Any Mixed Marriages here? Esp Chinese-Malay Muslim couple

[icechoco]

Sigh..i think my survey a bit vague hor.. should have been more clearer regarding where to stay. Cuclainne..maybe i shall rewrite it.

<font color="ff0000">Ok Girls... my rewrite survey:
1. Save first and then buy &amp; reno your dream home. In the meantime, either rent, stay with Parents or Parents-in-law.
2. Buy any home first, reno minimal and then after few years (usually more than 5 years), try to resell in the market, then purchase dream home.
3. Purchase dream home first but don't reno until have sufficient budget to reno to "dream home". In the meantime either rent, stay with Parents or Parents-in-law.
4. Got the dream home already.</font>

Survey:
Option 1: Ally, Cuclainne(i suppose you choose this option)
Option 4: Interrace


Ally:
Serious ah! I thought it doesn't matter which loan you take whether HDB or bank loans. Wah..first time i hear leh. Coz i know some ppl bought resale flats but they can't sell of until the 5 year lease. hmm... this one must go check out with HDB. You gotta be serious leh?! You mean during single life you got a sofa in your room??? WOW!! wait..i mean seriously, those bride have their own bed &amp; wardrobe. Then, the groom also have their own bed &amp; wardrobe right? Then don't tell me when they get married, each of them bring their own bed &amp; wardrobe??!

Don't want to buy queen size bed to sleep together ah??

Then cupboard also need to get bigger one leh..since combine.

 

[marnie]

IC : I'd go for Option 1.

 

[icechoco]

Survey Update - Dream Home Survey:
Option 1: Ally, Cuclainne(you confirm on this?), Marnie
Option 4: Interrace

Ok..Girls..another survey. Baby Survey
1. Would you have a baby afer you straightaway married?
2. Would you have a baby after at least more than a year of marriage?
3. Would you have a baby in your mid 20s / late 20s?
4. Would you have a baby in your 30s?
5. Let nature takes it course?

 

[marnie]

IC : I'd say Option 5 is for me.

 

[takahara]

IC,

alamak..definitely buy a queen/king sized bed lah..Wat i meant was - should u get a temp house b4 u buy ur dream home, definitely muz buy some basic furniture also mah...so it's like double expenditure when u finally purchase ur dream home.

On ur 2nd survey,

I choose no 5..but it backfired on me..cos I got preggie on my wedding nite!!

but 2nd pregnancy was kinda like option 3

 

[cuclainne]

ic - My opinion is that any home would be good enough for me, as long as FH is there. Hahahahah ... I know some of you are rolling your eyes ah. But anyways, home is where the heart is so really, which option is that ah?

As for the Baby Survey, I would pick option 5. If it happens immediately after wedding, good ... if it takes longer, it's also good lor ... as long as can get ... hahahahah.

 

[icechoco]

Dream House Survey
Option 1: Ally, Marnie
Option 4: Interrace, Cuclainne (consider here lah)

Baby Survey
Option 5: Marnie, Ally, Cuclainne

<font color="0000ff">Ally</font>:
oh ok lah...you think so much lah!

No need to buy so many things lah if rent. Probably used 2nd hand stuffs or hands-down stuffs from relatives, friends etc..

 

[interrace]

Morning gals!!

for the baby survey,think will be :
option 4.
cos i dun plan to have one now and CANNOT afford to have one and also dun have the tots to have one.
When in my 30s ...then maybe my tots towards having baby will change and maybe finished up my loans and save a bit more $$, then can plan to have one ba...or adopt one.too old to give birth liaoz..keke

 

[hpyue]

Good the morning gals..

Survery time ...
IC
Dream house Survery : optional 5 lor.. I hope not to stay with inlaws la... to avoid problem.
Already I got problem communicate with her. hahahaha

Baby Survery : Option 2 now still not ready lei.. once got baby will tie me all the way liow no time for anything else.. Ic : me already 30+ hehe.. oldest amoung your right ?? hehehehe

Ally..
Me korean fans, watched afew and so far "Da Chang Jing is the best korean drama I ever seen, the rest is all love story and a little long winded.. wanted to buy stairway to heaven, no patient to wait as only showing twice a week..

Interrace..
Congrats to you ya... 3 more days to your "Big Day".. rest well.. sleep well and look good on that day.. shall wait for huichin to upload your pics.. hehe cant wait

 

[interrace]

Hi Elaine,

Thank you for your well-wishes!
Actually my costumes for that day not very good loh, think i made the wrong choice.
Morning one, look nice from the pics when i chose but when i saw the real thing, it look so old and torn...lunch one i dun look good also ...
so not gg to look pretty, but will try to look happy...keke...

30+ not old loh , still young ..

when i reach 30, i will celebrate, just like 21yrs old like tat, cos is another stage of life..

 

[icechoco]

Update Dream House Survey:
Option 1: Ally, Marnie
Option 4: Interrace, Cuclainne (consider here lah), ElaineYue

Update Baby House Survey:
Option 5: Marnie, Ally, Cuclainne
Option 4: Interrace
Option 2: ElaineYue(you're considering this)

Elaine
Oklah..not old. I know got some ppl marry 40+! *faint. You're more financially secured when marrying at this age and more matured.

Interrace
Wah..you had big 21st celebration ah? You know me so poor thing

. I celebrated by myself with one of my friend only. Furthermore, had exam on that day.

 

[huichin]

Hi girls,

solly i haven read the rest of the posts yet...superrrr bz...but hor, wanna update everyone:

For Jamie wedding,
I will be there wif my bf at abt 2.15 or 2.30pm. Cos he's working and cant gimme an actual time...

So hor...i have 2 meet u girls straight at the venue - Woodlands CC.

Can u girls arrange and go there 1st? solly...

Btw, may i know who's going and wif hubby / bf or not?

hehe...

 

[cuclainne]

Hey All

I have another wedding to attend (also at Woodlands) so I'm bringing my mother. Lol - some hot date, right? Ah Boy is only coming on Monday so he won't be coming for Jamie's wedding but I'll be bringing him to Elaine's.

 

[cuclainne]

There are apparently two CCs in Woodlands. Is it the one at Street 81 or Street 83?

 

[marnie]

Huichin : Me going alone. No date.

Meraj is in London now for about a month...*missing him* I'll be there around that time.

Cuclainne : No worries lah...Your mom is hip and happening right??

Girls : Er...which CC ah??? Street 81 or 83? Must confirm with me leh.....I going alone. Don't want to look like an idiot....

 

[marnie]

Found it already - it's walking distance from the station. at Street 81.

 

[cuclainne]

Ladies, how was Jamie's wedding yesterday? I'm so sorry that I wasn't able to come. I had to work yesterday.

 

[marnie]

Cuclainne : I was there for record time - only half an hour. Didn't get to meet Huichin cos' I came back from aerobics and wanted to just chill first before hitting the shower then fell asleep so got there at 3.30pm - Huichin had just left. Some more I was a lone ranger...

The wedding was sweet and simple. I saw quite a few Chinese people whom I presume are Interrace's family members.

Elaine : I may not be able to turn up for your wedding, sorry girl. Got another prior engagement. But nothing is written in stone yet. I will let you and the rest of the girls know whether me coming. What are the details of your wedding by the way?

 

[huichin]

Hi everyone! Yea, Jamie's wedding was real nice and simple. Hehe...me din get to meet Marnie too, as i was there since 2.15pm...heh...then left at abt 3.15...I guess Jamie was still there rite..heh...

What a small world! Her MUA recognised me as she's from Decorama, and i've tok to her b4 at the Wedding Exhibition at the expo! Haha...the the DJ was my bf's fren, from my same Sec Sch! lol...

Anywayz, I got to snap some photos for u girls to see. hehe...

Here u go!

 

[huichin]

 

[huichin]

 

[huichin]

Btw, i msged Ally yesterday, but she din reply me...callin for Ally...where u?

lol...

 

[marnie]

Huichin : Interrace very sweet hor...her hubby and her look almost alike. There's an old malay saying that says if both groom and bride looks almost alike, the marriage will be long and steady. Soooo happy for Interrace.

I didn't get to see her leh by the way...but maybe I was like zoom in and zoom out cos' I was alone - felt a bit out of place ler...

 

[cuclainne]

Thanks for the photos, Hui Chin.

Yes, Jamie and her hubby looks very good together ... so happy for them.

 

[icechoco]

Huichin,
Thanks for the lovely photos! My son got slight fever after his injection yesterday.

But he's ok now.. Har? you call this simple? Wah..then, mine dunno what to say already.

Very nice decor.

Interrace
Congratulations on your wedding!!!! You're a lovely bride. Like Princess like that! All in yellow...it's the royal colour for malay.

marnie
You mean you went there without seeing the bride &amp; groom? Alamak... you sure out of place lah if you're alone!

 

[takahara]

Hi girls..

Sorry for the long absence...Hubby's grandad was hospitalised..n we r practically there everyday..juz in case...

Interrace,

So sorry that I couldn't attend ur wedding, so many things happening at home..But u look very pretty. Nice to be the queen for the day ya?

Huichin,

Im so sorry..did u sms to my 938...hp no? tat no - currently SIM card was spoilt..so I suspend the line at the moment. but u can get me by my other no. Thanx for uploading the pix gal!!! really apptreciate it.

Marnie,

can totaly understand how u felt..usually..i will also feel the same if i'm alone in a wedding reception..so out of place.

 

[marnie]

IC : Yeah lor. I went there like a slink...I mean just went in...ate a bit and then looked for the "orang rumah" and gave the ang pow and then left. In and out in half an hour. Never so fast before in my entire life..

Interrace: You very very beautiful. You two make a handsome couple. May your marriage be a loving and lasting one.

Ally : Oh dear....How's your hubby's grandpa? I hope all is fine.

Cuclainne : Don't forget us in this thread now that your Ah Boy is in town, yes...?

 

[takahara]

Morn!!!

Marnie,

We are not having high hopes. The docs are asking us to keep vigil as his heart may collapse anytime..sigh...anyway..he has lived to a ripe old age..juz turn 95 last month.

 

[huichin]

Cuclaine: No probs! haha...

IC: No probs too! lol...oh my, glad tt ur son is ok liao! eh..haha...yea to me it's simple and nice...and enuf liao! haha...

Ally: oh no,...hope ur grandad be fine. Oh ya i sms to ur tt no. ...hehe...

Marnie: poor u! lol...i wanted to say hi to Jamie, dats y must go forward to tok to her...heh...

Alrite, girls! Let's arrange to meet up again! If cant make it, we must go to Elaine's wedding together!! haha...

 

[icechoco]

Marnie,

, So when you give the angbao, the "orang rumah" i bet also wondering who are you right? Got ask you whether you know the groom or bride a not?

huichin,
I'll try my best to come. Definitely must go together if not..sure awkward.

Ally,
Oklah.. hopefully everything will be ok. If he collapse, just let him go. He has live a long life. How i wish my grandpa was still around to attend my wedding.

 

[hpyue]

Hello gals...

Huichin..
THe photos very nice.. thanks ..

Ally...
How's thing ? you too get some rest ya..

Marnie..
Tot you said you will come to my wedding first or the other way round ?? try to make it la..

Gals...
I will send out my invitation cards by tomorrow, please open your letter box for those that email me their address ok ??

Marnie Ally and cuclaine
I think you have yet to email me your address ??

 

[cuclainne]

My Ah Boy is here already. He's here at my home, using the wireless to pay some bills. Lol. Aiyah, I won't forget you girls just because he's here la.

 

[marnie]

Cuclainne : Aiyoh...Your Ah Boy and Meraj can put together in the same room. Here but have to pay this bill lah that bill lah. I wonder sometimes whether Meraj comes here to spend time with me or pay his bills.

Having said that..I miss my Meraj....

Oooh...HELLO Cuclainne's Ah Boy!!!

Ally : Aye. If God's will that he moves on, then your hubby's grandpa will be better with HIM. We're all with you and your family in this difficult times.

IC : Yeah yeah. I went to Interrace's hubby's mom. She asked who I was with, who I know..I was like....said Jamie off the top of my head cos' cannot remember her muslim name. Then salam then faster walked off. I was very cartoon...

Elaine : I thought I emailed you already my address? Anyways, I PMed you my snail mail. Off-hand can you let me know where the reception is going to be and what time to what time so I can plan and see what my itinerary for the day looks like. No promises but I will try to make it to your wedding, k?

Huichin : Yes must must! Definitely must meet this week or else must wait till Elaine's wedding. I haven't figured out whether I can make it to Elaine's so even then may not even be able to meet up...

 

[hpyue]

Marnie..

Oh did you send ?? but still I cant find, err.. or maybe I accidentally deleted away ?? hmmm.. I received the mail you just PMed me, will send all out tomorrow.. Thank you for re-sending ya..
Okay My AD will be held at Bukit Panjang Ring road ( quite near to Interrace's place) if I am not wrong, time will be from 11am to 5pm. I will be walking down to the dias between 1230pm to 1pm..

Okay gals, I am sending out most of the cards tomorrow, IC and Cuclainne I need your address but again if is inconvenient, please let me know and I will email you the venue and time.
Thanks gals

 

[cuclainne]

Ally, so sorry to hear about that but I do hope that you take care of yourself ... especially if you're spending nights keeping vigil.

Marnie, I already know that he likes to 'borrow' my internet connection at home ... beats having to sit alone at a cafe. Then of course, he will get side-tracked and start reading the emails, surfing the net and chatting with his friends ... sigh, the things we put up with. Lol.

Last night, he tried the rojak with century egg ... yummy, he said. He really overdid it on the juices I think - starfruit la, lychee la, etc. Each time he's here, he's always all out to try everything - food wise I mean. I always believe things in moderation, so your stomach will get used to it and not reject it. Lol.

Elaine, I will email you my address at the starhub account, yah?

 

[interrace]

Dear Gals,

So sad u all cant make it to my wedding, i only get to see huichin and her bf..

Marnie!!!! how come nvr come to say hi before u go off???
Thank you all for the well wishes, me just am glad is over..hee..

Very tiring, my cheeks cramped since morning from all the smiling..
Me dun look alike my hubby lah, he more good looking, i was better looking tat day due to the makeup ...
so when i do get to meet u all during elaine's AD, dun say i look diff hor...cos i am really not pretty one, just makeup nice nice only.
elaine, u are rite ...my new home near ur AD place...
will check my letterbox, cos my reno started, will be gg down to check and make sure things are on the rite track..

Ally,
sorry to hear abt your grandpa.
U gotta take good care of ur own health too ya..while bustling to and fro..

 

[hpyue]

Hi gals...

I already send out all the cards today to Ally, Marnie, Cuclainne, Huichin and Interrace accept for IC,still waiting for her email. Do drop me a line upon recevie ya.. Thanks again

Interrace..
YOu very pretty. Thanks to Huichin very nice of her, so when are you going to your honeymoon ?? dont forget to come back for my wedding.. hehehe..
have a nice and romantic trip ..

 

[hpyue]

Gals..

FYI... My muslim name call Sarah, incase your wonder who is sarah on the envelope.. hehehe..

 

[icechoco]

Elaine,
What is your email address?

 

[hpyue]

ic..
hmm.. tot you PMed me last week ?? hehehehe
[email protected]

THanks

 

[icechoco]

Elaine,
When i PM you, i can't see your email address. And err..got send you email before but forgotten your email address as i didn't save in the address book and you didn't respond to my emails, so i don't know whether you receive it or not. Anyway, just send you my email.

 

[interrace]

Hi Elaine,

Thanks for ur invitation!
Decided to postpone my honeymoon, so will definately be there for ur wedding..

two more wks to ur big day, excited ?
keke...for me, my hubby complaint i dun look or act excited at all ....which is true, maybe cos married or not, is the same thingy for me ?

 

[hpyue]

Interrace...

hmmm.... I am also not very excited lei!!! why huh ?? hahahaha.. so after weeks of preparation now is a time for you to relax relaz ya?? did you off for a couple of days before going back to work ?? So how is your new place doing now so far ?? everything should be better than before ya.. now I am trying to slim down more before my big day so that I dont look big when photos taking.. hehehe.. very vain of me !!!

 

[huichin]

Muahahaa...girls! izzit becos u all prepare until too tired, to the extent that u dun feel anything anymore? haha...

Thanks Elaine: for ur email abt the reno contractor. Btw, u're so slim liao! No need la!! haha...

Marnie: Interrace's muslim name is Jamelia - like Jamie! haha..

Anywayz, hope to see ur invite card today! hehe...been checking my mailbox faithfully wor...hAha

 

[marnie]

Elaine : Aiyah....You very slim liao....I think I need to see you more often then you can be reminded of what "big" means...

Oooh...and I got your invite liao!!! Soo exciting!

I haven't come up with plans as to that day cos' we're all soo busy in the office with the packing and moving but will definitely coordinate with the girls here.

Interrace : Don't be shy lah..You quite pretty lah.....

Dunno know leh. I like blur blur that day at your wedding reception. All I can think about is to finish eating fast fast and go back. Alone leh...paiseh...plus...also tired from aerobics in the morning. Sorry girl!

Huichin : Thanks! Aiyoh..that day my mouth clammed up like never before - everything also cannot remember. So unlike me...

Girls : Hands up who's going for Elaine's wedding?

She's walking down the aisle at 12.30 - 1pm. Do you reckon, we should be there at about 12.15pm? I don't want to be too late cos' I have to go off to Carlton Hotel for a birthday party. Quite a distance to go. Again me will be flying solo if I attend Elaine's wedding.

Sorry ah girls, for me being so "demanding".

Cuclainne : You've forgotten us already issit?

I have my questions all ready for Ah Boy.....

 

[cuclainne]

I haven't forgotten any of you la. Lol

Elaine, I got your card already. Thanks very much ...

Marnie, so are you free tomorrow night? A bunch of us are going to Penny Black for some pub grub.

 

[interrace]

Hi Elaine,
Now still got few days before ur AD, think the nite before is the most exciting ba...cos for me, i was only excited until i woke up at 4am that morning, cant finished my fish porridge also...(yup, early in the morning, mom made fish porridge for me, knowing i will not have anything else to eat thereafter.)

Hse doing still, havent gone in to check it out yet..maybe gg tonite.

then can open the letter box and see ur card.

Marnie,
thank you thank yoU!!
Me hands up, will be there with hubby i guess...
12.15pm sounds fine with me, so meet u all at the place then ?
but i can only recognise huichin leh ...

wonder how ally is doing... ?

 

[hpyue]

Good morning gals..

Aiyo, next sunday will be my AD liow, very fast lei, alot of things still not done yet, I will have my hair trim and coloured this weekend, facial next week, mani and pedicure, need to get a pair of shoe to match my gown. Aiyo.. headache.. I dont think I will have the time to post anything here next week.. feeling stress liow.

GAls... May I ask for malay wedding, and friends,relatives give "ang pow" how both families manage them huh ?? coz is different from chinese lei.. my hubby said all "ang pow" should give to his parent, they will distribute back to us by the end of the day when there is "extra" cash but my friend told me that is only when my inlaws paid for the whole event and I never come out a cent.
Sorry I guess this is very personal but still I need some advise as I am not sure if there is a law for this kind of thing ??

 

[cuclainne]

My parents will be taking all the 'ang pows' because they'll be paying for the event. FH and I have no problems with that. I suppose you should get a share, especially if you had come out with your own money for part of it.

 

[interrace]

Hi Elaine,

Dun panic yo...njoy ur pampering...

For me, my hubby's parent paid for the whole event, so every single $$ went to them to cover for their cost.
However, what we received during our mini tea session, we are given green light to keep loh.
Hope this helps.