Hello all.
I got married about 1.5 years ago and my husband moved into my house about 1 year ago.
This one year has been horrendous, our relationship is going downhill, very quickly.
And i think it all stems from his snoring.
I mean he never used to snore whenever he slept over on weekends. I am a very light sleeper to start with. And with the snoring, my sleep quality has been SO BAD. It can be as bad as sleeping 4/5 hours a day to not being able to sleep the whole night. It went from nudging him whenever he snores to kicking him in the legs to waking up and screaming at him. I tried sleeping first, (he wakes me with the snore later) taking sleeping pills, ear plugs, music etc but none works. I am most happy, and sleeps the best, whenever is he abroad.
It is also not helping that I have to wake up and go to work earlier than him.
Whenever I wake up feeling frustrated, tired and having to go work, and I see him still sleeping on the bed (snoring obviously) I feel so angry!
I am finding faults with him over everything, because deep down I feel that he is the one with the "problem" and yet I am the one trying all ways and means to solve this "problem". I feel he is so selfish. Why am I the only one suffering?? When I ask him to do something about it, ie, exercise, sleep earlier, adjusting the aircon timing, change pillow, see tcm or even cut away his tonsils! He always brush it off saying he will do it later, but never. OK he tried the nosestrips, but he will take it off in the middle of the night and start snoring. And when i scream at him for snoring, his first reaction will always be " How can that be! I dont snore!"
I have lost count of the number of voice recordings of his snoring. Just to show him evidence. And he always laughs it off.
IT IS SO DAMN NOT FUNNY.
And this frustration and tiredness from not being able to sleep, has resulted in me from being easily irritated with him to finding him so offensive that I am refusing his touch nowadays.
This is very serious, and sleeping apart is probably the next best solution, but its definitely a bad solution for the marriage to go on. '
There are people telling me; snoring is a very normal behavior for humans. Its my problem that I am a light sleeper?! but i have exhausted all my means on my side?
Then tell me. What can I do next???
I got married about 1.5 years ago and my husband moved into my house about 1 year ago.
This one year has been horrendous, our relationship is going downhill, very quickly.
And i think it all stems from his snoring.
I mean he never used to snore whenever he slept over on weekends. I am a very light sleeper to start with. And with the snoring, my sleep quality has been SO BAD. It can be as bad as sleeping 4/5 hours a day to not being able to sleep the whole night. It went from nudging him whenever he snores to kicking him in the legs to waking up and screaming at him. I tried sleeping first, (he wakes me with the snore later) taking sleeping pills, ear plugs, music etc but none works. I am most happy, and sleeps the best, whenever is he abroad.
It is also not helping that I have to wake up and go to work earlier than him.
Whenever I wake up feeling frustrated, tired and having to go work, and I see him still sleeping on the bed (snoring obviously) I feel so angry!
I am finding faults with him over everything, because deep down I feel that he is the one with the "problem" and yet I am the one trying all ways and means to solve this "problem". I feel he is so selfish. Why am I the only one suffering?? When I ask him to do something about it, ie, exercise, sleep earlier, adjusting the aircon timing, change pillow, see tcm or even cut away his tonsils! He always brush it off saying he will do it later, but never. OK he tried the nosestrips, but he will take it off in the middle of the night and start snoring. And when i scream at him for snoring, his first reaction will always be " How can that be! I dont snore!"
I have lost count of the number of voice recordings of his snoring. Just to show him evidence. And he always laughs it off.
IT IS SO DAMN NOT FUNNY.
And this frustration and tiredness from not being able to sleep, has resulted in me from being easily irritated with him to finding him so offensive that I am refusing his touch nowadays.
This is very serious, and sleeping apart is probably the next best solution, but its definitely a bad solution for the marriage to go on. '
There are people telling me; snoring is a very normal behavior for humans. Its my problem that I am a light sleeper?! but i have exhausted all my means on my side?
Then tell me. What can I do next???