Any Mixed Marriages here? Esp Chinese-Malay Muslim couple

[hpyue]

Interrace..
Hey.. congrats to you too yeah, so the 3rd of sept is the Nika and AD together ?Yeah man solat class very important, I failed my first evalution becoz I didnt know is a must to attend yeah.. you have to recite infront of the tester. my pakage come with 3 sets of costumes and 2 hair dos but mine pakage is actually for two full days, but mine is only one, wonder they can code me cheaper or not.. hehehe..

Marnie..
Is okay no worries.. Hey.. let me know if your are meeting up soon yeah, I will be away to malaysia tomorrow till next tues, got to attend my Hubby's cousin wedding.. Oh well.. this trip can be fun as i can eat but whole of the jounery again I will not understand what they talking as I do not know malay.. imagine whole bus booked by his family... sad !! I am the only chinese.. can anyone of you speaks malay ??

 

[marnie]

Huichin: I am okay anytime next week after work. Let me know the time and place....

Elaine: I got one package from Royal Classic. They have the following things in their package A:-

Dekorasi A ($1650) 1) Pelamin 12 kaki
2) Wedding Dais 12 by 8 feet
3) Wall and ceiling deco
4) Bride/groom table deco/centrepiece
5) Cake table deco
6) Skirting for guest tables (20 to 25 round tables)
7) Skirting for the buffet line
8) Pintu gerbang
9) Carpet (in line with the colour theme)
10) Fresh flowers for the bride/groom table
11) Fresh flowers for the guests tables
12) Fresh flowers for (in front of the wedding dais)
13) 150 chair covers
14) 4 pillars with flowers.

I am directly translating from Malay..

Last time I checked, it's S$1,650.00. Call Madam Maznah (Hp: 9842 2451) or Mr Rahman (Hp: 9857 8334) or email : [email protected]

Sorry girls for the loooong post. Too brain dead to think now. I'll catch up with you again tomorrow!

Elaine: Have a safe trip there and back! See you in a few days.

 

[interrace]

Hi Ally,

Childcare, so u got dip. in early childhood? actually i was thinking of gg into childcare and teach littles ones also, but me dun have the dip in early childhood, so very unlikely pple will choose me.
Maybe if ur side ever need help, just give me a buzz ? dun mind volunteering..i love children!!!
Me dun mind any part of SG loh ...cos SG very small after all, can meet anywhere.
Huichin may like to sugguest time and place then we can all meet there?

Hi Elaine,
Tks for the pointers..me learning from my FH how to recite the shahadah.me dun noe malay also, everytime go their place..also just smile and listening without understanding what they were saying.haha.lazy to learn.ur package very reasonable leh, 3 outfits...only 880,can try to bargain with them abt the two days combine into one day issue.
maybe i will go down inai to have a look.Yup my romm and AD the same day.

Next wk okie with me.Tks Huichin for organizing!!

 

[takahara]

HI Interrace,

Yup, I have dip in early chdhood. U like children? Mayb if I need ur help..I would consider hor..hehehe..

HuiChin,

Juz let us know the time and place. Im ok with next week too. But I think Elaine will be gg to Malaysia till Tues. Mayb anytime after Tues lor.

Ladies,

It would be advisable to learn simple malay..especially to converse with ur MILs. If not sure kena hamtam like nobody biz..If she were to do it in front of ur face n u dun understand a single word she says..siong..can juz smile only..

 

[icechoco]

Ally,
You got childcare? Do you have whole day playgroup? I was thinking of sending my son when he reach the age. Coz, right now i'm having problem who to look after my son. Options in mind: 1. Babysitter or 2. Maid. Infant-care out of the qns coz it's expensive. But you know..it's hard to find muslim babysitter. And oklah..i can be choosy. I don't want anyhow those malay babysitters..i kinda do a check on their background. Coz, after all, my son will be taken care by them the whole day. So far, i also know not many muslim childcares(those that do whole day). I only can think of wonderkids & americare. What's your childcare? Do you also teach religious studies in your childcare on top of the normal curriculum?

Hey, i agree with you Ally about need to learn malay. You never know if those MIL talking bad about you especially right in front of you. It helps a lot when i can understand chinese. Hahah.. I actually knew those old ppl were talking bad about me right in front of me! Until my hubby go break news that i can understand mandarin. Damn! Then those 2 old ppl smart, speak teochew dialect. Hai!

 

[takahara]

Hi Ic,

Mine is not a religious based childcare centre. Cos my partner is Chinese - its a secular one. No specific religion taught but rest assure food is all from Halal sources. I do have whole day playgroup classes. My centre is situated in Jln Juroung Kechil - playschool childcare centre. Its playbased plus montessori integrated school. Im mostly in charge of the operations lar. U staying around which area?Mayb I could recommend u some..I do have frens who are muslim n opening their own childcare centres.

Its true lar..when I first married to my hubby, even though I took up Malay as 2nd language - its really hopeless..less than half past 6 malay. Mostly at home im conversing in English n mandarin. So I got a big prob understanding my MIL. But I got my fair share of rebuttal also lah. Whenever my sis/cousin come by to my place..I would speak in mandarin with them n talk about my MIL in front of her cos she wouldnt understand wat I'm talking about...HEHEHE..noti hor!

 

[interrace]

Hi Ally,

Can u tell me where did u study for ur early childhood diploma?
How much does it cost ? I will like to take it up too, if that means i can work in childcare in the near future.. tks in advance.

 

[takahara]

Interrace,

I studied at KinderWorld Education Centre but there are other agencies that u can take up course up. I will be doing lecturing work there also. Now most agencies have SRP programme, whereby u only pay 10 - 20% of the actual amount. Full dip cost $7k plus

 

[hpyue]

Hi gals...

This will be my last post till next tues or wed.. thanks Marnie for the info of the decor, will check it out when I am back. Take care and have a great weekend..
good luck for my trip as this is my first time going away with his family, abit stress lei, got to wake up early to pray too I guess, my hubby already pack the prayer mat and barang barang for me to follow them, I never even pray since convert man, this time really a big task for me.

Ally..
Maybe I would like to ask your advise of the prayers when I am back on line next week ya.. was told to pray 5 times a day, but my work place are all chinese, how to pray during lunch and if I am out at nights, how to make it up ?? I did ask the teacher during my Solat lesson, they insist must pray must pray .. sigh ...

 

[icechoco]

Hi Ally,
Wah..in Jurong? i'm actually staying in the east. That's why i only know Wonderkids & Americare. Not sure about Wonderkids. But i know Americare does teach secular + religious studies as well. You know anymore in the east or sengkang/punggol area?

Elaine,
Good luck. Actually no such things as make it up. Once missed, missed. If your office got some small private corner, can pray there. Or during lunch, if your office near mosque, can also pray there. Which area do you work? I know in Raffles place, there is a mosque underground, one of the buildings. (never pray there though - but hubby told me). Orchard - opposite Paragon.

 

[interrace]

Hi Ally,

Tks for the info...7k very steep for me leh.
Maybe will find out more, what do u mean by 10-20% huh? means 7k is already much lesser than the original price huh?

Dear Gals,
Ytd i went to Fatimah Monsin for the 3rd time, to look at their dresses before signing up with them , however the attitude that i was given for the 3 times i was down there wasnt pleasant.They were not friendly at all, have those yaya type of attitude(dun blame them cos they really have very nice costumes).My FH was very fed up with their 'high class attitude' , thus even though we find the package within our budget and i love the dresses, i WILL NOT BE signing up with them.
Quite bad experience loh , think they should change their service attitude but think they make more than enuff $$ to not value customers by providing good services loh.i been to 3 bridal gallery so far, fatimah is the one who got the most unfriendly and not interested in my business attitude. maybe due to their business too good liaoz. so sad ..

Thus, will be looking ard for other bridal gallery.Any recommendations other than inai gallery which elaine had signed up with? (will take a look at Inai one day).

Tk you all for listening to my complaints..haha...

 

[marnie]

Interrace: No worries. That was the attitude I got too when I got to FAtimah Mohsin. I went to the extent of whipping out my Amex (and as usual they don't take cards!) and decided against signing up with them and also giving them a piece of my mind. Bleh. They really need to change their attitudes.

Another one you can try is Anggun Andaman. Their charges are not too bad. And dresses are modern too (comparable to Fatimah Mohsin). Give it a go - nothing to lose. You have your consumer rights.

 

[takahara]

Hi IC,

I had a fren who opened a childcare in Frankel Ave. It's a muslim childcare - Yasmin (if i get the name of the childcare correctly) I try to get the details for u.

Interrace,

7k is the price of the Dip b4 any subsidize from the govt. After getting the subsidy, u will only need to pay 10 - 20% which sums up to $1.5 k - $2k (fees + reg + library fees).

Anyway, regarding the bridal gallery, u still have time to look around. Better go to one that u r comfortable with n price muz b reasonable also lah.

Elaine,

During ofc hours, abit difficult to pray. So I normally, make-up after I reach home..hehehe..at times also miss one (paisay..paisay!!)Anyway, I usually use perfume with alcohol-based..so quite diff to do prayers while working. In town - I knew there's Al-Falah beside Paragon. Shenton Way - not really so sure. But if ur ofc's meeting room is usually empty n clean, u can ask permission from ur superior or the HR whether u can do ur prayers in there.

 

[icechoco]

Ally,
Americare used to be situated at Frankel Ave. Now they moved to err.. forgot that road, somewhere in Joo chiat. Those bungalow house. Hmm..so the childcare name is Yasmin? Do you have a list of all the muslim childcares? I wished they advertised in Yellow pages!! You know its so hard to know all the muslim childcares available especially those that have whole day. I always have to ask around here & there. It's like their childcare is spread through word of mouth instead. Actually hor, how i wish MUIS can actually compile a list of muslim childcares available just like how they compile a list of halal foods in singapore. Life is so much easier..
Marnie,
Where is anggun andaman situated?
Interrace,
one of my cousin signed up with Inai. The photos are beautiful and so were the costumes + make up. Not bad. http://www.inai.com.sg

 

[marnie]

IC: Anggun Andaman is on North Bridge Road. somewhere near Arab Street....Speaking of which long time I never go there...My fingers are itching to touch the fabrics!

 

[interrace]

Hi Marnie,

Feel so comfort to hear someone else also feel the same abt Fatimah, wonder how come their biz still so good despite the lowly service attitude.
so funny that u flashed out ur Amex.hee..
Do u have the fone no. for anggun ? or they have website ?

Hi Ally,
For me, i am more particular abt the type of clothes that they have, for my FH is the service and the relatability. Thus we have to compromise, hope can find one which have these factors.tks...why will govt susidise the course ? how to apply for that susidy ?

Hi Ic,
Tks for the recommendation, my FH's cousin was with them too, when she had her wedding last yr, will drop by and take a look.

Have a great wkend gals!!

 

[marnie]

Interrace: Anggun Andaman's website is www.anggunandaman.com Contact no. is 6334 4045. Try to contact them. Don't be put off by the price packages on their website, you can talk to them and find out more.

Zul Radi Bridal is another modern malay bridal. A guy owns the place but he's darn good at designing the dresses. Go to www.zulradibridal.com

Also try www.maniqbride.com

Let us know how the recce went ok?

Now I need to go through my file for Elaine's deco packages before she returns on Wednesday or I'm in deep trouble....

Catch up with you girls later!

 

[huichin]

Wow...hey girls! Thanks so much for the useful info! Me wont be doing the 'signing-up' for now, not so soon, but i will definitely keep these contacts and URLs so i can use them for references in the very near future! Cos me and my bf have aGreed to doing up the 'research and bridal shop visit and food tasting in coming Dec. Cos by that time, we will have at least some $$ to pay up for deposits should we sign up the vendors/shops' services. Heh...

Anyway, how abt meeting up next week, say Wednesday or Friday? Thur i will have to confirm again cos i might be going to celebrate (its my bday lah ) wif either family or my bf. So get back to u guys abt this particular day soon k.

Abt the meeting place, how abt somewhere in orchard? But have to think of a nice cosy place for dinner and chit chatting, unless we wanna have dinner, then go somewhere for a drink like Coffee Bean, cafes etc. Swensens beside Paragon? Sakura at Far East? Any particular place to recommend or preferred? HOpe u girls can gimme some suggestions b4 we settle for somewhere. heh...help me lah...

Btw, hope we can arrange a time like 7-7.15pm. Who's coming and who can make it? Kindly post a msg to indicate so i can liase and do a headcount. heheh...

 

[takahara]

Hi huichin,

Happy Birthday!! (in advance)..hehe..how old ah?

As for the meet-up, I'm ok with the timing (7 - 7.15)..mayb on Fri? I'm not sure with the rest..cos Wed, I'm got meeting lar..

At tat timing, usually dinner lah..mayb Swensen's would be nice..I was thinking of Coffee Club Express at Taka..(but non-halal..)

 

[icechoco]

hi marnie,
you tempting melah! now feel like having a 2nd photoshoot but this time with malay bridal studio! hahahahha

huichin,
Happy birthday!

Ladies,
how i wish can join you all..hai, but no one to look after my baby. Sigh..maybe next time.

 

[marnie]

IC: You can always go for a photoshoot again. This time with your adorable baby lah!

Huichin: Did I hear Swensens??? *YUMMY* The Swensens at Funan though is better cos' we don't have to queue up. I'm freee.....(of course I'm free cos' I hear got food...*

). Any day is okay for me next week.

Oh..and happy birthday in advance...Getting older...but wiser too, I'm sure.

 

[takahara]

Morning ladies!!!

IC,

too bad u can't make it..mayb next time ya?

Marnie,

u big fan of Swensens? Me too!! Anyway, ya lar, I agree with IC..reading ur postings of the different BS..Aiya..so jealous u know..make me feel of getting another bridal photoshot..hehehe. Looking asa third party, the bridal shoot seems fun but in actual fact..very tiring!!

 

[marnie]

Ally: Aiyoh...you see my "cute" size...then you know that I am a very BIG fan of Swensens...

Love their apple crumble...

Anyways, I heard from my friends photoshoot is very tiring. Did you have yours studio and outdoor? Meraj and I are taking studio and outdoors. Just wondering whether they will split the two into 2 different days or just one day.

 

[huichin]

Hahaha...

Ally: THanks! I'm 24 yrs old. Sob. heh...ok i'm actually fine wif either one, Swensen or CCE.

IC: Thanks too! Nevermind, U can always meet us up another time

Marnie: Thanks too! Heh...Yes, Swensen's for now. And i think Swensen's at Funan is great idea. I dun like getting older! heh...

haha..marnie, u guys will be shocked to see me too! Haha...but trying to shed my excess kilos..lol

Anywayz, How about fixing Friday for now? ANyone has to meet up with anyone for other appmts? heh...if not, our meet up will include:

1)Ally
2)Marnie
3)HuiChin

Anyone else?

 

[takahara]

Huichin,

sigh..24..very young liao lah..Atleast younger than me..hehe..So we r meeting at Swensens Funan or Paragon? Aiya..not too worry lah..size does not matter as long our hubbies love us enuff liao! Me also..after two kids..kinda ballooned up a little bit. But heck..once a while treat..never mind lah!

Calling For Interrace ..U on bo?

Marnie,

For my chinese wedding photoshoot, have both indoor n outdoor. All in one day! Can u imagine from 8 am to 9.30 pm..aiya!! my cheeks trembling by evening liao! Somemore my outdoor shoot taken at a kelong (beach) area..wah biang! my wedding gown stink of fish smell lar! For my malay wedding phooshoot was taken in a spate of 3 days. Not too bad ..but still very tiring!

Mayb I bring some photos for u all to c? Hehe.but stale liao lah..7 years back hor!

 

[interrace]

Hi Marnie,

Tks for the link, called up Anggun, their package 1k+ ,out of my range, so will check out on the others..tks though..

erm, friday i dun noe can make it or not, cos actually i was gg to try on my PS gown in JB but not confirmed yet..can i confirmed by tomolo or wed...actually was supposed to go next fri one..but hor last min. cannot make it also ..haiz...hope can meet u gals..let me confirmed with my FH ..

Btw, Happy Birthday in advance HuiChin..24 only still very young ...no one likes to grow old..but we got to enjoy the richness of maturity as we aged..haha..

Think you are the youngest here ? so be comforted yo..

 

[takahara]

Err..Huichin/ Marnie,

My meeting on Wed kena cancel..so also can go on that day..juz for your info only lar..

 

[huichin]

Hi Ally...hehe...so i'm da lucky one! lol...ok so we confirm here - meeting up on Wednesday (maybe Interrace can?) at 7.15pm at Cityhall MRT Control Station. Onz?

THanks, Interrace! hehe...ok la..i have to be satisfied that i'm da youngest, but definitely da biggest of all loh! SObsob...my losing weight must go on! Help me jia you jia you k! hehe...

Now on da list for meet up:
1)Ally
2)Marnie
3)HuiChin
4)Jamie aka Interrace (dun scold me for revealing ur name k!)

Let's confirm again tmr? And btw we need to have some 'indication' - like a certain bag or clothes pattern flower - for our identification! hehe...more fun mah...heh...

ok girls? So now, I have to have u girls' contact no. so i can get hold of u. But not here la, of course. HOpe we can still interact here after we get each other's contacts k! heheh...

email me at: [email protected]

Hope to see u soon!

 

[marnie]

Huichin: I think we wait till tomorrow to confirm. I think Elaine is interested to meet up. She wanted to ask Ally and/or IC on some prayers. So we confirm tomorrow lah ok??

SOOOO exciting!!! But hor, Huichin, don't be too sure about the size though...Me can be your toughest contender...

But in any case, we're cute lah...

 

[huichin]

Hey Marnie:

of course can confirm tmr! hehe...i just wanted to confirm the people going...heh...paiseh...type 'shortcut' style...solly!

okok...gd gd that Elaine may be joining us! Tentatively fix on this Wednesday k! hehe...

haha...cute - thAT's a nice way to say abt me! lol...hehe...but i wanna be normal size!

 

[interrace]

U gals hor..say size cute and normal size..am sure u are all the beautiful sizes in ur FH eyes...so dun worry abt what everyone else thinks k?

Ally,
dun mind, can bring along ur children pics lah, ur bridal shots and stuff to show us ? keke...pai sey me just curious to see loh ..if too heavy or not convienent then is okie ..

me wed okie..friday definately cannot liaoz..hope elaine and ic also can join ...

HuiChin!!! blew my disguise...

anyway, me thinking of using muslim name ...what do u gals think of jameelah ? cos very close to my present xtian name.sound like maid bo ?

 

[marnie]

Interrace: Can I just know what your proposed name "Jameelah" mean? *being kaypo again*

Huichin: Me okay on either day. Swensen's here we come!!

 

[icechoco]

Ally,
hahah..you NOT that old lah!

Only 3 yrs older than Huichin. Any ladies here less than 30, i don't consider old yet. hahah.. All around the 20s. Just that you OLD in marriage life!

Argh! You bringing your photos! Oi.. next time i come for gathering, you have to bring again for me to see, ok!

Interrace,
You mean Jamilah?? don't sound like maid. Maid don't have such names. But sound very aunty

Marnie..in muslim means pretty.

 

[marnie]

IC: Don't say like that leh..I'm 30 already.....So does that count me old?? *gasp* I will feel like a mother hen at the outing..

Eh "Jamilah" means pretty - thanks IC. I do have to second IC - it does sound a lil' auntie and old fashioned, Interrace.

 

[huichin]

lol...

hey girls, I realise now age's not an issue here anymore! Cos we're all here to share our thoughts, experiences and opinions! hehee...btw, i din expect Ally to be sooo young and experienced! lol

Hey ic, dun worry! we'll update you what happened on our very 1st outing k! lol...

Interrace, I must agree wif both ic and Marnie...how abt Jamelia? Any meaning in muslim 'dictionary'? hehe...Ally, i hope to see ur pix albums too!

Sistas, dun forget to email me ur contact no.s! hehe...

See ya girls soon. Btw i aredy have urs, Interrace. So, no need to email liaoz.

PS: 2nd confirmation, Wed - meet up for now. 7.15pm at Cityhall MRT Ctrl Station.

 

[marnie]

Um, just a thought. Cityhall MRT station always sooo crowded. You think it'll be better if we were to meet in a less crowded area?

I just dread that we all go round and round trying to find one another.

 

[takahara]

Hei..hei...

Guess I miss all the fun today..So bz at work and somemore got nite class..now then can have a breather..

Interrace,
err..i think the name jamilah..abit old fashion lar..sorry..juz my thots. Okie...cant bring my whole album though..SOOOO heavy!!

Huichin,

agreed with Marnie, meeting up at City Hall MRT abit crowded lar..but..its the most convenient place to meet..

Marnie,
30 not old lar....still quite ok..anyway..I like the way u put it to Huichin. Becoming her contender. hehehe..

IC,

alamak..where got experienced...marriage is an everyday learning exp..no classic "open textbook" case.

Eh, gals..

y not we bring something to identify ourselves..like huichin says..mayb a stalk of white rose?

Okie..guys give u a little preview of my stale wedding photo n my kiddies..

 

[icechoco]

huichin,
Jamelia no meaning lah. Actually though, need to check on the spelling. Coz muslim names, their alphabets are not those Roman alphabets. Actually use Jawi(arabic). For eg. chinese surname 'Teo', it's hard to translate to Jawi coz don't have such alphabet character. That's why we decided not to have chinese names for our baby. Had a hard time translating even though we already have one in mind. Coz, i include jawi characters in my child's birthcert and next time they go religious classes, they need to write their name in jawi. Yah! better update me on the outing.

Marnie,
Mother hen usually 40 and above lah!

Ok..correction, i should say i consider still young for ladies <= to 30

Ally,
Oklah. Won't tease you already. But looks like you "OPEN TEXTBOOK" already! Got preview somemore.

Which malay bs &amp; chinese bs you use? Your daughter look more like you overall and your son look more like your hubby. Hey...your hubby seems familiar.

Err ladies...carrying stalk of white rose like very drama. I think identifying by clothes colour not too drama + got hp. heheh...just my opinion though i can't be there. Just being KPO.

 

[icechoco]

Ally,
Do you read motherhood? This month section of Family &amp; career portrays the wayan retreat boss. she married a chinese hubby. I was curious to see the boss. Very pretty lady and brave to quit her accountancy job to do spa business.

 

[interrace]

Dear All,

Thank you for the comments on the proposed muslim name, the spelling i saw from website is Jameelah means pretty.haha...but the reason why i pick this cos is a sort of direct translation from my current name jamie, next time will intro as jamie-lah ..something like that,however since it does sounds abit aunty , maybe will look up at other name then.
Any good muslim name website to intro?

Ally,
u look so pretty and young, u 3 yrs older than huichin means u born in yr 1978? if so then we same age leh, but u more experience in marriage life and u got married so young then...so good...ur kids look so cute...esp ur gal in bikini.hee..

Hi Marnie,
i went down to Zul Radi Bridal ytd and signed with them liaoz, apparently they got 9 couples on that same wedding day as mine, think i was the last couple to get signed.Their dresses very nice, better than inai's one, but inai's service very good, so for those who like traditional costumes, inai have got a good range though they do have few new modern designs as well.

 

[charsiew_rice]

Morning all

I got this link through ic, thanks.

I am a chinese and hb is malay, we have a 7mths+ wonderful bb gal.

Very much would like to read from the start of the thread, but too many, no time to read now.

If any ladies here would like to ask me abt our courtship, marriage prep, marriage life, etc, etc, feel free to ask. btw, we got married in jan 2003.

 

[interrace]

Hi CharsiewRice,

welcome to the thread!
Brief intro of myself since the threads are too many to read..me chinese marrying malay bf in sept.
presently busy with the preps, conversion class, new house and the norms.

congrats on ur new baby gal!! got pics to show?
so how's marriage life been ? think u can relate best with ally here(calling for ally) as she is also a mother of two ..

welkum welkum..

 

[charsiew_rice]

Hi Interrace.

Here is a picture of my baby gal Isabel.

Marriage life is good. To be frank, in a r/s like us, we gotta stand neutral, else sure kena left right centre from in laws and own parents. but i realise that i appreciate my culture very much after i got married.

 

[huichin]

OMG Ally! U look very good and young! hehe...i must agree wif ic again...ur hubby looks familiar man! hehe..

So nice of u, Charsiew Rice, and hi there! Congrats to ur bb gal too!

For me, I'm chinese, like Interrace wif a malay muslim BF. Planning to settle down next yr maybe Sep/Oct. Think i'm da one wif da least progress for now in my marriage preps....and i'm da youngest here...hehe

 

[huichin]

Charsiew Rice: Awww....ur bb is so sweet and chubby!!!

 

[charsiew_rice]

Huichin
How old r u?

Btw, just curious, what kind of ceremonies r u gals having? so exciting!

 

[interrace]

Hi charsiewRice,

isabel is so cuuuuuuteee...eee...!(isabel also one of the name i am looking at to name my future daughter..haha..)look like mommy or daddy? she look very chinese , but baby will change as they grow..congrats!! must be very happy taking care of her, so u did ur confinement with who? own mother or mother in law?
so how do u stand neutral? and what do u mean by appreciate ur culture? as in chinese culture or malay ? Will u be able to join us in our upcoming outin ? can bring isabel along ?
can i ask what's ur muslim name ? sorry for being so kpo ..just curious loh ...cos my FMIL doesnt seem to like my skin color very much.haha..

Me decide on jamelia...sounds nicer..tks huichin!
i found that it does exists in muslim name list..so problem solved.happy happy

 

[interrace]

Dear charsiewrice,

u should ask huichin how young she is....hee..

me having romm in the morning and lunchie in the afternoon.initally dun plan for lunchie, but FH side wanted, so compromise and enjoy the event.

 

[icechoco]

Hi charsiewRice,
Welcome!

Isabel cute! So look more like mummy or daddy? heheh... i'm also a mother already. Mother to a 2 mth old baby boy. Hmm, so 7mths already..have you been sending your baby gal or going to any classes with her so far? So far, i only went for infant massage class. Pretty good. Learn something. How about you? Ally is also a mother..already mother of 2. She the more "experienced" here in terms of motherhood. The rest of the gals still preparing for their wedding.

Interrace,
FMIL don't like your skin colour? I think not skin colour issue lah.. it's more whether you can adapt to their lifestyle. If you show you can, think should be no problem.

 

[charsiew_rice]

Interrace
Isabel looks 50% mummy and 50% daddy. yeah, she looks very chinese, 'coz hubby looks very chinese too. did confinement with my mother, 'coz in a way, i still do believe in chinese way of confinement method. with regards to standing neutral, i believe that the couple cannot be too much into own's culture, ie, i cannot be too chinese and hubby cannot be too malay... just do whatever we feel right 'coz either in laws will want us to follow their way. i appreciate chinese culture more and proud to be a chinese. if time allows, i would like to join u all for outings. Can bring Isabel along, but with baby, more troublesome. My Muslim name is Shamim. by the way, just to let you know, i still retain my dialect name. IC is read as "dialect name" @ Shamim Wong. i m happy to answer your questions. my MIL not very pro-chinese, she still don't want to say Isabel looks chinese, just say she's fair.

Jamelia sounds authentic! very nice.

My wedding day started like this (sorry, very much wanted to tell before u all asked):

- hubby came and fetched me from mother's place (chinese style). we wore western style.
- tea ceremony.
- went to hotel to change for ROMM.
- went for ROMM.
- back to IL's place for buffet lunch (simple one, no dais, nothing, just laid buffet table at corridor).
- went back to hotel.
- had chinese style halal dinner in fort canning.

it was very simple, no sweat 'coz weather quite good. i miss it so much!