another thing i'd like to point out... u might be getting too used to being follower such tat when u lose your leader, u feel lost, so u go around in circles or stay at the same place...
u have to be careful... becos Life doesn't wait for any one of us, it will simply keep moving... before we know it - our hairs are grey, our limbs are weak and we take 2hrs just to get from A to B...
what u need isn't empathy, it's fear of reality... tat is more likely to spur action, whilst empathy though nice to feel - will delay the eventual... excessive empathy is as much a form of Escapism for the afflicted. i've seen many stuck at the same place becos they keep seeking empathy... avoiding the harsh realities...
so whilst u might think your hubby is escaping, u might like to assess if u are doing the same by wanting to stay a half-marriage where he no longer wants to put in effort. u might end up with a hollow shell if u persist... we all take our wedding vows seriously, but that condition is only possible if the marriage is made up of Two persons... when it is made up of just one, it's much akin to a wife who stopped living when her husband dies, and just waits for his return for the remainder of her life. unfortunately, the dead dun return. the wait is futile, the state is futile, Life becomes futile...
at 28, u have way too much to live for... dun let it stop u from living Your life. u can be a Leader and create your own path til such time u find a partner willing to walk WITH u, and not just Lead u.