Any Mixed Marriages here? Esp Chinese-Malay Muslim couple
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Hi Girls, sorry MIA. Been busy tying up loose ends. Plus I am in the deep end being in the relocation committee, every single day got meeting to attend to in prep. of our office move.
Can't wait for it to be over and done with!
Interrace : Eh....I checked leh...nowadays, online application, choose the kadi liao...so I can choose first at the same time of my e-application. Then go down for interview. Hmm....I think I try my luck and find out if Noor Razak can solemnise our marriage.
By the way, you look sooo cute and sweet leh....you two make a great looking couple leh...
Elaine : Pictures pictures!!
Huichin : Eh...thanks for coordinating the meet-up girl! I am going to miss you as my "neighbour" when our firm moves to robinson Road....
oh..and your BF cute leh.....like you....
Cuclainne : Aiyah.......I was extremely late for the birthday do but got stuff to eat - thankfully! So I was stuffing my face like crazy....!
IC : We missed you yet again..But we MUST try to meet up somewhere central. It's good to just have a leisurely dinner away from family, no??
How Girls? Up for a dinner in Ramadhan??
Can't wait for it to be over and done with!
Interrace : Eh....I checked leh...nowadays, online application, choose the kadi liao...so I can choose first at the same time of my e-application. Then go down for interview. Hmm....I think I try my luck and find out if Noor Razak can solemnise our marriage.
By the way, you look sooo cute and sweet leh....you two make a great looking couple leh...
Elaine : Pictures pictures!!
Huichin : Eh...thanks for coordinating the meet-up girl! I am going to miss you as my "neighbour" when our firm moves to robinson Road....
oh..and your BF cute leh.....like you....
Cuclainne : Aiyah.......I was extremely late for the birthday do but got stuff to eat - thankfully! So I was stuffing my face like crazy....!
IC : We missed you yet again..But we MUST try to meet up somewhere central. It's good to just have a leisurely dinner away from family, no??
How Girls? Up for a dinner in Ramadhan??
Yes, Elaine looked very sweet on her wedding day - so where are the photos? I want to have a look too.
Marnie, glad to hear that you made it to the birthday party. We managed to meet up with Ah Boy's friends for 15 mins (we walked them from Paragon to their hotel) before they had to leave immediately for the airport. So sad that we didn't get to spend any more time with them! But apparently they were impressed enough to want to come back again sometime soon so that's something to look forward to.
Marnie, glad to hear that you made it to the birthday party. We managed to meet up with Ah Boy's friends for 15 mins (we walked them from Paragon to their hotel) before they had to leave immediately for the airport. So sad that we didn't get to spend any more time with them! But apparently they were impressed enough to want to come back again sometime soon so that's something to look forward to.
Hi gals!!!
Marnie,
sorry am not able to help on the kadi thingy, as my hubby was the one who made the e-application..keke.
Nice meeting you all finally leh!!!
Think my hubby hit off with huichin's bf rather well..
He can be quite talkative...hee...but good lah, sociable..
Elaine,
Envy you leh, can eat in front of so many pple, i rem on my actual day i only ate one mouthful of rice, wanted so much to peel the prawns, chew on the chicken bones but alas,i cannot eat gracefully without having my make up ruin..hee..
Btw, i love your outfit...ur mak andam very tall leh ...hee... You look great!! i wanted to take pics with my own camera but too bad there doesnt seem to be anyone else ard who can help snap ..so pls post ur pics to us yo.. !!
Ally,
i got pics of ur gal gal...will post when i manage to get the card from my hubby..
Ur gal gal got really dark skin hor, me was dark dark when i was young too..hee..
So now left huichin, marnie, cuclaine and IC's prep?
Marnie,
sorry am not able to help on the kadi thingy, as my hubby was the one who made the e-application..keke.
Nice meeting you all finally leh!!!
Think my hubby hit off with huichin's bf rather well..
He can be quite talkative...hee...but good lah, sociable..
Elaine,
Envy you leh, can eat in front of so many pple, i rem on my actual day i only ate one mouthful of rice, wanted so much to peel the prawns, chew on the chicken bones but alas,i cannot eat gracefully without having my make up ruin..hee..
Btw, i love your outfit...ur mak andam very tall leh ...hee... You look great!! i wanted to take pics with my own camera but too bad there doesnt seem to be anyone else ard who can help snap ..so pls post ur pics to us yo.. !!
Ally,
i got pics of ur gal gal...will post when i manage to get the card from my hubby..
Ur gal gal got really dark skin hor, me was dark dark when i was young too..hee..
So now left huichin, marnie, cuclaine and IC's prep?
Interrace : IC married with baby liao.....
I think you were too busy with wedding prep and house reno that time when she came on....so that's why you can't remember.
Talk about the wedding prep, I realise that I have 208 more days to go and still not done a lot. Yesterday just starting to fiddle with the software for the slideshow....
Talk about the wedding prep, I realise that I have 208 more days to go and still not done a lot. Yesterday just starting to fiddle with the software for the slideshow....
Interrace
Ya lor, now she kena "burnt" liao, including myself. Every day swimming lor. Furthermore, on sept's school holiday week, my hub's company organized a Family Day at Wild, wild, Wet + Escape Theme park. We kena barbeque like nobody's biz. hehehe..
Anyway, u considered also lucky leh..manage to get a bite during the wedding. I remembered mine..no chance to eat except for a few digestive biscuits..
Dun even get to taste wat was served during my lunch reception and wedding banquet.
Talking about Kadi,
Some Kadi very lor so lah..I went to a few solemnizations where the Kadi grilled the bridegroom until so jialat..poor thing leh! Lucky for my hub, we got a lenient kadi (FIL chooses him for hub specially due to his leniency).
Ya lor, now she kena "burnt" liao, including myself. Every day swimming lor. Furthermore, on sept's school holiday week, my hub's company organized a Family Day at Wild, wild, Wet + Escape Theme park. We kena barbeque like nobody's biz. hehehe..
Anyway, u considered also lucky leh..manage to get a bite during the wedding. I remembered mine..no chance to eat except for a few digestive biscuits..
Talking about Kadi,
Some Kadi very lor so lah..I went to a few solemnizations where the Kadi grilled the bridegroom until so jialat..poor thing leh! Lucky for my hub, we got a lenient kadi (FIL chooses him for hub specially due to his leniency).
Ally,
dark dark good leh ..healthy ..hee...
Wa, u really din eat ar, me at least ate some fish porridge in the morning...hee..so can tahan till dinner when i ate like was being starve for mths...hee..
My kadi was also short and sweet..
Ic,
now i rem liaoz..hee..sorry ar...
dun need to explain shot gun or not leh, that din even crossed my mind..
I dun think i can have baby so soon though, with all the reno loan and stuff...
dark dark good leh ..healthy ..hee...
Wa, u really din eat ar, me at least ate some fish porridge in the morning...hee..so can tahan till dinner when i ate like was being starve for mths...hee..
My kadi was also short and sweet..
Ic,
now i rem liaoz..hee..sorry ar...
dun need to explain shot gun or not leh, that din even crossed my mind..
I dun think i can have baby so soon though, with all the reno loan and stuff...
hello ladies..
wah.. talking about ramadhan already.. ekhekhe.. i already got my outfits tailored.. kiasu but what to do. my bf never wear baju kurung before.. so this yr. i 'tortured' him.. got 4 outfits.. what to do.. got to go all the relatives house and go 'hi.. this is my fiance'.. a lil irritating la to me cos they'll ask many many qns..
last ramadhan i was in camp.. this ramadhan i hope would be better.. hopefully i'll manage to bake some goodies.. any of u baking? i heard some people already placed orders already. i scared to try new 'bakers' dunno the taste nice or not. some when u try their goods, very nice but after order, the one that comes isnt as good.. i end up feeling cheated. so many times already.
Talking about Kadis,
my gf was so freaked out when she went for the interview. She was afraid the kadi would ask her to recite some doa's and stuff. She went there dressed in simple baju kurung, she saw older couples all dressed up.. she got even more nervous, afraid they wont let her in.. hehehe..
IC,
u lucky.. the same kadi solemnised for u.. my parents' kadi has moved on.. to another world.. hehe. i havent even thought of who i want to be my kadi.. thinking of the CC for the lunch reception already a headache..
Marnie,
i decided i shall just pretend to be deaf to my aunts' comments that day.. its my day.. i dun want to be bothered by them.. anyways.. i received a phonecall from toko lisa. they said my outfits are ready for collection. when i came down, apparently they said they didnt call.. and claimed they told me my outfits would be done in Oct. Showed them the receipt.. in front of me, she immediately called the tailor and ask her to quickly do by baju cos my bf's one ready already.. so pissed off.. Standard drop by so much already. Must find new trustworthy tailor!.
wah.. talking about ramadhan already.. ekhekhe.. i already got my outfits tailored.. kiasu but what to do. my bf never wear baju kurung before.. so this yr. i 'tortured' him.. got 4 outfits.. what to do.. got to go all the relatives house and go 'hi.. this is my fiance'.. a lil irritating la to me cos they'll ask many many qns..
last ramadhan i was in camp.. this ramadhan i hope would be better.. hopefully i'll manage to bake some goodies.. any of u baking? i heard some people already placed orders already. i scared to try new 'bakers' dunno the taste nice or not. some when u try their goods, very nice but after order, the one that comes isnt as good.. i end up feeling cheated. so many times already.
Talking about Kadis,
my gf was so freaked out when she went for the interview. She was afraid the kadi would ask her to recite some doa's and stuff. She went there dressed in simple baju kurung, she saw older couples all dressed up.. she got even more nervous, afraid they wont let her in.. hehehe..
IC,
u lucky.. the same kadi solemnised for u.. my parents' kadi has moved on.. to another world.. hehe. i havent even thought of who i want to be my kadi.. thinking of the CC for the lunch reception already a headache..
Marnie,
i decided i shall just pretend to be deaf to my aunts' comments that day.. its my day.. i dun want to be bothered by them.. anyways.. i received a phonecall from toko lisa. they said my outfits are ready for collection. when i came down, apparently they said they didnt call.. and claimed they told me my outfits would be done in Oct. Showed them the receipt.. in front of me, she immediately called the tailor and ask her to quickly do by baju cos my bf's one ready already.. so pissed off.. Standard drop by so much already. Must find new trustworthy tailor!.
Purplebutterfly : Why is the lunch reception at the CC giving you a headache? No need to headache...We have like 4 veterans here (Ally, IC, Interrace and Elaine)- they can surely give advice in this department.
Come come tell us..and we can all give you our opinions...
If your interview with Pasuni Maulan, yes, more often than not, he'll ask you to recite a doa or two. But so far, my friends kena him, are okay.
Don't worry about the makcik makcik all talking about this and that about your wedding. There's bound to be those kind at malay weddings.
Ally : Me not too busy - will be more busy being a Bridezilla I reckon!
I told my mom no need to go paint house, change curtains and what nots. Just the usual food fare on Raya itself. Kuih not baking many. Mostly I'll buy the tried and tested ones from friends.
If your interview with Pasuni Maulan, yes, more often than not, he'll ask you to recite a doa or two. But so far, my friends kena him, are okay.
Don't worry about the makcik makcik all talking about this and that about your wedding. There's bound to be those kind at malay weddings.
Ally : Me not too busy - will be more busy being a Bridezilla I reckon!
Marnie,
Pasuni Maulan..- I kena unofficial interview by him b4 I got married..cos he was my grand uncle! (He's my maternal grandma's cousin). Now only he's more lenient - previously he was notoriously strict leh! Can vouch for it as he was the one solemnizing most of my family member's marriages...except for me and a few others who are scared stiff of him..
This yr, alot of preps for Hari Raya though..have not change my paintworks ever since I moved in to my house..high time to do some repainting now..
Food/goodies-wise, though I'm a strictly DIY person - this yr gotta make some exception by ordering my kuih-kuihs from JB. Have tried n tested them..so far so gd..passed my super sensitive tastebud.
Chin!
If in Ramadhan, we can't meet up for dinner, muz book one day in Syawal for us to go around each other's place for visitation?
Wat say u, ladies?
Pasuni Maulan..- I kena unofficial interview by him b4 I got married..cos he was my grand uncle! (He's my maternal grandma's cousin). Now only he's more lenient - previously he was notoriously strict leh! Can vouch for it as he was the one solemnizing most of my family member's marriages...except for me and a few others who are scared stiff of him..
This yr, alot of preps for Hari Raya though..have not change my paintworks ever since I moved in to my house..high time to do some repainting now..
Food/goodies-wise, though I'm a strictly DIY person - this yr gotta make some exception by ordering my kuih-kuihs from JB. Have tried n tested them..so far so gd..passed my super sensitive tastebud.
Chin!
If in Ramadhan, we can't meet up for dinner, muz book one day in Syawal for us to go around each other's place for visitation?
Wat say u, ladies?
Good morning gals..
Sorry for the late posting.. been quite busy at work after days of leave, plus hubby sick for the past two days really make me tired and busy lor.. like still not recover from the tiredness from my AD.. hahahaha..
Thank you gals for making time to my AD.. very happy to see most of you gals accept for IC.. Did you gals enjoy the food ? I tried to upload some photos but failed due to size too big.. hmmm... wonder how Huichin upload interrace's pics.
I already asked my friend for help, she will reduce the size and shall upload here soon.. please be patient ya.. hehehe..but if still fail I will email to each of you..
I will be away for my honeymoon this coming SAt.. 2 days for Bangkok and 3 days for koh Samui.. hope my hubby will recover by then..
When is our next meet up huh ?? we like no proper meet up lei. always so rush...
Sorry for the late posting.. been quite busy at work after days of leave, plus hubby sick for the past two days really make me tired and busy lor.. like still not recover from the tiredness from my AD.. hahahaha..
Thank you gals for making time to my AD.. very happy to see most of you gals accept for IC.. Did you gals enjoy the food ? I tried to upload some photos but failed due to size too big.. hmmm... wonder how Huichin upload interrace's pics.
I will be away for my honeymoon this coming SAt.. 2 days for Bangkok and 3 days for koh Samui.. hope my hubby will recover by then..
When is our next meet up huh ?? we like no proper meet up lei. always so rush...
Interrace : Why you say like Christmas Tree? You wearing green this year? I'm wearing green this year - I think it's the colour of the year...
Meraj hates the colour though...Bleh....
Elaine : Welcome back dearie!! I loved your deco - simple and sweet - you didn't go wrong with your choice with Bali concept...And the food is delicious....! Didn't eat much though cos' I had birthday do to attend that day and I wanted to eat like a pig there...!
(No surprise there)
Have a great time on your honeymoon!
Girls, I am having a change of plans with the solemnisation. Now going to shift to do it at home cos' Circle Line will affect part of ROMM and there'll be quite a few of the overseas guests who want to attend so it makes sense to do it in the privacy of my home. In the morning. We're having a gift exchange although mechanics of that not worked out. Very simple. About 5 or 6 trays each. One of which from him will be a tier of cake and I will do the same and we'll have the cakes transported to the museum for our wedding cake....so, I get to save costs and kill 2 birds with one stone! What do you all think?
Elaine : Welcome back dearie!! I loved your deco - simple and sweet - you didn't go wrong with your choice with Bali concept...And the food is delicious....! Didn't eat much though cos' I had birthday do to attend that day and I wanted to eat like a pig there...!
Have a great time on your honeymoon!
Girls, I am having a change of plans with the solemnisation. Now going to shift to do it at home cos' Circle Line will affect part of ROMM and there'll be quite a few of the overseas guests who want to attend so it makes sense to do it in the privacy of my home. In the morning. We're having a gift exchange although mechanics of that not worked out. Very simple. About 5 or 6 trays each. One of which from him will be a tier of cake and I will do the same and we'll have the cakes transported to the museum for our wedding cake....so, I get to save costs and kill 2 birds with one stone! What do you all think?
Elaine,
Sorry i couldn't be there at your wedding. When you become a mother with a baby, then you will understand why. Then you will know what is called freedom to go here & there. And you know what is called time management. Anyway enjoy your honeymoon.
Interrace,
Hitachi credit is under which bank? I never heard of that before leh.. How much interest they charge per annum har?
Sorry i couldn't be there at your wedding. When you become a mother with a baby, then you will understand why. Then you will know what is called freedom to go here & there. And you know what is called time management. Anyway enjoy your honeymoon.
Interrace,
Hitachi credit is under which bank? I never heard of that before leh.. How much interest they charge per annum har?
Hi Marnie,
ya loh, really christmas tree leh...bo bian leh, cos that time when we went arab to buy cloth went with his mom and aunty, thus no mood to choose really.
then anyhow point to some green cloth loh..hee..
is hari raya visitin gg to be very tiring ?
cos my CNY, i only go two places during the first day and that's it.
i do hope my hubby will not force me to go every hse loh ...i will cry sia...
two tier cake to museum ? which museum?
normally i tot is the trend to do romm at gal's place? in fact it will make it more rowdy ? as commented by my hubby, more convinent for ur relatives to come and see...
ic,
hitachi credit is by the company hitachi ( the one selling plasma tv and electronics stuff).they open another dept to do loans...thus we are actually borrowing money from the company, not bank.
is flat rate 4.5%, many say that is not very worth it, many recommended rhb bank.
u looking for reno loan?
ya loh, really christmas tree leh...bo bian leh, cos that time when we went arab to buy cloth went with his mom and aunty, thus no mood to choose really.
then anyhow point to some green cloth loh..hee..
is hari raya visitin gg to be very tiring ?
cos my CNY, i only go two places during the first day and that's it.
i do hope my hubby will not force me to go every hse loh ...i will cry sia...
two tier cake to museum ? which museum?
normally i tot is the trend to do romm at gal's place? in fact it will make it more rowdy ? as commented by my hubby, more convinent for ur relatives to come and see...
ic,
hitachi credit is by the company hitachi ( the one selling plasma tv and electronics stuff).they open another dept to do loans...thus we are actually borrowing money from the company, not bank.
is flat rate 4.5%, many say that is not very worth it, many recommended rhb bank.
u looking for reno loan?
Hi Marnie,
ya loh, really christmas tree leh...bo bian leh, cos that time when we went arab to buy cloth went with his mom and aunty, thus no mood to choose really.
then anyhow point to some green cloth loh..hee..
is hari raya visitin gg to be very tiring ?
cos my CNY, i only go two places during the first day and that's it.
i do hope my hubby will not force me to go every hse loh ...i will cry sia...
two tier cake to museum ? which museum?
normally i tot is the trend to do romm at gal's place? in fact it will make it more rowdy ? as commented by my hubby, more convinent for ur relatives to come and see...
ic,
hitachi credit is by the company hitachi ( the one selling plasma tv and electronics stuff).they open another dept to do loans...thus we are actually borrowing money from the company, not bank.
is flat rate 4.5%, many say that is not very worth it, many recommended rhb bank.
u looking for reno loan?
ya loh, really christmas tree leh...bo bian leh, cos that time when we went arab to buy cloth went with his mom and aunty, thus no mood to choose really.
then anyhow point to some green cloth loh..hee..
is hari raya visitin gg to be very tiring ?
cos my CNY, i only go two places during the first day and that's it.
i do hope my hubby will not force me to go every hse loh ...i will cry sia...
two tier cake to museum ? which museum?
normally i tot is the trend to do romm at gal's place? in fact it will make it more rowdy ? as commented by my hubby, more convinent for ur relatives to come and see...
ic,
hitachi credit is by the company hitachi ( the one selling plasma tv and electronics stuff).they open another dept to do loans...thus we are actually borrowing money from the company, not bank.
is flat rate 4.5%, many say that is not very worth it, many recommended rhb bank.
u looking for reno loan?
IC...
I do understand why you couldn't make it, I just feel a little pity that I have got no chance to meet you in person as we chat quite often at the forum... no other meaning.. thanks
GAls..
I uploaded a few pics at yahoo's photos.. I think I send to your through email before I leave to BKK.. My friend is too busy to help me for reducing the size of the pic that you gals and me.. okay ka ??
Marnie..
I should thanks you for recommend Zharin to me.. we found it very nice too.. much nicer than I saw in his ablum.. hahahaha...
I do understand why you couldn't make it, I just feel a little pity that I have got no chance to meet you in person as we chat quite often at the forum... no other meaning.. thanks
GAls..
I uploaded a few pics at yahoo's photos.. I think I send to your through email before I leave to BKK.. My friend is too busy to help me for reducing the size of the pic that you gals and me.. okay ka ??
Marnie..
I should thanks you for recommend Zharin to me.. we found it very nice too.. much nicer than I saw in his ablum.. hahahaha...
IC...
I do understand why you couldn't make it, I just feel a little pity that I have got no chance to meet you in person as we chat quite often at the forum... no other meaning.. thanks
GAls..
I uploaded a few pics at yahoo's photos.. I think I send to your through email before I leave to BKK.. My friend is too busy to help me for reducing the size of the pic that you gals and me.. okay ka ??
Marnie..
I should thanks you for recommend Zharin to me.. we found it very nice too.. much nicer than I saw in his ablum.. hahahaha...
I do understand why you couldn't make it, I just feel a little pity that I have got no chance to meet you in person as we chat quite often at the forum... no other meaning.. thanks
GAls..
I uploaded a few pics at yahoo's photos.. I think I send to your through email before I leave to BKK.. My friend is too busy to help me for reducing the size of the pic that you gals and me.. okay ka ??
Marnie..
I should thanks you for recommend Zharin to me.. we found it very nice too.. much nicer than I saw in his ablum.. hahahaha...
Interrace,
Flat rate 4.5% seems good leh! DBS quoted 7%. How much is rhb bank rated? I don't know yet. Still looking around. But hubby not keen in taking up any loans. He said he doesn't want to be surrounded by loans. But i want my house fast! But if the master not keen, then mistress no say. That means mistress have to wait house longer..
Elaine,
I very much wanted to see you on that day. Can ask Ally lah.. I think she kena suan by me always asking about you & others. Sigh..nevermind. Hopefully one day we'll get to meet up.
Girls,
Do you know anything that can improve luck?
Flat rate 4.5% seems good leh! DBS quoted 7%. How much is rhb bank rated? I don't know yet. Still looking around. But hubby not keen in taking up any loans. He said he doesn't want to be surrounded by loans. But i want my house fast! But if the master not keen, then mistress no say. That means mistress have to wait house longer..
Elaine,
I very much wanted to see you on that day. Can ask Ally lah.. I think she kena suan by me always asking about you & others. Sigh..nevermind. Hopefully one day we'll get to meet up.
Girls,
Do you know anything that can improve luck?
Hi elaine,
So you be sending the pics to our email, in case u forgot liaoz, my email addy is : [email protected]
tks tks...when u gg for ur HM ?
Hi IC,
the last time that i checked out rhb(few mths ago) rate was ard 6.5%?
Actually hor, i will agree with ur hubby leh, cos no loan is better...if can afford to reno without any loan will be great!!!
we got no $$, that's why gotta take loan ...
improve luck...not very sure... sorry.
So you be sending the pics to our email, in case u forgot liaoz, my email addy is : [email protected]
tks tks...when u gg for ur HM ?
Hi IC,
the last time that i checked out rhb(few mths ago) rate was ard 6.5%?
Actually hor, i will agree with ur hubby leh, cos no loan is better...if can afford to reno without any loan will be great!!!
we got no $$, that's why gotta take loan ...
improve luck...not very sure... sorry.
Hi IC,
No worried, i also found out abt this loan from my ID.
Got its pros and cons, think u still have plenty of time to do research on the diff btw bank loans and pte co loans..
sorry, can provide u with the diff, as i din do the research myself, hubby decided on taking up loan from hitachi loh , so money matters let him handle.
Good leh, stay home mom ...i wish next time if i have little baby i can afford to stay at home too, but looking at the circumstances,dun think will have the ability to do likewise. am thinking of ways to do smthg freelance, so that i may have the flexi time next time.
watching ur baby grow each day is precious ...
so u staying with ur in-laws now ?
No worried, i also found out abt this loan from my ID.
Got its pros and cons, think u still have plenty of time to do research on the diff btw bank loans and pte co loans..
sorry, can provide u with the diff, as i din do the research myself, hubby decided on taking up loan from hitachi loh , so money matters let him handle.
Good leh, stay home mom ...i wish next time if i have little baby i can afford to stay at home too, but looking at the circumstances,dun think will have the ability to do likewise. am thinking of ways to do smthg freelance, so that i may have the flexi time next time.
watching ur baby grow each day is precious ...
so u staying with ur in-laws now ?
Interrace,
I talked with my hubby. But err, he not keen in loans. So that means, i have to wait my house longerlah. Anyway, also because of me lah.. i want my house to be like this, like that.. nice kitchen with oven so i can do baking, then i wanted to have "mirrored walls" at the kitchen for easy clean up, etc etc.. so sigh, hubby said like that have to wait.
It wasn't planned that i become a stay home mom. I was actually working but once my contract over i quit. I didn't renew to take up their offer because the benefits and monetary gains wasn't worth it for the sacrifice. When i was preggie and i had to see my gyane for my monthly check-ups, i had to write email cc copy up to my 4th higher level management just for 1 day mc. Because it was so troublesome, i skipped 2 months of my monthly check-up. When i want to give birth, they only allow me to take 1-2 mths of unpaid leave. But during that time, i must still come back to office if things really get busy. But it won't be long lah being a stay home mom. I will go back to the workforce.
I am not staying with in-laws. I have unsupportive traditional chinese in-laws. Long storylah. But to cut short, it's a closure for me. Neither have i seen them after my wedding dinner & my baby also have not seen them. My baby will grow up without seeing his paternal grandparents. Anyway, my baby don't need to see their unloving black face. It's torturous for my baby.
I talked with my hubby. But err, he not keen in loans. So that means, i have to wait my house longerlah. Anyway, also because of me lah.. i want my house to be like this, like that.. nice kitchen with oven so i can do baking, then i wanted to have "mirrored walls" at the kitchen for easy clean up, etc etc.. so sigh, hubby said like that have to wait.
It wasn't planned that i become a stay home mom. I was actually working but once my contract over i quit. I didn't renew to take up their offer because the benefits and monetary gains wasn't worth it for the sacrifice. When i was preggie and i had to see my gyane for my monthly check-ups, i had to write email cc copy up to my 4th higher level management just for 1 day mc. Because it was so troublesome, i skipped 2 months of my monthly check-up. When i want to give birth, they only allow me to take 1-2 mths of unpaid leave. But during that time, i must still come back to office if things really get busy. But it won't be long lah being a stay home mom. I will go back to the workforce.
I am not staying with in-laws. I have unsupportive traditional chinese in-laws. Long storylah. But to cut short, it's a closure for me. Neither have i seen them after my wedding dinner & my baby also have not seen them. My baby will grow up without seeing his paternal grandparents. Anyway, my baby don't need to see their unloving black face. It's torturous for my baby.
Huichin : No lah.....not cute in that way...Like cute cute lor....Very compatible you two.
Elaine : Ahhh...no problemo. When I communicated with him through email, I found him rather "nice" (I always get a feel for these things - weird right?) and with his deco portfolio and price packages, it's quite affordable lor....So, share info with you lah..I keep info for myself also not good...What for right?
Interrace : Yah....me going to solemnise at home now. Only the dinner reception will be at the Asian Civilisations Museum. But because I really really want to have a wedding cake (this is leaning towards the western Meraj and I), I thought one of the gifts to exchange at the solemnisation be a tier of cake each. That way not wasted that I can have my cake and eat it too.
Hmmm...I'm always thinking about food!
IC : I think your hubby is also quite smart - that's why you marry him right? I think to take loans has more cons than pros. Really need to calculate and budget even before committing lor...that's why I want to look for house already calculate like mad and settle on a budget. Quite stressful.
Elaine : Ahhh...no problemo. When I communicated with him through email, I found him rather "nice" (I always get a feel for these things - weird right?) and with his deco portfolio and price packages, it's quite affordable lor....So, share info with you lah..I keep info for myself also not good...What for right?
Interrace : Yah....me going to solemnise at home now. Only the dinner reception will be at the Asian Civilisations Museum. But because I really really want to have a wedding cake (this is leaning towards the western Meraj and I), I thought one of the gifts to exchange at the solemnisation be a tier of cake each. That way not wasted that I can have my cake and eat it too.
IC : I think your hubby is also quite smart - that's why you marry him right? I think to take loans has more cons than pros. Really need to calculate and budget even before committing lor...that's why I want to look for house already calculate like mad and settle on a budget. Quite stressful.
IC
FYI, Hitachi Credit dun juz gve loans for reno works, they also have loans for most instalments such as car loans, household (Courts) etc.
Wah, ur ex-co..as teruk as my ex-co also lah...anyway,its a blessing in disguise isn't it..u can have all the time with Arshad, seeing him grow. Tats every mums' wish..i think..
As for changing luck, I can't recommend u any, but u believe in feng shui?
Elaine
Enjoy ur HM! Koh Samui, nice!!!
Interrace
Hari Raya visitations - can be quite tiring if ur hubby had such a big family..anyway..its celebrated for a month ..though, locals here will celebrate it max abt 2 weeks or so.
Okie ladies..
Enjoy ur weekend..!!!
FYI, Hitachi Credit dun juz gve loans for reno works, they also have loans for most instalments such as car loans, household (Courts) etc.
Wah, ur ex-co..as teruk as my ex-co also lah...anyway,its a blessing in disguise isn't it..u can have all the time with Arshad, seeing him grow. Tats every mums' wish..i think..
As for changing luck, I can't recommend u any, but u believe in feng shui?
Elaine
Enjoy ur HM! Koh Samui, nice!!!
Interrace
Hari Raya visitations - can be quite tiring if ur hubby had such a big family..anyway..its celebrated for a month ..though, locals here will celebrate it max abt 2 weeks or so.
Okie ladies..
Enjoy ur weekend..!!!
Marnie,
I know some couples go everything at one shot, wedding, house, reno & honeymoon. We can do that but with loans. But we not those risk takers. If put on a scale, we're very low risk takers. Hubby lagi worse. His is negative on the scale.
So we're not those type who were also play stocks, buy bonds / investments. I guess you can put it, we're those "traditional" kind of people when comes to finance. If they are a lot of people like us, i think the financial consultants or bankers will be out of jobs.
Ally,
i don't really believe in feng shui. Really work meh?
I know some couples go everything at one shot, wedding, house, reno & honeymoon. We can do that but with loans. But we not those risk takers. If put on a scale, we're very low risk takers. Hubby lagi worse. His is negative on the scale.
Ally,
i don't really believe in feng shui. Really work meh?
IC : I hear you..I'm also a traditionalist when it comes to finances. Meraj is a bit more of a liberal kind. He's quite frugal with money when it comes to certain things but willing to spend on others. Whereas I will think think and ponder over something before committing. Meraj likes to say I psycho-analyse everything!
Interrace : Forgot to ask you. Did you hubby and you go visit all his side of relatives after your wedding? Sort of like a formal introduction into his side of the family. If not, then I guarantee, you got to go to a lot of people's houses during Raya. Usually, we do lots of visiting in the first 2 weeks. For my family, first day, only go to my aunt's place that's all.
Interrace : Forgot to ask you. Did you hubby and you go visit all his side of relatives after your wedding? Sort of like a formal introduction into his side of the family. If not, then I guarantee, you got to go to a lot of people's houses during Raya. Usually, we do lots of visiting in the first 2 weeks. For my family, first day, only go to my aunt's place that's all.
Elaine: Enjoy ur trip ah!!!
Ally: Yea i think we should go for dinner during the fasting month! then we can all break our fasts together!! heehe..
Sighs...me neber make any baju this yr...as usual..too broke liaoz. So always wait for last min then go scouting the 'similar' looking bajus in the katong complex! sobsob
Ally: Yea i think we should go for dinner during the fasting month! then we can all break our fasts together!! heehe..
Sighs...me neber make any baju this yr...as usual..too broke liaoz. So always wait for last min then go scouting the 'similar' looking bajus in the katong complex! sobsob
Girls,
Better say early. I don't think i can join you girls to break fast outside. Coz now i different oredi, married. Have to break fast at home. Hmm, must "educate" my baby that it's breaking fast time.
And i also don't want my mother to grumble later that i so irresponsible never serve hubby for breaking of fast properly at home.
Better say early. I don't think i can join you girls to break fast outside. Coz now i different oredi, married. Have to break fast at home. Hmm, must "educate" my baby that it's breaking fast time.
IC : Don't worry....We all understand..and it's good breaking fast at home with your family. Family important first and foremost. We'll go visit you when Syawal comes yes?
Huichin : Me only make one baju this year. Every year whilst I'm excited about buying the fabric, I'm not that excited about sending it to the dressmaker to make my baju...Weird right?
Huichin : Me only make one baju this year. Every year whilst I'm excited about buying the fabric, I'm not that excited about sending it to the dressmaker to make my baju...Weird right?
Marnie,
Like that you should wear sari lah.. no need to make baju, just wrap the fabric round your body.
This year i think i shall wear the baju which i bought last year. When i bought the baju last year, i told myself or shall i say, i console myself that i could wear it even i have tummy (preggie). Sigh, in the end, on the actual day itself, didn't wear coz i know i won't feel comfortable. Can't even zip up the kain.
Like that you should wear sari lah.. no need to make baju, just wrap the fabric round your body.
IC : I think I score points with my FMIL by already retaliating to his son's every whim for soccer...
But I LURVE sarees. Very glamourous....though sometimes, I wonder if I will look frumpy wearing it...
So how's the rest of the Girls here today? I'm very shacked today.....1st day of move and I have till Saturday....i think I need a good massage......all this additional stress is not good.
But I LURVE sarees. Very glamourous....though sometimes, I wonder if I will look frumpy wearing it...
So how's the rest of the Girls here today? I'm very shacked today.....1st day of move and I have till Saturday....i think I need a good massage......all this additional stress is not good.
Marnie,
Me down with fever n flu - kena from hubby n kids..juz woke up from sleep after all the medicine.. Totally understand how u felt, had the same duties last yr when my ex-co moved from middle road to shenton way. After the move, I took a very long leave from them - I QUIT! hehehe..
IC
Regarding fengshui, cannot say tat I totally dun believe in it - but I see some difference lor in certain areas of my life.
Me down with fever n flu - kena from hubby n kids..juz woke up from sleep after all the medicine.. Totally understand how u felt, had the same duties last yr when my ex-co moved from middle road to shenton way. After the move, I took a very long leave from them - I QUIT! hehehe..
IC
Regarding fengshui, cannot say tat I totally dun believe in it - but I see some difference lor in certain areas of my life.