Hi Jane,
I had also booked MC for my dinner next year.
In the begining, i was also put off by the fact that we had to be charged for almost all the extras and no freebies were thrown in too. However, after thinking it throughly, (i signed up on my 3rd visit), i find that the terms are quite ok. You can go check thru the rest of the hotels in town area-- most ofthem in fact do not give complimentary food-tasting -- even if they do, you still have to fork out 50% of the stated table price.
As for the seat covers, i was also quite upset that they cannot throw in complimentary. But, i understand that if you reach a minimum no of tables, they will throw in free seat covers for you. If you cannot reach the minimum no of tables, why not you consider what are the items that you can do w/o and exchange or offset the amt for the seat covers? I believe all these thing are flexible ... just that you have to let go of some things to exchange for others. Do talk to ur co-ordinator abt it.
If u do not wish to use their projector, u can consider to rent 1 from outside. I think the cost is ard $100-$150. Check out the thread under in SB. There are some offers on renting of projectors.
Most of the hotels are also charging wine corkages. This is quite a standard procedure. Why not u consider having hard liquor instead of wine? Hard liquor corkage is free, so u need not have to worry abt this.
How many extra cards do u need? If the amt is small (ard 10plus), i'm sure the co-ordinator can do something for you. But if the extras are too much, then, maybe its a problem. But,mostly the cards are suppossed to be enough for all on ur expected attendance. Remember that you need not give cards to everyone -- if they are in the same family, then you need to only give 1 card for that family.
Do calm down and think thru all these things all over again. Remember -- you must be a happy bride on your special day!
Hope my advice helps ......