Any Mixed Marriages here? Esp Chinese-Malay Muslim couple

Hello Raf! Long time no see...wedding preps get to the best of people so don't fret...just yet. Everyone just needs to have a say in weddings. You just need to be disciplined enough to know when to say "yes" and "no" to suggestions coming from otherwise well-meaning people. And yes, I too got a bit swayed with the many array of beautiful things for weddings but practicality kicked my butt and we worked out a way to have what we want in a more wallet-friendly way.

Our flat. Yes, coming around slowly but surely. We'll only get the keys next month on 18th so we'll probably be super kiasu and just burst through the doors of that first major purchase together on that very same day.
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Been through meetings with contractors and IDs and what nots just to get a feel of their costs and what they have to offer but as usual, being the picky lot we are, it's been tough negotiating.
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Chin, how the batch of mags I passed you the other day - can drool over the Martha Stewart's creations right?

Alrighty people, chatting will be lighter than it is the next few days till I return on 14th next month. Maybe I'll pop in once in a while if we can get a quick access to the net whilst we're across continents and oceans. Till later alligators!
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Raf, take it easy - it might seem overwhelming at first but eventually it'll all work out. We're here for you if you ever need us yah ...

Marnie, shiokers ah! Don't forget to tell us about what you'll be up to on your honeymoon .. but don't have to tell ALL la .. some things can keep to yourself ah .. hehehehehe!

Ally, I signed Peanut on the waiting list for the infant care at the centre here, at the hospital. Talk about being kiasu .. my maternity leave will end Feb/ March 07 and already have to sign up now. But not bad ah, I didn't know that MCYS give $400 subsidy and I get staff rate so it's bloody cheap!
 
cuclainne,
You at which hospital? Yes..you have to sign up early. I send my son to a babysitter. But pulled him out due to certain things lah. Then wanted to send him to infantcare, but all fully booked. Got 2 still have places but they were charging at rates of $1.1K to $1.2K respectively before subsidy. Quite skeptical because of the halal food. So no choice, cannot put there.
Intending to put my son to full-day playgroup. I've also booked for a place. (coz on my way to work though it's far from home!) and i dont' have to worry about food since it's halal. Sigh..but don't know whether still can get or not. Coz they said first come first basis. This one is not being kiasu.. this one is no choice! You know..the intake for playgroup at the childcare i booked is only 8! So have to wait till all these children grow up to go to nursery or their parents pulled them out! Which can take years....
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So unless being parents, only then they can understand the difference btwn agony and kiasuism.
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And moreover for our case, if put full-day, childcares are limited if factoring on halal food.
 
ic, I work at KK Hospital. Not bad la, the infant care after subsidy (staff rate) is $180. Public rate is close to $1K (before subsidy). The centre has just been newly renovated, I can pop in whenever I want, and it's three infants per caregiver (mostly makciks). I would love for my mom to take care of Peanut but she's already looking after my nephew and it's a bit out of my way to send Peanut every morning to her place. This is the next best alternative.

Ya lor, I wonder come March whether Peanut will have a place or not .. sigh. They're still allowing outsiders to send their kids to the centre here, leaving many staffers to gripe about it. My colleague has signed up in Nov to send her daughter to toddler class and until now, still no place leh. She went with me the other day to make noise.
 
cuclainne,
Yeah...the playgroup is also called toddler class. 18 months and above only then can enter. Don't worry too much about it. But do think of other alternatives just in case (in case only lah) you still don't get a place by next year march. They all said they give first come first basis, who need it first. I think also fair. Can't argue much about this. I think they cannot give priority to internal staff because of the waiting period. They might lose business let say, if for the month of march, no intake at all and there are others in the public who is interested. Like i say lor.. if no place, maybe have to wait till one parent withdraw their child. Which the possiblity is almost 10 to 15 % only.
 
ic, i think i might end up being the ultimate kiasu parent and as soon as they give me a slot, even if it's before March, i will take it - even if it means that I have to pay monthly fees despite Peanut not being in there yet.

My colleague asked if it's possible to get her daughter a slot at the same time as Peanut (despite difference in class) but the senior teacher explained that to us - I mean, they're still running a business after all yah.
 
Cuclainnne,

Wah, the staff price rate is very low leh...even now i'm employed in a childcare centre..my staff rate also cannot be compared to yours. Somemore it's infantcare. BTW, is it under LV group?
 
Ally, yes it is. Actually my colleagues told me to register as soon as I knew that I was pregnant but I was lazy and waited till now. I should have done it earlier, had I known that there is a long waiting list.
 
Hey Marnie: Yea those mags were great!! I Haven even finish reading all of them! haha...thks! Btw, Enjoy your Honeymoonies yea! hehee...take more pics!!
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cuclainne,
yeah..no choice. if you really want that place. Because if you give up your place, they're after all running a business. They will give to the next person to fill up their intake. And that doesn't mean that person will withdraw in march for your peanut. :P (sorry, follow what you call your baby nickname, can anot?) I also would advise you to be "kiasu" on this. May as well pay the extra months lah..after all it's for next year march. And moreover with a long waiting list, don't give up.
 
Hhmmmm..we've mostly got our budget worked out and what kind of wedding we want it to be. But heck.....so many freaking objections from his parents. Now we can't even confirm wif the CC becos they are looking into having it at the Raffles Townclub. And we already said NO becos it's too ex. BUt sigh...they dun seem to understand that word.
 
Raffles town club price almost like hotel or even more ex than hotel right? If parents contributing, nevermind lor.
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Err, they have limitation on halal food right? so getting caterer outside?

Sigh. I just realize got competition on channel5, stories of love.
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Today dateline already. Hai, if not, i sure want to participate. Only saw it advertise yesterday night.
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Ya, that's what I heard too.. RTC is very ex. And are you both gonna share the same venue or each party having different venues for the reception?
 
Hiya ladies - it's been a while since anyone has posted here. Hope everyone is doing well.

For those planning their weddings, how are things going?

I have been hit by the baking bug - poor Ah Boy is my guinea pig, has to try all the end products. So far he has not complained .. so much. Hahahaha.
 
Cuclainne,

You also kena baking bug, me too! been trying a new double chocolate marble cake recipe passed down by my aunt. plus trying out all the different kinds of cookies for raya.
 
Went for the growth scan this morning - fastest appointment time yet, we were impressed! Hahahaha. Anyways, am 27+ weeks now and Peanut weighs about 1kg. She is still relatively small but the sonographer said that everything is ok, give her the remaining weeks to grow. We saw her drinking the fluid (her mouth was moving so much) - she might grow up very talkative like her father. Hahahaha! She also waved to us which really made our day.

Ally, ya lor - I've also started visiting the library again but this time, to borrow baking books and copying the recipes. Heheeheh. Trying to make different sorts of biscuits and cakes - if they turn out any good, i might consider making more for hari raya. Heheheheh .. your kids must love it ah .. having a lot of goodies to test now .. hahahaha.
 
Cuclainne,

Oooh, tats so exciting. I've always look forward to scans during my prv pregnancies. It's a miracle how little one lived inside 'there'.

My kids are enjoying their cookies and all.. but the mess that i made...OMG! hubby can just shake his head...haha!!
 
Hey ladies....just read your posts. The wedding dinner plus the lunch will be entirely funded by the two of us. Cos we refuse to use our parents hard earned money...better for them to save for retirement. Initially his parents wanted to have it at the Raffles Townclub. We did tell them it wouldn't be cheap but they still insisted on finding out themselves. Cos one of their frens is a member and they think the preferred member rates would be cheaper than rental for a CC. So now they know the price is not as cheap as they think it'll be plus outside caterers are not allowed. So thats one closed chapter.

Now I've got another prob. Initially we wanted to hold our combined Sunday lunch at Bishan CC cos it's centralised. But his parents want to have it at Woodlands CC...which is too far away for my side of the relatives. Plus I do not want my mom to think I'm leaning towards pleasing his side of the family. So Bishan CC it WAS gonna be. Plus I sourced this great caterers...good food...very reasonable price. And I tot ok..thats settled. But heck....just my luck. The caterers would not do functions held at a CC cos of the time restrictions for setting up and cleaning up and so on. They do not want any cock ups to happen. But we all like his cooking and style of managing things...very straightforward, honest and he delivers what he promise.(I know cos one of my relatives engaged him b4) So now....I'm left with two choices.

A) Stick wif this caterer and find a function area / void deck.

OR

B) Find another caterer and go ahead with the CC.

The difficulty with choice A is finding the void deck / function area. He stays in Wdlands..too far away for my side. My place is centralised..I stay near Tekka market..BUT no void deck. Sigh. plus his mom is leaning towards having it at their place..which I think is not fair for my mom. HUGE HEADACHE!

Choice B....any caterers to recommend?



Sorry for long winded story.....hehe.
 
Hello Girls! Posting from Florence. Meraj packing our bag and we're leaving for London again tomorrow. Then another 4 days before we leave for Singapore - not something we are looking forward to! Bleh.

Raf, perhaps you can look into having his side of the family book the void deck near the CC where the caterers can cook. But the problem would be transporting the food to the CC, if they are open to that at all.

Cuclainne & Ally, wah wah wah.....must let me try the cookies and the cakes ah.... Wah..speaking of Raya, this year, I will be so relaxed cos' of the flat reno and all. We are not sending any baju for tailoring cos' wearing the purple one we made for the photoshoot.
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Ally, how i wish i had a bigger kitchen. currently it's just big enough for the two of us - when the baby comes, all my baking stuff will have to go off the counter to make way for steriliser, etc. hahahaha .. priority change huh ..

Raf, sounds like a dilemma for you. Yes, though CC is convenient, they have restrictions on caterers cos they don't want any damages ..

Marnie, we're beginning to miss you. Hope you're having a good time on your holidays - must show us photos yah!!

Btw, the doctor told me to be careful. Had difficult putting on weight during initial stages of pregnancy but at last check-up, I've put on 10kgs. Hahahaha. I can't help it .. want to eat, eat, eat all the time now.
 
We got stuck in Rome and took a long detour via Paris on the Eurostar and lost 2 days in transit to London. We are at Heathrow now on our way back to Singapore. So much drama at the airport. Bleh..Hope I survive the 13 hour flight with me being ill. All in all though we had a super time!
 
Hey Raf, i would also vote for Choice B leh. A couple of gd ones...will be Istana (Marnie's), and most probs i will use Putri Wedding. If u're interested i can recommend u to them. They're quite pro leh and food is gd. They did it for my bf kakak's wedding. ahaha..when's ur AD?

Yea man Marnie: hope all is well! Hahaha...
 
Hi Cuclainne: Oh me ah...am gonna go meet some malay BS to collect quotes 1st b4 i go war wif Z Wedding. haha;...need to show her how much more diff i'm facing and see if she can compromise on smthing. Any malay BS recommendations? I'm thinking of going to Inai & RH Bridal for now...but need to find out where the location is at. haha..
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Isn't RH Bridal close to Joo Chiat Complex? I think Zul Radi is also there. I'm not sure where Inai is but don't go to Padi - the service is not very good. Oh yah hor - I was supposed to give you the contacts for the BS. Ok I will try to remember - you must remind me also la.
 
Oh! okok...icic..IC told me tt too. haha...yea i will need the contacts..am taking leave on Fri to go and run these errands. Can u try to gimme by tmr Cuclainne?

Thanks in advance!
 
Huichin, RH Bridal at Joo Chiat is more often than not, closed. So they will recommend you to go to the one on Arab Street. Inai is on Jalan Klapa - one of those streets opposite the Sultan Mosque (aroun Arab Street).

And if I not mistaken, like what Cuclainne mentioned, Zul Radi is along Joo Chiat.
 
marnie,
Are you back in singapore??!!!?

huichin,
Wah..taking leave to do such things. Envy you. Miss those moments.. Actually i miss the "free time".
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IC, yup. I'm back in Singapore already. Our Qantas flight from Heathrow got delayed at Heathrow. So we got 3 hours later than original on Monday night. Tuesday went to work already. Today is my 2nd day at work. Not too bad cos' slowly throwing the files off my table already.
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Now, I'm looking forward to getting the keys to the flat this Friday - YIPPEEEEEE!
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Hui Chin, ok - will give these to you by this evening so you can do the necessary tomorrow yah. Go to war - sounds sooooo serious la!!
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Marnie, you're back - how was it? Alamak - how can you be talking about work so soon? Tell us more about your trip la!
 
Cuclainne, we did the touristy stuff in Rome and Florence visiting the museums and the Vatican/Sistine Chapel. In awe of the artworks!

Italy though is very polluted and dirty and anyone in uniform tends to have this really authoritive body language that no one dares question. The guy at immigration threw my passport across the table at me and I yelled back at the guy (so much for first impression! Bleah) And though we made great friends with a few Italians most are very loud and pretty rude. You need to be street smart in Italy to get ahead so we smartened up within an hour of stepping onto Rome. We had a day trip out to Naples and Pompeii (got so tanned from the trip!)

Florence is beautiful on the whole! All cobbled roads and such. They have much better museums and though not much to offer in terms of roman relics, they make it up for the artists commune. Leonardo Da Vinci and most other artists are buried in Florence so we visited their graves.

We just walked around, ate and shopped in London. Never did the touristy stuff there except go up on the London Eye.
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Our brief 6 hour stop-over in Paris convinced me to return, perhaps next year. The people are much friendlier and cleaner!
 
Perhaps that's why Ah Boy didn't like the idea of going to Italy, Marnie. His friend was there for a few months to learn Italian and probably shared the experience with him - enough to turn him off, perhaps.

But Florence sounds great - glad that you two enjoyed yourselves.
 
marnie,
Yeah..my hubby said so too when he had to travel there for work. No wonder he don't like to go angmoh country. But he said London & paris ok. Though expensive. Told me the beer in london cost even cheaper than buying mineral water bottle.
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Anyway, glad you enjoy yourself! I think with your remarks & my hubby's remarks, if i never got the chance to visit that country also nevermind lah!

I also can't wait for this friday leh. End of the weekdays!
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cuclainne,
How are you ah??? How's your baby???
 
ic, that is true. That's why when we were in London and Belfast (N. Ireland), we spent more time in the pub!! Hahahahah! Luckily we stayed with a friend so we saved a lot of money on accommodation.

Me ah - doing ok. Wah - I gained 10 kgs leh in total, can you believe it? Alamak - when I told Ah Boy that I weigh more than him now, he was almost laughing! Baby is doing well - she's almost 1 kg now and very very active at the wrong times (like when I'm about to sleep - sigh - or doing other things .. hehehehehe). How have you been?
 
Halo alo Marnie! Welcome bk! Must show us pics! hahaaaa...
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Ok then i think Arab st is the hot area...heh...can i just walk in or must call to make apptmt?

Oh and congrats Marnie! So exciting!! hehee....once get the keys..whoaaaa....shioker-doos!!!

Cuclainne: Thks in advance! hehe...Yea loh..have to say go to war...cos she refuse to agree to go outsource for us for the baju melayu...so sad! I met her up twice aredy..she keep asking us to go buy from malaysia...then after used aredy (if too glam to use for any other occasion) - ask us to sell to other malay bs! whadda hell...no guarranty one...eeeiikkkss...am going crazy...
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Btw how's lil' peanut? hehee...how old aredy ah..?
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huchinz,
One thing for sure, chinese bs, malay baju not nice. Another thing, i never came across a chinese bs that is willing to MTM a malay gown. A cheongsam or lookalike cheongsam WG got..but not malay. And for sure they don't do sourcing dear. Z wedding should be under the chinese bs category? Why not fight for something else rather than fight for something you know only got 20% winning? For eg, can use this to say that since she promise you before you sign up and now after signing up, different story, then compensate in terms of other things.. try to ask for something you know they can manage. Like more flower bouquets, or another free suit for groom etc. Hmm, but you can try the effort to fight for that 20% winning lah... but once you know coming to 0%, then use another alternative like what i suggested?
 
IC: I must agree wif u their usual malay baju not very nice. lol. But I dun want any other FREE things in this case. WHat's the point? I dun wanna fight for extra things that i dun really need. And i only need 1 MTM gown, and they have two. I dun have the extra time & chance to use oso. Dats y. I dun care whether they do sourcing or whatever. My only concern now is that i must get at least one of the two malay baju from the BS rather than me forking out more money to rent or buy SOME MORE. Would they rather just earn my 1k, or earn 2k plus more frm me(my package is 3k plus)? It's either they revise the package or WOrse come to worse i'll forfeit the 1k loh. But it really shows how 'GOOD' and inflexible they are. Imagine what i can do wif my freakin 1k. Sighs
 
huichin
up to you lor... then just ry to negotiate. What i'm afraid, that end product may not be as nice or as what you want. Sometimes they can promise, the sun, the moon, the earth..but at the end of the day, sometimes product doesn't worth the money. Anyway, just be prepared for the worselah.
 
IC: Yea i will. I hope to negotiate wif a gd solution. Cos end of the day, i will still need to 'work' hand-in-hand wif one another for the big day rite? Lol...wish me luck man..

Hey Cuclainne, remember to mail me the list of BS k! I just checked my email..but nothin yet...lol
 

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