Freedomawaits
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Dear members,
i need some advice on 4 years separation. But before i seek advice from everyone, i would like to share my case with you guys. Dad has been an avid gambler n drinker since we were born.(me and my sister). Even though he did raise us up and contributed to our education( P.sch- JC) But he was never a responsible father. He will often hurl profanities at us and whenever something happens to us, he will be the first to escape. In short, he has not shown any fatherly love/care for us. Apart from us, my mum is also a victim of abuse.Since then, they had been seperated from each other for the next 15 years but still living in the same apartment. Apart from that, he will always use depression as a way to escape from work. Because he does not want to contribute to our monthly house loans. And he will always try to act pity infront of others n try to accused us of not paying for the loans. Yes, though he contributed most of the house loans, but it was my mum who raised both me n my sister up with care,concern and material needs.. Its when until we reached 21 years old, my dad tried to use depression and psychiatry as a way to escape everything. He was even admitted to IMH, but he was uncooperative and the doctor deemed the results inconclusive. 10 years later, which is now..He suffered a minor stroke due to his liking of beers. And he put the blame on us by saying we forced him to drink which ultimately,cause him to get a stroke. He refused to work nor willing to pay his share for the house loans. And every night, he will raised his voice, mumbling n hurl profanities at us. He knows that we cant stand these n eventually we may give in. So, he kept going on and on... until one day, my mum had enough n decided to file for a divorce under the reason, 4 years seperation. The process went smoothly until when my father received the divorce decree.From what we were being told, he has 8 days to respond. But ultimately, He did not respond to the letter and he said he definitely wont be signing the letter. And he told my mum theres nothing she can do about it since hes not signing the letter.. And she was being told by my father that she can forget getting his assets. So, my question is... will my mum eventually get her own freedom? I'm rather worried n afraid.. Thanks everyone.
i need some advice on 4 years separation. But before i seek advice from everyone, i would like to share my case with you guys. Dad has been an avid gambler n drinker since we were born.(me and my sister). Even though he did raise us up and contributed to our education( P.sch- JC) But he was never a responsible father. He will often hurl profanities at us and whenever something happens to us, he will be the first to escape. In short, he has not shown any fatherly love/care for us. Apart from us, my mum is also a victim of abuse.Since then, they had been seperated from each other for the next 15 years but still living in the same apartment. Apart from that, he will always use depression as a way to escape from work. Because he does not want to contribute to our monthly house loans. And he will always try to act pity infront of others n try to accused us of not paying for the loans. Yes, though he contributed most of the house loans, but it was my mum who raised both me n my sister up with care,concern and material needs.. Its when until we reached 21 years old, my dad tried to use depression and psychiatry as a way to escape everything. He was even admitted to IMH, but he was uncooperative and the doctor deemed the results inconclusive. 10 years later, which is now..He suffered a minor stroke due to his liking of beers. And he put the blame on us by saying we forced him to drink which ultimately,cause him to get a stroke. He refused to work nor willing to pay his share for the house loans. And every night, he will raised his voice, mumbling n hurl profanities at us. He knows that we cant stand these n eventually we may give in. So, he kept going on and on... until one day, my mum had enough n decided to file for a divorce under the reason, 4 years seperation. The process went smoothly until when my father received the divorce decree.From what we were being told, he has 8 days to respond. But ultimately, He did not respond to the letter and he said he definitely wont be signing the letter. And he told my mum theres nothing she can do about it since hes not signing the letter.. And she was being told by my father that she can forget getting his assets. So, my question is... will my mum eventually get her own freedom? I'm rather worried n afraid.. Thanks everyone.
