Hi Ping Ping,
I am actually not married yet. In fact i am engaged to my fiance by just a sentence. Not even a proper proposal (he said will make up to me). One afternoon he was telling me that all the good hotels are fully booked for this special date because his friend wanted that date and he said he actually wanted to get married on the same date. Boom! And from that moment, we were engaged.
Hmm.. I am not quite sure what can i say to make you feel better because at the start of my relationship with my fiance, we had already agreed that we will have to sort out whatsoever problem or unhappiness we have with each other. Being truthful really helps. He wasn't one who will express himself either but I explained to him the importance of communication. He slowly understood it and now we are very open to each other. Maybe you wanna start by telling your hubby why you get angry with him? I don't use to express my anger also but men are usually very stupid and they will never understand why women get angry. Think men will prefer us to convey our anger through words and they learn from there. But don't start with insult or sarcasm; it will hurt more. I am always very sacarstic when i get angry and my fiance hated it. He told me about my problem and that is how we learn to control our emotions when things get heated.
Actually, it is really good that your hubby buy you food. He probably think it is his responsibility and it is a kind of way to show his concern and love. For me, its the other way round. Every weekend, i will get my fiance food or at least we try to eat together on Sunday late morning.
Do you and your hubby read? One of the common hobby I share with my fiance is to read but we don't really read a common genre. I like thrillers or gore while he can read anything. Some times we will introduce each other the book we are reading. Recently, he had introduced me to golf while i introduced him to diving.
There are actually good and bad when we have common interest and we understand each other too well. Even though our relationship doesn't seem to be so long, we are aleady behaving like old couples. I know his every action and stuff which means there are no more surprises in my life as i can see through his every move. And that goes vice versa.
There must be something that had attracted you to your Hubby during courtship. It will always be there and how the both of you grow from that attraction. For my case, its my planning and my fiance cool headedness. Take for example our wedding stuffs. He knew that I only need a small ceremony with no banquet involved but due to his family tradition, we cannot avoid the banquet at all. Even though it is my part to give way, he handed me the full authority to do all researches and decisions where he will only step in when it comes to payment or when I cannot decide due to the million choices i have on hand. Hehehehe.. he knew of my fickle mindedness and my last minute back out stuff.
Actually SG is a very small place and it can really get very boring during weekends. Since both of you already had 2 kids, you can try bringing them out for activities together? At the same time, treat it as a 4 people pat tor session? I don't have kids yet but this is what i learnt from my sisters. They try to go out and spend quality family time together or even travel overseas together.
Hopefully this helps and try to stay optimistic.
