He did it

[thetoots]

3am today I asked and he answered:

Ya I went for ons le
I dont know why but I did it
I went clubbing twice
Clubbing calms my soul, the music and atmosphere. The drinks too. Ons is a plus

3weeks since he move out. And 3 weeks change someone from mine to no longer mine.
I let go.
But it hurt
Things he said appear in my head again and again.
Suddenly i hate him that he cross the limit yet I thank him for his truthfulness.
Things no longer the same there will be no turning back. I will seek for my next love. Yet things remain complicated between us due flat and kids.
Suddenly I am lost. I will be better he will regret one day when he turn back to notice how much he had done to hurt me and change me. He will.
Suddenly I am thinking of ONS too. He is my first and the feeling is like I still belong to him. I hate that feeling yet I don't wish to degrade myself. It's confusing. Really is.

 

[buddhabar]

tit-for-tat is the last thing you should do. because that brings you down and you will be his equivalent. you will never be able to face your kids like before. Be objective and solve the problem so you can move on, whether to reconcile or not.
For me, forgiving someone who hurt me is not an option. Divorce is not a disaster, to be trapped in a failed marriage is.....

 

[miloice]

why do you need to resort to ONS? Move on. You will find someone that deserves you more when you allow yourself to recover and glow again.

 

[Alyssat]

sorry to hear that.. i think you should move on and seek a better love for yourself.. no point ons with someone else too. stay strong

 

[sj7980]

Not worth for this guy. Guys betrayed us, we must live better than them. Jiayou

 

[cookieger]

I don't know. . but if I really love the guy a lot I may forgive him..

 

[sj7980]

I don't know. . but if I really love the guy a lot I may forgive him..

I saw before the gal really love the guy till she forgave him and he continues....

 

[miloice]

I don't know. . but if I really love the guy a lot I may forgive him..

Then, we will have another thread some time after titile "He did it AGAIN"

 

[chocolatefrog92]

eye for an eye won't make things better. best thing to do now is move on and be thankful...
better he be honest with you now than next time when you have more to lose