Is this wrong?

[alexandra333]

Whenever my hubby and I come home from work, he always ask me for sex, but the truth is, I'm already so exhausted from work. I try not to reject him even though I'm not in the mood, and I feel that it is my duty as his wife. Has anyone been in such a situation before? Is it wrong to give him sex even though I'm emotionally absent?

 

[vonniesyf]

i can totally understand your feeling babe! feeling the same..told him that when im feeling tired, do already also not happy, cannot enjoy. but he will be unhappy and say that im not a good wife. giving sex everyday means good wife? to me, both party must enjoy when making love. its not a chore, its a sacred thing. sigh they will never understand.

 

[uglydude]

You have to make clear to him about this before marriage...so did u?....else he might feel cheated and start looking for FL outside...

 

[life_is]

Whenever my hubby and I come home from work, he always ask me for sex, but the truth is, I'm already so exhausted from work. I try not to reject him even though I'm not in the mood, and I feel that it is my duty as his wife. Has anyone been in such a situation before? Is it wrong to give him sex even though I'm emotionally absent?

Ask him for a more balanced solution. Men connect through sex. Tell him how to connect with you.

Have not had much intimacy with my wife for 3 years (slept apart most of this time). Married for 3 years. Trust me, the carnal instincts can only be held for a limited period before men start to think of alternatives outside. Better to work out a solution before he starts to find someone else.

 

[alexandra333]

i can totally understand your feeling babe! feeling the same..told him that when im feeling tired, do already also not happy, cannot enjoy. but he will be unhappy and say that im not a good wife. giving sex everyday means good wife? to me, both party must enjoy when making love. its not a chore, its a sacred thing. sigh they will never understand.

Yah I totally agree. My hubby asks me sex at least three times a week and honestly I cannot take it … everyday is really too much. I've given up explaining how tiring it is for me because we will just end up fighting. I don't know how he can still enjoy it when he knows I'm not enjoying one bit of it at all. Do you think counselling will help? But then again I dunno if he will want…sigh...

 

[life_is]

Yah I totally agree. My hubby asks me sex at least three times a week and honestly I cannot take it … everyday is really too much. I've given up explaining how tiring it is for me because we will just end up fighting. I don't know how he can still enjoy it when he knows I'm not enjoying one bit of it at all. Do you think counselling will help? But then again I dunno if he will want…sigh...

There needs to be a balance. I don't think it is enjoyable if either party does not enjoy it. Tell them how to make you feel good? Men have no other way to understand what women want. Be thankful that they want it with you, but at the same time, they have to let you enjoy it too. Normally, if a man does not do it to you regularly, he may be getting some outside.

 

[sadman2009]

I think you girls need to sex yourselves up a little. Try watching porn to get yourself into the mood. Sex is an enjoyment and you should be enjoying it. If you are not, then you will need to do something about it. I know it's difficult for a guy to reduce his frequency of sex if he is the strong sex urge type. If he can't get satisfy at home, may be one day he will look somewhere else.
I think you shouldn't be viewing it as a chore. In this way, you will be able to find satisfaction from it. Think of ways to increase your sex urge may be. I know certain herbs or food will increase your sex urge.