Aiyah, what's wrong if some people only want pats on the back and sympathy rather than advice? Most girls are like that... they just want hugs and love and comfort rather than someone telling them "you should do this, do that, do this". Even my dad, my brother, my FH, all learned that when the women in their lives are upset, usually they know what's wrong (usually we're the ones who brought it upon ourselves!), we know what to do, just that we need to wallow in self-pity and sadness for awhile and then kick ourselves to get up again. So all they need to do is hold us when we cry and try not to say "I told you so" in our immediate hearing
Those who have been hurt before, have a care for those who are now going through that phase. Don't throw the "I've been there, done that, you should do this too" reaction at them.
Then again those who ASK for advice and are GIVEN advice, don't then say that you only want huggles and kissywissies because you ASKED for advice and by golly the people in this forum are going to hand it out to you in spades.
And there's only so much wallowing you can do...after awhile (Especially with an "escapist" like your hubby) you really need to stand up and take the bull by its horns and take action. Cuz obviously he's not going to do it. Take control of your life and minimize your own losses and hurt.
If you have tried your best to stay true to your vows, good for you. Staying true to your vow is not just being married. It is staying strong, true, a good communicator, hold up your end of the bargain and accept that sometimes, occasionally the other party may not be able to hold up his end. If you think that a period of separation may help to reconcile, work towards reconciliation. If you think there's no hope, just get out now.
You need to weigh the advice given, apply it, use your own common sense, and do what appears to be best for you. Screw the thoughts and opinions of the people here. Who are we to you?! Strangers. Just take the simple advice, the comfort if you need it, and then DO.
Good luck on your journey.