Having problems with hb lately but this may have been sitting around for sometime. Hb has been complaining that I don't communicate much with him and I wonder what exactly a man wants. It seems to me, I have not done enuff and whatever I do is not right. I gave my hb plenty of personal space n freedom to hang out with his friends, I don't control him, I will cook during weekends as he love me cook, every evening after work, we only chat on n off while watching tv n plays with hps, I kept my sms short or close to none when during his peak period at work so as not to disturb. I could say I'm quite a chill wife and keep myself occupied. But I think what I've done actually gg to kill our marriage.
He felt that I don't take him as soul mate and always kept things to myself, I don't share my thoughts until he has to ask. I do admit I'm poor in communicating and I don't share 100% thinking that they r not impt matters or matters that I don't want to stress him. For e.g. I used to complain to him about work, and he felt that I had complain too much and he's quite sick of them, or if I told him I'm still at ofc working late but feeling unwell, but still got to complete my work,he said I'm adding additional stress to him. At times we will get into arguments during discussion as he said I always get agitated when he said anything negative. Hmm.. I may hv raised my voice subconsciously to be more expressing but many times, I wasn't angry at all. Through these, naturally I do not dare to express further afraid getting into arguments. . Now this is the real problem. I pissed him off few days ago just before he went outstation and since he has been ignoring me and said our marriage is a failure. He had sound off wanting to leave me and said he has been suffering. How can I make communication works? He's coming back tomorrow, How should I face him? I'm so scared he will just pack n leave the house.
We are actually planning for children but currently kiv due to our overwhelming work lately. He has been working more than 16 hrs daily and through out weekends. His reactions was actually quite sudden but I do admit I'm at fault. I am really in deep shit.. and how Can I learn to improve?
He felt that I don't take him as soul mate and always kept things to myself, I don't share my thoughts until he has to ask. I do admit I'm poor in communicating and I don't share 100% thinking that they r not impt matters or matters that I don't want to stress him. For e.g. I used to complain to him about work, and he felt that I had complain too much and he's quite sick of them, or if I told him I'm still at ofc working late but feeling unwell, but still got to complete my work,he said I'm adding additional stress to him. At times we will get into arguments during discussion as he said I always get agitated when he said anything negative. Hmm.. I may hv raised my voice subconsciously to be more expressing but many times, I wasn't angry at all. Through these, naturally I do not dare to express further afraid getting into arguments. . Now this is the real problem. I pissed him off few days ago just before he went outstation and since he has been ignoring me and said our marriage is a failure. He had sound off wanting to leave me and said he has been suffering. How can I make communication works? He's coming back tomorrow, How should I face him? I'm so scared he will just pack n leave the house.
We are actually planning for children but currently kiv due to our overwhelming work lately. He has been working more than 16 hrs daily and through out weekends. His reactions was actually quite sudden but I do admit I'm at fault. I am really in deep shit.. and how Can I learn to improve?