LostinRelationship
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I would appreciate some advice on my current direction.
Relationship with my ex went into failing stage in June this year.
Thereafter I started joining dating website to find companion and attention.
In july I met some guys out for lunch. Many were just hi-bye because I feel they were not right.
Particularly I met this guy X. He was not pressing and chatted casually like greetings "good morning how's day"........not much conversation as we only exchange not more than 3 liner per day.
But late in july I met this guy X out for dinner after responding to his date out.
He was very pleasant, was 8yrs older than me while I'm in mid 30s.
He knew i was in complication with my ex and thru the few weeks he accompanied me almost every day for dinner and outing. He tried holding my hands but i brushed it off coz i still hopes my ex could work things out with me.
In August my ex gave the ultimatum as he went with his guy friends for short holiday despite me pleading him for 2 months to go holiday together. I gave up the relationship.
I shared with Guy X and he asked me to be his SO. I accepted.
Guy X made me feel very emotionally attached as he knows how to let me feel comfortable and sync with me.
I feels he understands me and knows how to sing my tune and make me laugh.
But some cautions i felt.
He created his dating website quite a few months back........but he told me I'm the only girl that ever went out with him. His dating account was closed and reopened cited "account problems".
He calls me more than he texts me. Don't really have texts to read what he says.
He works in confidential works which shared a broken relationship that his colleague has with the partner due to confidentiality of his movements........indirectly i understood he cannot share much with me on professional usage of time.
He is divorced 4 years ago, but he sounded pretty pleasant that he did not find any right person in the past 4 years before eventually meeting me on dating website.
With no gf for 4 years i felt everything came so fast.
We did not maintain conversation when we first added but after first date (which was 2 weeks before i broke up) we start immediately within 2 weeks after knowing each.
He proposed for a holiday trip to Japan with me just 2 weeks after we started our relationship. In short he proposed a trip within 1 month from meeting up and we had limited conversation before that.
I was not comfortable initially as we only got together 2 weeks. But he knows how to soften me up and makes me feels everything works right......that no matter how wrong things looked i feel right after he reasoned with me.
Trip with him is in Nov this year and he said no obligation that we can cancel if by then i don't feel comfortable but he proceeded to book trip to Japan for long 2 weeks.
Also he upfront told me he won't mingle with my groups of friends and prefers to keep separate circle of friendship.......but just me and him without circle of friends intersection.
I'm a very active use of facebook thus asked for his facebook but he said inactive and seldom used so brushed it off.
He did assured me that he wanted to bring me to see his parents Next year Chinese new year which is after the holiday, but i didn't want to visit parents so soon when we barely started.
I'm confused now and would need some sound advice.
Everytime things looks so wrong but conversation with him would eventually feels so right.
Relationship with my ex went into failing stage in June this year.
Thereafter I started joining dating website to find companion and attention.
In july I met some guys out for lunch. Many were just hi-bye because I feel they were not right.
Particularly I met this guy X. He was not pressing and chatted casually like greetings "good morning how's day"........not much conversation as we only exchange not more than 3 liner per day.
But late in july I met this guy X out for dinner after responding to his date out.
He was very pleasant, was 8yrs older than me while I'm in mid 30s.
He knew i was in complication with my ex and thru the few weeks he accompanied me almost every day for dinner and outing. He tried holding my hands but i brushed it off coz i still hopes my ex could work things out with me.
In August my ex gave the ultimatum as he went with his guy friends for short holiday despite me pleading him for 2 months to go holiday together. I gave up the relationship.
I shared with Guy X and he asked me to be his SO. I accepted.
Guy X made me feel very emotionally attached as he knows how to let me feel comfortable and sync with me.
I feels he understands me and knows how to sing my tune and make me laugh.
But some cautions i felt.
He created his dating website quite a few months back........but he told me I'm the only girl that ever went out with him. His dating account was closed and reopened cited "account problems".
He calls me more than he texts me. Don't really have texts to read what he says.
He works in confidential works which shared a broken relationship that his colleague has with the partner due to confidentiality of his movements........indirectly i understood he cannot share much with me on professional usage of time.
He is divorced 4 years ago, but he sounded pretty pleasant that he did not find any right person in the past 4 years before eventually meeting me on dating website.
With no gf for 4 years i felt everything came so fast.
We did not maintain conversation when we first added but after first date (which was 2 weeks before i broke up) we start immediately within 2 weeks after knowing each.
He proposed for a holiday trip to Japan with me just 2 weeks after we started our relationship. In short he proposed a trip within 1 month from meeting up and we had limited conversation before that.
I was not comfortable initially as we only got together 2 weeks. But he knows how to soften me up and makes me feels everything works right......that no matter how wrong things looked i feel right after he reasoned with me.
Trip with him is in Nov this year and he said no obligation that we can cancel if by then i don't feel comfortable but he proceeded to book trip to Japan for long 2 weeks.
Also he upfront told me he won't mingle with my groups of friends and prefers to keep separate circle of friendship.......but just me and him without circle of friends intersection.
I'm a very active use of facebook thus asked for his facebook but he said inactive and seldom used so brushed it off.
He did assured me that he wanted to bring me to see his parents Next year Chinese new year which is after the holiday, but i didn't want to visit parents so soon when we barely started.
I'm confused now and would need some sound advice.
Everytime things looks so wrong but conversation with him would eventually feels so right.