Any Mixed Marriages here? Esp Chinese-Malay Muslim couple

Hi everyone,

I m part of a chi-indian muslim couple. We r planning for solemnisation in the next few months and I was thinking of wearing a scarf for the nikah. Just wondering if you guys wore one for your nikah? Also if there r any other styles to wearing it other than the usu?
 


Hi Sarah!

I didn't wear a head scarf for our solemnisation. I worse a saree instead as my hubby is of bangladeshi descent.
 
ic,

Last year was my first to cook for about 35 of them, it was real a disaster to me !! coz they stated very clearly " NO CATERING" NO "DA BAO" "MUST BE COOKED BY ME". really stressful, coz I really no nuts about cooking malay food !
I quickly ask my friend's dad for help, as he is a cook, I asked him to do me some sambal chillis, ao I cook them with chicken wings, ikan, cut some cucumbers, ready some hard boil eggs and serve like Nasi Lemak, but with white rice instead. hahahahaha..
THis year, I still dunno what to cook lei, maybe curry chicken, sambal kangkong and a soup lor. anybody have any idea of malay soup ??
 
Elaine,

Malays doesn't have soup - unless your talking about normal spinach soup which is not suitable for Hari Rayas.

For me, I will stick to my usual sambal goreng, Ayam Masak Merah. Won't go wrong with my in-laws!

Hi Sarah,

I think it's up to the individual if she wants to wear a scarf during nikah.
 
Elaine,
Malays don't have special occasion soup unlike chinese. But i don't think malay soups are suitable to serve during occasions like Hari Raya. I know malay soups like sup buntut (ox-tail soup), sup bayam (spinach soup), sup sayur (vegetable soup) err..what else ah... all these not suitable for Hari Raya. Sambal kangkong is a everyday food. I've also not seen anyone serve that on Hari Raya.

I reckon the curry chicken would be ok lah. Though very simple. Usually Hari Raya dishes served like sambal goreng, sambal pengatin, kuah satay, ayam masak kurma, ayam masak merah, kari ayam, udang sambal, lepat, lontong, ketupat, acar, serondeng, rendang etc.. Those very heavy and hard to cook dishes. (IMO).
 
Elaine,
Hmm..just a suggestion. Dishes:
1. Curry chicken
2. Beef / mutton rendang
3. Udang sambal (sambal prawn)
4. Baguette(from delifrance)
5. Ketupat / lemang / lepat (can buy from arab street area). I remember there is a lemang shop there.

your guests have the option to eat the dishes either with baguette or the ketupat / lemang / lepat.

I think that will be better than sambal kangkong and soup?
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Elaine,

Not to worry, we'll help you think of some other dishes. What IC had suggested is the usual few dishes that the Malays will serve during Hari Raya. As for me, I would add instant satay (those bought at Giant. Brand name - Jumain Satay).
 
Wah - you all are talking about cooking for Hari Raya already ??? I don't think I can attempt doing that this year in my state .. maybe bake cookies only, can .. hahahahhaa...
 
Ally,

Thank you so much for advance. I am going to popular to buy so malay cooking book to see look see look.

Marnie,

I am very sad, didnt manage to get the LCD TV from Daniel. Already arrange everything to be deliver to my place, in the end he lie to me that his wife wanna keep the TV in the kitchen, but actually someone get from him at a higher price.
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ic,

Thank you so much for your suggestion. I will take note . hehe
 
Elaine,
Get this book from Periplus Mini Cookbooks: Homestyle malay cooking. Very cheap. Less than $5 and it's good! Teach you all the homestyle malay cooking.
 
Elaine, oh, I'm sorry. I got a feel like that when I was smsing him about the LCD telly cos' he weren't too keen, you know what I mean? Oh well, not to worry lah. Bound to have something else. Anyways, LCD is a luxury. Got normal telly also good.
 
marnie,
Now LCD getting cheaper. During that time, there was a promotion for flat tv also (by samsung). I was too lazy to check out the promotion. In the end, the price i paid for a normal tv is almost equivalent to the samsung flat tv. Sigh.. Top another bit more of course can get LCD tv. But of course lah, depends how many inch tv screen you getting. (for LCD lah). The bigger, the more expensive.

So how's your renovation coming along?

cuclainne,
After you give birth, during your 1 month baby's celebration, take a professional family photograph together. It's really memorable. I regret not doing it. I don't even have 1 decent family photograph when my baby is still very young. At the hospital, my parents help to take but the photos turned out dark. Sian.... Now got no decent family photos to put in our home.
 
IC, Meraj and I actually bought a telly and it's "parked" at my mom's cos' at that time their tv broke down. Contemplating whether to get that back or just another one.

Actually, I'm not fussy about what kind of tv. Can watch tv already good enough. If everything want top of the line gadgets, we'll go broke in no time!
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Reno ah? I will only sign the contractor's quote tomorrow and then it'll officially start then. Not in a rush to finish before Raya but must finish before we leave for Australia in December. We super duper slooowwww right?
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IC,

Sorry lar girl, I was busy thepast few days, no time to go online in MSN. So you've started at your new work place aredi?

Talking about new TV - my 5 yr old tv juz went kapoot days after the warranty is over. Arrghhh! now busy looking around for a new set.

Marnie,

Thru my experience, never rush the reno. You will bound to meet up with lots more complication later. Slow nevermind, as long as they do a proper job.

Cuclainne,

I second what IC had said. Muz take a good family potrait after birth. In fact, now during preggie should take more also. Was pregnant twice, but hor, now then realised that I only had a single shot from both of my pregnancies..very jialat rite? That also being covered by a table (taken during a colleague's wedding dinner..haiz)
 
Ally, yeah...I agree with you. Just that in the course of going around asking for quotes, shortlisting and going through quotes, I find that I am a picky home-owner cos' with this final contractor meraj and I are engaging, we went through like 7 revised quotes I think cos' we were so hell-bent on including everything right down to the detailed measurements and putting on paper the optional prices of things we want done pending HDB's approval. Don't know whether other people are as terrible as I am right now. Hahah
 
ic, Ally, yuppers - my sister had done so for her family and it was very cute .. can see how big my nephew has grown over the years.
 
Hi Ally! Hi everyone!

hahaa..yesh...this thread has been sooOOoo quiet...I've been pretty busy too. heh..

Anyways, I got news to updates and share! haaha...i've finally settled and came to an agreement with my coordinator tt out of my 2 MTM gowns, one will be the modern wedding gown, and the other to be the Modern Malay gown! ahahaa...i told my BS coordinator, her designer must work very closely wif me to come out wif a nice fusion of the gown! Hahahaa....now the extra cost will be the lace fabric. Nothing more than tt! yay! haaha...so happy! Now i can concentrate on finding styles and references and start looking ard and sourcing for my berkats! Now, what's good to use - other than the cups/mags/towel/vase? haha

Girls, we shld meet up soon! Peanut is growing everyday and we shld treasure this time when Mummy Cuclainne still can move abt normally! haha...how abt...beginning of Oct? Any suggestions? We can break our fasts together! hehheheee
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Chin, ooooh! That's good news! At least something lah....if you have pictures to show the designer, better. Then they cannot turn around to say that's not what you've both discussed and explained.

Berkat...hmmm......I like the idea of sandalwood fans. Got a bit of Chinese element to it but it is also practical - your guests can use it immediately at your wedding reception cos' in March, the heat will start to be on the high side.

I'm helping my friends get the coin pouches (the vintage chinois beady 70s kind) as well as the songket ones - Chinese guy and malay girl so they want a mix.

I'm okay with early October. Just let me know in advance, least I have to go on a hunt for some toilet bowl, wash basin or something for the new home.
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Hahahaa....Marnie - yea lohs! I will start collecting some references, which i did progressively - easier to translate ideas too! hehe..

Oh...fans...not bad..heh. Oh i lurve the coin pouches idea! hahaa...sounds very exciting - but i only worry it's more targeted for the lady guests only. haha

Ok can, oct it will be! we can fix a date when it comes nearer yea! heh...whoa..hunt for toilet bowl ah...so exciting! heeheee..i likeeeee
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Chin, exactly what I told my friend lor..but she said most of the favours are leaning towards the female anyways so....Aiyoh....she very good to come up with such "reasonings" one.
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I'm in KL today so if I "bump" into something/or an idea for favours, will let you know.
 
Hui Chin, wah - seems you went to war with your BS and won ah .. looks like you've got a lot of things done yah .. what else is left to do?

Yuppers - we must meet again sometime soon yah, particularly since Peanut might be delivered earlier than expected. If she's still breech at my next appointment, then she will be delivered by C-section which could very well mean that she could be born before Hari Raya. Hmm .. at least can get collection ah .. hahahahaha.

Marnie, how is your home coming along? I have been drooling over Martha Stewart's new kitchen (made the front cover of her magazine). How I wish it was mine! Hahahahah ...

In KL for some R&R?
 
Tks in advanceMarnie! hehe...

Cuclainne: Yea happy to have one lesser thing done (though the main thing of making the baju and all tt is not even done yet) hahaa...now left wif discussion wif the caterer - in details now, then the DJ, booking of the CC, my bajus for Nikah, the berkat, hantaran, wedding rings, kompang etc. Whoa still got quite abit left..haha. Anyone has got good kompang contacts? Good pricing? I'm looking for a very simple 5-8 mins type for my walk-in at the sanding.

Oh really ah! Peanut is coming so soon! Dats fast! Then we must really cherish the time! heheee....how abt next Tue to break our fasts together Girls? 3 Oct. A show of hands who can make it?
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Cuclainne, I hope you're feeling okay with baby's position. This late in the pregnancy, if breech, highly unlikely to go back to normal position, right? Too little space for the baby to move herself around?

Not much is done re. renovations. In fact nothing yet except Meraj spoke to the structural engineer re. hacking of walls. Darn tedious. Tonight, we'll be off to see my contractor to see materials and select and include in the quote and hopefully sign it too.

Our weekends are so "happening" these days - toilet bowls shopping and what nots! (Scored some toilet accesories in KL for half the price this weekend). Meraj was in KL last week so I joined him over the weekend just to get away from the stress of work. For once, we have the staff of Marriott clean up the place --> we're such lazy buggers!

Chin, nowadays, the DJ can play you hadrah/kompang sound to accompany your walking in. Perhaps that's a cheaper option? Else, cheapest option, I've come across is S$400. for just 1 time walk-in. If you're interested, I'll email you the details.

Um, Id have to revert on 3rd. Cos' if I am not mistaken, I have another appointment then.
 
Chin - I don't mind the meet-up but depends on the others .. the more the merrier yah .. see everyone's schedule.

Marnie, it's ok .. I'm getting used to the aches and pains at the moment. My back doesn't hurt that much anymore, just the pelvic bone cos it's supporting Peanut's weight but occasionally when I'm sitting, I can somehow feel her head and it's not the most comfortable of feelings.

I read that some breech babies move into position (head down) as late as 37 weeks. My last appointment would be around that time so that's why the doctor said if she's still not moved around by then, have to pick a date already.
 
Ok Girls, I'm a-kay for 3rd! Yippeeee!!! Finally my alooone time....

Speaking of which, this weekend going to do something about my hair (another alone time) whilst Meraj go and flat himself out at Singapore Polo Club doing some soccer coaching/training stuff. Wah liao....fasting some more. Crazy fella.

Cuclainne, I suppose it helps that you are working in one of the forefront hospitals in area of women and children - that way can get better informed in this area, eh? I would know nuts about babies and pregnancy. urrghhh.....
 
Marnie, ya lor - if my water bag bursts while I am in the office, then better still .. just go to Delivery Suite .. hahahahaha.

Yay - so we're finally meeting next week. Who else is coming???
 
Hi Marnie, Hahaha...think both me & Fi like the actual kompang, though i dun mind the music from the DJ's. Dat was wat my future MIL suggested too! haha...can save 400 somemore! haha... Pls gimme the details of the kompang contacts yea! Thks!

And yea, i have a company event to attend on the 3rd of Oct too! So cant make it...how abt the 5th Oct, thurs? Girls, who else can make it? Mama Cuclainne is aredy on the list! heeheee...How abt Marnie?

Hhahaaa..
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Chin, have a long day on 5th (back to back meetings) so I don't want to take the chance of being moody and cranky!
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What about Monday, 2nd?

Re. the hadrah. I'll rummage through my piles at home and email you. Thankfully, I'm going to my mom's tonight so can go through my piles there also.

Cuclainne, yup. Easy peasy man. So are you going on leave a few days prior your expected delivery or are you just going to work till you pop on the day?
 
Marnie, technically I have been given the go-ahead to take leave as and when I feel that I can't come to work from 16 Oct onwards .. shiok eh. But I think I will work until the day I pop la ..
 
Marnie: Mmm...i have gym class on Mondays...but i guess i can give it a miss for this meetup! heheee..

Ok hope i can get some good contacts on the kompang from u! heheeehee

Ok 2nd oct, Mon it will be for the meetup! How abt the rest of the Girls?
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Ladies, is tomorrow's meeting confirmed? I will be occupied for most of the day - meetings, teaching the temp staff (her first day at the job) so will be busy busy busy. Sms me ok cos I might not be able to check in. Thanks!!
 
Hi Ladies

let's meet up on next Wed, 11th Oct. Who can make it?

Now on the list:
1) Marnie
2) Cuclainne
3) HuiChinz

Somemore?
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Cuclainne, cos' 3 of use luurrrveeee food (sometimes a tad bit too much, I think)....
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So Chin, where are we going? I feel like somewhere around Holland V leh...

Ooppss.....just realised I haven't emailed you the contacts. Will do so later tomorrow latest, k? Tonight I have a dinner appointment with my girlfriend who just came back from US so we may be chatting the night away lah. Sorry babe!
 
yea tts y! hahahaa...and b4 lil' peanut pops out we should really meet up for once at least!

And where at? Any suggestions? i was thinking of...

1) RamenTen (Far eASt)
2) Pizza Hut (Suntec / Orchard)
3) Sakura (Far eASt)
4) Breeks (Taka)
5) Swensens (Suntec / Orchard)
6) Sakura / Magic Wok
7) Fish & Co. (Suntec)
8) Sakae Sushi (Suntec / Heerens)

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Hahahaa...Marnie, Eh...ya lohs...dun say until like dat mah...muahahaha

Ok i just posted a whole list of what i can think of..if holland V can oso..but i duno what's nice there...Reco? And OH! One more!! Secret Garden?? hahaha...i remember some of you girls went there b4 rite? Nice or not tt place?
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And no worries...go ahead and enjoy ur catching-up wif ur gf. hehee..u can pass me the contacts for the kompang as and when you're free! heheheeee
 
Chin, thanks babe - knew you'd understand.
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Your list sounds fine. Except, I'm avoiding Pizza Hut and Breeks. Everything else is mighty fine with me. How about Hog's at Holland V? You went there before right?

Cuclainne and I went for dinner one time at Secret Garden. We also bumbed into Ally there. Nice ambience but bathroom is another matter altogether.
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Ok Marnie: Hahahaah...ok can.

1) RamenTen (Far eASt)
2) Sakae Sushi (Suntec / Heerens)
3) Swensens (Suntec / Orchard)
4) Fish & Co. (Suntec)
5) Sakura (Far eASt)

Can we have a vote or smthing? haaha..then easier to decide where. Ok i've re-arranged to my most preferred onwards. hehhhhee

Oooh...so you girls were the ones who went Secret Garden! haha...what abt the loo?
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Chin, the toilet is so old-fashioned. Well, old fashioned nevermind. But it's dirty. Compared to the restaurant itself, they should have upgraded the loo too. Brought the standard down, if you ask me, with the state of the loo.

K, my order of preference:-

(1) Fish & Co
(2) Sakae Sushi
(3) Swensens
(4) Sakura
(5) RamenTen
 
Have you ladies been to Dan Ryan (near Regent Hotel)? That place is also not so bad but must have big appetite la ..

Mine is:

(1) Fish & Co
(2) Swensens
(3) Sakae Sushi
(4) Sakura
(5) RamenTen

My baby playpen/ cot came yesterday. Ah Boy and I spent some time setting it up in our bedroom .. put the pillow and crib wedge in .. all it needs now is the baby to sleep in it. Hahahaha ...

I couldn't sleep until 1am cos Ah Boy kept coming in the bedroom, pacing up and down looking at the cot .. aiyoh, then he so excited cos he said that a baby is coming .. siao ah, need a bed to re-confirm what he already knows for the past few months. Hahahaha...
 
Marnie: Ooooo...hmmm. oh wells, probably they thought the restroom doesn't matter tt much and the fact is - it does! hahaaa

Cuclainne: Oh never been to Dan Ryan b4. hahaa...think fasting month appetite is smaller - cos too hungry til cant eat much. haha

WHoa...decorating peanut's room - must be fun!!! heheeh....can't wait to see a eurasian's peanut too! Issit called Eurasian for mix-blood? haahaa...me not sure
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Ok ladies...seems tt the top choice for now is Fish & Co. Then Fish & Co. it will be!

Callin for the rest of the ladies...anyone joining the gang? It's next wed, 11th Oct 2006.

Seems like all are married except for me! OMG *faint*
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- am i the youngest here too?? hahahaaaaaaaaa
 
Oooh Cuclainne, sounds exciting! But seriously men are viscereal creatures - they cannot comprehend without seeing the actual thing! Meraj is like that too (sometimes).
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Chin, can we go to the Fish & Co. at Glass House (beside Park Mall) instead? But if everyone is okay with Suntec, I'll be in on it too- no prob.
 


Muahaha.......Fi oso like dat! He cant visualise things...without seeing the actual thing! haha...

Marnie: Yea i think the Suntec one is better...haha...shall we op 4 the Suntec one? heeehe...

I think i shld sms everyone again...if they can make it. haha...everyone's like super bz!
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