Hi prificelia,
5th May 09 is a bad day. Avoid using this day if possible. Furthermore, your hubby is born in year of the goat. This year Ox clash wtih Goat, so maybe you want to consider shifting both your ROM and AD to next yr, Tiger yr.
For your AD dates, you can try the following general Tong Shu auspicious dates if you do not want to shift to next yr (i will give you all the dates coz fridays are limited):
- 17/11, 18/11, 19/11, 29/11, 1/12, 6/12, 11/12, 13/12, 23/12, 25/12, 7/1, 11/1, 17/1, 19/1, 23/1, 29/1, 11/2
Hope this helps.