Tore the solemnizer consent form

[newproject]

Yes the gal should walk away.btw you should have a mind of ur own and not be easily affected by others.

Oh dear. Did you even read the q?

If positions are reserved and its the girl who toreup paper it's the GUY should walk away.

Hilarious.

Is like your mind can't even process the question. It's always the girl should walk away even if it's the girl with anger issues who tore up the paper..

You are so obvious

 

[newproject]

Thank you all for inputs. This is my first time posting on a forum and this is the multiple reponses I get.
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What happened the next day..
The guy reprint and fill up a detail and scan it.

Woman was angry but learnt that guy has a hard day and the woman being impatient yelled at the guy.

The man and woman both has temper ... cool down talk it out and realsied the man just want peace at home.

Childish or not childish? I also dont know

Let's not focus on labelling.

It's good that you cooled down and learnt to handle conflicts between the 2 of you.

The important thing is you not follow someone's inappropriate advice and instantly jump to the conclusion yr bf is abusive.

 

[ing1]

Thank you all for inputs. This is my first time posting on a forum and this is the multiple reponses I get.
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What happened the next day..
The guy reprint and fill up a detail and scan it.

Woman was angry but learnt that guy has a hard day and the woman being impatient yelled at the guy.

The man and woman both has temper ... cool down talk it out and realsied the man just want peace at home.

Childish or not childish? I also dont know

Hihi, happy to know that the issue has been resolved. Just wondering if you guys attended marriage preparation course? May want to consider attending one. Just my thoughts.

Enjoy your wedding day!

 

[newproject]

Just admit if ur not happy about highlighting men flaws.still say ur not biased.

Feel free to point out examples im biased. I shown evidence for your casè.

anyway people have minds of their own to decide what is Really Happening.i dun see how gd is ur character with ur criticism.I hope u will reflect and stop attacking others.

Hello you attacked Miloce out of blue. And then when you realised you were alone you labelled all other posters here mcp. Nvm there were girls in the thread.

It's pretty obvious to me why you call yourself staypostive. It's a aspirational name to try to stay positive because you are always negative.

 

[miloice]

Thank you all for inputs. This is my first time posting on a forum and this is the multiple reponses I get.
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What happened the next day..
The guy reprint and fill up a detail and scan it.

Woman was angry but learnt that guy has a hard day and the woman being impatient yelled at the guy.

The man and woman both has temper ... cool down talk it out and realsied the man just want peace at home.

Childish or not childish? I also dont know

Hi Huay Mei, if both of you are short fused, it is important to build a good channel of communication for conflict management. Some suggestions that could help.
1) walk away when needed. When you see your partner is losing it and you cannot respond positively as well. Avoid confrontation to minimize hurting each other with words you will both regret after.
2) If its too difficult to talk about, write a letter or email. Take time to draft it, to voice your thoughts, don't send it out immediately. Take time to reread it.... Take a break or nap if necessary, reread it again when you are feeling better. If its still what you wanted to tell him, send it.
3) Remind yourself, pride is not bigger priority than the person you truly love and want to be with. Both parties should always remember that.
Personally, I try not to go to bed with fights unresolved.
Mostly, taking the initative to show concern to my spouse. Apologizing even if I don't agree. Simply because I value US more than pride. I often tell her that we do not agree but it doesn't change my love for her. That remains my priority. Its assuring to her and it serve as a reminder to myself.
4) It is important to not leave issues under the carpet. When you guys calmed down, it is important to align and arrive at the right understanding moving forward. It is OK and normal that we can react childishly at times. It is normal. What is the most impt is whether both of you are still committed to the relationship. Commitment would mean open to feedback, and reflect. Acting in the best interest of our spouses.
Many people expect some level of maturity from our partners but we are all young and naive once. The expectation is sometimes contradicting, especially if couples did not have enough dating history in serious relationships. Learning to grow together is a journey, a path. No one is already at the end of the walk. Maturity and understanding each other comes with years of experience together. There is no other way.

Just my sharing,

 

[miloice]

Hello you attacked Miloce out of blue. And then when you realised you were alone you labelled all other posters here mcp. Nvm there were girls in the thread.

He has a very weird definition of MCP. The common understanding of the term has to do with individuals who thinks that women are inferior to men and who acts on or makes statements to that effect.

When asked to quote how was I a petty MCP, he then went on with more rubbish opinionated views that perfectly reflects his weird 'MCP' interpretation.

 

[Staypositive]

Seriously Miloice give it up.

His typical mo is

1. Tell the girl the guy is abusive, she should think twice

2. When challenged (particularly by many) he will change his tune slightly claim he is not one sided. But still he posts crap like this



Yes while insisting he is not taking sides he still only mentions the guy needs to change but doesn't mention the girl.

Yes not one sided at all.

I also find staypostive takes words very literally and is unable to detect sarcasm (I tested him once). He has a very simple minded view of things , it's all black or white for him always that's why nuanced positions eludes him.

Oh dear. Did you even read the q?

If positions are reserved and its the girl who toreup paper it's the GUY should walk away.

Hilarious.

Is like your mind can't even process the question. It's always the girl should walk away even if it's the girl with anger issues who tore up the paper..

You are so obvious

Oh dear. Did you even read the q?

If positions are reserved and its the girl who toreup paper it's the GUY should walk away.

Hilarious.

Is like your mind can't even process the question. It's always the girl should walk away even if it's the girl with anger issues who tore up the paper..

You are so obvious

Oh dear. Did you even read the q?

If positions are reserved and its the girl who toreup paper it's the GUY should walk away.

Hilarious.

Is like your mind can't even process the question. It's always the girl should walk away even if it's the girl with anger issues who tore up the paper..

You are so obvious

Erm is there anything wrong with your comprehension?shouldn't the gal walk away instead of tearing the piece of paper ? Aren't u always insists on fairness between gender?

for once I believe there is a loser in this forum and that is You.

 

[Staypositive]

He has a very weird definition of MCP. The common understanding of the term has to do with individuals who thinks that women are inferior to men and who acts on or makes statements to that effect.

When asked to quote how was I a petty MCP, he then went on with more rubbish opinionated views that perfectly reflects his weird 'MCP' interpretation.

You said my opinion was 'rubbishlizing' in the first place dun you?who is the mean fellow here.

 

[miloice]

“When dealing with people, let us remember we are not dealing with creatures of logic. We are dealing with creatures of emotion, creatures bristling with prejudices and motivated by pride and vanity.”

― Dale Carnegie, How to Win Friends and Influence People

 

[miloice]

You said my opinion was 'rubbishlizing' in the first place dun you?who is the mean fellow here.

Some reminders .....

to sum you up,u are a petty MCP and a sore loser.no wonder that troll called singapore men losers. You are just a gd example of one of them.

Being MCP is others must follow and accept his opinion.for the umpteen times I'm not siding with anyone.its wrong to display such behaviour.why are u so concerned abt blaming the guy?in actual fact you are the one taking sides.the guy side.

I asked you to quote how am I MCP. you came up with rubbish. How else to call this?
Now that TS cleared the air, she yelled at him after he had a hard day... it further demostrated the point. You were too quick to jump in conclusion, guy in greater need to change etc. How you came to that conclusion was based only on one fact, he tore the papers. period. Which is what I was pointing out, one action alone doesn't tell the entire picture.

In case you didn't realise, the non stop arguements between you and newproject is happening in numerous threads. I don't think anyone is bothered with the personal grudges between the 2 of you. The thing I have brought up are about your damning conclusion you made and then refused to acknowledge. Calling me MCP when you actually meant I was opinionated. Then went on to demostrate your stubborness. I pointed out clearly where our points were common and where it differ.

 

[Staypositive]

He has a very weird definition of MCP. The common understanding of the term has to do with individuals who thinks that women are inferior to men and who acts on or makes statements to that effect.

When asked to quote how was I a petty MCP, he then went on with more rubbish opinionated views that perfectly reflects his weird 'MCP' interpretation.

Still say people opinion are rubbish and claim you did not attack others.there are many variation of MCP in real life not only ur dictionary version.

 

[Staypositive]

Some reminders .....




I asked you to quote how am I MCP. you came up with rubbish. How else to call this?
Now that TS cleared the air, she yelled at him after he had a hard day... it further demostrated the point. You were too quick to jump in conclusion, guy in greater need to change etc. How you came to that conclusion was based only on one fact, he tore the papers. period. Which is what I was pointing out, one action alone doesn't tell the entire picture.

Nah.its not that.when I first post,you Already criticised my opinion.dun recall,look at ur previous posts.and stop pretending to be innocent.

 

[Staypositive]

Some reminders .....




I asked you to quote how am I MCP. you came up with rubbish. How else to call this?
Now that TS cleared the air, she yelled at him after he had a hard day... it further demostrated the point. You were too quick to jump in conclusion, guy in greater need to change etc. How you came to that conclusion was based only on one fact, he tore the papers. period. Which is what I was pointing out, one action alone doesn't tell the entire picture.

I meant for whatever that he experienced he should not tear the paper.whether the gal shout at him or not.I did not solely blamed him.till now u still stubbornly refused to see my point and keep on with ur false accusation that I side the gal.

anyway he can do it once,he can do it again in the future if the situation is not manage properly.

 

[Staypositive]

“When dealing with people, let us remember we are not dealing with creatures of logic. We are dealing with creatures of emotion, creatures bristling with prejudices and motivated by pride and vanity.”

― Dale Carnegie, How to Win Friends and Influence People

Trying to sell ur literature knowledge after all the nonsense u displayed? pls lah.

 

[Staypositive]

Some reminders .....




I asked you to quote how am I MCP. you came up with rubbish. How else to call this?
Now that TS cleared the air, she yelled at him after he had a hard day... it further demostrated the point. You were too quick to jump in conclusion, guy in greater need to change etc. How you came to that conclusion was based only on one fact, he tore the papers. period. Which is what I was pointing out, one action alone doesn't tell the entire picture.

In case you didn't realise, the non stop arguements between you and newproject is happening in numerous threads. I don't think anyone is bothered with the personal grudges between the 2 of you. The thing I have brought up are about your damning conclusion you made and then refused to acknowledge. Calling me MCP when you actually meant I was opinionated. Then went on to demostrate your stubborness. I pointed out clearly where our points were common and where it differ.

Did you realise,newproject was being very offensive in the beginning on my posts.accusing ppl and such.so who started this first??he is the one who bore a sore grudge when he can't win his argument.

I realise u tend to side him becos both of u are on the same boat.

 

[miloice]

now you say I tend to side him lol

Enjoy your prata flipping....

 

[Staypositive]

[QUOTE="miloice, post: 2047457, member: 11388"


You can dun admit.whether it's the truth or not you urself know best.anyway,just stop this silly argument.unless u want to act like newproject,wouldn't stop biting.

 

[Poh Huay Mei]

OH dear. I am so sorry to have caused some misunderstanding within some posters here.

We went to marriage counselling course already. I must say the courses is never useful until you apply it.

How many of us can remain calm when we are heated? I agreed I am childish but Please define childish at the same time too.

I do agree that the ultimate aim of the relationship is to be together and make it work. I am very thankful for many useful advice given here. No one is always right and no one is always wrong.

I do admit a lot of times I always think ... ' If i do this and that and do all or pay for this or that ... will I lugi?'.

Anyway, before I go outta point... We were both wrong to behave that way.

 

[Poh Huay Mei]

I forget to ask.
He actually cried after he tore the paper. Why ah?

 

[ing1]

I forget to ask.
He actually cried after he tore the paper. Why ah?

Alamak, Why u din ask him? Cos then u will understand why he blew up. Just ask him casually, Ok? Rem dun push him if he refuse to disclose.

 

[miloice]

I forget to ask.
He actually cried after he tore the paper. Why ah?

It is actually a good thing... if he tore it without emotion, it means he meant it... that there is nothing holding him back.

I do agree that the ultimate aim of the relationship is to be together and make it work.

Glad you manage to see beyond the conflict. The journey is just beginning. All the best in your marriage and wishing you happiness.

 

[newproject]

Just curious, if the parties are switched in the same case, guy provoked gal, gal tore up the consent paper. Do u think that the gal shld have walked away instead?

 

[miloice]

OH dear. I am so sorry to have caused some misunderstanding within some posters here.

We went to marriage counselling course already. I must say the courses is never useful until you apply it.

How many of us can remain calm when we are heated? I agreed I am childish but Please define childish at the same time too.

I do agree that the ultimate aim of the relationship is to be together and make it work. I am very thankful for many useful advice given here. No one is always right and no one is always wrong.

I do admit a lot of times I always think ... ' If i do this and that and do all or pay for this or that ... will I lugi?'.

Anyway, before I go outta point... We were both wrong to behave that way.

Firstly, there is no need to apologize, the fight of words between the 2 guys have been on-going.

On the point you mention about calculating who does what, well.... it is not helpful to be particular about every minor thing you contributed. However, you should be aware about his attitude, does he place your interest before his. If your partner is always taking care of your back, then there is nothing to worry. Personally, I would only accept a partner like this. So, there is no need to count anything between us.

If your partner is too insensitive and not bothering, then, you guys need to work out a system together, to enforce some discipline, be it through share account, checklist or something. The worst case is when you realise your partner have the nature to act blur and exploit his spouse. Such individuals, I would advise you to really think carefully about your future with him.

 

[Poh Huay Mei]

He said he cried because he knew he hurt my feelings. He tore cos he wanted to end this silly argument and then later go reprint.

 

[newproject]

He said he cried because he knew he hurt my feelings. He tore cos he wanted to end this silly argument and then later go reprint.

Nah this is post justification.

Still I wish you both all the best.

I do want to remind you guys that dating and getting married and living together can be a huge adjustment.

It's really a big difference meeting few times a week and living together 24/7.

In a relationship you are going to annoy one another. But how you handle it shows your maturity level.

My advise is learn how to "fight" . Some people will engage and even escalate when they get angry? Others will distance themselves.

The two of you are the former so it can get dangerous. My wife and I are engage + withdraw and I know couples where both withdraw.

None of these pairings are inherently good or bad. E.g. if both withdraw end up problem not resolved just always under surface. My wife and I , I might get angry if I try to engage but she refuses etc.

Remember we are all crazy in some ways the key is to find someone who is crazy in the right way for you.

Good luck.