Im losing him?

[belladaisy2018]

I am with current bf for nearly a year. I am facing a few problems with this relationship.Wld like to hear opinions from others.

Problem 1: Not spending enough time together?
I feel that my bf is getting less keen to meet up, and we dun really chat up on the phone. And he is one who fell asleep very easily. He usually says that he is tired after work, and weekday we seldom meet up. Usually we meet up on Fri for dinner and then head home. Sat meet up in late afternoon, dinner then head home. Sun i am not available in the morning and sometimes we will meet up for lunch. i feel we are not spending enough time together. And what is worst is i feel he prefer to hv his own time then spending time with me. I wanna meet more often, but, i dun want it to be from me only. How can i find out if he is wish to really spend time with me or not?

Problem 2: broken promise? My bf likes to make empty promise. example 1 - he was force leave on one monday, and on sunday he told me he wanna pick me from my workplace when i knock off. However, when i called him when i knock off, he was still at home, and seemed totally forgotten abt his promise. When i asked him about the promise, he simply said he doze off and din woke up in time not big issue. However, I felt that he is not being responsible and dun keep his promise. This has happened many times simply cos he dun see dozing off and not keeping promises a problem. To me, i did not make him promise anything, he was the one who made me expect he to do certain things but yet dun keep to his words. M i taking things to hard? How to handle situation where i find certain things a problem but to him its simply ok?

Problem 3: I've been bringing this things up with him. To give him credit he does listen to me and did try to make effort to meet on weekday. But i feel that it is not out of his own will. And i find it is giving him quite a bit of pressure when i bring up issues to him. But if i dun bring it up i feel upset and unhappy. How to make me not stress up and me not unhappy? Is it still possible to go back to the lovey dovey time when we first started our relationship and spending enough time together?

Pls help. thank you in advance.

 

[ing1]

Sounds like both of you have different love language.

Does he explain why he is so tired after work? Does he play games till late at night, thus always tired and napping during the day?

Why not try doing some sports or other activities together instead of just eating? Maybe the activities that you guys are doing is kindof getting "boring" for him?

 

[triple]

Maintaining a relationship is so much harder as u progress in life. If so early in your life... and already so difficult, why force yourself.

It takes 2 hands to clap., if u slowly fade away in his life, and he still dun remember you, whatever u do or propose, will make no difference.

 

[ohmypen]

Maybe you can try concentrating more on yourself ... do something new keep yourself occupied instead of keep thinking why doesn’t he do that why can’t he do that.

If you are asking are u losing him? You probably don’t have to ask this question because you already know the answer to it.

You are just hoping someone saying something positive giving you hopes that you are not losing him and his keen to meet you up.

Don’t forget , the more you nag at him on his empty promises and why isn’t he meeting you. The more he will “run away”

 

[miloice]

he isn't into you at all. You are there out of convenience that's why