lostmypurpose
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Honestly, that was before we were married. She had some temper issues, but most of the time she was ok. There was a time when i felt so confident that as long as we are in love, i can overcome everything.
But things got worse, but i still went into the marriage, perhaps because of years spent together, perhaps because i was of marriageable age, perhaps i was hopeful things will change for the better after the marriage. Which is why now i give advice to people never to go into marriage expecting the other person will change for the better. It never will.
Actually i did change, for the better, for the sake of this marriage. But still problems exist. Disagreement exist. There is simply no way not to quarrel, unless i do not attach importance to the topics we are quarreling on. Thats when some bros will start keeping quiet and not "talk back" because it goes nowhere.
From what i've gathered so far, the best answer is: be sure she is the one right from the start. If there is any unhappiness or points where you didnt like her, thats enough reason not to consider marriage.
But things got worse, but i still went into the marriage, perhaps because of years spent together, perhaps because i was of marriageable age, perhaps i was hopeful things will change for the better after the marriage. Which is why now i give advice to people never to go into marriage expecting the other person will change for the better. It never will.
Actually i did change, for the better, for the sake of this marriage. But still problems exist. Disagreement exist. There is simply no way not to quarrel, unless i do not attach importance to the topics we are quarreling on. Thats when some bros will start keeping quiet and not "talk back" because it goes nowhere.
From what i've gathered so far, the best answer is: be sure she is the one right from the start. If there is any unhappiness or points where you didnt like her, thats enough reason not to consider marriage.