Any Mixed Marriages here? Esp Chinese-Malay Muslim couple
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Hello ladies,
Stumbled upon this thread while googling for wedding stuff. What an exciting and fun group you have here.
Let me introduce myself.
I am a Malay married to a Chinese. We did our Civil Marriage 6 years ago. To cut the story short, we are now ready to go through our nikah solemnization. Planning it for Jan 2006. Hopefully at Scarlet Boutiquqe Hotel. A small scale event in a small scale hotel. Oh ya, we also have a 5 year old daughter named Heidi.
Hoping and praying that everything will go smoothly.
Appreciate any advise and feedbacks on anything about planning a wedding, or rather on the nikah preparation.
Thanks.
Stumbled upon this thread while googling for wedding stuff. What an exciting and fun group you have here.
Let me introduce myself.
I am a Malay married to a Chinese. We did our Civil Marriage 6 years ago. To cut the story short, we are now ready to go through our nikah solemnization. Planning it for Jan 2006. Hopefully at Scarlet Boutiquqe Hotel. A small scale event in a small scale hotel. Oh ya, we also have a 5 year old daughter named Heidi.
Hoping and praying that everything will go smoothly.
Appreciate any advise and feedbacks on anything about planning a wedding, or rather on the nikah preparation.
Thanks.
Marnie,
I'm even MORE AMAZED!!! WOW!!!! I think if i were to breakdown the charges, the basics like my wedding ring ,wedding dinner & wedding cake, bridal studio, photographer, videographer, already exceed $20K. That haven't include my other miscellaneous like my shoes lah..(bought 3 pairs!), baju kurung etc.. etc..
Cannot beat you!
You win hands-down already!!
Cuclainne,
You mean ROMM first lah..then celebration later on? Malays said nikah gantung lah... hey, you know, last time i wanted to do nikah gantung. Celebration only like 1 or 2 years later. My mother don't like that idea because of "face value" with relatives. I kena scolded like hell man. So drama..mom cry lah etc etc. Seriously, i find that practical leh..coz very tough if do everything together like wedding, reno for house, house, car. If pay everything by cash lah.. no loans except house & car. If marry average men, pay everything by cash sure pek cek. But if marry rich men, then probably different lah.
Lilies,
You went through ROM? Then now want to go through ROMM? (*blur). Seriously, i don't know how the procedures going to be like. You have to seek divorce from ROM?? Then remarry again at ROMM??? Can have such thing have 2 marriage certificates?? As far as i know, both certificates are issued in Singapore.
I'm even MORE AMAZED!!! WOW!!!! I think if i were to breakdown the charges, the basics like my wedding ring ,wedding dinner & wedding cake, bridal studio, photographer, videographer, already exceed $20K. That haven't include my other miscellaneous like my shoes lah..(bought 3 pairs!), baju kurung etc.. etc..
Cannot beat you!
Cuclainne,
You mean ROMM first lah..then celebration later on? Malays said nikah gantung lah... hey, you know, last time i wanted to do nikah gantung. Celebration only like 1 or 2 years later. My mother don't like that idea because of "face value" with relatives. I kena scolded like hell man. So drama..mom cry lah etc etc. Seriously, i find that practical leh..coz very tough if do everything together like wedding, reno for house, house, car. If pay everything by cash lah.. no loans except house & car. If marry average men, pay everything by cash sure pek cek. But if marry rich men, then probably different lah.
Lilies,
You went through ROM? Then now want to go through ROMM? (*blur). Seriously, i don't know how the procedures going to be like. You have to seek divorce from ROM?? Then remarry again at ROMM??? Can have such thing have 2 marriage certificates?? As far as i know, both certificates are issued in Singapore.
Lilies : Welcome!
You mean civil as in ROM and then now nikah as ROMM? I'm very confused now...
I hope we're not prying but we're more like kaypoh makciks and anak daras....
IC : Yeah lor...We're very proud of ourselves.
A lot of legwork and negotiating though but it's a learning experience. And so far my experiences with all the vendors have been great.
Cuclainne : Dinner?? Food?? Hmmmmm.....
(when you're fasting just the thought of food is enough to salivate you...
)
You mean civil as in ROM and then now nikah as ROMM? I'm very confused now...
IC : Yeah lor...We're very proud of ourselves.
Cuclainne : Dinner?? Food?? Hmmmmm.....
Welcome to this thread, Lilies.
ic, the reason why I want to get married first is so that me and Ah Boy can live together. He's done so much to ensure that I don't have to move away from here, and to be with me - I don't want him to live alone for several months while we try to plan for everything to take place at one time. So I told my mom and she's agreeable. She doesn't want us to cohabit before marriage (she doesn't mind but she doesn't want the relatives to talk - you know la, lose face) so that's why she already told me that as long as we are married, she doesn't bother about what the relatives say about not having the festivities done at the same time so me and Ah Boy are planning to get married as soon as he gets here la.
ic, the reason why I want to get married first is so that me and Ah Boy can live together. He's done so much to ensure that I don't have to move away from here, and to be with me - I don't want him to live alone for several months while we try to plan for everything to take place at one time. So I told my mom and she's agreeable. She doesn't want us to cohabit before marriage (she doesn't mind but she doesn't want the relatives to talk - you know la, lose face) so that's why she already told me that as long as we are married, she doesn't bother about what the relatives say about not having the festivities done at the same time so me and Ah Boy are planning to get married as soon as he gets here la.
Cuclainne
Luckily for you, your Ah boy is from a different country. Your mother can give excuse to the relatives that your Ah boy is trying to settle quickily first. So can bluff here & there, that's why the celebration can postpone. But for me, i think my mom know sure cannot bluff here & there, coz both of us singaporeans! So cham.. that's why cannot. Of course, must nikah first man.. can you imagine if the relatives know you 2 living together without going through the ROMM? Wah.. big story for the relatives hor!
Marnie,
Admire you. By the way, how many guests you inviting for the dinner & lunch?
Luckily for you, your Ah boy is from a different country. Your mother can give excuse to the relatives that your Ah boy is trying to settle quickily first. So can bluff here & there, that's why the celebration can postpone. But for me, i think my mom know sure cannot bluff here & there, coz both of us singaporeans! So cham.. that's why cannot. Of course, must nikah first man.. can you imagine if the relatives know you 2 living together without going through the ROMM? Wah.. big story for the relatives hor!
Marnie,
Admire you. By the way, how many guests you inviting for the dinner & lunch?
IC, Marnie,
Yep, you girls read it correctly.
It's a lil complicated but ya, we have consulted both ROMM and even a Muslim lawyer about this. Anyone in a similar situation, 2 options you can go about it. The first one, you must dissolve your civil marriage (ie divorce and stuff and it will take years) before you can register with ROMM (a Muslim Marriage Cert will then be issued). The second one, you stick to your Civil Marriage Cert and just have your nikah solemnised at ROMM (no cert will be issued). It's a special case. Either cert can be issued here, not both.
Hope this helps you to understand better ya.
Yep, you girls read it correctly.
It's a lil complicated but ya, we have consulted both ROMM and even a Muslim lawyer about this. Anyone in a similar situation, 2 options you can go about it. The first one, you must dissolve your civil marriage (ie divorce and stuff and it will take years) before you can register with ROMM (a Muslim Marriage Cert will then be issued). The second one, you stick to your Civil Marriage Cert and just have your nikah solemnised at ROMM (no cert will be issued). It's a special case. Either cert can be issued here, not both.
Hope this helps you to understand better ya.
ic, actually my mom has spoke to several of her older sisters about it and they all support my cause la. it's the relatives on my dad's side that will make a lot of ruckus. when my cousin was planning her wedding - she is now married, also nikah gantung - they were sooo unhappy about it.
Lilies, let us know what we can help you with ok.
Lilies, let us know what we can help you with ok.
Lilies,
I see..so i guessed correctly. And i presumed your hubby now have converted? So you're now currently planning to have your nikah at scarlet boutique hotel?
Cuclainne,
This kind of thing sure happenlah. You know lah, malay relatives right, they very particular about all this. I remembered i was so stress over those relatives. Like they want to control your wedding. Sometimes i wonder whether they know that in the end who is footing the bill. Sigh...it happens. But don't worry, the story won't ends there. The next thing they want to know is where you'll be staying.
I see..so i guessed correctly. And i presumed your hubby now have converted? So you're now currently planning to have your nikah at scarlet boutique hotel?
Cuclainne,
This kind of thing sure happenlah. You know lah, malay relatives right, they very particular about all this. I remembered i was so stress over those relatives. Like they want to control your wedding. Sometimes i wonder whether they know that in the end who is footing the bill. Sigh...it happens. But don't worry, the story won't ends there. The next thing they want to know is where you'll be staying.
First and foremost, I'd like to say thanks and hello back to all that responded to my post earlier.
ic,
Yep, my husband converted about 10 months ago. The nikah is going to be held in the hotel's suite. Followed by a dinner with immediate family and close friends at the hotel's roof top, al-fresco style.
Girls, you might be able to advise me on the following choices that I made. For couples' nikah attire and make up, I've shortlisted Zulradi Bridal. For cameraman, I've shortlisted Poise Photography. What do you think? Have u girls heard or use their services before?
Thanks in advance for any inputs.
ic,
Yep, my husband converted about 10 months ago. The nikah is going to be held in the hotel's suite. Followed by a dinner with immediate family and close friends at the hotel's roof top, al-fresco style.
Girls, you might be able to advise me on the following choices that I made. For couples' nikah attire and make up, I've shortlisted Zulradi Bridal. For cameraman, I've shortlisted Poise Photography. What do you think? Have u girls heard or use their services before?
Thanks in advance for any inputs.
Lilies : Zulradi is a good choice. Um...did I recommend that to Elaine??? Poise is also a super choice!
Oooh.....Scarlet is GREAT! So you'll have your reception at Breeze.....Good choice. One of the chefs at Scarlet is a friend. I'm sure you'll have a great experience.
IC : Dinner will be about 300 people. Lunch tete-a-tete will be about 30 or so people. Very informal and more of a mingling and get together session than anything else.
Girls, I got my wedding cake!!! I'm SOOO excited about it..the design, the flavours. Going to be three different layers, different flavours. YUMMY!
Think it's going to be beautiful (yeah, me being biased.
) that I don't even need a cake topper.
On a serious note, Meraj and I went for our marriage prep class. Very interesting and indepth. I really like the interractive nature of the class. The class really opened up a lot of avenues in our relationship as corny as that sounds.
Oooh.....Scarlet is GREAT! So you'll have your reception at Breeze.....Good choice. One of the chefs at Scarlet is a friend. I'm sure you'll have a great experience.
IC : Dinner will be about 300 people. Lunch tete-a-tete will be about 30 or so people. Very informal and more of a mingling and get together session than anything else.
Girls, I got my wedding cake!!! I'm SOOO excited about it..the design, the flavours. Going to be three different layers, different flavours. YUMMY!
On a serious note, Meraj and I went for our marriage prep class. Very interesting and indepth. I really like the interractive nature of the class. The class really opened up a lot of avenues in our relationship as corny as that sounds.
ic, that is soooo true - before I got engaged, they've already told my mom not to let me get citizenship there.. no matter what, must remain Singaporean. My mom got so angry at them, she said they're interfering too much la. Actually I don't have intention of renouncing my citizenship .. can get PR is good enough la.
Lilies, good for you. I haven't decided who I want to take yet but it's down to Zul Radi, Fatimah Mohsin and Padi. So you choose Zul Radi - not bad ah. I see you and Marnie talking about Scarlet Hotel but where is this place??? That time Ah Boy was staying in a hotel in Chinatown and everyday we walk past Hotel 1929 - seems so nice. Maybe we might want to have the dinner there but doesn't seem like it will be able to accommodate the number of guests we're hoping to have.
Marnie, you must tell me how the class went. I spoke with Ah Boy about it today and he sounded sooooo down when I told him that we absolutely MUST do this class. Hahahaha.
Tell us more about your cake la.
Lilies, good for you. I haven't decided who I want to take yet but it's down to Zul Radi, Fatimah Mohsin and Padi. So you choose Zul Radi - not bad ah. I see you and Marnie talking about Scarlet Hotel but where is this place??? That time Ah Boy was staying in a hotel in Chinatown and everyday we walk past Hotel 1929 - seems so nice. Maybe we might want to have the dinner there but doesn't seem like it will be able to accommodate the number of guests we're hoping to have.
Marnie, you must tell me how the class went. I spoke with Ah Boy about it today and he sounded sooooo down when I told him that we absolutely MUST do this class. Hahahaha.
Tell us more about your cake la.
Marnie,
Congrats on the wedding cake! By the way, which caterer you hire for your dinner?
lilies,
Never use them before. But i've heard of Zulradi Bridal. I heard he's good. So not to worry, you'll be in good hands. Oh i see.. so you not going through the total malay customs lah? Just ROMM lah? When you got married 6 years ago, did you just had ROM or you also went through the chinese customary marriage like the tea ceremony and dinner banquet?
cuclainne,
What your mother said is true. That's your personal life. They can give their opinions but they should not force you what to do.
Scarlet Hotel is in Chinatown.
Congrats on the wedding cake! By the way, which caterer you hire for your dinner?
lilies,
Never use them before. But i've heard of Zulradi Bridal. I heard he's good. So not to worry, you'll be in good hands. Oh i see.. so you not going through the total malay customs lah? Just ROMM lah? When you got married 6 years ago, did you just had ROM or you also went through the chinese customary marriage like the tea ceremony and dinner banquet?
cuclainne,
What your mother said is true. That's your personal life. They can give their opinions but they should not force you what to do.
Scarlet Hotel is in Chinatown.
Marnie,
Thanks for your positive comments. I feel that I've made the right choices too but we'll see how it goes and I shall keep my fingers/toes crossed. Heh. Marnie, your preparations on your wedding sound terrific. Just saw a link on a wedding held at ACM. Beautiful. You've done a good job at pulling everything together for 20K.
cuclainne,
Here is the link for scarlet hotel http://www.thescarlethotel.com/. It's perfect if you intend to have a small scale wedding, I'd say. Perhaps you can hold your hen's party there instead?
ic
6 years ago, I went through the ROM ceremony with dinner banquet in a halal restaurant the same day. Also done in a small scale manner. No tea ceremony. Wedding pictures were taken in a studio. That's all. I'm kind of fortunate in a sense that I don't have many relatives here. I do have but we are not in close contact. It has been this way all the while and I don't even know them personally. I guess, that helps to keep my wedding expenditure to the minimum.
Thanks for your positive comments. I feel that I've made the right choices too but we'll see how it goes and I shall keep my fingers/toes crossed. Heh. Marnie, your preparations on your wedding sound terrific. Just saw a link on a wedding held at ACM. Beautiful. You've done a good job at pulling everything together for 20K.
cuclainne,
Here is the link for scarlet hotel http://www.thescarlethotel.com/. It's perfect if you intend to have a small scale wedding, I'd say. Perhaps you can hold your hen's party there instead?
ic
6 years ago, I went through the ROM ceremony with dinner banquet in a halal restaurant the same day. Also done in a small scale manner. No tea ceremony. Wedding pictures were taken in a studio. That's all. I'm kind of fortunate in a sense that I don't have many relatives here. I do have but we are not in close contact. It has been this way all the while and I don't even know them personally. I guess, that helps to keep my wedding expenditure to the minimum.
Thanks for the link, Lilies. Am I glad that I'm not living in Ah Boy's home country now - if a couple decides to tie the knot, the guy's group of friends and the girl's friends will 'kidnap' them separately and then make them do embarrassing things in public. When I was there, I managed to see one. The group of girls were soooo drunk during the day and they were dressed in swimwear even though it's freezing and everyone else were wearing several layers of clothes. Then they were singing and toasting the girl, with flowers in their hair. Hahahahaha.
I suppose it's up to your preference on that kind of menu, Lilies. Frankly, I don't mind that but I know that some can be particular.
I suppose it's up to your preference on that kind of menu, Lilies. Frankly, I don't mind that but I know that some can be particular.
Cuclainne,
hahahha..you also up so late.
Lilies,
Oh i see.. so even though you married a chinese, yours was more modernized. So which halal restaurant you had your dinner 6 years ago? By the way, are you & your hubby singaporean? Your daughter's name don't have the "bte"? So only consists of her name & her chinese surname? Does she have a chinese name as well? So are you going through this ROMM & celebration like some sort to renew your marriage vows? Sorry for asking too much questions...
So far, i know there's no halal hotel because all hotels serve liquor. Regarding the menu, I think the only hotel in Singapore that can served totally halal in terms of food & utensils is Grand Hyatt. Because Grand Hyatt has a muslim kitchen. However, for you to open up that muslim kitchen, you have to pay a fee. They don't open up the muslim kitchen all the time because it's expensive to maintain. I heard that the kitchen was donated by the Sultan of Brunei. The other hotels can served halal food however the utensils are mixed with the non-muslims ones as well. In this case, i think some of the muslims close one eye coz there isn't a totally halal hotel in Singapore. So utensils part can understand.
The 'no pork, no lard' menu is quite a sensitive issue. Have you asked your parents regarding this? Are your parents & relatives particular? Because the menu may contained chicken but the chicken is not halal. Are they ok being served a non-halal chicken? For me, i am particular about that. Maybe you should enquire whether the chicken or meat comes from halal sources. Unless of course all the dishes in the menu served are seafood, then i think it won't be an issue on the menu.
hahahha..you also up so late.
Lilies,
Oh i see.. so even though you married a chinese, yours was more modernized. So which halal restaurant you had your dinner 6 years ago? By the way, are you & your hubby singaporean? Your daughter's name don't have the "bte"? So only consists of her name & her chinese surname? Does she have a chinese name as well? So are you going through this ROMM & celebration like some sort to renew your marriage vows? Sorry for asking too much questions...
So far, i know there's no halal hotel because all hotels serve liquor. Regarding the menu, I think the only hotel in Singapore that can served totally halal in terms of food & utensils is Grand Hyatt. Because Grand Hyatt has a muslim kitchen. However, for you to open up that muslim kitchen, you have to pay a fee. They don't open up the muslim kitchen all the time because it's expensive to maintain. I heard that the kitchen was donated by the Sultan of Brunei. The other hotels can served halal food however the utensils are mixed with the non-muslims ones as well. In this case, i think some of the muslims close one eye coz there isn't a totally halal hotel in Singapore. So utensils part can understand.
The 'no pork, no lard' menu is quite a sensitive issue. Have you asked your parents regarding this? Are your parents & relatives particular? Because the menu may contained chicken but the chicken is not halal. Are they ok being served a non-halal chicken? For me, i am particular about that. Maybe you should enquire whether the chicken or meat comes from halal sources. Unless of course all the dishes in the menu served are seafood, then i think it won't be an issue on the menu.
Lilies, I'm like Cuclainne. Not particular about the "no pork no lard" issue but some may be.
Cuclainne : You can assure Ah Boy that Meraj wasn't actually jumping in excitement to go to the class either.
He thought it's all about going to talk about religion and stuff and Meraj being a man of science, i thought before the class, he's going to have a lot of disagreements and rebuttal.
But strangely, he was more proactive in a positive way in the class. It's very informative. More on real life cases more than anything on the book. (I thoughts they were going to make us recite the doa's on the book). If you'd like, I can pass you the reading/reference material they gave us for the lesson. I have 2 copies so both you and Ah Boy can read. Nothing to worry about lah - tell Ah Boy!
Oooh....you can hold your dinner at Scarlet Hotel. At Desire (that's the indoor very boudoir looking restaurant). If not mistaken, if you have dinner (minimum 60, I think) from S$80++, you get a suite's night stay, a bottle of champagne and breakfast for 2.
Scarlet Hotel is more specifically behind Maxwell Food Centre. Very very exciting vibe to it.
Oooh....the cake's very whimsical. It's a 3-tier stacked cake. Kinda colourful. Have M&Ms just cos' it's my favourite chocolates. And have a design to incorporate Meraj too. So, it really is labour of love about us. Very corny, yes?
IC : We've engaged Istana for the food and the decorations cos' they were the most upfront about their prices and I believe that they can cater to my weird ideas.
Cuclainne : You can assure Ah Boy that Meraj wasn't actually jumping in excitement to go to the class either.
But strangely, he was more proactive in a positive way in the class. It's very informative. More on real life cases more than anything on the book. (I thoughts they were going to make us recite the doa's on the book). If you'd like, I can pass you the reading/reference material they gave us for the lesson. I have 2 copies so both you and Ah Boy can read. Nothing to worry about lah - tell Ah Boy!
Oooh....you can hold your dinner at Scarlet Hotel. At Desire (that's the indoor very boudoir looking restaurant). If not mistaken, if you have dinner (minimum 60, I think) from S$80++, you get a suite's night stay, a bottle of champagne and breakfast for 2.
Scarlet Hotel is more specifically behind Maxwell Food Centre. Very very exciting vibe to it.
Oooh....the cake's very whimsical. It's a 3-tier stacked cake. Kinda colourful. Have M&Ms just cos' it's my favourite chocolates. And have a design to incorporate Meraj too. So, it really is labour of love about us. Very corny, yes?
IC : We've engaged Istana for the food and the decorations cos' they were the most upfront about their prices and I believe that they can cater to my weird ideas.
Marnie,
Wah..got M&M's. Hey, so do we get to try the cake? eh..you sounding scary leh.. weird ideas as in the food those asian / western type right? Not those kind extreme food like shown on the TCS 5?
. Istana catering? Got website to show me? I never heard before leh...
Har??? Scarlet dinner hotel so expensive??? Wah piang..that kind of price can go 5 star hotel at Orchard Road. And the freebies not much also hor.
Wah..got M&M's. Hey, so do we get to try the cake? eh..you sounding scary leh.. weird ideas as in the food those asian / western type right? Not those kind extreme food like shown on the TCS 5?
Har??? Scarlet dinner hotel so expensive??? Wah piang..that kind of price can go 5 star hotel at Orchard Road. And the freebies not much also hor.
IC :
No lah...Not extreme foods. Our main courses are towards Asian. The desserts more towards the Western.
I must say Meraj and my tastes are very eclectic. Not very standard and monotonous. Most decorators in Singapore would probably say no-no to my ideas but thankfully, the people at Istana are pretty open to my ideas.
You can go here for Istana Wedding Services.
Sure can eat the cake - depends on which flavour you can get a hold of though!
Meraj and I are definitely having our cake!
re. Scarlet, I think ambience plays a huge part in it. It's very different from other hotels and that's their draw. The foods are pretty innovative too.
I must say Meraj and my tastes are very eclectic. Not very standard and monotonous. Most decorators in Singapore would probably say no-no to my ideas but thankfully, the people at Istana are pretty open to my ideas.
You can go here for Istana Wedding Services.
Sure can eat the cake - depends on which flavour you can get a hold of though!
re. Scarlet, I think ambience plays a huge part in it. It's very different from other hotels and that's their draw. The foods are pretty innovative too.
Thanks for your feedbacks girls.
ic
The no pork no lard issue is kinda tricky. Yep, if simply no choice, then i'll consider opting a seafood menu for dinner. Both my husband and myself are Singaporean. You're right again, my daughter's name is reflected as Heidi Wang. No Chinese name whatsoever. Her religion is Islam.
Basically, we want to do it right this time, hence the intention to nikah and have a small feast to commemorate the ceremony. We'll contribute a donation towards an orphanage shelter too. That has always been my wish. A simple but meaningful affair. It's kind of late but better late than never to return to the right path, ya.
Marnie
I'm so excited for you already. Pls share pictures with us ok. Yikes.. Scarlet has not revert with their menu rates/dinner package. Did you say $80++ per person or table?
cuclainne
The hen's parties here in Singers are quite mild, the ones that I've seen at a least. Just a gathering amongst girlfriends and do silly, funny stuff together while enjoying the last moment of one's singlehood. So, when is your ROMM/wedding?
ic
The no pork no lard issue is kinda tricky. Yep, if simply no choice, then i'll consider opting a seafood menu for dinner. Both my husband and myself are Singaporean. You're right again, my daughter's name is reflected as Heidi Wang. No Chinese name whatsoever. Her religion is Islam.
Basically, we want to do it right this time, hence the intention to nikah and have a small feast to commemorate the ceremony. We'll contribute a donation towards an orphanage shelter too. That has always been my wish. A simple but meaningful affair. It's kind of late but better late than never to return to the right path, ya.
Marnie
I'm so excited for you already. Pls share pictures with us ok. Yikes.. Scarlet has not revert with their menu rates/dinner package. Did you say $80++ per person or table?
cuclainne
The hen's parties here in Singers are quite mild, the ones that I've seen at a least. Just a gathering amongst girlfriends and do silly, funny stuff together while enjoying the last moment of one's singlehood. So, when is your ROMM/wedding?
Lilies : Thanks. I'm pretty excited about our wedding too. And with Meraj being so communicative at the wedding prep class, I'm hopeful yet that we'll both want to get married at the end of the wedding preparations!
Scarlet's packages start from $80++ per person. More I think, for Fridays, Saturdays and Sundays.
Did you send email inquiry or did you call about the packages? Best to call Carolyn Chua at 6511 3333.
Scarlet's packages start from $80++ per person. More I think, for Fridays, Saturdays and Sundays.
Did you send email inquiry or did you call about the packages? Best to call Carolyn Chua at 6511 3333.
Marnie: whoa piangs!!! ur cake power siah! lol
Lilies: Welcome to the thread! I'm the 'starter-cum-organiser' of this thread (but i'm not as active as the rest of the girls here!) hahaa...
For the 'no pork, no lard' issue, i oso feel that it's really up to u, i agree wif Cuclainne, Marnie and IC. I'm sure most of us here not soooo particular abt this, but ur relatives and frens, and esp. parents, it depends liaoz...
IC: Istana catering's quite gd! They're quite famous..not bad i think! hehe...gd choice marnie! lol...
Marnie: u mind 'roughly telling us what's on the menu? hehe..then i can use as reference too! lol
Lilies: Welcome to the thread! I'm the 'starter-cum-organiser' of this thread (but i'm not as active as the rest of the girls here!) hahaa...
For the 'no pork, no lard' issue, i oso feel that it's really up to u, i agree wif Cuclainne, Marnie and IC. I'm sure most of us here not soooo particular abt this, but ur relatives and frens, and esp. parents, it depends liaoz...
IC: Istana catering's quite gd! They're quite famous..not bad i think! hehe...gd choice marnie! lol...
Marnie: u mind 'roughly telling us what's on the menu? hehe..then i can use as reference too! lol
Marnie,
Ok..i make sure i try to get hold of all the 3 flavours! Hahahhaha
Marnie, what's your email address? i forgot to save in my address book the other time.
Lilies,
Hmm...always guessing correctly. That means maybe my luck is good this week.
What you said is true regarding the path.. don't mind me asking, how old are you?
Ok..i make sure i try to get hold of all the 3 flavours! Hahahhaha
Lilies,
Hmm...always guessing correctly. That means maybe my luck is good this week.
Marnie
You're great as always providing vital help on impending issues. I shall contact Carolyn Chua asap.
huichin
*Waves back* Nice meeting you online too. A great thread you started here.
ic
Well.. well.. I am the oldest here I'm sure. I'll be 33 this December. I missed a good portion of the earlier posts, how old is everybody else? Did you guys meet up already? It'll be good to finally put faces on your nicks.
You're great as always providing vital help on impending issues. I shall contact Carolyn Chua asap.
huichin
*Waves back* Nice meeting you online too. A great thread you started here.
ic
Well.. well.. I am the oldest here I'm sure. I'll be 33 this December. I missed a good portion of the earlier posts, how old is everybody else? Did you guys meet up already? It'll be good to finally put faces on your nicks.
Marnie & Huichin,
I just saw the website! Hey, they do catering also! Hahah..maybe can consider that for some occasions. Thanks marnie for the link! If i use this catering, i will only invite for malay relatives / friends and those open-minded chinese friends.
Girls, just some pointers, i compared that these kind of white tentages / marquee, quotation wise from malay owned bridal catering services are so much cheaper compared to the chinese catering services.
Lilies,
Err..dunno really for sure whether you're the oldest.
. But we do have someone here in the thread who is also in the 30s.
Oh Eden seafood! Did they change the name? I didnt' really noticed.. I know that place. Had a cousin who did his celebration there also.
The rest of the girls did meet up and they've seen each other at gatherings, weddings. Err..except me.
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I just saw the website! Hey, they do catering also! Hahah..maybe can consider that for some occasions. Thanks marnie for the link! If i use this catering, i will only invite for malay relatives / friends and those open-minded chinese friends.
Girls, just some pointers, i compared that these kind of white tentages / marquee, quotation wise from malay owned bridal catering services are so much cheaper compared to the chinese catering services.
Lilies,
Err..dunno really for sure whether you're the oldest.
Oh Eden seafood! Did they change the name? I didnt' really noticed.. I know that place. Had a cousin who did his celebration there also.
The rest of the girls did meet up and they've seen each other at gatherings, weddings. Err..except me.
Lilies : My darling Meraj nearly fell off his chair looking at your pic leh...
You really one hot mama!
No way you're 33! I'm 30. Bleh...what's in a number anyway? *Idyll trying to console herself*
We're tying to have a meet up on day in Ramadhan and we can break fast. Maybe you'll be interested to meet up then?
IC : Yuppers. Istana do catering. I am having their food as well. Delicious....! Meraj is very particular about foods and he's just soo into their food at first tasting!
Me email addy is [email protected]
Huichin : I'm having briyani, beef rendang, veg. dalcha, the pineapple pickles thingee, prawns, thai fish fillet, chicken (cooked in red tomato thingee), caesar salad, beehoon, 6 types of desserts. Um.....got some other stuff all in the package. Can't quite recall at this point.
Chin, so when are we meeting? Me very itchy to chat chat and catch up.
No way you're 33! I'm 30. Bleh...what's in a number anyway? *Idyll trying to console herself*
We're tying to have a meet up on day in Ramadhan and we can break fast. Maybe you'll be interested to meet up then?
IC : Yuppers. Istana do catering. I am having their food as well. Delicious....! Meraj is very particular about foods and he's just soo into their food at first tasting!
Me email addy is [email protected]
Huichin : I'm having briyani, beef rendang, veg. dalcha, the pineapple pickles thingee, prawns, thai fish fillet, chicken (cooked in red tomato thingee), caesar salad, beehoon, 6 types of desserts. Um.....got some other stuff all in the package. Can't quite recall at this point.
Chin, so when are we meeting? Me very itchy to chat chat and catch up.
Marnie,
Thanks for the email. Added you into my address book already. Wah..marnie..your food sounds good. The other day, i was just cleaning up some files, when i found my wedding file! All the contracts, quotations including the menu! etc...
lilies,
You look like in your late 20s. Don't look 30s at all. Pretty mummy.
Thanks for the email. Added you into my address book already. Wah..marnie..your food sounds good. The other day, i was just cleaning up some files, when i found my wedding file! All the contracts, quotations including the menu! etc...
lilies,
You look like in your late 20s. Don't look 30s at all. Pretty mummy.
ic, I was up late because I came back from company D&D and then Ah Boy came online from the fair so I was chatting with him too.
I think that Royal Plaza on Scotts Hotel (next to DFS) is also halal. Cafe Vienna is located there and I've eaten there several times with work colleagues.
Marnie, that's how Ah Boy is too - very scientific about things. I told him he just have to put up with it for several hours - is it one-on-one? Oh no - sure cam la if have to recite doas ... I'm very bad at that.
Yes, yes I've seen the photos from the link Lilies passed to me. I was about to suggest that perhaps Ah Boy can stay there the next time and then realise that he wouldn't have to because he won't be on holiday the next time he comes. Hahahaha. Perhaps I shall suggest a visit there for dinner next time.
3-tiered stacked cake? Wow!!! Did it cost a lot? I was thinking of going to the Patissier to have a look at their offerings.
Lilies, I currently don't have plans to have a hen night but my friends might have other plans. I know that Ah Boy is not planning a stag night either and I don't know if I should tell him to have one. Hahahahahaha. But that's kind of hard to do when he doesn't have any friends here yet.
But we did meet with some people from the Swedish club when he was last here so I think the transition won't be so bad, considering that he's got fellow countrymen and women here.
I'm 26. Don't know the ages of the others here because frankly, I don't dare to ask ... age is a sensitive issue, you know. Haha. But yes, some of us have met before for dinners and such. We also attended Elaine's wedding a few weeks ago.
Wah - you don't look your age leh. Very good - must share with us your secret ok.
Hui Chin, hey ... long time no see. You must organise something for us again - been dormant for a while now.
I think that Royal Plaza on Scotts Hotel (next to DFS) is also halal. Cafe Vienna is located there and I've eaten there several times with work colleagues.
Marnie, that's how Ah Boy is too - very scientific about things. I told him he just have to put up with it for several hours - is it one-on-one? Oh no - sure cam la if have to recite doas ... I'm very bad at that.
Yes, yes I've seen the photos from the link Lilies passed to me. I was about to suggest that perhaps Ah Boy can stay there the next time and then realise that he wouldn't have to because he won't be on holiday the next time he comes. Hahahaha. Perhaps I shall suggest a visit there for dinner next time.
3-tiered stacked cake? Wow!!! Did it cost a lot? I was thinking of going to the Patissier to have a look at their offerings.
Lilies, I currently don't have plans to have a hen night but my friends might have other plans. I know that Ah Boy is not planning a stag night either and I don't know if I should tell him to have one. Hahahahahaha. But that's kind of hard to do when he doesn't have any friends here yet.
But we did meet with some people from the Swedish club when he was last here so I think the transition won't be so bad, considering that he's got fellow countrymen and women here.
I'm 26. Don't know the ages of the others here because frankly, I don't dare to ask ... age is a sensitive issue, you know. Haha. But yes, some of us have met before for dinners and such. We also attended Elaine's wedding a few weeks ago.
Wah - you don't look your age leh. Very good - must share with us your secret ok.
Hui Chin, hey ... long time no see. You must organise something for us again - been dormant for a while now.
Cuclainne,
Oh no wonder.
I was up coz my baby cried for milk. The Cafe Vienna is halal but not the hotel itself. They do serve liquor. Royal Plaza on Scotts can also cater chinese food (non-halal). Same goes for Grand Hyatt. The straits kitchen in Grand Hyatt is halal but not the hotel itself. In Grand Hyatt they also have mezza9 etc which all these are not halal. They also do cater chinese food (non-halal)
I remember this very well coz this was a big issue with my in-laws. They want chinese food (non-halal type). They find it weird eating chinese halal food. To my in-laws, chinese halal food is not = to chinese food.
Oh no wonder.
Yoo..hoo!!
So many postings..am I away tat long?
Lilies,
Welcome to the thread!! Wow, u do look young. Well..for starters..I'm the veteran..ahem stale bride here..married for 7 yrs liao and having 2 kids. Basically, I'm of Chinese/Malay heritage married to a Malay guy..
Rgdg the 'no pork no lard' issue - I'm those who dun mind but would agree with IC regarding the meat issue though I do "bend" abit every now n then. I suppose its how comfy u and ur family r abt hosting a wedding reception in such situation cos relatives' tounges will surely wag.
In my case - I had two different banquets previously. One was for my Malay relatives - those normal lunch reception, marquee/void deck style, another was dinner banquet at Hotel Intercontinental for my Chinese guests/relatives. For my dinner - we serve non-halal food except for my VIP table (we specially requested halal food for my table only). Tat also my malay relatives do talk cos we had roast pork as one of the dishes served plus beer n champagne/wine too. We had lots of heads shaking but heck..its my ch granny paying for my dinner and its her guests..Cant say much, can I?
Marnie,
OOhh..ur cake sounds simply yummy!! Gosh..look at me..drooling liao...
Scarlet hotel at $80+++ per person? Abit too pricey, no? Think u can get the similar price for a dinner reception at other reputable hotels?
Cuclainne,
Agreed with IC on the nikah gantung thingy..U quite lucky tat ur Ah Boy is a foreigner at least got some reason to cover. During my time, I beg my parents n in laws for such arrangement but alas, I got both mums frowning. In fact, after my wedding, we dun even stay together. For me, I went back to Toowoomba to finish up my final semester and hubby was in Perth..and yet I got pregnant during my honeymoon..sigh
..no chance to enjoy.
So many postings..am I away tat long?
Lilies,
Welcome to the thread!! Wow, u do look young. Well..for starters..I'm the veteran..ahem stale bride here..married for 7 yrs liao and having 2 kids. Basically, I'm of Chinese/Malay heritage married to a Malay guy..
Rgdg the 'no pork no lard' issue - I'm those who dun mind but would agree with IC regarding the meat issue though I do "bend" abit every now n then. I suppose its how comfy u and ur family r abt hosting a wedding reception in such situation cos relatives' tounges will surely wag.
In my case - I had two different banquets previously. One was for my Malay relatives - those normal lunch reception, marquee/void deck style, another was dinner banquet at Hotel Intercontinental for my Chinese guests/relatives. For my dinner - we serve non-halal food except for my VIP table (we specially requested halal food for my table only). Tat also my malay relatives do talk cos we had roast pork as one of the dishes served plus beer n champagne/wine too. We had lots of heads shaking but heck..its my ch granny paying for my dinner and its her guests..Cant say much, can I?
Marnie,
OOhh..ur cake sounds simply yummy!! Gosh..look at me..drooling liao...
Scarlet hotel at $80+++ per person? Abit too pricey, no? Think u can get the similar price for a dinner reception at other reputable hotels?
Cuclainne,
Agreed with IC on the nikah gantung thingy..U quite lucky tat ur Ah Boy is a foreigner at least got some reason to cover. During my time, I beg my parents n in laws for such arrangement but alas, I got both mums frowning. In fact, after my wedding, we dun even stay together. For me, I went back to Toowoomba to finish up my final semester and hubby was in Perth..and yet I got pregnant during my honeymoon..sigh
Hello girls
Yes, pls keep me updated on the upcoming meeting session. You girls don't bite? Who and how do I go about providing my contact details? In the meantime, you can get me through [email protected] ok.
Oh and one last thing, thank you thank you for all your kind words. I am actually overweight and may look silly and grumpy in person. So don't get too shock when you finally meet me ok.
Err.. let me disgress here. How do I go about making the word in BOLD and how do I insert icons? I'm a green horn in this forum. Thanks a bunch.
ic
Just want to let you in a loop on a local mother's forum called M4M (http://www.moms4moms.org). Great forum with cool mummies.
Yes, pls keep me updated on the upcoming meeting session. You girls don't bite? Who and how do I go about providing my contact details? In the meantime, you can get me through [email protected] ok.
Oh and one last thing, thank you thank you for all your kind words. I am actually overweight and may look silly and grumpy in person. So don't get too shock when you finally meet me ok.
Err.. let me disgress here. How do I go about making the word in BOLD and how do I insert icons? I'm a green horn in this forum. Thanks a bunch.
ic
Just want to let you in a loop on a local mother's forum called M4M (http://www.moms4moms.org). Great forum with cool mummies.
Ally: No lah..Not me who wants to have the lunch do at Scarlet - think I am more towards Equinox for obvious reasons. Also may consider Poppi - we'll see. I'm meeting with the people at Equinox tonight so we see how that goes.
Cuclainne : Have you thought of Halia or even Les Amis for your 80 guests? Cos' soo romantic.
You coming to Equinox with Meraj and I tonight?
Lilies : You overweight? Nooo......If you want overweight...ahem......it's moi!
We usually give our details to our organiser, Huichin...
. That way, she can get in touch with everyone when we're meeting.
Chin : So how the week after next? Can?
Cuclainne : Have you thought of Halia or even Les Amis for your 80 guests? Cos' soo romantic.
You coming to Equinox with Meraj and I tonight?
Lilies : You overweight? Nooo......If you want overweight...ahem......it's moi!
We usually give our details to our organiser, Huichin...
Chin : So how the week after next? Can?
Hi Lilies,
You may like to know that we have a sister portal for motherhood as well. It is at www.singaporemotherhood.com.
Regards,
Chin Leng.
You may like to know that we have a sister portal for motherhood as well. It is at www.singaporemotherhood.com.
Regards,
Chin Leng.
Ally, that's how my cousin is right now lor. Even though she already nikah gantung, she doesn't stay with her husband. All because her mom-in-law told my aunt that since the majlis haven't taken place yet, my cousin cannot get pregnant now. To me, it just seems wrong because they're already married.
Marnie, ooooh I went to Halia before ... but I shall not divulge who I went with ok. Hahaha. But yes, it's very romantic ... but portions sooo small and I always feel uncomfortable in posh places. Take tiny tiny bites!!!
You are going with Meraj - then I don't want to be the third wheel!!! You guys go ahead - I have a feeling that today's going to be a long, long day for me.
Marnie, ooooh I went to Halia before ... but I shall not divulge who I went with ok. Hahaha. But yes, it's very romantic ... but portions sooo small and I always feel uncomfortable in posh places. Take tiny tiny bites!!!
You are going with Meraj - then I don't want to be the third wheel!!! You guys go ahead - I have a feeling that today's going to be a long, long day for me.
Cuclainne :
You're not going to be a third wheel lah....We're just going there to view the place. Not to have dinner. If we were to have dinner there, I would get rid of you...
But nope. We're having dinner at home or at a food court.
Seriously though, let me know if you change your mind, k?
Seriously though, let me know if you change your mind, k?
Lilies,
Thanks for the link to the motherhood forum. Will sure check it out..
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Huh? You considered yourself overweight? I think you're well propotionate..and err..sexy mama!
Cuclainne,
I think the malay relatives always gossip about that partlah. Somehow you feel like telling them, that times have changed and we generations know what we're doing.. but you knowlah, somehow i think older generations are not comfortable with the fact if don't have the celebration (majlis). To them, must be immediately. Maybe my next generation as in my son, i won't force him to have the celebration immediately. Times changed.. new aged mothers.
Ally,
Where have you been ah? Didn't see you online on weekends. Usually you're online sometimes on sundays. I was thinking hmmm..since fasting month start, you so busy.
Marnie,
Wah...going equinox today.. i miss that place. You know ah.. before i got preggie, i went to the New Asia Bar, just above equinox to cheong with hubby.. (though we never dance, sit down there & drink & listen to music & talk) Miss those times leh.
Thanks for the link to the motherhood forum. Will sure check it out..
Huh? You considered yourself overweight? I think you're well propotionate..and err..sexy mama!
Cuclainne,
I think the malay relatives always gossip about that partlah. Somehow you feel like telling them, that times have changed and we generations know what we're doing.. but you knowlah, somehow i think older generations are not comfortable with the fact if don't have the celebration (majlis). To them, must be immediately. Maybe my next generation as in my son, i won't force him to have the celebration immediately. Times changed.. new aged mothers.
Ally,
Where have you been ah? Didn't see you online on weekends. Usually you're online sometimes on sundays. I was thinking hmmm..since fasting month start, you so busy.
Marnie,
Wah...going equinox today.. i miss that place. You know ah.. before i got preggie, i went to the New Asia Bar, just above equinox to cheong with hubby.. (though we never dance, sit down there & drink & listen to music & talk) Miss those times leh.
Gooood Morning!!
hmmpmh..I got the Monday Blues today..so tired over the weekend, painting my house.
Cuclainne,
Sucks isn't it? Once nikah aredi, considered married liao mah..But then, for the older generation face value matters, tats y..
Chin
U all gg out for breaking fast? When n where ah? I muz check wif hubby's schedule first.
hmmpmh..I got the Monday Blues today..so tired over the weekend, painting my house.
Cuclainne,
Sucks isn't it? Once nikah aredi, considered married liao mah..But then, for the older generation face value matters, tats y..
Chin
U all gg out for breaking fast? When n where ah? I muz check wif hubby's schedule first.