Any Mixed Marriages here? Esp Chinese-Malay Muslim couple

Cuclainne : Wah.....soooo good to see you back....How's your time Ah Boy....
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Did everything you both wanted to??

Ally : Aiyah....you must take care....Fluids fluids! I think both you and I are taking turns to fall ill.....Weird..
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Today's another busy day for me, Girls. Gotta move again....and I haven't had breakfast. Feel like something drenched in oil later for lunch...
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Huichin : Come Monday..I will not be your neighbour on Shenton Way..Will miss you leh...
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Marnie, we didn't get to do much and at the end of his three weeks here, we were left wondering - why were we so laid back when he was here? Most of the time, we just watched movies, played games at the arcades and was generally being very lazy. Lol. I wished we had more time together but alas, it was time for him to go home. Sigh. I've never felt this sad before, when we've had to say our goodbyes. Don't know why though ...

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Cuclainne : Take heart...it was like that for me in the early stages of our relationship too.

It's good that you spent time with each other and not talk about the wedding. Feels much more relaxed and about you two, right?

Meraj will return on 6th - can't wait!! Then he'll be here for about 2 weeks...About time!!
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I miss him lor...
 
Yes, it was more relaxed for us this time. We didn't feel like we have a schedule to keep to and it was more fun. I must admit that it was a load off our shoulders, to not discuss about the wedding and just enjoy the time together.

And some good news.. Ah Boy just told me that he's heading to Paris for his third interview next week (the company is paying for it, so that must be good news, right?). So he might be on his way to working here as soon as December ... I can't wait!
 
Cuclainne : Yeah...I haven't seen him in a month already. He's in London to see and take care of his mom (who's undergoing dialysis).

Have tonnes to talk about and do before the year's out cos' we're now having a solemnisation at home plus the hantaran thingee. The guy actually suggested empty pint cartons of my favourite Ben & Jerry's ice-cream - if I could strangle him on the phone, I would!
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Not sure why we're changing our minds but since finding out Meraj's mom not making it to the ceremony, I just wanted to keep the values of the tradition in there....nothing "showy" or ostentious; just simple. Maybe my conscious wanting to keep the older generation a part of our wedding vis-a-vis Meraj's mom and my parents. But still toying with the idea of him giving me a cheque rather than cash money all displayed!
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Marnie, oh no! How is she?

Yes, I think for most parts we want to keep it as traditional as possible for the older folks .. to give face, so to speak. Perhaps I should ask Elias to display his credit cards instead ... lol. He actually was thinking of changing the money to Korean won (big digits la). Hahaha.
 
Cuclainne : To put it graphically, Meraj told me that his mom looks like she's been in a concentration camp. She has lost sooooo much weight since I last saw her! All started from food poisoning she had in Maryland, US and then it escalated and affected her kidneys. She's ok, though she's not eating much of anything...

Meraj is speaking to the council and public health people to have someone come in and check on her/things 3 times a week that she's taken medicine etc. I really don't like the way the council and public health works there but....*sigh*

RE. the Korean won. That may actually work....!
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That sounds terrible. Hmm .. if their council and public health people are anything like what has been reported in the news, why take the chance? Is it possible to hire a trustworthy caregiver to do that instead?

Well, I'll accept the Korean won but I'll refuse the Monopoly money!!!
 
Meraj and his brother are looking at a live-in caregiver too. Thing is his mom is fiercely independent and would rather only have someone look in than stay with her. It helps that she agreed to stay in this place solely for retirees so at least, she has some people her age to communicate with.

Speaking of Monopoly and board games, I'm thinking of one of the hantarans to him, be the Simpsons board game which I saw being sold in Robinsons some time back...should be fun!
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Heheheh ... they have the Singapore version of Monopoly, which we saw at Toys R Us. Ah Boy said I could get him that and he'll get me the Stockholm version. Lol. But we're not doing the hantaran thingy - my parents and I decided that it wasn't necessary. Save money for honeymoon la!
 
Ahh...yeah....honeymoon......Me going to Germany....wooo hoooo!
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I think enough money.....Sometimes, must use all kinds of connection and freebies.....
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Me and Ah Boy were discussing that it would be cool to visit Berlin cos he's never been there and I have relatives living in Hamburg.

Connection and freebies? Ooh la la!
 
That's cool! Hamburg is such a beautiful place what with the very old towns and stuff. I likey.
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We're going to watch a few of the Wold Cup soccer matches...getting freebie entrance and seats for that one. Not to happy about watching it but as long as I get free adidas stuff, I'm happy!
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Wah! You're so lucky, girl! Must be a lot of fun, especially if you're a soccer buff. I haven't watched the sport in years but my dad is a big fan. Ah Boy don't really fancy sports so much .. my idea of getting a workout is walking to the fridge and opening it. Lol
 
Cuclainne : My sentiments exactly!!
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Though hmm....now that you've brought it up, it'll be so much better for a mini fridge in the bedroom by my bed......
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Hey.......hope our banter didn't scare the rest of the girls away......
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Woo hoo...where's everyone?
 
Hahahah - I was actually discussing with FH about the possibility of having a mini fridge in the bedroom. Lol. We went window-shopping for household stuff when he was here and it was fun .. sigh .. just wish that we would know whether he's coming or not.
 
Cuclainne : How weird...One of the things Meraj and I like to do is go furniture-shopping (too!) though we don't have any house for the furniture (yet!). Hmmm.....just focus on the fun and future - it'll all be good. In time. Faith is a powerful thing.
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Girls, I'm claculating backwards the 150 days marriage registration thingee and yet again I'm confused! UUrrgghghhhh!
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Well it was fun - until it came time to test out the mattresses. So paiseh to lie down on the mattresses in the showroom right. Aiyah ..
 
Cuclainne : While we're "exchanging notes" on furniture and bed and mattresses, hmm.....i think I'll get the individual pocketed spring or something like that lah. Meraj is very picky with his mattress(!) I move around a lot whilst he can stay in one position through the night!
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Anyways, Girls, I can FINALLY buy the lace for my wedding dress. YIPPEE!!!
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and confirmed that the songket for the dinner reception will be blue. I was dying for maroon or purple though it was advised we may "blend in" with our wedding colours. Oh well. You win some you lose some.
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Marnie, we're quite picky too. We both prefer mattresses that are firm but not too hard. When we stayed at my friend's place in Ireland, she put two mattresses on the bed frame and that made it too soft that we just get 'devoured' by the mattresses. Lol. So we put one mattress on the floor, and guess who got to sleep on that one? ... Me la. Hmm, it's the opposite way for me. Ah Boy likes to invade my personal space (so used to sleeping alone so can move around more) whereas I will just toss and turn in my spot. Lol. I don't like my pillows to be too soft too. My neck needs the support. Lol.

Don't think I've asked you but what colours are you using for your theme?
 
Cuclainne : Firm but not too hard.....Meraj said the exact same thing!
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Will most likely shop for the mattress sometime December or so. It'll be fun then to test the mattresses in the show room....
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My wedding colours are red and golden yellow/orange. Have not smoothed out the kinks for the golden yellow/orange but will settle that by next month.
 
Marnie, your colours are nice! I haven't really decided though Ah Boy and I think that blue would be a nice colour. He doesn't want the colours pink or gold. Though sometimes when he annoys me, I think I should purposely choose one of those colours. Lol.
 
Cuclainne : Thanks! It's a very un-malay colour combo, so says my mom.
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But I like it.

Have a vision in both Meraj's and my heads and he's quite particular about the setting, I must say. He's one VERY involved groom-to-be.
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So lucky. At least the two of you already have a vision in mind, Marnie.

It's so difficult to get Ah Boy to say/ agree to anything - sure to have some different ideas than mine. And because he's away, I have to find out the information myself. Sigh, perhaps I should just arrange everything and send him an invite to just be present for his own wedding. Lol.
 
Oooppss!!Cuclainne, Marnie,

Seems that ur the only two in here..Sorry lah..last few days had been bz plus I'm recuperating from my viral fever n flu. Still coughing very badly..but tolerable lah.

Speaking of mattresses..I'm those who's willing to spend when it comes to sleeping comfort. Muz be also firm n with individual pocketed spring. Had invested on a Simmon's mattress. It's money well-invested for me! Good for nitely workout also!!! hehehe

Marnie

Very royal colours u're gonna have ya? Lucky for u, Meraj is so involved. I remembered when my time, my husband was so laid-back cos he was in Australia studying.. I got to do almost everything..Sigh..
 
Ally : YEAY!!! Welcome back girl! Glad you're feeling much better.
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Eh...what lah nightly workout. Censored lah...Got us anak daras in this thread you know....
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Ally : Royal ah...My mom said the colours are not malay leh..But she okay lah...She say as long as not black all over (my preference if possible) okay already.
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Meraj's cousins all say that I'm giving too much "power" to Meraj re. the wedding prep. Said that the wedding prep is usually a girl's thing and the only thing that Meraj needs to be involved with is paying for it!
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But so far, he's been really good with ideas. Just sometimes a bit too far out that I need to pull him back so that I can tie all the elements together for the wedding.

But preparing for wedding has been very fun!
 
muahahaha...whoa...girls! Got soo much to read and catch up on the posts! ahhaha...

whoa! toking abt honeymoon liao ah! sighs...me still a long wayy to go..esp. the saving money part! sob...most probs, think my AD will be pushed backwards to early 2007. Cos letting Fi's (aka my bf la) sista to go 1st, as she's also planning to get settled down by july 2006. heh...

So happy to hear tt things are in progress for Cuclainne and Marnie. heehe...soo...will be attending urs Marnie? heheehe......me takda malu!!!
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Elaine: hope u had enjoy ur holiday! haha....pics!!! any to give us see?? hehe...

Anywayz..let's meet up for the 'real' get-together!!! like never had the chance to leh...all like so rushing and all. Hehe...let's break our fasts together mid-Oct lah! Onz boh??

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Huichin : Do I hear food..and great company?? YEAY!!! I'm IN! Count me in!
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Nevermind-lah...good thing is that at least your FH already started to talk to you about your wedding. Good start right?
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Don't worry, I'll invite you and FH to our wedding.
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I'll "page" you Girls for your proper names and address...Actually, you Girls can PM me now your proper names and addresses so I can input and update my table.
 
Huichin & Cuclainne : My friend told me that the Malay Bridal fair this weekend is mainly focused on hari raya so only very few wedding service providers. Think you should wait for the next one (think in March next year).
 
Dearest gals...

How's everyone ?? I am back.. Koh samui really very nice.. just dont feel like coming back.. hahaha but I kana burnt. over tanned, and over cooked..
I had just send my wedding pics to your via email.. please check and let me know who receive and who not.. plus comments too ya.. thanks again
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Ally, I was thinking the same thing too especially since Ah Boy likes to stay up late, playing on his computer. I don't want him to disturb me when I'm already asleep. Hahaha... as for the nightly workout .. hmmm, what exactly do you mean?

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Hope you're beginning to feel better.

Marnie, I also wanted black. You remember the black dais at the Expo? I told my parents I wanted that - my mom was ok, but my dad said it's like I'm mourning at my own wedding. Lol. So back to the drawing board la.

Ya ya .. must invite us for your wedding ah. I will email you the details. Thanks for the info - I don't think i will be going for this fair anyways. I'm so sucked into finishing the jigsaw puzzle that Ah Boy got for me. Lol.

Hui Chin, I'm also on for the breaking of fast together with you ladies. Let me know when la. Don't worry - your time will come soon enough ah. What have you looked at, so far?


Elaine, welcome back. Nice to hear that you've enjoyed your honeymoon. Thanks for the link to your photos - they were very nice la. Did you like? By the way, you should let us have the group photo la ... nice way of remembering the nice day for all of us. Heheheh.

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Girls, I'm FINALLY an office resident on Robinson Road - all moved! Come Monday, I can relax a notch. *phew*

Elaine : Welcome back girl! I haven't seen the pictures cos' have been soo busy today didn't have time to check email. Will let you know if I got the link or not, k?

How do you like Koh Samui? You went Koh Samui right? *blur*

Cuclainne : It seems that your dad is less modern - unlike your mom, huh? My mom will hide me if I chose that nice loungey black pelamin.
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But it's nice lor....

Huichin : We have to count on you to be the chair-woman again to organise the meet up. Two weeks from now sounds good enough a plan, right?
 
Marnie...

Yes I went Koh Samui.. suntan untill very dark now.. hehe but hor my nose over cooked coz I felt alseep while tanning..hahahaha love that place so relaxing ya.. the beach was so nice and see alot of topless angmoh.. not jus one or two .. is like about 10 !!! goodness see until eye almost drop out..
Oh you no no get the link ?? i send you again
 
Marnie

What's ur email add? Me dun have leh..Ooopps, so sorry..forgot about the anak daras here..hehe..censored..censored..hehehe!!

Elaine

Nice pic u have..I like ur gold(??..correct me if I'm wrong) outfit..Glad u enjoyed ur honeymoon!!Share, share lah about the juicy topless issue..hahaha!!
 
Chin!

must tell me first when u wan to meet up k..Now must break fast at home, unless hubby is on afternoon shift..

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Nitely workouts ah?..Shhh...cannot say loud..loud leh..Marnie already said censored liao..anak daras cannot know!!
 
Ally : Never mind lah....the three anak daras on this thread very inquisitive one......especially so since finding out about Elaine's encounter with topless angmohs...Hmmm...
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Elaine : Yeah share share about that juicy topless angmoh encounter leh....
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Elaine & Ally : By the way, it's [email protected] - thanks dearies!
 
Thanks Elaine. Looking forward to meeting up with you again.

Ya la Marnie, I think my Dad is more old-fashioned la. He's concerned with what the guests might say. By the way that lady whom we spoke to (the owner) from Anggun Andaman is from the same kampong as my Dad so she recognised my mom.

Ally, hahaha. Ok ok must share when we're no longer anak daras ah.
 
Elaine,
Thanks for sharing your photos with me. By the way, you're such a lovely bride. Your wedding cake looks delicious & lovely!
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Ally, thanks. I got your email with your addy! I shall summon you early next year. Now just drawing up and finalising the guest list.

Aiyah.....nowadays in school got sex education...
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So now ah...I'm learning from you girls here lah....intermediate lessons....
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Muahahah!!

Marnie, Cuclainne,

I'm a preschool ed teacher - not a sex ed teacher..me underqualified for the latter subject wor!! Still undergg training?

hehehe!!
 
Cuclainne & Huichin : Thanks for your details. Me adding the details to my Excel worksheet liao.

Ally : Nevermind lah...You can teach us "underground"..like you know in Afghanistan, they opened an "underground" school for girls/women.

So you Sex101 is kinda like that lah...
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IC : Good to see you back after the weekend. PM me your details so I can saman you next year?
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Elaine : Finally got to see your pictures! Wow wee....your wedding pictures beautiful leh.....but where is the pictures of your honeymoon plus the topless angmoh men???
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Girls, all this wedding planning is giving me a headache...is that possible? I love it far too much though....
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I spoke to a girl from Pine Garden's and they said that a cake to feed 300 pax cost S$450.00 onwards. *sigh* Alamak....sooo expensive. Don't know how now. Made appointment to meet up with them this Saturday to discuss.
 
Marnie,
Having a wedding cake is like thatlah. You know if you hear mine, sure you faint.
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. The most ever expensive cake i've eaten in my whole life.
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Are you having a western dinner? If you are, then good to serve that for dessert. If not, in my opinion not necessary to serve all 300 pax. For my case, i only give to my helpers. The rest, eat for myself! Too ex to give everyone. Savour it for myself! hahaha.
Last week, my friend & i were chatting about the best cakes we've tasted. And she told me the best cake that she've eaten so far was my wedding cake. We both had a good laugh. Good memories..
by the way, i've emailed you.. dunno whether correct email address. reply me if you've received so i can add in to my address book.
 


IC, can I kaypoh and ask you how much you paid?

Like I've mentioned before, I want to incorporate the cake (as hantaran) to be part of the main wedding cake. When I spoke to the girl at Pine Garden, she is quite receptive about that idea but don't think she got totally what I am trying to say. And truthfully, I'm not intending to cater to all 300 pax cos' I'm thinking not everyone will eat cake anyway. Maybe I'll cater for 220 - 250 pax.

I'm having a sit down buffet. So a mish mash of both western and asian cultures...
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