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8 Common Wedding Fears And Its Solutions For A Stress-Free Wedding
We’ve got just the solution to banish your wedding fears.
Every bride wants their wedding day to be as perfect as they plan it to be, so they pour in all their time and effort into their wedding planning to make sure that their big day is free of any hiccups. But despite all the meticulous planning and preparation, most brides-to-be can’t seem to shake off the feeling that something will go wrong on their wedding day or that they’ve forgotten something important for the day.
Now, that’s no way for a bride-to-be to be spending the days leading up to her wedding. She should be relaxed, worry-free and enjoying this once-in-a-lifetime celebration. To banish any unnecessary pre-wedding stress and fears, we’ve lined up eight of the most common wedding day fears and how to get over them so brides-to-be can kick back and relax, and enjoy this special journey.
1. Falling Sick On Your Wedding DayRachel and Aaron’s Intimate and Unplugged Wedding at Maison Miaja by Andri Tei Photography
One of the worse things that can happen to a bride in the days leading up to or on her wedding day is falling sick. Not only will you not be feeling your best, you will likely not look your best either.
To prevent one of your worst fears from happening, you should take extra care of your health in the lead-up to your wedding day, and that includes getting at least seven hours of sleep, drinking plenty of water, eating and exercising well, and taking a break from your wedding planning whenever you feel stressed out.
2. Problems With The Wedding DressCalista and Christopher’s Beautiful Wedding at Tirtha Uluwatu Bali by Iluminen
You’ve finally found the dress of your dreams and you can’t wait to put it on and show it to the world on your wedding day, but the what-ifs just keep running through your mind as you eagerly await D-day. “What if I can’t fit into my dress at the last minute?”, “What if the zipper breaks when I put it on?”, “What if I dirty my dress even before my wedding begins?”
Worrying about what-ifs is not going to prevent any mishaps from happening to or fix any problems with your dress. Instead, trust your chosen bridal boutique and turn up for all your scheduled fittings to make sure that your dress has the right measurements for your big day. While your bridal boutique is more than capable of taking in or letting out a few inches, don’t lose or put on too much weight or the extensive alterations required might alter the final look of your dress.
Now, on-the-day wardrobe malfunctions are a little trickier but they can be manageable with the right tools. Pack an emergency kit filled with some baby powder, a travel sewing kit, some buttons or press studs, safety pins, fashion tape and the like, and hand it over to your bridesmaids for safekeeping. In the event of any loose seam or accidental spills, they’ll have all the necessary items at hand to handle the situation.
3. Bad or Rainy WeatherXue Qi and Chun Wai’s Ethereal and Romantic Vow Renewal Styled shoot at Buangkok Crescent Field by Present on Pixels
The weather is a tricky variable that can trip up even the most prepared bride. While we don’t have to deal with four changes of season like the most of the world do, we are still faced with the possibility of wet weather in certain months. If you are planning an outdoor wedding, then dark clouds or rain could be one of your worst fears!
With the weather getting more and more unpredictable these days, it will be wise to discuss alternative plans and arrangements in the event of bad weather with your venue and vendors to make sure that your outdoor reception or wedding can still proceed despite the weather. Don’t forget to check if a top-up is required if you need a temporary tent set up or Plan B to happen.
4. Tripping Down The AisleTing Ping and Edward’s Gorgeous Wedding in Capella Singapore by Antelope Studios
One of the main highlights of your wedding is your march down the aisle and the last thing you want to do is to trip on your walk and fall down in front of the love of your life and the rest of your guests!
While this fear is very real, the chances of it happening is actually slimmer than you think. Nevertheless, there are some steps you can take to prevent this from happening. First, make sure your dress is of the correct length for you on your wedding day after taking into consideration the height of your high-heel shoes.
Second, if you’re not used to walking in high-heel shoes, either do away with it or pick one with a lower heel that you can walk comfortably and confidently in.
Third, engage your father’s or beloved’s help in holding your dress during your march-ins so you don’t step on the hem as you walk down the aisle. Lastly, if you really do trip on your dress, don’t panic. Instead, laugh or shrug it off and your guests will remember how you handled the slip-up instead of focusing on the embarrassing accident.
5. Bad/Unflattering PhotosSoh Fia and Joshua’s Charming Wedding at Furama Riverfront and CHIJMES Hall by Colossal Weddings
With weddings, there is no reset button, so if your big day isn’t properly documented or you’re not looking your best during the celebration, you may end up with badly taken or unflattering wedding photos.
To lessen your worries about missing out on moments or unflattering photos, always choose to engage a professional wedding photographer to document your wedding day. Professional wedding photographers understand when and where to take the best photos, so you can rest assured that they’ll capture those fleeting but oh-so-important moments on your big day.
6. Bad Hair/Makeup DayHui Kin and Andie’s Paper-Floral Wedding at Andaz The Glasshouse by Joy De Vi
It’s your wedding day, so it’s only natural that you’ll want to look your absolute best since all eyes are going to be on you. But you’re worried that all that pressure to look your best is going to give you blotchy skin and skin breakouts instead. And what if your wedding day turns out to be a bad hair day?!
Firstly, worrying about a bad hair day or blotchy, blemished skin is not going to stop them from happening. So, the best thing you can do for yourself is not to worry or overthink. Let nature take its course and do everything you can to prep your skin and hair in the days leading up to your wedding day.
Discuss with your hair and makeup artist on how you can conceal blotchy or blemished skin, or what alternative hair-dos you can opt for if your hair is not in the best condition during your trial makeup and hair session with them so you are aware of the solutions you have if things really go awry.
7. Not Having A Perfect WeddingKristine and Sean’s Intimate White Wedding at Botanico at The Garage by Arture Photography
After all that time and effort you’ve put into your wedding planning and getting into the best shape possible, you’re determined to have that perfect wedding you’ve always dreamed of. Except, the florist forgot that you didn’t want white flowers and added them to your bouquet anyway, or your solemnisation ceremony was pushed back because the solemniser arrived late. Argh!
As much as you want your wedding to be perfect, little mishaps are bound to happen, as any bride who has gone through a wedding can attest. So, what you can do is try and prepare for any mishaps that might happen, instead of getting stressed out or anxious over it.
If your solemnisation ceremony has to be pushed back a couple of minutes due to a tardy solemniser, inform your emcees so that they can keep your guests entertained during the wait and get one of your bridesmaids to find out where the solemniser is and how long he or she will need to get to the venue.
For small matters like the wrong colour of flowers, try not to sweat it. Chances are, your guests are not going to notice that the flowers are in the wrong colour, but they are going to notice if you appear distressed or upset about it. So, don’t dwell on it too much, and enjoy your wedding day.
8. Worrying That You’ve Forgotten SomethingLowee and Shawn’s Cosy and Dreamy Botanical Themed Solemnisation at Grub at Bishan Park by Smittenpixels Photography
The fear that you’ve forgotten something is one that every bride-to-be will have, whether she feels it during the wedding planning or on the night before the wedding, and it can mess with the much needed rest she needs to look and feel her best on her wedding day.
Two heads are better than one, so try to loop one or more of your bridesmaids into your planning. Your bridesmaids are there to support and help you so you can fully immerse in the experience of being a bride and enjoy your big day without any anxiety, stress or worries. So, keep them updated on your list of vendors and the items you are supposed to receive for your wedding, and prepare a list of their contact details for your bridesmaids so they can get in touch with them during the wedding if there is a need to.
Secondly, set some time aside the night before your wedding to lay out all the items you’ll need the next day, such as your Si Dian Jin, wedding shoes, wedding dress, and any accompanying accessories. By doing so, you’ll minimise the chances of forgetting something and can rest in peace for the night.
Feature Image from Clara and Tim’s Ethereal Hokkaido Pre-Wedding Session by Adrian from Adrian Seetho Photography