Saw some threads about staying with in-laws. i'm actually staying with inlaws now.. so far so good.. actually i started staying with them before i got married.. so far abt 3-4 years..
actually i tot i would have alot of pressure marrying into the family cos hubby is the only son and sister has married away 16 years ago.. on top of it, he's like the king in the whole clan - eldest grandson (both parents eldest and their grandparents also eldest..) so he was so spoilt la.. everyone have to give in... i was like... i'm so dead if i were to be "mischievous"..
To my surprise .. i was treated like the queen.. they give me face lor... haaa...
...I think i have an added advantage cos i'm not indian and in terms of language wise, we can only express in English... it's harder to express your emotion in a 2nd language other than your own mother tongue..
At the same time, i guess u just have to always remember that there are house rules in the family, unless your hubby determines the house rules..(he is the stubborn sort)... in my case, it is so.. Most of the time, mum in law gets bullied by hubby... this is the time u have to stand on MIL side (provided MIL is not at fault)...FIL used to be the difficult man in the house and everyone is scared of him.. but now he is more quiet.. only talk when necessary... more so.. i think u need to have an open mind with your in-laws.. i stay positive, i talk to them like my parents and i extend my help to the family even if they don't need me to help.. now my hubby even jealous of me being close to his dad.. cos he caught me and my FIL having small talk and chit chat every morning before work and evening when i come home...
I'm very lucky that my in-laws are very open minded.. otherwise it will be thunderstorm every day at house...
In terms of other family affairs like relative rivals -- stay on the neutral end.. let bygones be bygones.. even though the old folks may not practise it.. but sometimes, even your in-laws may have opinions towards you (for example, they commented the way u dry ur laundry or wash the plates), just acknowledge and they will just let it go...
Just sharing my thoughts and ways to handle in-laws... so far no major disagreement with my in-laws.. or Mayb i just have a way with old people???
Good luck to all staying with In-laws...
Oh.. i'm also looking to get my own flat.. more for me to rent out.. anyone have lobang.. ? i'm looking in the EAST area..