asian style so we have to lessen to 350...mum not too happy... oh well. at least i have u girls who can understand the mix marriage issues.

Chris cant understand why the Hantaran and dowry stuffs.. so we have to modify everything...heheh very funny. so now hantaranlesslah...

Oh ya... i am chinese-malay and chris is polish- german. he is converting soon to Islam.

Sorry am rambling so much but i have so much in my head and sometimes its so hard to please everyone- chris and my mum!!!!!...and i wonder how about me..its my wedding too?hehehe

did anyone have their wedding at chevrons?

talk to u girls soon!

ciao

 

[marnie]

Hi Emilia Jo! Um, can I call you EJ?

I haven't attended anything at Chevrons in recent years. My only recollection of the venue was when I was I in NUS - gosh, that makes me sooo old now(!) Eeeekkk!

I totally understand what you are going through re. 1000 pax vs under 500 pax. I had those debates too when we were planning our wedding last year. Though my mom thankfully, was rather open (surprisingly) to a guestlist of 250. She was though trying to make me change my mind about having the reception at the museum. But after "psycho-ing" her, she got swayed with my decision and we are happy we were firm with our decision.

Hantaran for us was another hot button issue. We however agreed and it was specifically reduced to about 7 trays each side, I think. Most of which were trays of foods which we "doubled-up" for the cocktails after the nikah. So technically, his gifts to me, were only about 4 trays.

For deco, perhaps you can try Khaj Weddings or Wedding Sutera though both don't come as cheap. Bleh.

 

[cuclainne]

hi emilia, welcome welcome. my husband is swedish and we've been married for a year, recently had an addition to the family (a baby girl).

have you gone to any of the wedding exhibitions to have a look around?

i didn't fancy too many costume changes too and had only 2 at each of my events. hahahaha - i can understand how you feel as i went through the same thing. elias doesn't understand how we can invite 1000 (and usually more) guests but he was ok after i explained it to him (that not everyone comes at the same time). he was also sensitive about the hantaran and dowry things (as it's not done in their cultures) - there was some unhappiness and i ended up being in the middle of everything. nearly called it off but worked out in the end.

is chris in singapore to help you with preps? i had to do the planning for mine on my own because elias was not living in singapore then - he only moved here two weeks before the nikah.

 

[eminozy]

yeah yeah Marnie... Ü u can call me EJ or Emi, am cool with it.no worries! i saw a wedding at CHevrons fr a different forum and they are charging apparently $38 per head.. am gna haggle... coz most of this forum said i should! I dont normally do it but i thought HECK... if everyones doing it.. why shouldnt I? I am neither taking alcohol, fake tier cutting cake or invites...so why should i pay for them? GAwd.. i sound cheapskate! heheh Yeah... i saw Khaj wedding and they are amazing , i will check Wedding sutera soon. muchas gracias!Which did u engage at the end?

Hi Cuclainne, tak! HEH... well, like u am doing it by myself remote from here in AUstria and then later in AUstralia. I travel a lot and never in SIngapore. Currently am at Chris´ in Innsbruck for the past 2 months and I am stopping over to singapore to check out CHevron, Khajwedding and see my wedding cake make(simplycupcakes.multiply.com)before i head down to AUstralia, coz thats where i live. Chris so far has been good at just starring at the things i proposed to him... the cake, the dress... all i get is a neutral zombie face. I guess he cant believe its so intense and how obsessed i´ve become!!! The issue is that he never thought of getting married, so this was totally unprepared for... So this non commited past self, hantaran, malay cuture and converting have thrown him off balance. Unfortunately for him, he is forcing to finish his Phd before our Nikah too, in APril. So, i really feel awful and guilty but he said its for the best.

So no. he wont ge belping me a bit cept for contribution in financing the dinner and the deco of my choice and there wont be a dowry...phew! which is good enough. Coz i am partially still studying and working in OZ and i cant get full on savings for the wedding too. Thank god for Chris!

Oh one more thing.. what do you girls think of the wedding registry?

ciao!

 

[cuclainne]

EJ, that's guys for you .. my husband also took it very easy and told me that decisions can wait .. we've had to fit in fittings during his visits here and basically it was my decision for everything else, he just went along with it.

your chris sounds like a very nice guy .. how long have you known him and how did you meet? tell us la ..

 

[marnie]

Cuclainne, how are you "weaning" yourself off Sofi what with leaving to work on Monday? Are you prepared yet? Gosh...it must be hard to hand your baby off to the caretakers. Although it does make it easier that it's in the same building as where you work....Hope you get through that day, girl.

EJ, I vote for yes - you should haggle the price down. All that extras which you don't need are probably ones you need to pay most for. Do you need to get their caterers? Can't you just get their space and you coordinate and engage your own vendors?

Meraj and I engaged Istana Weddings. I didn't see the need to get an expensive pelamin (though I was tempted to cos' they are sooo beautiful but 'eck, I think I spent a total one one hour on the "throne" so it works out) and plus it was so much easier that they coordinate the catering(to Meraj and I they were the best la) and the decor without having to get 3 different suppliers and handle them all. It's due much to logistics as we did everything ourselves.

Which city in Australia are you working? Meraj and I just came back from Melbourne and Sydney holiday-cum-recce. My hubby's British-Australian and he wants me to get a feel of the place. I like Melbourne to live. He likes Sydney. (there goes the endless arguments we're having). But all of a sudden last night he poured his heart out and said that maybe he wants to go venture to Dubai and go home to Australia later. *sigh* The man is fickle!

Ps. Ooooh....Simplycupcakes! I got their cupcakes for my Simpsons cupcakes as hantaran for Meraj and mini cuppies for our cocktails! I like!

 

[huichin]

Hi Girls

hadnt been able to check back...been very busy wif work and wedding stuff la.

Muntou & EJ

!!

Muntou /
EJ : You know, i'm planning mine to be a whole day event.

- Nikah
- Tea ceremony
- Bersanding
- Dinner

I'm squeezing all in a day! Starts from probably 9/10am till 9.30pm late. Piangs...can faint rite

My day reception will aredy have abt 800 over ppl, so i oso wonder how the heck all can fit in during the few hours of reception. haha...

Oh wells, need to get back to work.
Cuclainne & Marnie: i'll catch up wif ya girls very soon k! Am looking forward to Marnie's house-warming

 

[cuclainne]

Marnie, guess i will have to go through the week to find out yah .. i miscalculated my maternity leave and thought i was going back in february - told the child care centre the same so when i found out that i was going back to work on monday, they told me to find a babysitter for the last three days of jan or have to pay an emergency babysitting fee ($50 per day). my mom is going to bangkok for vacation this friday and only returning on tuesday .. it seems that i might have to fork out $150 but elias was told by his office to use up his remaining 5 days' of leave from last year so he's taking leave to take care of sofi while i go to work (what a reversal of roles!) .. let's see what he will have to say after spending an entire day with her alone .. hehehehe.

Hui Chin, how are things with you girl? busy busy busy ah .. we are also waiting for your card ah!

 

[eminozy]

you girls are great chatters! hehehe..baguslah.. i am bored rite now anyways! heheheh

Marnie, well, i thought of having the wedding at ACM but unfortunately they are not able to cater for such huge numbers... i was super devastated BIG TIME!.. then i went around the internet and finally found chevron... coz ourbudget is quite titelah... so have to be very scrumgy....

well, i am currently residing in Melbourne, but was in Adelaide for the past 6 years... I miss Adelaide coz its peaceful and different. melbourne is wonderful, good vibes and all..sydney is just too much! heheheh and not arty enough for me!

 

[eminozy]

cuclainne....can i call u CC. hehehe. well, i´ve known chris for about 2 years and its been an expensive long distance relationship. we dont really care about the money we spent visiting each other but now when we are struggling to save money just to get married, we realised we have spent about SGD20k just flying back and forth those 2 years! ehhehehe.. imagine what we could have done with that money?
Chris is relax and I m so glad he is. I call him my supa-dupa nerds scientist! heheheh..basically thats him!

ps;saw your kiddo, very cute!

 

[eminozy]

thanks hui chin! good luck.. where is your bersanding at? are u excited to be able to wear all those crazy malay wedding clothes! heheh . am actually quite excited to wear my baju as well, the malaccan style as thats my heritage!

my wedding in my head goes like this:

4th APRIL

1.nikah in a mosque somewhere in melbourne with 10 invited guest and my parents
2. Dinner on the same day at a Thai restaurant with about 16 people

14th DEc( not confirmed)
1.Chevrons with 350 guests.
i hope i can do a sit down hidang

Bajus:
For NIKAH
1.already tailored silver and turqoise set for both of us.white silver sampin for him.

For Dinner
1. I am currently designing my wedding dress. A fusion of white wedding dress and gold embroided songket and deep brown laced ribbons at the back and tule skirt. Hes wearing a deep brown suit(hopefully lah)

2. A Malaccan wedding baju for both of us.. not sure what colour is available.The malaccan one has 3 tier of those BIG FLOWER headress.heheh

 

[muntou]

Hi Hui Chin, thanks. When and where are u holding your nikah? I wanted to do everything in one day too. But bcos of the auspicious date happens to be on a Friday, now we have to separate the wedding into THREE DAYS!
Day1 tea ceremony
Day2 reception for his family & frens at a CC
Day3 reception for my family & frens.
*sigh* things juz can be done the way we wanted it to be. We r still looking around for an affordable deal for the reception.

Hello EJ, wow...u are designing your own wedding dress? that's great! i am excited to wear the wedding clothes eg. baju and the chinese 'kwa' too but not keen on the 5inch makeup that i've seen b4. How much did u pay for tailored-made baju? We are thinking of that if our budget allows.

Cuclainne, things will be fine for the 3 of you. maybe juz be prepared to receive SOS calls from your hubby on how to change diapers or give him a crash course this few days

Shall chat again soon.

 

[marnie]

Cuclainne, it'll be such a riot to see him with diapers all over the place on Monday when you return home!

But seriously, hope you get through the day fine.

EJ, I hope you have confirmed Chevrons cos' your wedding is in a peak period and Singaporeans being kiasu, they would have booked it way in advance.

One time sit down hidang? Quite a handful there. I guess, you need to get quite a bit of service staff, yeah?

Chin, yes yes. We're still planning for the house-warming. Most likely in March (I think - the date keeps shifting due to our travels) but not too late cos' we want to adopt...a kitten, that is.

But I'll see you on Thursday at my flat. I'll sms you my addy. I'll have the stuff ready for you. But warning first ah, my place is still messy especially the store-room and study-room!

Muntou, wow...3 days! Look at it as 3 days of fun and get-together! You'll have fun at your parties. Stressful now but you'll definitely love every single minute of your events.

 

[eminozy]

muntou.... i got a feeling my dress will cost about sgd$200-300 and if all fails for chris, my fren has recommended me a tux place for $150 to rent which is quite good. I wish i can wear the Kwa but no time lah to change so many times! heheh i think for me to get ready in the malaccan baju only will take about an hour due to the headress.

Marnie....I asked my mum to reserve that date with chevron last week and i will be in singapore next week to confirm things. if not we may have to move it to pasir ris resort...apparently theres still space there... i just cant believe how crazy this is... venue wise. i think the hidang will be divided into 2- mains and dessert. and i dont mind if theres like 6 waiter-waitress and they served like 5 tables each... or something ..i think i can talk to the F& B people.. i used to do all this maitre´d-hospitality things since i was 14... so i can figure out the possibilities... i wont take no for an answer.... hhehehehe ..notty me!

 

[marnie]

Thank goodness you do still have someone to help you do the physical work here, EJ. Otherwise, it can be exasperating on you, I'm sure.

I would have to agree with you. Venue was the one that was the "make or break" issue in the whole wedding for us. I'm so glad we've gone through that. I sure do hope it works out for you!

K peeps. Long day ahead tomorrow. Coming to 1am. Work to do, just came back from Jakarta. Brain dead at this point. Talk to you Girls later.

 

[eminozy]

marnie.... i was at the mega wedding for malay brides.. and the theme is lush , extravagance and opulence.... its quiet crazy ...decos with feather boas...crystal like effects ans so forth... too christmassy and magical for me to handle. I think i prefer to get it done simply and fuss free but with a little bit of signature stylings. I got a huge feeling i will end up at chevrons...

hopefully!

 

[safira]

hallo all
i've been catching up on the posts and i noticed some of you used simplycupcakes. I want her too! i pm'd her from her multiply site and no reply

upset! anybody got direct contact info..?

emilia jo, oh man, i went to the expo as well and i saw the pelamins with the feathers! i think my eyes just widened into saucers, i was thinking my gawd! what is that?? but of course i had to remain expresionless in case i offended anyone. hahahaha! some of the stuff's scary..
we ended up depositting for istana weddings for deco n food.

we've also booked chinta weddings as well, cos they're less ex than other places and the make up looks promising.. i hope.. tho i told him, and i quote, i'm not interested in looking like a cake. .. u know just to be sure.. hiakhiak

istana weddings: food's ok right? anybody used them before? apparently the woman's nephew is hady mirza....which is a coincidence cos my fiance's second cuz is taufik batisah! hahaha singapore idol winners if you don't know.. rather amusing...

hope everyone's doing well and the lunar new year frenzy + wedding frenzy still leaves you intact...somewhat..

me

 

[safira]

and muntou, i think i know who u are!! buahahah! *wink*

 

[animal_cruelty_free]

hi! another question (it's me safira)
re the cupcakes...
who eats them??
see right, i'm envisioning the wedding to work out something like this:
sat: my family's reception, complete with 1000 ppl i barely know -_-
sat evening: my dinner, so that i can wear my gown and invite ppl I KNOW... i mean, sheesh...
sun: his family's reception, complete w karaoke! yes. karaoke..

so basically for the sat n sun do, we're just going to show up and smile. i've relinquished control...haha

anyhoo, my question, the cupcakes, if i actually get in touch with this ayu girl from simply cupcakes and it's on display for sat, AND for sat dinner 1) is that even possible in our climate? and 2) will it still be edible for me to give out to my family n friends, those who matter anyway, not the massive crowds la...

cultural identity crisis. weddings are the ultimate representation of culture and then you realise that your idea of culture isn't the same as anyone else's! sorry, i'm rambling.. it took me awhile to figure out that my wedding isn't my wedding coming from a malay family. but see in my head i always thought it'd be MY wedding, with gown and music and nice flowers.....etc.. but i've come to terms with it tho my mother is giving in to me on quite a number of things.. solution? have my own wedding and the let go for the family's do. then... everybody's happy.. ..

 

[marnie]

Safira, a lot of your debates on weddings can be found in the earlier archives here when I was rambling on with my friend about our respective weddings. I can assure you that you are not alone in how you feel about your wedding.

My feelings see-saw throughout the planning process. I wanted to be the "good girl" and do what the norm wants us Malay brides to do but the independent streak in me wanted it to reflect me and my fiance (then) and our respective cultures albeit a little less traditional.

I may yet be the only one who have already used Ayu of SimplyCupcakes. EJ though has engaged her for her own do soon. Ayu's cupcakes are great! The frosting is actually the kind that will harden after some time so no worries about weather at all. Just be sure to tell her to make less sweet if you don't have that much of a sweet tooth(though the entire frosting is actually sugar!) There's really no need to worry whether the cakes will last cos' i know mine did - we had a few in our hotel room the next day! She takes a bit of time to reply due to the fact that she has overwhelming emails sometimes.

I too engaged Istana for our food and decoration and we're satisfied with the end product. Everyone we talked to loved the food selection (we were picky right down to the salad we wanted!). The only thing is you need to engage your own kendarat service.

Meraj and I enjoyed every single minute of our wedding because it was woven between us. Our vendors played a huge part in making it successful and we had family and friends to help us along (like getting the red and orange napkins from Ikea, hang the red and orange fabrics at the end of the terrace etc).

 

[eminozy]

woohoo..sorry darlings.. been busy getting 80% of everything finalise.. anhd now back in melbourne... have to finish the rest of organisng from here
alhamdullillah.....ok ok ..suhfreya and safira u want ayus email? i can pass u no worries , ive been talking to her lotsa last week. sorry i am typing like a headless chook, just have may things to do today.. but her email is ..hmm maybe i shud PM u or pass me ur email... i will mail it to u instead?or email me at [email protected]
so anyways, i went back to the expo gala and met with some really cool people... www.wedingsutera.com was amazing. so now i and azlin are emailing each other discussing the deco and all and i am so impressed by her ethnic morroccan styling which i super adore, especially the exotic floras and rich colours!....

heheheh and for make up and rental of the baju malacca, we ended up with www.suecreaxions.com... it was dirt cheap i was shock.... $280 1 baju and 2 makeup and 2 hairdo.... I am stoke....and the best thing is her origins malaccan so she have the whole shebang and its all antique!!! woohoo...dream came true

hey girls talk later.. ayus amazing with the cupcake.. she loves talking to clients who can share ideas... go for it!

 

[eminozy]

marnie thanks for suggesting wedding sutera, at first on their site i was only ok ok.. but when i met them, their professionalism is what i am attracted to.. i think service and undertanding is everything...unfortunately they dont come cheap but then again i am not taking the whole package since iam doing it at chevrons and they only allow me to have the pelamin, flowers, a bit of table deco and chair... so its all cool...i am engaging them for my invites too... we have the same thoughts on invites.. it bizzarree.... we both said the same thing at the same time! heheheh.

my theme is east meets west exotic... olive green, ivory and dark brown....

 

[animal_cruelty_free]

hello helloooo
hahaha american idol commercial they're nuts! i'm tryna watch the grammy's on star world.. looooovveee john legend! the man and i went to his concert and it was after his concert that the man proposed to me.. awww..

anyhoo.. thanks eminozy (eminozy?? heheh) for the help with simply cupcakes but ayu finally emailed me, whew! i don't know what happens next..

am now tryna figure out if i can fit a wedding gown into my budget, i've got the andaman and all, but.. i still want my gown
marnie i visited your webshots site, love the decor, real pretty, and pleasant colour combis that actually work; love the sheets of orange and red!

i must say, weddings are a joy and a pain to prepare for.. grr...

suhfyera

 

[muntou]

hi gals, hope everyone's doing fine.

safira, i can totally understand how u feel. if our budget allow, i think we should get something that we really want for our wedding. otherwise, it juz seems like we are juz pleasing everyone else but ourselves

i'm using cupcakes for future hubby's reception too (www.perfectfrosting.multiply.com). itz recommanded by his fren so we juz decided to take it...hopefully itz good.

i went to the mega fair too, i'm juz too OVERWHELMED! Somehow ended up getting my bridal Lengga from Saheli Bridal House.

juz as i tot everything's going well, i got another problem: i got to know fr tis gal from another thread that RTC (which is where i'm planning for my reception) doesn't seems very impressive. sigh...haven pay the deposit thou. but really panic-attacked leh...will have to find another place in this short span of time! dunno if other places still available or not.

oh well, i shall sleep on it tonite. hope things will juz get better tmr. tok to u gals soon. take care

 

[eminozy]

whats RTC?..no worries suhfreya.... heheh is my nick funny?hmmmm its part of my name anywyas..so...oh well...

mantouerfectfrosting is a fren of simplycupcakes.. she taught her the secret ingredients of forever frosting or something like that..coz some frost melts after awhile!

good luck girls. talk to you guys later... now i am freakin out about my nikah...aiyayayaya

 

[eminozy]

marnie,,,i just saw your wedding photos.... so beautiful and i love your make up! hey i was just wondering how much does it cost to get the kompang guys...? heheh i thought of having mine at the ACM too but decided not to, coz apparently the tent is quite expensive and also that I find it sad to havemy visiotrs divided into 2 rooms when its a 3hour dinner only...Did you have yours full day?

 

[marnie]

EJ, I had our guests divided into 2 but the major accomplishmnt for the night was that we got people sitting outside to see the events going on inside and vice versa, with the help of stand-alone digital cameras and 2 projector screens. It helps a lot to make our guests feel they all are a part of the wedding celebration. When we went around to talk to our guests on the terrace, they didn't feel at all like an outcast.

We had the ACM from 5pm slot. But we got the place from noon to set up.

That particular hadrah group I got cost us $450 for about half an hour intro and some misc stuff they did. Before that, whilst awaiting our "entrance" they engaged the audience with a bit of cultural show of the silat. As half of our wedding guests are non-Malays, it was a real treat and we felt really good to spend that money on that particular aspect of my culture (I'm part Javanese so they had the gamelan stuff in there too).

Muntou, I'm sorry to hear about Raffles Town Club. I'm sure it'll work out. Sometimes, it's the coordinator and the clients who need to gel. Different people can get along with different people so maybe yours will turn out better than what the rest of the forummers have gone through?

Suhfyera, I wanted a wedding gown too (it must be those years of playing dolls etc)! But I also wanted to wear both my kebaya and the sari to signify our roots and cultures. And we were yo-yo-ing whether to scrap the photoshoot but in the end we decided to do our photoshoot but with our elements - fun and quirky. Ngiap Heng, our pre-wedding photographer did a fantastic job. And we got to incorporate the wedding gown (even though the designs were screwy and not what I first envisioned to be) but in the end we had fun at the photoshoot cos' we had what we wanted.

So I'm saying, a little indulgence is good if done within means. Can't be about everyone else cos' it is your wedding, yes?

 

[eminozy]

hey marnie... heheh saw your photoshoot.. very quirky,.. its so beautiful when u see 2 people who really love each other!

I am only interested for the hadrah.... if we use them only for 10 minutes, just to lead us into the ballroom, i wonder how much will it cost. Coz Chris is a no frills kinda guy and he might freak out when they break into kuda kepang! nanti instead of the kuda kepang go into trance, he will! hehehehhehehe .

I was so stressed up last week when I found out that Muslim men cant wear gold. I actually bought this really beautiful antiquey wedding band white gold 2 weeks ago and had to wait for a week for his european giant size and then a friend of mine, after i bought it said HE CANT WEAR IT. My heart just stopped for a moment and I went everywhere asking if its true, and she even sent me a few emails in regards to that. Now i have gotten over it and selling it soon.

In replacement, I went to a place here in Melbourne and found out they have titanium wedding bands... so that will be it lah. No cool antiquey detail just a plain one, apparently titanium is too tuff a material to have designs on it. My girlfriend poked fun at me and said that at least if we both died in a plane crash our ring remains indestructable..... alamak.......

 

[marnie]

I would suggest then you try to get another hadrah group EJ, only cos' the one I engaged has gamelan and kuda kepang tarian and silat. And they do charge more than the usual ones. I've come across others who charge under S$400 for one time entrance accompaniment.

Oh dear! I do hope you get to sell the ring off without too much of a loss. Yes, it's against the religion for Muslim men to sport any gold (and that includes wedding ring). We got a platinum for Meraj. Platinum is also a hard alloy but you can do a bit more details and make it look "weathered" though the cost (platinum is rare) may be a deterrant.

Ps. your girlfriend is sooo dang funny about titanium surviving an air crash - which eerily enough is true!

 

[animal_cruelty_free]

hi ho!
emilia, is eminozy your real name? i thought you were implying that you perceive yourself as nosy which i thotw as cute...
and yah! the whole gold thing, i was like.. whaaa?? and i found out after this sudden revelation that men can't wear gold, that in the same verse, it says that men can't wear silk either.. then i thought..wait a sec... then i also found that apparently it's the appearance of yellow gold that should be avoided (with regards to cross dressing issues)... in which case other golds, like black or white may be permissable. Also, the thing abt silk i reckn nobody really observes that anymore. so it's up to you..?

you can try these sites to check on prices for the kompang ppl if you want, i gleaned these from the forum at majalah perkahwinan and the fiance:
http://kjtt.multiply.com
www.sriwana.com
www.srimahligai.com

aaand! my sister jsut mailed this book to me (she's not in the country) called What No One Tells the Bride by Marg Stark. It totally hits home, and i highly highly recommend it to brides newly married and about to be married.. plus it's really funny.
I'd been going thru these weird complicated emotions lately adn for some bizarre reason the man and i hv been fighting MORE since he proposed and i was like, huh? in my head... but from reading this book, i'm apparently normal! fearing losing my identity is normal! hahaha.. what a relief.. and what a relief knowing that i may lose a little but i may very well gain a whole lot more.. just need time.. so if you find this book.. read! it's funny and insightful..

muntou, oh man, if it's not one thing it's something else, right? dont panic! you'll find a place and all will go well! and hey, marnie's right, RTC may not have worked for that girl you spoke to but it may just work for you... It'll all work out.. Remember what's important... (other than breathing)...

u busy for cny? we shd do xbox again soon.. de-stress hehheheh.. we'll kick their butts!