My future MIL does not want my FH to throw wedding lunch or dinner (摆酒席). This is because her previous daughers (FH's sisters) did wedding lunches and "lost money", in other terms were not able to recoup the cost for throwing the lunches.
My FH is very neutral about it and I know if I insist, he will agree to throw a lunch/dinner but on the other hand, I don't want my future MIL to be unhappy about it since we are going against her idea so I told my FH if that is what his mother wants, then so be it.
The thing is, my parents are not very happy with this decision because they feel FH's family is not sincere. My parents feel they also want to marry me off in a respectable way. They are not even requesting for many tables (only 2-3 is enough) and all the red packets received by them can go to pay off the wedding lunch/dinner.
So because of that, they want to request for more Pin Jin. They have told me they will probably ask for 16,888 and only going to return 4888.
I am sure my MIL will be able to afford to pay this 12k but will like to know what you guys think. I understand where my parents are coming from too but yet I am afraid my MIL will not be happy and may even in turn ask my FH to pay the Pin Jin instead of coming up with the money herself.
My FH is very neutral about it and I know if I insist, he will agree to throw a lunch/dinner but on the other hand, I don't want my future MIL to be unhappy about it since we are going against her idea so I told my FH if that is what his mother wants, then so be it.
The thing is, my parents are not very happy with this decision because they feel FH's family is not sincere. My parents feel they also want to marry me off in a respectable way. They are not even requesting for many tables (only 2-3 is enough) and all the red packets received by them can go to pay off the wedding lunch/dinner.
So because of that, they want to request for more Pin Jin. They have told me they will probably ask for 16,888 and only going to return 4888.
I am sure my MIL will be able to afford to pay this 12k but will like to know what you guys think. I understand where my parents are coming from too but yet I am afraid my MIL will not be happy and may even in turn ask my FH to pay the Pin Jin instead of coming up with the money herself.