maybe i'll describe a bit of what i want and u all can decide if what i want is realistic or ridiculous
i want my husband...
1) to be romantic and surprise me with little gifts now and then and big gifts on special occassions
2) give me massages every other day
3) hug and kiss me every day... super affectionate
4) have sex once every week, but not lousy kind of sex
5) cook for me every once in a while, maybe once or twice a month, surprise me with candlelight dinner at home, then slow dance to nice music...
6) be able to do household chores, willingly put away his own laundry, won't make a mess of the house, etc... whether or not we have a maid, his personality must be a neat and organized type
7) foots all the bills for the household, earns big money, will save money and knows how to invest money, will not find monthly travel a waste of money, at least must travel four or five times a year, has a condo, or at least have savings to own one
8) listens to me talk and willing to take my advice
9) willing to go out with me for movies, shopping, do activities every week
10) has endless topics to chat with me and is knowledgeable
11) is street smart and not awkward in social settings
12) is not quiet and reserved and need me to guess and ask what he is thinking about
13) will not force me to hang out with him and his family and friends
14) will not expect me to pretend to be a good daughter in law, or whatever in law
15) will not boss me around to do things like how asian man expect their wives to cook, do household chores, obey with questioning, sacrifice for the 'big picture', etc
16) will take care of me when i'm sick, not feeling well and will shower with unconditional love and concern
17) very detailed oriented and will not overlook things like how most men are, oblivious to things right in front of them, forgetful and needs reminder
18) does not demand me to be a career woman, virtuous housewife, sweet loving woman, capable mother, best friend and soulmate all into one package
19) will not quarel with me even if i'm wrong
20) does not curse and swear... not even a single one
21) has very good manners, ideal gentleman
22) has a strong and abled body, healthy
23) at least 1.8m and not skinny nor overweight
24) speaks proper english and fluently
25) loves me deeply, and will love my family like his own and will spend time with my family
26) supports things that i want to do
27) able to give sound advice and unbiased opinions
28) does not dress shabbily nor flamboyantly
29) does not smoke, drinks, gambles, flirts, visit prostitutes, take drugs, have weird fetish or habits
30) emotionally and mentally sound, has his own hobbies and is not overly dependent on me
31) not abusive
32) not possessive
33) wants to have kids with me
34) will take good care of the kids and not think it is the women job to do it
35) will not have extra marital affairs
36) will never change his heart, and will stay true and loyal forever
37) will not look at other women when we go out together
38) will compliment me every few days
39) thinks that i'm the most beautiful women regardless if i am even beautiful or not
40) sings to me, or write poems to me
41) be adventurous enough to try outdoor activities and sports with me
42) be quiet enough to sit down to play chess, boardgames, playstation with me
43) never sulk or frown when he doesn't get the things he wants from me
44) won't play mind games to me
45) is not evil
46) has high morals, values, integrity to me, my family and society
47) will not be overly career-focused and not have time for me
48) will not stop working before 45 even if we inherited a huge sum of money or strike lottery many times
49) is not an unlucky person or jinx on me
50) will not force me into supersitions that i don't believe or force me into another religion
something like that...